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xmas74

(29,703 posts)
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 01:56 PM Nov 2023

I swore I wouldn't do it but: GoFundMe

https://gofund.me/d0a01983

Some of you here know I had cancer last year. During the surgery to remove it I bled out and had a transfusion. My surgery, surprise cancer diagnosis, surprise endometriosis diagnosis, almost dying on the table and starting chemo in a months time was a lot for anyone. Add on that I just started a new job three weeks before this happened and things have been rough.

I hate asking for help but insurance didn't pay for all of it. I still had the deductible and coinsurance and I had unexpected time off from work during this. I'm in remission now but the side effects have caused their own issues. The details are all at the link above. If anyone has a dollar or so to toss at a stranger on the internet I'd appreciate it. If nothing else go check out my bald photo.
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I swore I wouldn't do it but: GoFundMe (Original Post) xmas74 Nov 2023 OP
Thanks to everyone recommending this post xmas74 Nov 2023 #1
❤️ ✿❧🌿❧✿ ❤️ Lucinda Nov 2023 #8
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #15
🦵 kick Demovictory9 Nov 2023 #2
Thank you. xmas74 Nov 2023 #4
Kicking Delphinus Nov 2023 #3
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #5
K & R! 50 Shades Of Blue Nov 2023 #6
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #7
Wsih I could do more rambler_american Nov 2023 #9
Thank you so much xmas74 Nov 2023 #11
Donated Aepps22 Nov 2023 #10
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #12
Happy to help. perfessor Nov 2023 #13
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #14
Kicked and donated Canoe52 Nov 2023 #16
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #17
I'm sure at some time Katcat Nov 2023 #18
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #19
Wish I could have donated more...... a kennedy Nov 2023 #20
Thank you so much. Nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #21
I'm with you, sister! Staph Nov 2023 #22
My nurses said I had a good head shape. xmas74 Nov 2023 #23
Kicking so that you can get all the help you need. niyad Nov 2023 #24
Thank you so much. Nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #26
Donated, and pazzyanne Nov 2023 #25
Thank you. xmas74 Nov 2023 #27
K&R mvd Nov 2023 #28
Thank you so much xmas74 Nov 2023 #32
I hear ya about being reluctant to ask.. Permanut Nov 2023 #29
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #33
I'm in Skittles Nov 2023 #30
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #34
K&R OhioChick Nov 2023 #31
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #35
A donation and a k&r EllieBC Nov 2023 #36
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #37
Happy to help, good luck to you! A good friend of mine is going through pancreatic cancer chemo TeamProg Nov 2023 #38
Thank you. xmas74 Nov 2023 #39
Best wishes to you for healing Scalded Nun Nov 2023 #40
Thank you. xmas74 Nov 2023 #41
So sorry for your situation. Xipe Totec Nov 2023 #42
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #46
K&D (kicked and donated) TheBlackAdder Nov 2023 #43
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #47
Wish I could've donated more. catbyte Nov 2023 #44
Thank you. xmas74 Nov 2023 #48
Kicked and donated Sienna86 Nov 2023 #45
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #49
of course we will help. Please dont hesitate to ask..there for the grace of God go I! samnsara Nov 2023 #50
Thank you. Nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #51
So glad your recovery is headed in the right direction! MLAA Nov 2023 #52
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #54
I threw a little drop in the bucket as well. tavernier Nov 2023 #53
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #55
Marta and I kicked in Omaha Steve Nov 2023 #56
Thank you so much xmas74 Nov 2023 #57
Glad to do it Omaha Steve Nov 2023 #58
... xmas74 Nov 2023 #59
I was GAU before I was AFSCME Omaha Steve Nov 2023 #60
My council was out of Des Moines xmas74 Nov 2023 #61
I didn't know we were that close to each other Omaha Steve Nov 2023 #65
Im an hour SE of KCMO. xmas74 Nov 2023 #68
Thank you everyone! xmas74 Nov 2023 #62
Thank you once again nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #63
KICK Omaha Steve Nov 2023 #64
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #67
Kick lamp_shade Nov 2023 #66
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #71
I swore I wouldn't do it, too peggysue2 Nov 2023 #69
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #70
Done. obnoxiousdrunk Nov 2023 #72
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #73
Almost 1/2 way to your goal Omaha Steve Nov 2023 #74
Thank you! xmas74 Nov 2023 #75
Done. Mousetoescamper Nov 2023 #76
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #77
kick TeamProg Nov 2023 #78
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #79
You are now 1/2 way to your goal Omaha Steve Nov 2023 #80
I never expected it! xmas74 Nov 2023 #81
I just wanted to thank everyone for getting me xmas74 Nov 2023 #82
I donated. I know how it is. Demsrule86 Nov 2023 #83
Thank you xmas74 Nov 2023 #84
Kicking mvd Nov 2023 #85
Thank you so much nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #86
Kick Omaha Steve Nov 2023 #87
Thank you nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #88
K&R for visibility. tblue37 Nov 2023 #89
🤞🏽 blm Nov 2023 #90
Thank you so much nt xmas74 Nov 2023 #91
Update: xmas74 Nov 2023 #92

xmas74

(29,703 posts)
11. Thank you so much
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 03:21 PM
Nov 2023

And I absolutely agree.
I have good commercial insurance and I'm a Medicaid navigator. I see it every day at work.

Katcat

(286 posts)
18. I'm sure at some time
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 04:00 PM
Nov 2023

Most of us need a little help. I had several surgeries that took forever to pay for so I know how it is. I don’t have a lot but I did donate what I could. Good luck and stay healthy!

Staph

(6,273 posts)
22. I'm with you, sister!
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 06:23 PM
Nov 2023

I had uterine cancer ten years ago, and it is quite a journey. But I'm still here and you will be, too. It's a cliché, but take it one day at a time.

I love the bald photo! Bald is good when you are having chemotherapy. The drugs attack fast-growing cells, and hair follicles are among the fastest.


xmas74

(29,703 posts)
23. My nurses said I had a good head shape.
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 06:35 PM
Nov 2023

I had to put the photo in sideways so my baldness showed,lol. My hair fell out after the very first session.

We're both survivors.

mvd

(65,245 posts)
28. K&R
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 07:27 PM
Nov 2023

Cancer sucks badly. My dad died from colon cancer in 2019 and was only 72. I am happy you are in remission. I badly wish I could donate, but I did what I could with a K&R.

Continued well wishes and good vibes

Permanut

(5,957 posts)
29. I hear ya about being reluctant to ask..
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 07:28 PM
Nov 2023

I come out of the same tradition - but -

Glad you posted this, and glad to help

 

TeamProg

(6,630 posts)
38. Happy to help, good luck to you! A good friend of mine is going through pancreatic cancer chemo
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 11:36 PM
Nov 2023

but he does not need financial help at ths time.

I know it can get outrageous.

Best of luck and take care of yourself!

xmas74

(29,703 posts)
39. Thank you.
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 11:38 PM
Nov 2023

I thought I was OK at the time. The bills showed up later and I just couldn't get control.

xmas74

(29,703 posts)
41. Thank you.
Sat Nov 4, 2023, 11:45 PM
Nov 2023

I'm learning that the recovery after remission has been harder than the actual cancer was for me.

Xipe Totec

(43,963 posts)
42. So sorry for your situation.
Sun Nov 5, 2023, 01:39 AM
Nov 2023

I know prayers are useless in these circumstances. So I sent you a little bit of money instead.

I wish you good fortune.

catbyte

(34,854 posts)
44. Wish I could've donated more.
Sun Nov 5, 2023, 06:30 AM
Nov 2023

Endometriosis is bad enough, I know, but cancer on top of it? The worst. I wish you all the best.

xmas74

(29,703 posts)
48. Thank you.
Sun Nov 5, 2023, 08:53 AM
Nov 2023

Twenty years of complaining that something wasn't right only to have my oncologist state that I'd had the endometriosis for years, if not decades, due to how heavily it had spread.

samnsara

(17,865 posts)
50. of course we will help. Please dont hesitate to ask..there for the grace of God go I!
Sun Nov 5, 2023, 09:04 AM
Nov 2023

You would do the same for any of us.

(((hugs)))

MLAA

(17,639 posts)
52. So glad your recovery is headed in the right direction!
Sun Nov 5, 2023, 12:08 PM
Nov 2023

It’s my pleasure to add a drop to the bucket 💕💗💕💗

tavernier

(12,614 posts)
53. I threw a little drop in the bucket as well.
Sun Nov 5, 2023, 12:32 PM
Nov 2023

Looks like you might need another DU bucket soon… we are Family.

Don’t worry about the weight. Meds, steroids, stress. It’ll all melt away soon enough and hair grows back. Stay strong.

xmas74

(29,703 posts)
55. Thank you
Sun Nov 5, 2023, 12:51 PM
Nov 2023

My last scan showed no cancer but it did show I have a double aortic arch and never knew it. It explains some of the breathlessness in middle age. It also showed osteoarthritis- thoracic,lumbar and in my hips. I already knew about my right knee, an old injury from when I worked in a state psych hospital.

I have an appointment with rheumatology in January. I'm hoping to find some answers and maybe something to slow this down. The scheduler said it's not uncommon to get calls a year or two later post chemo about possible arthritis so I guess I'm on schedule.

xmas74

(29,703 posts)
61. My council was out of Des Moines
Mon Nov 6, 2023, 09:24 AM
Nov 2023

So our councils weren't that far from each other.
My region was all of Missouri and Kansas.

xmas74

(29,703 posts)
62. Thank you everyone!
Mon Nov 6, 2023, 11:15 AM
Nov 2023

I really thought I wouldn't receive more than $10 but knew I had to try something. The outpouring of support has been almost more than I can handle. I admit to crying a few times over the weekend after seeing everything.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

peggysue2

(11,076 posts)
69. I swore I wouldn't do it, too
Tue Nov 7, 2023, 12:03 AM
Nov 2023

But I did it for the sake of my grand-daughter, Cassandra. She needed a liver transplant and the costs were . . . staggering. She's doing remarkably well. In the end, we do what we need to do for those we love and those in need.

Best wishes for a good recovery and a little less stress in the process.

Blessings and a modest donation coming your way. Stay strong.

xmas74

(29,703 posts)
92. Update:
Wed Nov 15, 2023, 06:40 PM
Nov 2023

I've raised $3100, all thanks to you!

I plan on paying off one of my smaller bills with this amount, probably the University of Kansas where I have several.

As to me: I'm focusing on my health now. I had my first colonoscopy today. The prep made me vomit all night but I was informed that I was "clean as a whistle". No polyps, no pockets.
Friday I have a chiropractic appointment. I've never done this before but the pain in my back, hips and knees is making nearly everything unbearable. I have an upcoming appointment with a podiatrist to see if maybe there's something that will help me out.
In January I have my first appointment with a rheumatologist and a dermatologist. I was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis right as the pandemic started but have never been treated. I have psoriatic patches on my face, hips, crook of one elbow and behind both knees at the moment.

Finally, I've had two appointments were no one could access my port. It's believed to be clogged. The recommendation is to remove it and I hope to get that done in office before the end of year since I've met my deductible and coinsurance.

I said I'd be transparent with my expenses so here we are so far.

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