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rustysgurl

(1,095 posts)
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 06:53 PM Oct 24

Rusty Just Diagnosed With Multiple Myeloma

Well 2025 just keeps on giving -- it's hard to stay positive when the hits just keep on comin'. Lost my brother in December '24, my ex (with whom I had a speaking relationship and 3 children) passed from pancreatic cancer in August. Now my husband, whose gurl I am, was just diagnosed with MM. At age 76 the treatment options are more limited, and we're still waiting to hear how the hematologist/oncologist wants to approach this. Add all the economic and political garbage under which we're being buried and it's almost too much.

I almost wish '25 could be over and '26 start with some good news, but I don't want to wish away any time at this point.

Hoping for the best for all of us in the days, weeks, months and years ahead.

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Rusty Just Diagnosed With Multiple Myeloma (Original Post) rustysgurl Oct 24 OP
I'm wishing for the best possible outcome. LuckyCharms Oct 24 #1
Support. mr715 Oct 24 #2
Damn rustygurl.......we're all here for you.....🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻 a kennedy Oct 24 #3
I am so sorry. Your circumstances are beyond hard. Hekate Oct 24 #4
Sending good vibes malaise Oct 24 #5
Healing vibes on the way to both of you SheltieLover Oct 24 #6
Peace. cachukis Oct 24 #7
Sending a hug democrank Oct 24 #8
I am so so sorry irisblue Oct 24 #9
((❤️‍🩹)) Deuxcents Oct 24 #10
So sorry, rustysgurl Grim Chieftain Oct 24 #11
I'm so sorry!! Beacool Oct 24 #12
That is what I have mercuryblues Oct 24 #13
So sorry to hear that canetoad Oct 24 #14
A female friend beat it in her 60s with stem cell transplants at M D Anderson in Houston. surfered Oct 24 #15
MD Anderson has all the latest researchers on staff. summer_in_TX Oct 24 #22
I second that Jilly_in_VA Oct 25 #27
Sending healing vibes to Rusty and hopes for the best outcome. HeartsCanHope Oct 24 #16
Thank you for letting us know, rustysgurl. calimary Oct 24 #17
If it gives you any hope... radical noodle Oct 24 #18
My husband has multiple myeloma and was diagnosed in 2014. There is so much hope with the many Nanjeanne Oct 24 #19
I'm so sorry Rustysgurl, JMCKUSICK Oct 24 #20
Strength to you and Rusty. May this be overcome. LoisB Oct 24 #21
I wish you the best. NNadir Oct 24 #23
Thinking of YOU OddMom20 Oct 25 #24
Holding you and Rusty in my heart for healing and strength TygrBright Oct 25 #25
Sorry SuzyandPuffpuff Oct 25 #26
🫂 mwmisses4289 Oct 25 #28
I'm very sorry to read that. MineralMan Oct 25 #29
Hang in. My dad was diagnosed with MM at 57 and died at 73 in 1992. Treatment is much better now. twodogsbarking Oct 25 #30
I'm so sorry to hear it. barbtries Oct 25 #31
Healing vibes to your hubby and a long hug for you. Nevilledog Oct 25 #32
I'm so sorry! denvine Oct 25 #33
I'm so very sorry DarthDem Oct 25 #34
I'm sorry. 💔 GentryDixon Oct 25 #35
Sending healing thoughts to you and Rusty. nt Trueblue Texan Oct 25 #36
Hugs, rustysgurl Clouds Passing Oct 25 #37
Rustysgirl, i'm very sorry hearing this. bluestarone Oct 25 #38
May successful treatment and remission be in your future!! pat_k Oct 25 #39
... littlemissmartypants Oct 25 #40
Dang. I am so sorry for all of it, and hope better news presents for you, Rusty and all of us. Take care, ED Evolve Dammit Oct 25 #41
so sorry rustysgurl; my best wishes to Rusty peacebuzzard Oct 25 #42
So sorry to hear: that's a heap o' troubles: PCIntern Oct 25 #43
So sorry IbogaProject Oct 25 #44
Hugs and good vibes stage left Oct 25 #45

a kennedy

(35,212 posts)
3. Damn rustygurl.......we're all here for you.....🙏🏻 ♥️ 🙏🏻
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 07:00 PM
Oct 24
it will get better, may-be not right now, but it will. ♥️

Beacool

(30,500 posts)
12. I'm so sorry!!
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 07:44 PM
Oct 24

I wish your Rusty the best. I hope that they can find an effective treatment for him. Stay strong and think positive!!

mercuryblues

(16,155 posts)
13. That is what I have
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 07:48 PM
Oct 24

Been in remission for 3-1/2 years.

It wasn't easy. If you want some tips or have questions, PM me.

We are all here for you.

surfered

(11,223 posts)
15. A female friend beat it in her 60s with stem cell transplants at M D Anderson in Houston.
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 08:19 PM
Oct 24

Good luck to you both.

summer_in_TX

(4,023 posts)
22. MD Anderson has all the latest researchers on staff.
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 09:32 PM
Oct 24

A very good place to go if you can.

A friend with an aggressive kidney cancer that had metastasized was treated there about 5 years ago by the research doctor who had just completed a drug trial on the latest. She's still here with no recurrence.

I hope that for your husband, rustysgurl. I'm so sorry that this has come on top of all the grief you have been dealing with. Will keep him and you in my prayers. 🙏

Jilly_in_VA

(13,786 posts)
27. I second that
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 11:10 AM
Oct 25

My friend's mom was sent there with the same ailment (MM) at 70 and she's still going. I think it's been 4 years now. Take heart, rustysgurl, and rusty too!

calimary

(88,908 posts)
17. Thank you for letting us know, rustysgurl.
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 08:50 PM
Oct 24

It’s got to be so painful, both literally AND figuratively.

Maybe it just means you’ll be spending WAY more of your ever more precious time strengthening your bonds and your love for each other. One of you gets a head start on building a Rainbow Bridge for the other of you. And eventually, you’ll both dance across it together.

radical noodle

(10,474 posts)
18. If it gives you any hope...
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 08:54 PM
Oct 24

Mr. Noodle's mother lived to be 90 years old and was diagnosed with MM at about the same age Rusty is. One of the meds she was treated with was Thalidomide. She had few side effects from the treatments she got and was fairly active until the last year of her life. I hope Rusty does well and you can both see many more years together. I'm sure there are better treatments now than there were then. She was diagnosed about 28 years ago.

Nanjeanne

(6,494 posts)
19. My husband has multiple myeloma and was diagnosed in 2014. There is so much hope with the many
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 09:12 PM
Oct 24

new treatments. I will DM you with some information and if you want to talk p,ease reach out to me.

JMCKUSICK

(4,983 posts)
20. I'm so sorry Rustysgurl,
Fri Oct 24, 2025, 09:15 PM
Oct 24

I'm in a similar boat with my friend Rory, and please, as you said, treasure that time and try to find ways to travel this road arm in arm.

OddMom20

(59 posts)
24. Thinking of YOU
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 10:47 AM
Oct 25

and Rusty, and hoping you both can capture a bit of peace amidst all of the chaos.

TygrBright

(21,282 posts)
25. Holding you and Rusty in my heart for healing and strength
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 11:03 AM
Oct 25

Cancer treatments have come a long way since my Granpere had MM in the 1980s - hang in there, stay strong, and remember this community's got you.

lovingly,
Bright

SuzyandPuffpuff

(393 posts)
26. Sorry
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 11:08 AM
Oct 25

And SHIT! 2025 sucks ... good folks like Yu don't deserve any of this. I'm sorry. Love and warmth to you all

twodogsbarking

(17,515 posts)
30. Hang in. My dad was diagnosed with MM at 57 and died at 73 in 1992. Treatment is much better now.
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 12:28 PM
Oct 25

People can live longer. Thinking of you.

denvine

(843 posts)
33. I'm so sorry!
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 01:18 PM
Oct 25

That is a whole lot on your plate. Sending positive and healing thoughts your way.

DarthDem

(5,441 posts)
34. I'm so very sorry
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 01:37 PM
Oct 25

I've heard there are some promising new strategies for managing MM lately. Sending best wishes and hugs your way!

GentryDixon

(3,122 posts)
35. I'm sorry. 💔
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 02:15 PM
Oct 25

My twin was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I live 800 miles away from her, so it's not easy for me to support her in her journey.
I hope your Rusty responds well to his treatment.
Cancer sucks!

Clouds Passing

(6,869 posts)
37. Hugs, rustysgurl
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 02:29 PM
Oct 25


A tough one for me too healthwise. I am still able to walk though, this is good!

bluestarone

(21,084 posts)
38. Rustysgirl, i'm very sorry hearing this.
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 02:48 PM
Oct 25

Wishing you, and your family some future good news. Hang in there Girl.

Evolve Dammit

(21,438 posts)
41. Dang. I am so sorry for all of it, and hope better news presents for you, Rusty and all of us. Take care, ED
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 04:12 PM
Oct 25

PCIntern

(27,957 posts)
43. So sorry to hear: that's a heap o' troubles:
Sat Oct 25, 2025, 04:35 PM
Oct 25

MM is vastly more treatable now than it was even just a few years ago. Somewhat interestingly, dentists were often the first to diagnose it because on X-ray there were distinctive anomalies on the radiograph.

Best of everything to Rusty, you, and your family.

PC

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