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cactusfractal

(504 posts)
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:01 PM Jun 2023

I think I'm done

I've been a member since pre-Obama.

Never contributed much but snark. My only constant.

I guess if I'm saying my goodbyes to an indifferent universe, I may as well say them here, too.

So this is probably it.

I hope things get better in your world.

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I think I'm done (Original Post) cactusfractal Jun 2023 OP
Are you OK? CentralMass Jun 2023 #1
Please dial 988 yardwork Jun 2023 #2
Please, whatever you have in mind, don't. Snark or not, your DU family is here niyad Jun 2023 #3
Please don't make a hasty decision. We all go through dark times in our lives. alwaysinasnit Jun 2023 #4
It sounds like you are in crisis. madaboutharry Jun 2023 #5
The world needs more snark! True Dough Jun 2023 #6
Hey. The world needs you and it needs your snark. We need your snark. If you don't feel like WhiskeyGrinder Jun 2023 #7
The darkest hour is just before dawn. Desert grandma Jun 2023 #8
Please don't go! redwitch Jun 2023 #9
The Universe is not indifferent, believe me. It needs your snark. LoisB Jun 2023 #10
Please stay. We need you. I am feeling like you, but posting makes me feel better. I have felt like debm55 Jun 2023 #11
Woah! Hang in there! Bit by bit. Hope things Will improve. 988 if needed.& I like a good bit o'snark electric_blue68 Jun 2023 #12
Please don't go, we need you Walleye Jun 2023 #13
Don't let the bastards win, buddy. peppertree Jun 2023 #14
Take an electronic break. I have to do it from time to time. It can do wonders. chowder66 Jun 2023 #15
Wait, are you alright? cactus, please come back and let us know you're okay. crickets Jun 2023 #16
You can see from the replies here that the universe is NOT indifferent. highplainsdem Jun 2023 #17
Is there a way for the moderators to check email addresses phylny Jun 2023 #18
Please don't go away. We care about you. LiberalLoner Jun 2023 #19
Snark can be a magic ingredient at times. Stick around blm Jun 2023 #20
I think snark is one of the best things about this universe... Think. Again. Jun 2023 #21
A shower, some tea, deep breaths. LuvLoogie Jun 2023 #22
I've been a "member" here for 17 years now elocs Jun 2023 #23
Snarkiness reveals wit. Please stay. We need you. sprinkleeninow Jun 2023 #24
I know how you feel Rachel M at 6 pm Jun 2023 #25
please hang in there Recycle_Guru Jun 2023 #26
Feel free to message me if you need to talk ismnotwasm Jun 2023 #27
Snarkiness reveals wit. Please stay. We need you. sprinkleeninow Jun 2023 #28
Or how about this idea: ecstatic Jun 2023 #29
Stay. Snark. Then stay some more. Solly Mack Jun 2023 #30
You're not done. You still have much to enjoy & contribute. CaptainTruth Jun 2023 #31
I hope you are checking in and seeing that we're not indifferent. femmedem Jun 2023 #32
Freeway cactusfractal Jun 2023 #33
Please stay, Please PM me. debm55 Jun 2023 #36
Creativity and snark. Pretty cool combination. alwaysinasnit Jun 2023 #37
Whew, thank you for checking in again, cactusfractal. crickets Jun 2023 #41
Well done Marthe48 Jun 2023 #57
You're a very good writer. I'd like to read more of your work. yardwork Jun 2023 #83
I hope you are seeing this and know you have friends here mountain grammy Jun 2023 #34
Please stay NT Nululu Jun 2023 #35
Snark is my favorite thing DUgosh Jun 2023 #38
I am a big fan of snark. I would hate to see a fellow snark connoisseur to just vanish without Beastly Boy Jun 2023 #39
We are here for you. Mosby Jun 2023 #40
Please wait 24 hours before you make a move Marthe48 Jun 2023 #42
please reach out. You can call me. Number below. Let's talk CommonHumanity Jun 2023 #43
Please stay here, we all need your snark. onecaliberal Jun 2023 #44
Don't let the shits get you down. Kid Berwyn Jun 2023 #45
Good snark is worth living for. stage left Jun 2023 #46
Please stay. 988 is a lifeline. AllyCat Jun 2023 #47
I hope this doesn't sound trite but.. BlueKentuckyGirl Jun 2023 #48
Depression lies. mzmolly Jun 2023 #49
Please don't go..We are here for you. We care about each other. Stuart G Jun 2023 #50
Please stay, cactusfractal! calimary Jun 2023 #51
I'm not sure exactly what you have in mind, but I want to encourage you not to give up. ShazzieB Jun 2023 #52
Hang around buddy canetoad Jun 2023 #53
Please find someone you trust to help you BittyJenkins Jun 2023 #54
You quote Heinlein and recognize snark when you dish it. I'm impressed. WheelWalker Jun 2023 #55
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. nt BWdem4life Jun 2023 #56
I checked back this morning because I care about you. yardwork Jun 2023 #58
Hey, snark away to me any time!! BeckyDem Jun 2023 #59
I am still here cactusfractal Jun 2023 #60
Hugggggggs. niyad Jun 2023 #61
Please hang in there. As you have seen, you have lots of support and caring niyad Jun 2023 #62
Good to know that your will to live is strong. ARPad95 Jun 2023 #63
So glad you're still here. mzmolly Jun 2023 #65
I hope you talk to people who are trained to help--it is so important Recycle_Guru Jun 2023 #70
Good for you grantcart Jun 2023 #73
So glad you're here! crickets Jun 2023 #78
So happy to read this, cactusfractal. femmedem Jun 2023 #80
Relieved to see you are still here. BlueKentuckyGirl Jun 2023 #82
I've been done with forums before, including DU, but not for good obviously. elocs Jun 2023 #64
Yeah, that was actually "done with living" cactusfractal Jun 2023 #66
If you're actually "done with living" then why not go to where you actually can get help elocs Jun 2023 #67
If you must know, I was in a state cactusfractal Jun 2023 #68
Sometimes posting as you just did is healthy as all get out. +1 BeckyDem Jun 2023 #77
internet forums can be helpful as a first step in calls for help Recycle_Guru Jun 2023 #71
Wow. Sky Jewels Jun 2023 #72
good to see you today blogslug Jun 2023 #79
Tyvm cactusfractal Jun 2023 #84
Read the room, chief. WhiskeyGrinder Jun 2023 #69
I've gone through suicidal periods in my life. Mr.Bill Jun 2023 #74
You seem like an intelligent, witty person, the kind of person I'd choose as a friend. Sky Jewels Jun 2023 #75
Don't make any rash decisions and please seek help if u need it. roamer65 Jun 2023 #76
Seeing that you responded phylny Jun 2023 #81

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,666 posts)
7. Hey. The world needs you and it needs your snark. We need your snark. If you don't feel like
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:06 PM
Jun 2023

talking, you can text HOME to 741741 for text support.

redwitch

(14,966 posts)
9. Please don't go!
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:09 PM
Jun 2023

Whatever seems insurmountable now isn’t.
Check back in when you feel up to it.
We want to know that your wonderfully snarky self is okay!

debm55

(25,929 posts)
11. Please stay. We need you. I am feeling like you, but posting makes me feel better. I have felt like
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:14 PM
Jun 2023

you. My sister has multiple cancers. This is relaxing-it takes me away from my heartbreak. Please speak to someone now or have someone takecare of you through your trying times. Come to the Lounge and post and read all the snark you want. Please PM me, I will be there for you.

peppertree

(21,943 posts)
14. Don't let the bastards win, buddy.
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:20 PM
Jun 2023

Can I share something? I've felt that way many times myself - and I can tell you that St. John's Wort has saved my life.

Mike Wallace said the very thing about SJW. Now there's someone who, while having everything a man could hope for (success, money, a great wife, a stellar reputation, etc.) felt exactly the same way.

Those feelings can happen to anyone, you see.

I had the honor of meeting him and the Mrs. once, in college - a warm, charming couple in every way. Sometimes, when I feel spent, I think of him and ask: what would ol' Mike Wallace do?

He'd take a St. John's Wort, a deep breath - and keep going. That's what he would do.

So here's to beating the odds! All the Best.

highplainsdem

(49,309 posts)
17. You can see from the replies here that the universe is NOT indifferent.
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:35 PM
Jun 2023

Please don't give up.

You can find support, here or through a hotline or local support groups.

Many of us have been through really bad times that left us tempted to give up.

Those times don't last. Things get better. Help can be found.

There are many more kind, helpful people in the world than there are indifferent or bad ones.

Sending hugs...

phylny

(8,408 posts)
18. Is there a way for the moderators to check email addresses
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:35 PM
Jun 2023

of posters and possibly seek help, if needed?

blm

(113,224 posts)
20. Snark can be a magic ingredient at times. Stick around
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:44 PM
Jun 2023

and lay it on the universe. And here, where it’s appreciated.

Think. Again.

(9,678 posts)
21. I think snark is one of the best things about this universe...
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 09:48 PM
Jun 2023

It shows wisdom gained the hard way. To me, it reveals the snarker's intelligence, humor, and grit.

You're right, the universe is indifferent, to everything, but YOU are valuable to those of us who aren't indifferent to the pains, and laughs, and sheer joy of making a connection with others who GET IT.

There are people you have warmed with a chuckle when they needed one, who have felt stronger because they've read your words, who you benefitted just by being here with us.

LuvLoogie

(7,143 posts)
22. A shower, some tea, deep breaths.
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:00 PM
Jun 2023

Go to bed early. Wake up early. Go for a walk. Make yourself a nice breakfast. Keep moving,

elocs

(22,730 posts)
23. I've been a "member" here for 17 years now
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:01 PM
Jun 2023

and just post until I get tired of it then leave. Like it says at the bottom of my post, I'm not a DUer, I just post here. And then I just take a time-out for however long that may be and nobody even notices I'm gone and I'm fine with that.
This is just a message board for like-minded people, purged of trolls, it's not a religion.

Rachel M at 6 pm

(119 posts)
25. I know how you feel
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:06 PM
Jun 2023

Last edited Wed Jun 21, 2023, 11:01 PM - Edit history (1)

It can use up all your strength just to keep going when you want to stop

Keep going

ismnotwasm

(42,061 posts)
27. Feel free to message me if you need to talk
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:07 PM
Jun 2023

I don’t know what this is about, but for what it’s worth, I am here.

ecstatic

(32,899 posts)
29. Or how about this idea:
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:10 PM
Jun 2023

I'm not 100% sure what you're referring to, but if you're planning to exit this world, please try the suggestions in this thread first.

There's no rush, you don't have to do anything right now.

You might feel you have nothing left to gain or lose, so my suggestion is to try living life fully now. Maybe visit a place you've never been to or write a book or anything new. You have absolutely nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain.

Aren't you curious about what you can do if you set aside all fears and worries that may have held you back?

Come back here to follow up soon.

CaptainTruth

(6,657 posts)
31. You're not done. You still have much to enjoy & contribute.
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:17 PM
Jun 2023

Don't forget that, & don't forget that you have friends here.

femmedem

(8,226 posts)
32. I hope you are checking in and seeing that we're not indifferent.
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:18 PM
Jun 2023

Cactusfractal, it's been nearly thirty years ago since I lost someone I dearly loved to suicide, and almost as long since I came within a hair's breadth of deciding I didn't want to survive that loss.

But I'm glad I did survive. My life turned for the better in ways I couldn't have predicted.

Please let this not be the end of the story for you.

I'll just add one more thing: I have another friend who was not too long ago so depressed that he was catatonic for nearly a year. It took electric shock therapy to bring him back, but he is full of creativity, compassion, love and humor again. Please don't make an irreversible decision.

cactusfractal

(504 posts)
33. Freeway
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:22 PM
Jun 2023

Freeway
And the wind
From the trucks
Is strong
But so is
The conditioning
To
Not
Take
That
Step
So I didn't
Couldn't
Probably won't
Is that a win?
Who won then?
No less a loser now, I
Than then, and
The guy
In the white K5
With the Jesus hat
Who stopped
Doesn't know he
Saved my life
Whatever that is
It's still happening
With the in out
And the thump bump so
Maybe I'll wake up
Tomorrow
But I still kinda hope
It all just burns overnight

crickets

(26,045 posts)
41. Whew, thank you for checking in again, cactusfractal.
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:39 PM
Jun 2023

I love your poem. Please stick around and write more of them, and bring the snark too when you feel like it.

mountain grammy

(26,741 posts)
34. I hope you are seeing this and know you have friends here
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:24 PM
Jun 2023

Just saw your latest post above mine.. glad you're here.

DUgosh

(3,066 posts)
38. Snark is my favorite thing
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:30 PM
Jun 2023

I love Snark. We need Snark. We don’t have enough of it ! What will we do without Snark! We must have daily Snark!

Beastly Boy

(9,770 posts)
39. I am a big fan of snark. I would hate to see a fellow snark connoisseur to just vanish without
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:30 PM
Jun 2023

a trace.

Whatever issues you may have with the universe, they certainly don't extend to DU.

Which kind of puts the thought of the universe being indifferent in question.

Give it a thought.

Marthe48

(17,317 posts)
42. Please wait 24 hours before you make a move
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:41 PM
Jun 2023

Even if you are just talking about taking a break from a website, or considering something else, think it out before you take the next step. And then think it out again. Many people come to a crossroad. Other people are the crossroad. if you are at the crossroad, look in all directions before you decide which way you want to go. If you are the crossroad, bear the traffic. It matters. You matter. Please let us hear from you. I'll be in the crowd at DU waiting for news

CommonHumanity

(246 posts)
43. please reach out. You can call me. Number below. Let's talk
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 10:49 PM
Jun 2023

I don't know if DU let's you post your phone #, but I want to give you my number. Please call to talk. 919-967-8945

BlueKentuckyGirl

(402 posts)
48. I hope this doesn't sound trite but..
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 11:37 PM
Jun 2023

No one knows what is going on with you, but If you are thinking of suicide, know that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Whatever is going on with you, you can make it better. We all have feelings of hopelessness at times but we know that maybe tomorrow we will feel better. And usually, we do.

mzmolly

(51,025 posts)
49. Depression lies.
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 11:44 PM
Jun 2023

Don’t believe it.

You are loved and needed, even if you don’t know that in this moment.

Stuart G

(38,515 posts)
50. Please don't go..We are here for you. We care about each other.
Wed Jun 21, 2023, 11:47 PM
Jun 2023
and we care about you too.

You are not alone. Lots of us want to go from one time or another, and we stay. Why? We care about each other.
That is who we are, and it makes Democratic Underground very special.

calimary

(81,852 posts)
51. Please stay, cactusfractal!
Thu Jun 22, 2023, 12:02 AM
Jun 2023

We need you! We need to know you’re there! Don’t wanna lose you OR lose track of you!

Please feel embraced and comforted and cared about. And know you’re NOT alone.

ShazzieB

(16,862 posts)
52. I'm not sure exactly what you have in mind, but I want to encourage you not to give up.
Thu Jun 22, 2023, 12:17 AM
Jun 2023

I once had the experience of finding someone close to me after he tried to kill himself. Fortunately, I got there in time, and eventually (not necessarily right away), he was glad I did. I'm glad I did, too. He fully recovered and is still alive and well today. We are both glad I got there when I did and not one minute later.

At the time, he evidently didn't think he had anything to live for, but it wasn't long before he realized how wrong he was about that. His perspective changed immeasurably in a surprisingly short time. Yours can change, too. Please give that a chance to happen. There is help available, and there are people here who care about you. We are all pulling for you.




canetoad

(17,267 posts)
53. Hang around buddy
Thu Jun 22, 2023, 12:24 AM
Jun 2023

You've been here fifteen years and although many of us may not know you I'll bet you know many people. I for one would like to read more from you.

Here's one of my fav cartoons; hope it gives you a smile.

BittyJenkins

(413 posts)
54. Please find someone you trust to help you
Thu Jun 22, 2023, 12:36 AM
Jun 2023

Get help. My daughter has been where you are. It is hard.
She trusts her sister. That trust helped her take the steps she needed to get a step toward help.
I know it is hard so hard but please take a breath and find help.
Snark is fine. You matter.

WheelWalker

(8,974 posts)
55. You quote Heinlein and recognize snark when you dish it. I'm impressed.
Thu Jun 22, 2023, 12:52 AM
Jun 2023

The Heinlein quote in your sig line is my all time favorite. Hard to pick a favorite Heinlein story, though. So many. What's yours?

cactusfractal

(504 posts)
60. I am still here
Thu Jun 22, 2023, 07:24 PM
Jun 2023

and I'm humbled by the support. I'm still having what feels like I imagine a panic attack to feel like, and it's only stopped a few times, but I realize that choosing oblivion myself is not my lot. I mean, fuck, when have I ever had anything easy happen except the intentional first-try conception of our daughter? And there's that. And yeah, all the reasons. Allllll the reasons. They all make sense, and damn/bless you for that.

So thank you. Thank you all.

I am literally pulled back from the brink, and I wanted you to know what, candidly, no one else does. No one.

I didn't wanna be on the news anyway. If I am, it has to all go down more like the third act of Dead Zone than the Channel 8 Live Traffic. I'm looking at you, Meatball Ron.

niyad

(114,611 posts)
62. Please hang in there. As you have seen, you have lots of support and caring
Thu Jun 22, 2023, 07:39 PM
Jun 2023

here. Glad you stepped back from the brink. We need you, need yiur snark, need YOU!

You can pm any of us if you need to, we are all here.

hugggggs some more.

Recycle_Guru

(2,973 posts)
70. I hope you talk to people who are trained to help--it is so important
Fri Jun 23, 2023, 03:48 PM
Jun 2023

to get others outside of ourselves to get us unstuck from the negative loop we put ourselves in through mo fault of our own.

grantcart

(53,061 posts)
73. Good for you
Fri Jun 23, 2023, 03:51 PM
Jun 2023

I understand oblivion is highly over priced and over rated.

Find one good thing to laugh at.

Then find the next one.

And the one after that.

Go to bed get up

Repeat.

femmedem

(8,226 posts)
80. So happy to read this, cactusfractal.
Sat Jun 24, 2023, 05:11 AM
Jun 2023

And so relieved.

When I felt as you did, when I didn't think I could survive the grief and pain I was going through, I remember taking a breath and thinking that I had just survived the last moment, and nothing was going to be worse than that. I took another breath and survived that one, too. And eventually it got easier.

My life is better now than anything I could have imagined. I hope the same will be true for you.

elocs

(22,730 posts)
64. I've been done with forums before, including DU, but not for good obviously.
Thu Jun 22, 2023, 08:17 PM
Jun 2023

But I just stop posting without needing to announce it. That's just me I guess.

elocs

(22,730 posts)
67. If you're actually "done with living" then why not go to where you actually can get help
Fri Jun 23, 2023, 11:13 AM
Jun 2023

rather than an internet forum?

cactusfractal

(504 posts)
68. If you must know, I was in a state
Fri Jun 23, 2023, 03:43 PM
Jun 2023

in which saying goodbye made sense at the time.

Go fuck yourself. Actually, you might like that. Just keep being yourself. That seems like punishment enough.

Recycle_Guru

(2,973 posts)
71. internet forums can be helpful as a first step in calls for help
Fri Jun 23, 2023, 03:50 PM
Jun 2023

provided tjat forum doesn't engage in snark amd actually provides support

Mr.Bill

(24,438 posts)
74. I've gone through suicidal periods in my life.
Fri Jun 23, 2023, 03:53 PM
Jun 2023

Maybe everyone does, I don't know. A few times the only thing that stopped me was I couldn't decide on how to do it. It was mostly in my younger years, but to this day I don't keep a gun in the house. I live by the motto that I made up myself, "Don't fuck yourself out of tomorrow, because it's really the only thing any of us have." And my tomorrows turn out good a lot more often than they turn out bad.

Sky Jewels

(7,277 posts)
75. You seem like an intelligent, witty person, the kind of person I'd choose as a friend.
Fri Jun 23, 2023, 04:00 PM
Jun 2023

Smartasses are my favorite people!

I'm very glad you are sticking around -- you make the world a better place!

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