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Blue_Roses

(13,764 posts)
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:48 PM 8 hrs ago

Oh. My. God. Will this madness ever stop!

Just had another heated conversation with my sister about you-know-what. Her husband has to have to have surgery to fix an aneurysm on his aorta.. They are both upset about the marketplace premiums going up. I mentioned that I was mad about it too and that this is gonna hurt a lot of people. Of course, she blurts out, "It's the Demicrats fault! They are holding it up!" I took in a deep sigh, knowing that the energy to "debate" her was going be exhausting- and of couse it was.

She hasn't always been like this. In fact, she hasn't even been politically active. She gets this from her husband and son-in-law, who are so far up Trump's ass they know the brand of orange make-up he wears. They use all the MAGA talking points and verbage--woke, evil Democrats, sinful, etc.,... and trying to get a word in is almost impossible without yelling--which I am not gonna do. My blood pressure doesn't need that.

It's so sad because she and I get along well until this comes up. I always try to avoid it or say, "Let's agree to disagree and move on" but it falls on deaf ears. Trump has divided families, relationships, friends, our country and our world ( the list goes on). Loathe is not a strong enough word for how I feel about him.



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Oh. My. God. Will this madness ever stop! (Original Post) Blue_Roses 8 hrs ago OP
In my limited experience with brainwashed women, it always seems to come from their magat husbands SheltieLover 8 hrs ago #1
Yep Blue_Roses 7 hrs ago #2
Why would any woman allow her thoughts to be usurped by magats? SheltieLover 7 hrs ago #4
They can blame anybody / everybody they want, but their crap that they are suffering from, is all on them, and no one SWBTATTReg 7 hrs ago #3
Our enemies hired Trump to start Civil War II in the US. Irish_Dem 7 hrs ago #5
This is what malignant narcissists do MadameButterfly 6 hrs ago #20
I originally came to this site to talk about politics. Irish_Dem 4 hrs ago #31
This is interesting Blue_Roses 2 hrs ago #36
None of this is by accident. yellow dahlia 4 hrs ago #30
Our enemies benefit. Irish_Dem 4 hrs ago #32
Exactly! yellow dahlia 3 hrs ago #35
Our reps are too passive LuvLoogie 7 hrs ago #6
I know that explaining rarely works with such people PatSeg 7 hrs ago #7
Is there a polite way to say, Lying to Hassler 7 hrs ago #8
I was in detante with my brother until he messaged his... BurnDoubt 7 hrs ago #9
It has fractured families, social circles, our government and has ripple effects around the globe. One orange asshole Evolve Dammit 7 hrs ago #10
One question for her BaronChocula 7 hrs ago #11
Excellent retort. NoMoreRepugs 7 hrs ago #12
TY BaronChocula 7 hrs ago #14
I'm sorry, Blue_Roses, OddMom20 7 hrs ago #13
Thank-you Blue_Roses 2 hrs ago #37
Yup, he sucks, bigly. Joinfortmill 7 hrs ago #15
My siblings are the same way. so i guess the answer is bluestarone 6 hrs ago #16
My sister is the same way Blue_Roses 2 hrs ago #39
I have family that espouses the same verbiage BeneteauBum 6 hrs ago #17
Zero tolerance Cirsium 6 hrs ago #18
He has had 10 years to come up with a health care plan. He only has "concepts" of a plan. Dem4life1970 6 hrs ago #19
she has access to the same information we all do Skittles 6 hrs ago #23
It's because he really doesn't want a plan. calimary 5 hrs ago #26
He thrives on chaos and fear. Diamond_Dog 5 hrs ago #27
There's is Nothing we can do. Republican Voters choose to believe lies, hate, and cruelty.... I'm sorry... Bread and Circuses 6 hrs ago #21
Other than a random text or two a month, I don't speak to my tRUMPer siblings wolfie001 6 hrs ago #22
I don't even talk to a magat until they face some truths - family or not mdbl 5 hrs ago #24
Yeah. Republicans can damage everyone's life... Kablooie 5 hrs ago #25
I am so disappointed in my niece. lucca18 5 hrs ago #28
When I can't avoid the conversation FormerOstrich 4 hrs ago #29
She didn't use to be like this but she CHOOSES to be like this *now. It's Maru Kitteh 3 hrs ago #33
The GOP has everything to do w that happening IbogaProject 3 hrs ago #34
K&R spanone 2 hrs ago #38

SheltieLover

(76,310 posts)
1. In my limited experience with brainwashed women, it always seems to come from their magat husbands
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:51 PM
8 hrs ago

Sickening.

SheltieLover

(76,310 posts)
4. Why would any woman allow her thoughts to be usurped by magats?
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:55 PM
7 hrs ago


Maybe it's the loud mouth magat men wearing them down. I cannot imagine putting up with such a creature, personally.

SWBTATTReg

(26,017 posts)
3. They can blame anybody / everybody they want, but their crap that they are suffering from, is all on them, and no one
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:54 PM
7 hrs ago

else.

Irish_Dem

(79,495 posts)
5. Our enemies hired Trump to start Civil War II in the US.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 05:57 PM
7 hrs ago

It has been a very successful plan.
Everyone is at each other's throat.

And the evil MAGA propaganda has been brilliant.
Evil but brilliant.
The Maggots believe all the lies.

MadameButterfly

(3,733 posts)
20. This is what malignant narcissists do
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:22 PM
6 hrs ago

They accuse their opponents of what they are doing. Their followers act more and more like malignant narcissists themselves. According to Dr. Bandy Lee and other psychiastrists who authored The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump, the followers will go back to normal when the lead malignant narcissist goes away.

I'm not saying "normal" is good for Republicans, but when I used to debate policy with my Republican friends, we used to disagree on strategy. Now we disagree on facts.

It used to be about politics. You could make an argument. Now it's about biology. We are dealing with a mental illness where the infected are out of touch with reality.

Irish_Dem

(79,495 posts)
31. I originally came to this site to talk about politics.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:47 PM
4 hrs ago

But yes now it is all psychology.
So I spend most of my time talking about that topic!!

Blue_Roses

(13,764 posts)
36. This is interesting
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 11:30 PM
2 hrs ago

It is mental with them. I told her she had Stockholm Syndrome. Her mind is not what it used to be. I also told her she is in a cult. It's sad and exhausting ...

yellow dahlia

(4,359 posts)
35. Exactly!
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:31 PM
3 hrs ago

Did I ever tell you about my first protest sign earlier this year? (April 5, I believe.)

It is a big one, on a giant stick.
One side says: This is not Efficiency. This is a Crime Spree.
The other had a list of all the agencies under assault at the time.

LuvLoogie

(8,485 posts)
6. Our reps are too passive
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:05 PM
7 hrs ago

They let the GOPs scapegoat "the other" without much pushback. This is the result of decades of wanting to share long lunches on k street with your colleagues, get invited to the talk shows.

Never addressing the dog whistles, the microaggressions, the outright bigotries.

That such brutish, reactionary grievance is coddled is gross. From the press always centering White America's feelings in diners to dismissing the brutality perpetrated on so many in the name of law enforcement.

PatSeg

(52,005 posts)
7. I know that explaining rarely works with such people
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:19 PM
7 hrs ago

The best response is to say something calmly and quietly like, "That is not true and you know it". It is a common tactic that I've seen Trump use and it often works with a lot of people. I've heard him say many times, "I know it is blah, blah, blah and you do too". Of course, in his case, he is lying.

There is no point in going into the facts or pull out charts, because they are usually just looking for an argument; a simple "that's not true" tends to be more effective because on some level they DO know it isn't true.

BurnDoubt

(1,401 posts)
9. I was in detante with my brother until he messaged his...
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:28 PM
7 hrs ago

photo of his inflatable Felon next to his XMAS tree last year.
After I sent his half of our Father’s Estate I hit the “Block” button.
Enough Is Enough.
He “owned" me… I dis-owned him.
I HATE the world these Pukes have imposed on us.

Evolve Dammit

(21,446 posts)
10. It has fractured families, social circles, our government and has ripple effects around the globe. One orange asshole
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:31 PM
7 hrs ago

aided by 40 years of Limbaugh, 25 of Faux News and hundreds of podcasters and fake journalists. Fake News was all projuction as usual. I lost family and friends also, and I'm sorry for you having to listen to utter BS. I actually felt better terminating some of the fractured relationships that were just spewing the talking points like you mention. Gotta take a stand sometimes.

BaronChocula

(3,984 posts)
11. One question for her
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:33 PM
7 hrs ago

"So you think trump is the one who wants to extend Obamacare subsidies that he promised to kill?"

OddMom20

(60 posts)
13. I'm sorry, Blue_Roses,
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:38 PM
7 hrs ago

That you’re having to deal with this. I’m sorry that SO MANY of us are having to deal with this. It sounds like you’re holding your own with the “let’s agree to disagree” statement - so kudos to you for taking the mature road (even though it would be much more enjoyable to say what we’re REALLY thinking - at least for me (messed up, I know)). Stay strong - we’ve got your back!!!

bluestarone

(21,090 posts)
16. My siblings are the same way. so i guess the answer is
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 06:51 PM
6 hrs ago

NO! In their case it's religion. They are all anti abortion, but blowing people out of the water killing them DEAD, even if we bomb them twice, while floating in the water is A-OK? They are CRAZY!!

Blue_Roses

(13,764 posts)
39. My sister is the same way
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 11:38 PM
2 hrs ago

Religion came into the conversation and they always try to over talk you. Sounds like our
siblings have been hanging out..

BeneteauBum

(303 posts)
17. I have family that espouses the same verbiage
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:02 PM
6 hrs ago

Started with a pleasant Christmas phone call and it ended with rage vented at the liberals. Just shook my head.

Peace ☮️

Cirsium

(3,335 posts)
18. Zero tolerance
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:07 PM
6 hrs ago

We won't put up with it. We wouldn't put up with an alcoholic ruining everything for us, family or not. MAGAism is far worse than alcoholism. There is no such thing as MAGA without bullying and abuse. We will not be bullied or abused. Period.

Dem4life1970

(1,043 posts)
19. He has had 10 years to come up with a health care plan. He only has "concepts" of a plan.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:21 PM
6 hrs ago

She is gullible. She is deceived. I am sorry, it's not a matter of opinion. It's a fact that Trump has done nothing to improve the ACA as he "promised" to his gullible rubes a million times since he came down his golden escalator in front of his paid actors (google it) in 2015.

calimary

(88,925 posts)
26. It's because he really doesn't want a plan.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 08:12 PM
5 hrs ago

I think the donald likes it better when he thinks everyone around him has no idea what to do or even what’s what. I suspect he thinks that gives him an “edge”.

Bread and Circuses

(1,512 posts)
21. There's is Nothing we can do. Republican Voters choose to believe lies, hate, and cruelty.... I'm sorry...
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:34 PM
6 hrs ago

I know it’s your sister.
Your approach is the best that you can do.

wolfie001

(7,026 posts)
22. Other than a random text or two a month, I don't speak to my tRUMPer siblings
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 07:36 PM
6 hrs ago

6 of them. We were children of an Army doctor and went to public schools (the fricking US Government). The stupidity and hypocrisy are too much so I've written them off. I can't afford to go fly and visit anyways so they made that decision easy. I use my extra retirement $ on house upgrades. And donations to Liberal as F organizations.

mdbl

(8,046 posts)
24. I don't even talk to a magat until they face some truths - family or not
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 08:00 PM
5 hrs ago

So far, I haven't found any.

Kablooie

(19,033 posts)
25. Yeah. Republicans can damage everyone's life...
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 08:12 PM
5 hrs ago

Openly, knowing their voters will blame Democrats only.

lucca18

(1,441 posts)
28. I am so disappointed in my niece.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 08:40 PM
5 hrs ago

My brother who died a few years ago was gay, left our niece some money in his will.
He always maintained a caring relationship with her, even though he knew she was a MAGA.

My other brother (her father) is also MAGA. We are so different.

I was so disheartened today, to come across her post on Twitter, that she posted last year
disparaging the LGBTQ community, and making fun of them.




FormerOstrich

(2,866 posts)
29. When I can't avoid the conversation
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:17 PM
4 hrs ago

(with the family members only...anyone else I can exclude) I ask them to explain what they mean.

For instance, how are they "holding it up". Is the Speaker of the house trying to get a vote? Pretend you don't know and ask for details to explain those talking points. I'll act like I don't know and need it all explained to me...exactly.

Ultimately you can start introducing a little fact checking as you go along but gently. I doubt I change their mind about anything, but they don't want to have a dialog with me anymore except about the dogs,pets, gardens, and stuff like that there. (said Huckleberry Hound).

Maru Kitteh

(31,216 posts)
33. She didn't use to be like this but she CHOOSES to be like this *now. It's
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:05 PM
3 hrs ago

HER choice to be like this. We have plenty of this in our family too, and I’m not trying to be antagonistic here, but I really think the fact that she has made the decision that she wants to be this way is something you kind of need to sit with a little bit. It’s not all his fault. She is a grown person. She made a decision. This is her.



IbogaProject

(5,579 posts)
34. The GOP has everything to do w that happening
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:25 PM
3 hrs ago

President, GOP
Senate, GOP
House, Gop
Supreme Court, GOP because of the GOP.

Tell your sister she is getting exactly what she voted for.

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