How my conservative cousin's wedding brought our family together

[ripcord]

My cousin never really got into politics, he has always been an independent and voted for candidates from both parties. Since he met his fiancee he is non stop conservative propaganda, he inserts it into every discussion. His fiancee has been much easier to communicate with, even in disagreements she was civil and polite. They sent out their wedding invitations and it is going to be a child free wedding, his fiancee feels this is her day and the focus should be on her. No problem that is their choice but some of our family members with small children decided not to attend. For some reason this sent the bride to be over the edge, she said they were only doing this is get back at her on her special day because they are jealous that she and her family have so much money, their men don't do manual labor and their women aren't just breeders. Well she has done something I have never seen, she has united our family, the only ones going to the wedding are his parents and brother, his two sisters won't have anything to do with them. I finally had to block them on social media because they have gone full toxic and I am not alone.

[Aristus]

1. Wow. Talk about a Bridezilla.

I suspect that won't go away once her "special day" is over.

I'd move to the other side of the country and change my name...

[Hope22]

2. I'm sorry you have had to deal with this.

She sounds like a gem. We have take victory where we find it!! My best to you and yours.

[Diamond_Dog]

3. Yikes! Bridezilla, much?

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People who specify no children at a wedding are obviously within their rights to do so.

But they must expect that out of town guests who have kids probably won’t be able to come.

I have been to weddings where they said no kids and then you see kids there who are from bride/groom’s family.

[kimbutgar]

4. I went to a wedding of my husbands family member and she specified no children

But she was ok with her 3 under 10 nieces and nephews there. I thought it was hypocritical of the bride which I suspect also is a repuke.

That said that marriage might not last long if she is that demanding. Expect did you hear who divorced in the next couple of years family gossip.

[in2herbs]

5. If you're not willing to get married without all the pomp and circumstance you should

seriously consider why you are getting married.

[rustbeltvoice]

6. "her special day"???

is it like a coronation?

I just do not understand.

[yardwork]

11. The emphasis on "her" special day is a red flag, I agree.

Lots of problems ahead for that couple, I'm guessing.

[Deep State Witch]

7. This Marriage Won't Last

This marriage won't last more than 5 years. She sounds like a real diva. Not even going into the whole "wedding day should be all about the bride" bullshit which sounds like something from the generation where women didn't work.

[panader0]

8. I think children would be great at weddings. Innocence and joy abounding.

My last marriage (and divorce) were in a judge's chambers.

[calimary]

15. We had a pregnant woman and a couple with a baby at our wedding.

Everybody who commented on it said it was a good omen.

[AndyS]

17. I think two year olds should be included in every wedding.

A great case for birth control until you figure out it's really gonna work.

[calimary]

18. There is that.

Having had one two-year-old after another, I can say there absolutely is that!

[SheltieLover]

9. He should rethink marrying this woman imo.

Sounds narcissistic & histrionic to me. Jmo.

Living with her might prove quite difficult.

Her day?

Glad your family is united against this nonsense.

[NNadir]

10. Well, my son, at the age of four, was ring bearer at his aunt's wedding.

Somehow or another, he got a wasp in his shoe and began to scream like the dickens.

I yelled at him to stop, but my wife, a better person than I am, pulled off his shoe and the wasp, amazingly still alive flew out.

My sister-in-law still laughs about it to this day, and I'm sure my son's actions were not the reason her marriage didn't last.

I had a lousy wedding, a drunk preacher during a blizzard at a roadside chapel.

I've been married, very happily, for 37 years.

This woman is making her wedding be a possible cause of the destruction of her marriage. It doesn't go well to start off alienating one's spouse's family. Unearned aristocratic attitudes won't help the marriage either.

Condolences to your family, but the bright side is the unity in the rest of the family.

[yardwork]

14. What a beautiful post.

So much in this gem of a post - so much about what is real and important and beautiful in life. Thank you.

[Hekate]

12. I hope there's still time for your cousin to reconsider....

[dobleremolque]

13. Well, every bride's

first wedding should be special. And it looks like with that personality, she'll have more opportunities to get it right.

[AndyS]

16. This is why after a BS and MS in Photography I decided NOT to shoot weddings.

I'd rather shoot crime scenes . . .