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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMichelle Obama book makes white girls feel 'ashamed,' Texas parent says
A Texas parent wants a childrens biography about former first lady Michelle Obama pulled from school libraries because it could make white girls feel ashamed.
The concerned parent said Michelle Obama: Political Icon by Heather E. Schwartz also unfairly depicts former President Donald Trump as a bully and should be banned, Insider reports.
The request from the Katy, Texas, parent comes as conservatives seek to prohibit students from reading books that explore race, sexuality or gender. According to NBC News, so far, there are 50 titles that parents in the state have asked schools to remove.
The unnamed parent said Obamas book gives the impression that if you sound like a white girl, you should be ashamed of yourself.
https://thegrio.com/2022/02/04/parent-michelle-obama-book-white-girls-feel-ashamed/
Lovie777
(12,262 posts)I'm sick and tired of this crap.
Srkdqltr
(6,286 posts)marmar
(77,080 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,823 posts)Inflicting Cancel Culture on America?
Hmmm - projection.
randr
(12,412 posts)DeeNice
(575 posts)patphil
(6,176 posts)Apparently the woman feels shame, and is projecting it onto her daughter as an excuse to ban the book.
Complaining about Trump for being characterized as a bully is simply a way of whitewashing history...he was, and still is, a bully.
Solly Mack
(90,767 posts)Mucilaginous waste of a human.
flying_wahini
(6,594 posts)jmowreader
(50,557 posts)When she moved to Houston, the cheapest housing in the area was in Katy so thats where they live. All their friends actually live in Houston.
BeckyDem
(8,361 posts)One can only hope, but this Mom will be there to see that doesn't happen, evidently.
Polly Hennessey
(6,797 posts)we need to know who you are. Cowards too often hide behind anonymity.
LeftinOH
(5,354 posts)Thus, any information that disabuses them of that cherished bit of right wing gospel cannot stand. They do not want to acknowledge any narrative that Michelle is even remotely admirable - or even female.
I know people who people who -in all seriousness- believe this, and will go to great lengths to defend their "position" on the matter.
It's very likely that some cons will reflexively reject any book about/by Michelle Obama ..and they'll use any excuse to do so.
Irish_Dem
(47,058 posts)Children blocked from ever having an uncomfortable feeling.
Shame is an appropriate reaction to wrong doing. It is the basis for moral development.
Feeling bad when you do wrong is how you develop a moral compass. How you know right from wrong.
Yes in the past parents have gone too far and caused damage.
But to go too far the other way is damaging as well.
We can see it in a generation of adults who clearly have no moral core.
Caliman73
(11,738 posts)I think that guilt is a more apt vehicle for improvement. Guilt is about our actions. It is about what we do to others that injures them. If you have not done anything wrong, you should not feel any guilt or shame.
Shame is about what you feel about yourself and it interacts with how you think others see you. I suppose if you hold racist attitudes and share those with your ingroup, that either explicitly or implicitly leads to discriminating against others, that feeling shame would be appropriate and might spark growth. The difficulty with Shame is that unlike guilt, shame is not really attached to anything other than what you perceive in yourself or what others tell you is inside you. Having been a Catholic for many years, I remember hearing about how we (people) were sinful and chose to turn away from god by our selfishness. That caused me to feel Shame at who I was because god came down and sacrificed for me, and I still wanted a little more candy than maybe I should have had.
When I have a bad day at work and come home and act snarky or shitty toward my wife, guilt about hurting her feelings causes me to realize that I did something wrong and stupid. I apologize and then work within myself to have better reactions to stress or frustration so I don't take it out on people I love. Next time when I have a bad day, I call and tell her that I had a bad day and might need a bit of time to relax, then I can fully focus on her and the kids. I have to fight the feelings of shame that have been instilled in me by my upbringing because I am not perfect. Shame doesn't really do much in that situation because I am not perfect and there should be no expectation that I am perfect.
The thing is, especially about kids, and particularly about kids younger than say 10, is that they do not formulate thoughts or ideas about the world that are necessarily separate from others. The parents are the primary educators (typically) at those youngest stages of development. They should be encouraged to feel guilt if they do things that hurt others, but making them feel ashamed, usually only results in feeling anxious or down on themselves.
No White person who is alive today, that is not racist or bigoted, should feel shame. They absolutely SHOULD be aware that there is still racism within individuals and in systems in our society. AND they should be aware that Black, Brown, LGBTQ, and other people who are typically the victims of those individuals and systems CANNOT bring an end to this on their own. It is the responsibility of everyone to destroy these systems together. White people (especially White men) tend to have more power within the existing system, so they have to decide whether to do something to destroy racism, sexism, homophobia, etc... or do nothing and allow these things to continue to exist.
Maybe, if you know this and STILL choose to do nothing, then you should feel shame.
Irish_Dem
(47,058 posts)It is big area of research.
We know how children develop a moral core, a sense of right or wrong.
Caliman73
(11,738 posts)The preponderance of the research suggests that shame is harmful to our brain development.
There is a difference between learning about what is acceptable in societies and cultures, that is transmitted through social learning to children, and thinking that shame and even guilt plays a positive role in that development.
Irish_Dem
(47,058 posts)Greybnk48
(10,168 posts)and fell in love with her family. Who wouldn't?
applegrove
(118,659 posts)underemployed male ancestors feeling such loss and frustration at the racism that offered them no employment suited to their brains and some Karen can't take it. One time someone told that very common story and it makes it into a public library and it has to go.