What a Miserable Woman

[BlueKota]

Someone on our local community pages, pointed out how many restaurants in PA, our offering to to help feed those who will not be receiving their snap benefits, and hoped restaurants here would do the same.

A woman actually posted a reply that she saw it as a quote slap in the face to "working people." She went on to say that she was a single mother of two and worked three jobs to keep them fed, and a roof over their heads. That she was taught never to accept government handouts, because that's shameful. She closed by saying, "so where is my free pizza, for actually working."

Was glad to see a lot of people calling her out for being a callous, sanctimonious, and jealous jerk, and defending those in need.

I agreed with the people that posted against her and said we don't know others circumstances. I added that children are going to go hungry too,and they have no say in what their parents or the government do. So even if their parents were "lazy," like the poster claimed that's not their kids' fault so why should they have to starve? What the hell is wrong with people like her?

[BeerBarrelPolka]

1. Sociopath

[Bernardo de La Paz]

2. Some amount of SNAP fraud (exaggerated) does not invalidate the need or benefit of SNAP payments. . . . . nt

[the nelm]

29. Isn't that always the case? They always worry that someone, or some few people,...

fraudulently getting some benefit, should negate hundreds or thousands being denied that same benefit. Anyone remember the same people caterwauling over those that got their PPP loans written off? Ya, I don't either, unless, of course, it was someone recognized as a Dem. Then, of course, funds for better enforcement and penalties never seem to cross their small minds. "Too expensive" seems to be the usual refrain.

[Klarkashton]

3. Chances are there isn't really a legit woman saying that shit.

Case closed.

[MorbidButterflyTat]

55. Agree.

Especially "...a single mother of two and worked three jobs to keep them fed, and a roof over their heads."

Sure.

[Klarkashton]

56. Much more likely some chud ass bastard saying "where is my free pozza'

[Irish_Dem]

4. I would not write off this particular woman.

I do not think she is pure evil like many we read about.

She may be amenable to reason and logic.

My opinion might not be popular, but after 40 years as a therapist,
I have a good feel for who is amenable to change and who isn't.

[BlueKota]

5. I hope for her sake and her children's sake

that she will change, and realize there comes a time in everyone's life where they need help and it's not shameful to ask for it. That and we shouldn't shame others who may have a legitimate need for it.

[Irish_Dem]

6. Yes there may come a time when she learns this lesson.

She is young, proud and independent. Which are not bad traits unless carried too far.

But there will come a day when she learns the hard way she will need some help.
And her children will have to take precedence over her pride and independence.

[SocialDemocrat61]

20. Despite your 40 years as a therapist

a lot of these people have been programmed by right decades to think like that. All the propaganda from talk radio to FAUX News has made people like that irrational and delusional. You can’t reason with them. Maybe they are not evil but they are enabling evil. They need to be defeated.

[Irish_Dem]

24. I agree with you regarding many cult members.

They are impossible to reach.
I wouldn't waste my time on them.

But the research shows that some can be reached with truth bombs.
I think this lady might be one of those.
There are some potential cracks in her facade.

[SocialDemocrat61]

35. Will you provide her free treatment?

Or does she need to bring her credit card?

[Irish_Dem]

36. You cannot request treatment for strangers.

It doesn't work that way.

[SocialDemocrat61]

38. Exactly

People have to want to get better. You can’t force it on them with “truth bombs”. Just as you can’t diagnose someone by reading a single post on Facebook.

[Prof. Toru Tanaka]

54. I think her story is B.S.

Single parent that works three jobs? When does she have time to sleep?

[haele]

7. Good, she can work three jobs - until she breaks down. That's "uniquely American"...

Is it one of the those "three jobs - working 32 hours weekly at one place (like at home...), pick up the occasional Friday/Saturday Gig work when the kids are at dads or grandparents, and 5/6 hours work/volunteer at Church on Sunday?" I got a neighbor that does that.
In fact, most single moms do something similar, because employers are too cheap to give enough hours they need to offer benefits. It's tiring, just like working a full time job with a couple -4 hours required OT or an hour commute each way - and then you have to take care of the kids...and you make too much for government assistance.
And I will be the first to say, being a single mom is a full time job.
Not everyone can work that many jobs.
And...
"I was taught never to take a handout from the Government (like "those lazy slackers do)" - means either she's got support somewhere else that's not for "po'folks" or she's making too much between her jobs for support subsidies - because, frankly, CPS will take her kids if she's leaving them home alone, not being cared for working her three jobs.

[BlueKota]

9. I bet you're right

that she does get some sort support even if it's not from the government. Even if she is a single Mom, that doesn't mean the father of her children isn't paying child support.

[BlueWaveNeverEnd]

8. single mom of two is paying much lower taxes than others... that's her handout

I worked with a rightwing low payed single mom... she bellyached "my taxes going to illegals". one day I pointed out that at her income and parent status, she probably wasn't paying much or any federal taxes... getting the child credit. She was stunned...hadn't even considered the possibility.

[BlueKota]

10. Sadly too many believe right wing lies.

[Nictuku]

11. Seems like Jesus was clear on feeding the hungry and welcoming your neighbors

Maybe she wasn't Christian. I'm not, yet I still think that feeding the hungry is a moral issue.

[BlueKota]

15. If she is Christian

it must be in name only. I hated Catholic School for the most part, but I actually kind of enjoyed listening to the gospel readings, and the hymns. Those definitely emphasized feeding and clothing the poor, and being good to not just your family and friends, but even strangers you meet along the way.

I think someone of them must have gotten their religious education through grifters like Pat Robertson, Jimmy Swaggert, Jerry Fallwell, and Jim and Tammy Faye Baker. They all made my skin crawl.

[BeerBarrelPolka]

46. As a Catholic myself growing up

we were taught about works and how important they are. Many evangelicals are taught that works don't matter, only believing in Jesus is sufficient. Evangelicals also believe that having faith in Jesus, all your past, present, and future sins will be forgiven. I guess there's no need for Judgement Day then?

[Skittles]

47. most of the "christians" I know are like her

judging people left and right

[Ilsa]

53. And Christ also taught not to judge, or

the same strict judgment could be applied to her.

She can change. Her stress level is too high to work on her own compassion instead of regurgitating philosophy she was taught by family. She needs a break and a chance to work through what is correct for now as well as what works bdst for everyone in the very long term. She needs to see the history of perpetuating harshness and the lie that all successful people pull themselves up by their bootstraps. But right now she's too busy and too tired.

[3Hotdogs]

12. $10.00 to a 4 pack of Guinness.....

Bet she's a Christian.

[BlueKota]

16. I think you're right.

That post had Christian Nationalist messaging for sure.

[3Hotdogs]

44. Don't tell nobody, but the way I figured it out..... ya see there's this photo of some poor slob and he's in a bad way.

And he's walking on a beach and there's two sets of footprints in the sand and he's complaining to Jesus that he ain't never got no help from Jesus from all the shit coming his way.

And Jesus tells him, I carried your ass when things were down and even so, you did nothing yourself to get your shit together.

The moral is, you gotta take care of your problems yourself. No gub'mint handouts. Just ask Jesus and an Amazon truck will bring food to your front door.

[IbogaProject]

13. So you either didn't need those supports or you were too stupid to get them

If she was able to it might have made things a little better for her kids. And if she couldn't use them, then she should just be out of the discussion. First admendent includes free association, so resturants are free to do as they want with their extra as long as they keep up on their payroll and state obligations.

[BlueKota]

18. Also if she so resents them helping others

then she doesn't have to go to those restaurants.

[twodogsbarking]

14. Multiple choice question for miserable woman ( an easy one).

who doesn't get benefits
a. children
b. elderly
c. disabled
d. all of the above

[BlueKota]

22. She claimed in a response to someone who

called her out that she's seen women who get government assistance use it for tattoos, and getting their nails done.

So by her logic she thinks that because there are a couple of people here and there abusing the system, everyone getting aide must be. She'd rather the many get punished for the sins of a few.

[artemisia1]

17. Thousands of hours listening to the likes of Rush Limbaugh is the problem with her -- and all MAGATS... /nt

[BlueKota]

25. He poisoned a lot of people's minds

[BeerBarrelPolka]

48. And if

she goes to a fundie church, that'll poison her mind as well.

[spanone]

19. This world has way too many assholes.

You gave a wonderful response.

[BlueKota]

23. Thank you!

[BidenRocks]

21. There but for the grace of...

You know.

Good luck, lady.

[Xipe Totec]

26. Probably a troll

Probably doesn't have children

Probably not even a woman.

[Zackzzzz]

39. 3 jobs with kids, I hope not.

If real, her kids are getting short changed and she is shooting herself
in the foot by not getting into programs.
But doing that takes valuable time.

Troll or not, as a woman, who worked in what was called the
pink ghetto/pink collar, I was always underpaid.

[Hekate]

27. It is possible that the author is, shall we say, lying about their own circumstances?

[Midnight Writer]

28. My stock reply: If you think they have it so easy and you so tough, would you be willing to trade places with them?

[BidenRocks]

34. "Trading Places"

Great movie!

[BeerBarrelPolka]

49. Very great movie

And Jamie Lee was in her prime as well

Louie!!!

[flashman13]

30. Given that Repugs lie as easily as they breathe, what makes you believe her boot straps story?

She could be just another miserable whiny Karen.

Just saying.

[whathehell]

33. ..or a miserable whining Kyle

pretending to be a Karen.

[Bread and Circuses]

31. Usually those people are making up hardship stories.

About themselves to prove that they are working hard and get no handouts
. Total fantasy

[sakabatou]

32. "Let them starve." -Random woman in the community page

[Mblaze]

37. I don't believe she works three jobs,

[cstanleytech]

41. Oh, it's certainly possible but unless it's a local women I'm betting it was one of the Russian or Chinese troll workers

After all it's well known that both Russia and China are using various assets to inflame the US population and reduce our ability to come together.

[cstanleytech]

40. What's wrong with them? Simple, they are assholes.

[hamsterjill]

42. I am so sick of the "Me, Me, Me" shit!!!!

I was a single mother myself years ago - when it wasn't necessarily fashionable in my area to be one. I worked my ass off and provided for my child, and was LUCKY enough to have a job that paid enough to feed us.

It does not diminish me ONE IOTA for someone else now, then, or in the future, to get some help if they need it.

Screw that selfish woman and all of those like her!

[relayerbob]

43. I wouldn't assume that the woman was real

Could have been anyone, under any circumstances, just there to cause trouble.

[Hotler]

45. Conservatism is selfishness. nt

[sunnybrook]

50. So she is a great time manager

To actually have time to random anger post about SNAP as a single mother with 3 jobs. I call bullshit

[SunSeeker]

51. A single mom with 2 kids and 3 jobs does not have time to shit post on social media.

Me thinks that "single mother" is neither.

[Beartracks]

52. Head of OK's GOP says loss of SNAP will make lazy Oklahoman's go get work.

I thought the caption said Party Chair. Anyway, I caught a clip of an interview the other day where he said he wouldn't be surprised if employment numbers improve after SNAP benefits discontinue during the shutdown. The GOP clearly believes that SNAP recipients are just able-bodied people gaming the system. Needless to say, of course, the approximately 604,000 Oklahomans receiving SNAP benefits are mostly the elderly, disabled and children.

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