Something to get off my chest

[nightwing1240]

Part of the problem we have these days as to being able to get along with others, get things done and, improve our lives is that
millions of people live in fear that something they say do or in this case write will injure someones feelings. I don't know about you but it is becoming exhausting. I'm not talking about people blurting out insensitive rude or mean things to others there is never a time or place where that should be acceptable. But certain criticisms over simple thoughts where someone is trying to shed light on bad behavior or merely pointing something out or sharing a story good or bad, is unwarranted.

There is nothing wrong with being politically correct and thinking before you speak or post. But is it fair to point out something that may have been left out unintended and pounce on the person that said it? I am sure many of you have seen or been the recipient of such thoughts. I know I have seen it countless times over the years on DU let alone socially with others. If someone is a victim of a hateful act, who do you feel worse for and want to protect? The victim or the perpetrator? I had one such post today where someone took me to task regarding the perpetrator receiving threats for what they had done. Well, excuse me but had that person not done such a vile racist thing, she would not be receiving those threats. Another took me to task for not including girls in the Priest/molestation scandal. I am sorry but the predominant victims of that scandal was boys.

Perhaps you get my point, perhaps you don't. There are countless good people on this board and I am proud to be among you. If something I post needs correcting or your thoughts added to it I have no issue with that and I welcome all comments. No one has all the answers, myself included. Let's please be less judgmental and critical of each other. The republicans do that enough to us as it is. Thank you for your consideration.

[gibraltar72]

1. Just had one of those occasions.

Posted something that offended someone. They didn't address me directly but posted two things about why you shouldn't use the phrase. Simply replied "tis a rare day I don't piss off someone.

[nightwing1240]

3. I knew I am not alone on this

Good reply to that other poster lol

[Firestorm49]

22. As the old expression goes, opinions are like assholes, everybody has one.

On a site such as this, with broad support and membership, there will be countless varying opinions on any given fact. Some may be valid and researched, others may just be “shoot from the hip” opinions. As aggravating as it may sometimes be, our diverse audience here on DU is bound to have disputes within the ranks. Some of us are lawyers who are more informed with legalities, while people like myself are just out there to share a thought - well conceived or not.

Fear not, nightwing1240, you’re among friends. Keep up your opining. Diversity of thought and ideas is what makes us unite on common ground, although some of that ground may be unsettling.

[Meadowoak]

2. I don't care anymore, I just say what I know is the truth. And

If someone doesn't like it, fuck them and the horse they rode in on.

[nightwing1240]

4. Amen

Just wanted to address this stuff

[MarineCombatEngineer]

6. Ditto.

I'm at the age where I don't give 2 pennies if people get offended by some of the things I have to say, I just don't care anymore.

[HAB911]

5. Amen

[gab13by13]

7. What makes the Democratic party

and Democrats in general, special, is our ability to have rigorous debates with one another on issues. As long as we debate the issue itself and not make the debate personal, that is what sets us apart from the programmed Magat zombies who are told what to think by Fox News.

I graduated from college in 1969 and my #1 takeaway from college was not to blindly believe what I read in the newspaper or see on TV. I am down to only watching Nicolle Wallace on TV and listening to Zerlina Maxwell, Stephanie Miller, and Thom Hartmann. I will watch Mehdi Hasan.

[MarineCombatEngineer]

9. Amen.

[Mr.Bill]

32. True. Note that Democrats in Congress sometimes cast votes that

dissent from the majority while republicans vote in absolute lockstep as if someone had a gun pointed at them.

[WhiskeyGrinder]

8. Millions of people? Living in fear? Huh.

Another took me to task for not including girls in the Priest/molestation scandal. I am sorry but the predominant victims of that scandal was boys.

"Girls were also victims" is hardly being taken to task. It's adding to the discussion on a discussion board.

[nightwing1240]

10. You are unafraid to say something that may upset someone?

"girls" was not left out intentionally. smh

[WhiskeyGrinder]

13. "Afraid" doesn't really come into it. If I am unsure whether something I'm about to say might hurt

people I care about, I either do some research on it or say it and then listen to their response. If I'm unsure whether something I'm about to say might upset someone in power who needs to be upset, "afraid" is not in the criteria that goes into whether I say it or not.

"girls" was not left out intentionally. smh

And "girls were also victims" doesn't imply that it was.

[obamanut2012]

35. Thank you

[AntivaxHunters]

12. I'd say many millions of people live in fear

Unless you're speaking specifically about the issues you highlighted alone

[obamanut2012]

34. Exactly, and unfortunately girls have been wiped

From the priest scandal.

[malaise]

11. So what if you piss someone off

You are posting your view of things. I try not to break DU rules and to be polite and civil, but everything I post is from my perspective. If that pisses off some people. so be it.
Happy New Year

[nightwing1240]

15. Thank you!

Happy New Year to you as well!

[True Blue American]

17. Agree!

Polarization is our enemy within.

[malaise]

20. Agree

And I have no problem apologizing if I get something factual wrong.

[True Blue American]

23. Same here!

When I am wrong I admit it. And have been!

[bucolic_frolic]

14. Relativism in the face of facts, logic, reasoning, and truth, gives MAGA delusions room to spread

That's how we got to this point in history. Let's reject those Q-thinking methods and stick to what's been working since pre-civilization.

[True Blue American]

16. I get your point.

Last edited Sat Dec 31, 2022, 12:19 PM - Edit history (1)

After listening to 2 women who are sick to death of the divisions into small groups. One is a College student, the other a middle aged Professional woman. They just want people to be equal!

The College student was a soccer star who was accepted to West Point. She left because of the constant lectures on race plus the unfairness of the whole class being disciplined if 1 made a mistake.. she is very disciplined and is quite happy in another ollege.

Both are dark skinned. Both highly intelligent. They want the anger and division to stop.

[BComplex]

19. Bullies are sometimes the self-righteous kind.

They're usually coming from a place of pain from bad experiences, but they haven't learned to explain their point of view about that topic from a more civil, less angry, frame of mind. I've seen it before on DU, and I usually just get off the thread as soon as that starts.

[LuckyCharms]

21. Generally for me, it boils down to:

Be polite to someone until they are impolite to you.

I try to be polite always, but being human, I fail sometimes.

If I feel I want to retaliate verbally or in writing, I try to inject some humor.

But in the end, not everyone is going to like me (or anyone), no matter how I behave.

[True Blue American]

24. Self depreciating humor

Works in many cases. Be willing to laugh at yourself, make fun.

[niyad]

25. Congratulations on your posting milestone.

[nightwing1240]

26. Thank you :)

[BannonsLiver]

27. My favorite is when the thought police try to restrict what we call Republicans

The point you made about someone going apeshit because you didn’t include girls in the catholic abuse scandal is a terrific example as well.

Pointing out things like the fact that Trump is very fat or the fact Kimberly Guilfoyle is a hideous looking hell beast are also frowned upon.

[sl8]

28. Regarding the poster who added that girls were also hurt by priests.

It sounds like they hurt your feelings.

Should they have not posted that out of fear of hurting your feelings? It seems inconsistent with your premise.

[dalton99a]

29. You can't please everyone, especially certain folks who act as self-appointed hall monitors

Heck, I suspect some of the PC police on here are not even Democrats

Ignore them

[Genki Hikari]

30. No, the predominant victims of priest abuse WERE NOT boys

The more PUBLICIZED incidents were of boys, but girls were molested at equivalent rates. It's just that nobody cares about them getting molested the way they do when it's little white boys.

[BannonsLiver]

33. Link?

On edit i found a link:

In the case of the priest scandal, boys were the victims of sexual misconduct much more often than girls, by a factor of about four to one, says Margaret Leland Smith of John Jay College of Criminal Justice.

https://www.newsweek.com/sex-abuse-church-girls-also-victimized-70741?amp=1

Here’s another source that says you’re wrong:

Priests abused more male than female victims and had significantly greater access to male youth historically.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22809048/

[nightwing1240]

37. Thank you

[BannonsLiver]

39. No prob. Not a fan of gaslighting.

[obamanut2012]

36. Yup, as were adult women

I worked with a woman in Virginia who had been exploited, groomed, and sexually assaulted and used when she went to her parish priest for...... ready for it?

Her husband abusing her.

This happened in the late 90s. She doubted she was the only one.

It is not new or atypical to have girls sexualized and groomed. But it was so scandalous when the victims were not heteronormative ie boys and young men. That was homosexual and unnatural.

[Mr.Bill]

31. I said something negative about Public Defenders

and immediatel someone demanded that I delete it because Joe Biden was once a Public Defender. I mean really? I was a car salesman for awhile years ago. Should I demand that all negative posts about car salesmen be deleted?

Thank you, OP, for bringing this up.

[nightwing1240]

38. you are welcome