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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region Forums# I swore I wouldn't do it but: GoFundMe

https://gofund.me/d0a01983Some of you here know I had cancer last year. During the surgery to remove it I bled out and had a transfusion. My surgery, surprise cancer diagnosis, surprise endometriosis diagnosis, almost dying on the table and starting chemo in a months time was a lot for anyone. Add on that I just started a new job three weeks before this happened and things have been rough.

I hate asking for help but insurance didn't pay for all of it. I still had the deductible and coinsurance and I had unexpected time off from work during this. I'm in remission now but the side effects have caused their own issues. The details are all at the link above. If anyone has a dollar or so to toss at a stranger on the internet I'd appreciate it. If nothing else go check out my bald photo.

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#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)And thanks to those who've already donated.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Demovictory9

(32,768 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)I never wanted to do this but the bills keep piling.

#### Delphinus

(11,928 posts)Hope we all can help.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### 50 Shades Of Blue

(10,412 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### rambler_american

(799 posts)and this is but one example of why we need Medicare for all.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)And I absolutely agree.

I have good commercial insurance and I'm a Medicaid navigator. I see it every day at work.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### perfessor

(278 posts)Also, bookmarked for future use.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Canoe52

(2,952 posts)Wishing you all the best.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Katcat

(286 posts)Most of us need a little help. I had several surgeries that took forever to pay for so I know how it is. I don’t have a lot but I did donate what I could. Good luck and stay healthy!

I tend to pride myself on not asking for assistance but now I need it.

#### a kennedy

(30,535 posts)Here’s to you getting better and healthier everyday.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Staph

(6,273 posts)I had uterine cancer ten years ago, and it is quite a journey. But I'm still here and you will be, too. It's a cliché, but take it one day at a time.

I love the bald photo! Bald is good when you are having chemotherapy. The drugs attack fast-growing cells, and hair follicles are among the fastest.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)I had to put the photo in sideways so my baldness showed,lol. My hair fell out after the very first session.

We're both survivors.

#### niyad

(116,102 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### pazzyanne

(6,564 posts)prayers for a complete recovery, xmas74.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)I'll be able to breathe in five years.

Cancer sucks badly. My dad died from colon cancer in 2019 and was only 72. I am happy you are in remission. I badly wish I could donate, but I did what I could with a K&R.

Continued well wishes and good vibes

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Permanut

(5,957 posts)I come out of the same tradition - but -

Glad you posted this, and glad to help

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Skittles

(154,781 posts)wishing you the best my sweet - btw, you are very pretty

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)But lots of weight gain from chemo.

I thought you'd lose weight. I gained,lol.

Wishing you the best.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### EllieBC

(3,155 posts)Please take care of yourself and may you have a full and speedy recovery.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### TeamProg

(6,630 posts)but he does not need financial help at ths time.

I know it can get outrageous.

Best of luck and take care of yourself!

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)I thought I was OK at the time. The bills showed up later and I just couldn't get control.

#### Scalded Nun

(1,283 posts)Tony V

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)I'm learning that the recovery after remission has been harder than the actual cancer was for me.

#### Xipe Totec

(43,963 posts)I know prayers are useless in these circumstances. So I sent you a little bit of money instead.

I wish you good fortune.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)But I'll always take a good vibe and well wishes, though money helps the most.

#### TheBlackAdder

(28,484 posts)Best wishes.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### catbyte

(34,854 posts)Endometriosis is bad enough, I know, but cancer on top of it? The worst. I wish you all the best.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)Twenty years of complaining that something wasn't right only to have my oncologist state that I'd had the endometriosis for years, if not decades, due to how heavily it had spread.

#### Sienna86

(2,150 posts)The best to you.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)It really helps.

#### samnsara

(17,865 posts)You would do the same for any of us.

(((hugs)))

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### MLAA

(17,639 posts)It’s my pleasure to add a drop to the bucket 💕💗💕💗

#### tavernier

(12,614 posts)Looks like you might need another DU bucket soon… we are Family.

Don’t worry about the weight. Meds, steroids, stress. It’ll all melt away soon enough and hair grows back. Stay strong.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)My last scan showed no cancer but it did show I have a double aortic arch and never knew it. It explains some of the breathlessness in middle age. It also showed osteoarthritis- thoracic,lumbar and in my hips. I already knew about my right knee, an old injury from when I worked in a state psych hospital.

I have an appointment with rheumatology in January. I'm hoping to find some answers and maybe something to slow this down. The scheduler said it's not uncommon to get calls a year or two later post chemo about possible arthritis so I guess I'm on schedule.

#### Omaha Steve

(101,186 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)It will definitely help.

#### Omaha Steve

(101,186 posts)From one old union member to another. Former AFSCME Council 61 Region 7 Vice president

#### Omaha Steve

(101,186 posts)AFSCME local 251.

OS

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)So our councils weren't that far from each other.

My region was all of Missouri and Kansas.

#### Omaha Steve

(101,186 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)One of my closest friends lives in Glenwood,IA.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)I really thought I wouldn't receive more than $10 but knew I had to try something. The outpouring of support has been almost more than I can handle. I admit to crying a few times over the weekend after seeing everything.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Omaha Steve

(101,186 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### lamp_shade

(14,931 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### peggysue2

(11,076 posts)But I did it for the sake of my grand-daughter, Cassandra. She needed a liver transplant and the costs were . . . staggering. She's doing remarkably well. In the end, we do what we need to do for those we love and those in need.

Best wishes for a good recovery and a little less stress in the process.

Blessings and a modest donation coming your way. Stay strong.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### obnoxiousdrunk

(2,927 posts)Get well soon.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Omaha Steve

(101,186 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Mousetoescamper

(4,085 posts)Wishing the very best for you.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Omaha Steve

(101,186 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)Halfway to my goal in less than a week!

#### Demsrule86

(69,553 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)So much!

Hope my kick helps get you to your goal. I can relate to your story as I said above.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### Omaha Steve

(101,186 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### tblue37

(65,832 posts)Fingers crossed.

#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)#### xmas74

(29,703 posts)I've raised $3100, all thanks to you!

I plan on paying off one of my smaller bills with this amount, probably the University of Kansas where I have several.

As to me: I'm focusing on my health now. I had my first colonoscopy today. The prep made me vomit all night but I was informed that I was "clean as a whistle". No polyps, no pockets.

Friday I have a chiropractic appointment. I've never done this before but the pain in my back, hips and knees is making nearly everything unbearable. I have an upcoming appointment with a podiatrist to see if maybe there's something that will help me out.

In January I have my first appointment with a rheumatologist and a dermatologist. I was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis right as the pandemic started but have never been treated. I have psoriatic patches on my face, hips, crook of one elbow and behind both knees at the moment.

Finally, I've had two appointments were no one could access my port. It's believed to be clogged. The recommendation is to remove it and I hope to get that done in office before the end of year since I've met my deductible and coinsurance.

I said I'd be transparent with my expenses so here we are so far.