My worst Thanksgiving ever! I am so sad

[monique2]

My son called me today told me his bone cancer is back. They found two new tumors in the pelvic area. He had surgery a couple
months ago for the same thing. They want to do surgery next week. All my faith has left me right now. I just recovered from a stroke and a broken ankle> Life seems to be throwing trash at us.

[Odin2005]

1. Oh No!

(((good vibes)))

[Kaleva]

2. So sorry to hear that!

[Frustratedlady]

3. My heart goes out to you both.

They are able to do so much with cancer patients and I hope your son will get past the surgery and treatments quickly and without complications.

You are both due for a break. DU hugs.

[monique2]

6. N eedless to say

Thanksgiving meal is not completed and put in the fridge. I am so happy to be back here.

[goclark]

121. More DU Hugs

And know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[oldhippydude]

4. sorry to hear

welcome you are among friends here..

[Raine]

5. I'm so sorry, sending postive thoughts

and hugs.

[monique2]

7. Thank you

[nadinbrzezinski]

8. Hugs

[Jackpine Radical]

9. How terrible, how tragic!

My heart goes out to you and your son.

[clyrc]

10. Best hopes for your son's recovery

And I am sorry this happened to you on Thanksgiving, or any other day.

[immoderate]

11. Sending power from the universe.

Wishing for the best.

--imm

[Live and Learn]

12. Sending my best vibes for you and your son. nt

[Irishonly]

13. I am sorry to read your bad news

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There is a lot they can do with cancer and new treatments are discovered. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you.

We have a Cancer Support Group. We have people fighting cancer, care givers and friends posting. If you feel inclined please come and check out the group. There are wonderful, caring people there.

[Surya Gayatri]

14. Sending strength and comfort to you and yours, monique.

[mecherosegarden]

15. So sorry.

Sending you positive thoughts and a hug from here.

[Lefta Dissenter]

16. I just can't tell you how sorry I am.

My son was diagnosed with cancer a week after he graduated high school - that was 13 years ago. Now he causes me worry of a different sort, since he is in the Foreign Service in the Middle East.

Just lean on the people around you. Do the little things that you can figure out to do - I read a lot about diet and music and other ways to try to make a difference. And then the rest is left to the doctors, and to whatever spiritual being might be guiding your life. (I'm an atheist, so I can't speak much to that part)

Let other people help YOU and take care of you. You still have recovery of your own to do, so let go, let go, let go.

I am just so sorry for your pain and your fear. I know it is agonizing, and I am sending all positive thoughts your way, hoping that you son's outcome is as successful as my son's has been.

[vanlassie]

17. Thoughts are with you

[lavenderdiva]

18. You and your son will be in my prayers

I will be keeping the both of you in my prayers- Sending you lots of big hugs

[Ken Burch]

19. Oh my God...oh my God...all I can say is...know you have friends here.

We can all try to send you our strength...but life has treated you so unfairly in this.

You're definitely entitled to shake your fist at God on this one...I'm sure She'd understand.

Please post as much as you need to...is there anything material anyone could do to help you?

[JI7]

20. .

[southernyankeebelle]

21. Gee I don't know what to say. What sad news for you and your son. I pray god gives you the

strength you will need to help your son through this difficult time. I remember my youngest brother who had lung cancer and he never smoked a day in his life. I just kept praying to god to take the burden from my shoulders and make me strong to help him. I pray god puts his arms around you and gives you the strength. I know nothing I say will make it easy. I am crying just thinking about you and your son. Please know we care. Keep us all up on your son.

[kag]

22. I am so sorry. Take care.

[LeftInTX]

23. I'm so sorry.....

[uponit7771]

24. I pray for you and your sons quick healing, think positive....this is a chapter not the book

[liberal N proud]

25. We are send some good vibes your way

Such sad news, but we will all hope things will get better.

[sigmasix]

26. to win is to fight

Cancer is a scary thing. We've been fighting it for 10 years and I believe that I won the fight the moment I decided to undertake it. Cancer wants you to give-up, but don't give it that kind of power! Fighting it is the true victory; through fighting we signal that the fear, pain and sickness does not have control. When we stand up to bullies (cancer is a bully of the worst kind) we are the victors through the simple act of refusing to give in, no matter the end result. My family and I will be sending every ounce of power and prayer your way. Don't let it cow you into giving up on your son or happiness in your life- you can get more from cancer than it can ever take, as long as you and your son don't allow it to rob you of your identities.
Please let your son know that he isn't alone- we'll be sending all the positive vibrations we can muster.
Power and positive vibrations coming your way right now.

[magical thyme]

27. ...

[catbyte]

28. My thoughts are with you and your precious son.

[stevil]

29. I'm sorry

Don't know what to say except that. <3

[cheriemedium59]

30. I am so very sorry. Good positive thoughts and prayers to you and your son.

[Kookaburra]

31. Dear Monique, sending you love and light

I have no idea why we have to go through such trials and tribulations, but I'm sending my strength to you, and holding your family in light and love.

[October]

32. I am so sorry! Sending angels your way!

Hoping for the best -- and a quick recovery for your boy. ((HUGS))

[Danmel]

33. Wishing the best for you and your son

As a parent, I can't imagine what you are going through. Please know that so many of us are thinking of you and your son and hoping that he will be able to recover from this setback and get well. An
d make sure to take care of yourself too. You can't help him if you aren't well.

[corneliamcgillicutty]

34. Dear Monique--I know you will find the strength to

get through this very difficult time. You and your son are in my prayers.

[WinkyDink]

35. {{{monique2 and son}}} I'm so sorry for your son's news and your own situation.

[NC_Nurse]

36. That is terrible. I hope his surgery goes well and they get all of the cancer this time.

I'll be thinking of you both. Hugs.

[AzDar]

37. Sending good thoughts your way...

[beac]

38. ((((monique2))))

I am so sorry. Will think healing thoughts for you both.

[irisblue]

39. I am so sorry. ((hugs))

[freshwest]

40. So sorry this is happening to your family. I hope his doctors have more success and you get better.

[etherealtruth]

41. I am so sorry!

[melody]

42. As the song says, the cracks are how the light gets in

In a couple of months, you'll see things in a better light *hugs*

[JohnnyLib2]

43. Very best wishes from the spouse of a long time survivor.

And damn the cancer, every time.

[1620rock]

44. May God grant you both healing,hope and peace...so very sorry.

[sheshe2]

45. Dear Monique

You have come to a great place to talk of your pain. Even late at night there will always be someone here.

Sending hope and positive vibes your way!

[handmade34]

46. I'm so sorry

it is heartbreaking to have a child in pain.... sending positive thoughts your way

[GoCubsGo]

47. Damn. I'm really sorry to hear that.:

for you, and for your son.

[monique2]

48. Thank you, thank you

for your caring, prayers and thoughts. I am struggling at this time so appreciate all of you.

[easttexaslefty]

49. I'm so sorry

Big big hugs.

[LiberalEsto]

50. Sending you both light and blessings

[MFM008]

51. sorry

[LoisB]

52. Really, really sorry but don't give up. Hugs, prayers, and good karma sent your way.

[sabrina 1]

53. Oh, I am so sorry.

I wish I knew what to say.

[Bluzmann57]

54. Man oh man, that is some bad news

Maybe this time the surgery will take for your son. Remember the old adage, "That which does not kill me only serves to make me stronger." So hopefully all this adversity will make you and him stronger. Good luck.

[JaneyVee]

55. So sorry, hope the pendulum swings towards positivity for you and your family.

[longship]

56. My family's thoughts are with you and yours.

Hope yours find peace at this difficult time.

[DesertFlower]

57. so sorry. sending you

positive thoughts.

[gopiscrap]

58. Monique2 Prayers and good wishes for healing and strength go your way!!!

[Yo_Mama]

59. I'm so, so sorry

There are no words. That is devastating.

[gholtron]

60. You and your family are in my prayers. Please keep the faith and be strong

The worst thing you can do is to give up.

[Zorra]

61. So very sorry for your terrible hardships.

It's so hard when we are beset my multiple personal tragedies in our lives.

Hoping things get better for you immediately.

[TheDebbieDee]

62. You HAVE to believe that things will get better................

Things will get better, I promise.

[Tab]

63. Sorry to hear that! Make sure to stop in the cancer forum

Thanksgiving was when I found out my cancer had returned too. It sucked.

Our cancer forum is at http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1146

[mimi85]

83. Thanks Tab - hugs to you and Monique

Monique, I am so awfully sorry. No mother should have to go through something like that. My thoughts will be with you. Strange, I have leukemia and was going to suggest a cancer forum awhile back and now I know where it is. If you ever need an ear, let me know....and there are obviously so many caring people on here.

It's hard to explain that bond between a mother and her children. I'm sure you are a source of strength for your son. Take good care! You too Tab, I'll probably see you on the cancer forum as well.

[deltadawn2430]

64. I'm so sorry

I want you to know that I am thinking of you and your son. Keep reaching out.

[hrmjustin]

120. Very sad! Welcome to DU deltadawn.

[redwitch]

65. Oh my, you have more than your share right now.

More surgery is nothing to look forward to but being cancer free is! Prayers to your son for healing and to you for strength.

[northoftheborder]

66. I pray that strength come to you to bear your troubles....

[Fumesucker]

67. Words always feel so inadequate

So

[riverbendviewgal]

68. I am so sorry

I know what you are feeling as I have gone through the same experience with my younger son. I send you and hugs and prayers for good outcome. Don't give up hope.

[DeschutesRiver]

69. I am so very sorry - I'd be distraught over such news. All I can offer are positive thoughts

that somehow, your son will recover after his next surgery, and that your family will find some relief from this torrent of bad things that are part of your life right now.

Words from a stranger can't fix anything, but please know that many of us will be here to listen, when it gets tough and you need to vent your sadness and fears about all of this.

Please take care, and I will be hoping for a safe surgery and good result for your boy next week.

[mcgarry50]

70. so sorry

i am going to say a prayer in hoping you both get well.

[frogmarch]

71. I am sending you my very best

wishes, Monique, and hoping your son's surgery is a huge success and that he is soon well, and that you are too!

[Tim4319]

72. So sorry to hear about what you are going through.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers!

[weetie]

73. oh geez

i'm so sorry to hear that. been through cancer a bit in my family and with good docs and good support, it can work out. you seem to have had your fair share. rely on those who care for you. this forum is without a doubt a source of answers and networking for almost anything. let us help if we can.

[ProSense]

74. My heart and prayers go out to you both.

Hope the positive vibes provide some comfort. Stay strong.

[loyalkydem]

75. Mythoughts

are with you and your son.

[mountain grammy]

76. sometimes life is just hard and awful

here's hoping yours turns around for the better very soon.

[MannyGoldstein]

77. Ouch. Hang tough.

May fortune smile upon your futures.

[Liberal In Red State]

78. I am truly sorry . . . Will keep you and your son in my thoughts . . .

[Window]

79. Dearest Monique2, prayers for a speedy recovery for you and

the soon to be delivered news of survivor status for your son. I know it's difficult at the moment, but please don't give up on faith. Will keep you both be in my family's daily prayers.

Peace

[badhair77]

80. Please hold on to hope.

It can help you ride these waves. I pray that you and your family find strength and healing through this ordeal. May you find comfort in knowing so many people are thinking of and praying for you and your son.

[Saturday]

81. Sorry to hear this.

I wish you and your son restored good health.

[barbtries]

82. i'm so sorry monique2

best wishes to your son's full recovery.

[CrazyOrangeCat]

84. Sending you a hug.

[FieryLocks]

85. Monique...

Stay strong and be positive, you and your son will get through this.
If life throws trash at you...throw it right back.

[Th1onein]

86. Enough! Why don't you get him to Germany and get the new cure?

There IS a cure for cancer. (I'm sorry, but I'm not keeping my mouth shut about this anymore.) It's a simple compound that costs about twenty cents a day, called 3-bromopyruvate. They found it at Johns Hopkins and are now working on an analog of it so that they can file for a "new" patent. All they are doing is moving around a molecule or two on it so that it qualifies as "new," while the rest of us wait and die so that they can make a profit.

My partner and best friend just died of cancer, or rather a side effect of one of the cancer drugs, Avastin, which caused a MASSIVE hemorrhage in his lungs. This drug costs almost $100,000 per year, per patient, and only extends their lives by a couple of months.

I was working on getting the 3-bromopyruvate for my partner and figuring out how to buffer it for arterial administration (he had a port for chemo) when he died.

Here is a link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bromopyruvic_acid

It works on all kinds of cancers because it changes how the cancer cells get their ATP. Cancer cells normally get their ATP through a very inefficient process called glycolysis, that takes places in the cytosol of the cell. That process yields two molecules of ATP, and two of pyruvate. Normally, the pyruvate enters the mitochondria and go into the electron transport chain, and through the process of oxidative phosphorylation, produces 38 to 39 molecules of ATP. But, in cancer cells, the mitochondria are turned off. Unfortunately, the mitochondria hold the instructions for programmed cell death (apoptosis). This is what cancer cells are missing. When you provide them with pyruvate, you turn the mitochondria back on, the programmed cell death instructions kick in, and the cancer cells die. They have been destroying tumors in mice that would be the size of canteloupes in humans. It works. It's good science, and they should have listened to Warburg back in the '30's but there was too much profit in going a different route.

[goclark]

122. K please

[Rosa Luxemburg]

87. I am very to hear this

I hope that your son will be better soon

[Cane4Dems]

88. Prayers for your son!

Even though I'm not very religious I will keep your son in my thoughts.....I'm so sorry for you- please stay positive!

[Vattel]

89. Best thanksgiving wishes sent your way.

[kaiden]

90. Cancer sucks! Throwing it up to the Universe big time.

and most serious hugs and prayers to you and your son.

[Ilsa]

91. I'm so sorry. I'm hoping for

the best for him and you.

[lbrtbell]

92. You're in our prayers

I pray you have medical insurance, so there's at least one less thing to worry about.

[TDale313]

93. So, so sorry to hear that.

My thoughts are with you.

[We People]

94. So sorry this is happening, monique2. I'm sure it's just breaking your heart.

however and whenever you can.

I'm sure it's been really very hard, too, having had a stroke and getting over a broken ankle.

And now this.

Life is just so damned unfair sometimes, and the horrible just seems like it keeps coming.

I hope not anymore after this for you. As others have said, lean on DU however and whenever you can.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers

[Honeycombe8]

95. I'm so sorry. Maybe they'll get it all and he'll fully recover. He has youth on his side.nt

[yardwork]

96. I'm so sorry.

[Tigress DEM]

97. So sorry to hear that.

Hope things get better and you both have strong recoveries.

DEMs are pretty tough and it looks like you've managed to survive so much already. Understandably you're tired of all the stress and misery, but each day you are given to be there for one another and to share the love you have as Mother and Son is precious time.

If I read your post correctly, each of you could have already been dead from the first round of health issues.

Glad you're still around and hope it all becomes a great family story someday.

[liberal_at_heart]

98. I hope things turn around for you and your son.

[K8-EEE]

99. SO SORRY!! Hope you both get through this

And you will have reason to be thankful afterwards, HUGS!!

[ChachaCha]

100. So sorry for your family's circumstances.

Sending out healing vibes to your son and hopes for the best possible outcome for him, and sending you vibes of encouragement as you move forward with your own recovery from your ailments. Life seems so unfair at times - this is one of them.

[Bennyboy]

101. Sorry for you and yours....

We will all here be thinking of you and your son.

[Rowdyboy]

102. Nothing I can offer but prayers and vibes...you have them both...

Wish it was more.

[fizzgig]

103. i am so sorry

love and light to you and your family

[Liberal_in_LA]

104. I'm so sorry. The 2nd surgery will get rid of the cancer

[applegrove]

105. BIG VIBES going your way.

[LeftishBrit]

106. All very best thoughts for your son!

[Not Me]

107. Please don't lose hope.

I was in a pretty sorry place not too long ago, and things are much brighter today. It can happen.

[glinda]

108. Very sad news Monique2. Stay strong.

[marias23]

109. I know what it feels like.

I have maintained a healthy lifestyle , but nonetheless have had two cancers and developed a lung disease, heart disease, sleep apnea, urological problems, glaucoma and more. 13 operations and 15 meds a day. I am fortunate that a kid is not involved because that is the worst. All I can say is that forget about "why" and concentrate on "what" to do to make your lives as pleasant and productive as possible .

[joanbarnes]

110. Dwarfs my petty problems. Thoughts and prayers for you and your son.

[tavalon]

111. I am so sorry this is happening to you, your family and your son

It's perfectly reasonable to feel angry and betrayed right now. You'll have time enough for heroics later. You've gotten shit on and there's no one to blame which has to be even more infuriating and scary than being able to make rhyme or reason of this.

Please be gentle with yourself and feel whatever you need to feel. While I'm not a christian, I will hold you all in my heart.

[susanr516]

112. I am so sorry

You and your family are in my thoughts.

[Kahuna]

113. So sorry to hear this. Try to be strong. Seek help if you need it.

[Auntie Bush]

114. I'm so very sorry! Please answer this question!!!!!!!!!!!

Did your son just have Chemo treatment and no radiantion or did he have both? This is very import to me as my son just finished chemo for Hodgkins Lymphoma. He's upset about having to go through 17 days of radiation...as it will effect a portion of his lung...but Docs say the radiation will make sure it is 99-100% cured! I'm wondering how true that is. If your son got radiation and it still came back...that's very discouraging. I wish your son all the luck in the world and a successful outcome. Much strength to you, your son and all your family.

[tavernier]

115. Please accept my prayers

during this terrible time for you. I think at times we have to rely on the faith of others when the burden is too heavy.

[Third Doctor]

116. You and your family are in my prayers.

[840high]

117. Prayers for you and him.

[UBCchuck]

118. So sorry

Blessings to all of you.

[calimary]

119. Thank you for sharing this, and welcome to DU, monique2

Glad you're here. As you can see, the support and sympathy here is just massive. This is a wonderful and comforting place to come - especially when you can't sleep and you're tossing and turning and wishing you could talk to someone or even just vent.

I can't describe adequately how many times DU has buoyed me up during a time of personal or other crisis. Whether it was something serious I was going through myself, OR just becoming distraught about what was happening to our country during the dubya years, for example. When I was fearful or discouraged, I always have found solace here.

Just know, monique, that there's quite a vortex of prayer and good vibes and healing thoughts being generated on your behalf from all the souls here. I know it's not as heartening to you as an actual call from the doctor saying "Total Remission." But that's a goal we can all work on, in our prayers, visualizations, and meditations.

I like to envision a lot of green. Green - signifying healing, renewal, springtime, growth, youth, health, vitality, and new beginnings.

[PotatoChip]

123. I'm so sorry monique.

Wishing you and your son the best of luck w/his cancer battle, and that this time the surgery will be a success, with a speedy and full recovery.

[arthritisR_US]

124. I want to offer you comfort but words seem

so inadequate, wish I was there to give you a big hug. You and your son are dearly in my thoughts

[Science Geek]

125. I'm so sorry to hear this.

I'm hoping for a full recovery for your son. Remember, there's a very good chance that they will get it all with the second surgery.
I'm sure the surgeon/s will be more aggressive this time around, it is often a balancing act, but they know they'll need to do more this time. Have hope and try to keep a positive outlook for the sake of your son, I know for a fact that that's not an easy thing to do, but it's important to try.

A lot of cancer in my family, all four of my grandparents, my sister, my father, so I know how harrowing it is, especially with setbacks.

[ReRe]

126. Do what FDR said...

...which went something like this: "When you think you're at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." My advice in tying the knot: First, get a grip. Stop panicking. Life comes with highs and lows and you have suddenly hit one of the lows. Second, you must be strong for yourself, and for your son. Realize that you ARE going to get through this. Third, if, after reading all the DU replies of good wishes and prayers doesn't help you gain strength, that means you need to turn to someone local. If you're religious, go to your pastor, priest or rabbi. In not, then a psychological analyst, or trusted friend. I hope that something you have read in reaction to your post has helped you.

[hrmjustin]

127. So sorry to hear this. You and your son are in my prayers.

[geckosfeet]

128. I am sorry life is being cruel to you dear monique - take it one minute at a time.

And visit DU often for support.

[AAO]

129. I'm so very sorry

[skeewee08]

130. My heart goes out to you & your son monique2

hugs for the both of you....

[Iwillnevergiveup]

131. Oh, Monique

This would be horrible news to bear at any time of the year, but must be especially difficult during the holidays when we're supposed to be happy, happy all the time.

You'll have plenty of online support here as others have mentioned, and hope you have friends and resources close by to help you through this. We are all rooting for you and your son.

And thinking positive thoughts....

[lunasun]

132. Good things all around you and a hug