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http://commonhealth.wbur.org/2013/11/diy-death-natural-home-funerals?utm_content=socialflow&utm_campaign=nprfacebook&utm_source=npr&utm_medium=facebookI've thought about becoming a death midwife ever since I read an article about it nearly 20 years ago. I really considered it after reading Jessica Mitford's book but never knew how to go about it. Now, once again, I'm considering it.
RKP5637
(67,108 posts)have a funeral, and this is how she wanted as do we.
We had a very simple cremation plan with a very reputable crematory. Immediately after her death in the hospital she was sent to a crematory. We arrived not long later.
She was placed in an open cardboard box they use and she was rolled to a viewing window for us to pay our last respects, then she was wheeled to the crematory machine, rolled in, and we returned a few hours later for her ashes.
It was very pleasant and private. She saw no need for an expensive funeral and thought something like this was most fitting. It cost $1,000 total. It was a pleasant experience for us all.
xmas74
(29,674 posts)and we are taken advantage of in this day and age. It's wrong and options should be placed back in the families' hands.
RKP5637
(67,108 posts)at home, casket or whatever in the living room, and then burial. They all dealt with it as a family affair without all of the hoop and expense of what they try to push on people today. And the cost of some of the caskets is outrageous, especially for cremation ... and some have been accused of removing bodies from the expensive casket and the reselling it to the next sucker.
xmas74
(29,674 posts)There is no real time to address true grieving during the process. It's all so cold and out of touch that it often doesn't even dawn on the mourners what is happening until days, sometimes weeks later.
LiberalEsto
(22,845 posts)Thanks for posting.
PumpkinAle
(1,210 posts)and I really like the idea of this movement - go for it.
xmas74
(29,674 posts)Now I know how but the question: is the market there?
It might be something that you would address with local doctors, hospice and even local churches. I live in a conservative area so I'm not sure if it would go over but I am an hour from a metropolitan area, where it might be a bit more acceptable.
PumpkinAle
(1,210 posts)just have to take those first steps.
Good luck - we need people like you.
xmas74
(29,674 posts)The nearest meeting is about two hours from me but it's still very interesting. Possibly holding Death Cafe meetings in my area would show whether or not there is an interest in the movement in my area.
PumpkinAle
(1,210 posts)May be these links can help....
www.funeralhelper.org/how-to-diy-a-funeral/diy-funeral-arranger.htm
www.naturaldeath.org.uk/index.php?page=diy-funerals
Wish I was nearer - opposite side of the country, but I will cheer you and help in whatever way I can.
xmas74
(29,674 posts)There is a group in St. Joe, which is a couple of hours from here. I'm close enough to KC and to the central part of the state that I think I could get some interest in a local group.
hollysmom
(5,946 posts)people in my family would actually want me after I die?
RKP5637
(67,108 posts)xmas74
(29,674 posts)Make it what you want and not what society says it should be.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)tina tron
(160 posts)Is there a single friggin thing in our society that can not be turned into a commidity? Sick. Of. It.
RKP5637
(67,108 posts)they talk about in the US is $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$. Damn, I'm fed up with it all.
xmas74
(29,674 posts)and something that has fascinated me for years. Death doesn't scare me all that much and I once thought of becoming a funeral director. This feels like it has more dignity.