It is a one syllable, 2 letter word. (warning: long rant. feel free to pass,ty for place to rant)

[magical thyme]

Which the fuck part of "NO" do some people not understand?

Seriously, is it the "N?" Is "N" too complicated for you?

Or is it that pesky "O?"


And here is a warning to the BULLY world. The next goddam time some mother-fucking passive-aggressive asshole asks me for something they have no legal or other right to, and I answer them with "No, thank you" (because I am polite, no matter what) and they refuse to accept my "No" for an answer, and proceed to beg, plead, harass and annoy me, and when I explain why "No" and they refuse to listen or accept my explanation, and instead go away and get a friend of theirs to ask me the same thing, and continue to beg, plead and harass me, and when I persist in saying no, they lay low for a while and then, during a critical time, take it to OUR BOSS, and I tell my boss "No, thank you" and she proceeds to beg, plead and harass me until I finally break down having said "No Thank You" at least 18 times, and give her my personal information that is NONE OF HER MOTHERFUCKING BUSINESS and BY THE WAY, I HAVE A LEGAL RIGHT TO COME TO WORK AND NOT BE HARASSED YOU FUCKING PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE ASSHOLES, I am walking straight to HR. And if you are as clever as they were, and wait until after hours when HR has gone home to begin your harassment, I will walk straight out the door and will call HR the next work day and make an appointment with them and name your fucking names.

And to the 3 passive-aggressive bullies who harassed me repeatedly over my personal information until last Monday, when you took it to my boss and she harassed me, I plan to post a series of signs over my desk detailing the PTSD you put me into last week. I want to make sure that you and everybody else knows exactly how successful you were at ganging up on me and violating my personal boundaries because you are so very clever and so very much stronger and better than me and you proved you have power and I do not. I want to make sure you and everybody else will know just how all-powerful and clever you are so you can be very proud of your assholery and bullying. I also want to make sure everybody else knows exactly how I will respond if you or anybody else and that shitty, crappy, low pay, miserable job dares to pull that fucking shit again.

Thank you so very much for shitting on my 60th birthday week. I tried my best not to get sucked into reliving my history of being raised and physically, mentally and emotionally abused by bullies, not to mention my history of several situations where I was stalked, in one case to where I was driven out of my home because the police told me they couldn't protect me so I should leave the area because the thug had a file an inch thick and mile long, and several situations where I was molested including by a cousin and by a doctor who took advantage of me when I was deathly ill with a fever of over 104.

And to all the bullies out there who refuse to take "No thank you" for an answer, and then have the fucking gall to tell me it's all my fault for being "different" or "unique" or somehow not all right, all I can say is fuck you.

[niyad]

1. so very sorry for what you are going through (((hugs))), especially on your birthday. hope things

get better.

and you are correct, we are glad to have a place where we can rant when the world is a truly awful place, and we need to vent.

[arthritisR_US]

2. Damn, sorry to hear that those a-holes were

able to crap all over your birthday. Don't know what you do or where you work but it sure seems trying. Venting is good and this is a great place to do it. Happy Be-Lated Birthday and I hope things sure get better for you. We're here when you need us

[raging moderate]

3. I am so sorry all this happened to you.

You will live through this awful time. Your strength will carry you, as it always has. There will be a better time. Think of that better time ahead, and pull your way towards it. We are all pulling for you.

[Cal Carpenter]

4. Well ranted, and I'm sorry you are dealing with this, and happy late birthday...

and if any asshole bullies come onto this thread and tell you that 'you should just get a new job' or some other bullshit I'll gladly tell them to fuck off. Unlike you, I'm not always polite.

[Raine1967]

5. You rant all you want, MT.

It's really sucks that you are going though this. No one deserves to be treated like this.

[magical thyme]

6. thank you all so much....

I can't believe how much better and freer I started to feel as soon as I read your replies.

Enjoyed walking the doggies. Am headed to the hospital job in a bit. My harasser there was fired after a year of harassing me with impunity, so I've been able to leave the lab for the cafeteria and bathrooms without cringing.

Bullies also need to understand that their harassment ultimately can impact them as well. My hospital stalker peaked when he shoved me repeatedly into my computer when I was trying to enter and call critical results on 2 ED patients and a critically ill newborn. That could have been one of his loved ones or him getting results screwed up, had I not been able to keep my focus while he shoved me around.

[pipi_k]

7. Hard enough

to put up with that shit any ordinary time, but even worse during one's birthday week. I'm sorry you had to deal with it.

I have to say, you're a lot nicer than I am.

Not that I can't be nice to a point. I think I'm pretty easy to get along with. But when I say no a few times and someone persists, I get sort of irate.

and I go from "No thank you" to

"I. SAID. NO!!!"

After which I refuse to listen to the person any longer. Tune him out...walk away. Whatever it takes.



It's good that you have HR to go to. My last job was working for a very small company. No HR. The boss (the owner) was getting a little too....friendly...if you get my drift.

I had to tell him if he didn't stop, I would record it and send the tape to his wife.

He did stop, but his whole attitude toward me changed. Not so nice. Critical. Snotty at times.

I stayed another few years, then left. That was in 1995. I still have bad dreams about the place.

Anyway, I hope you don't let this just slip by without telling someone. It needs to be on file someplace.

Happy Belated Birthday.