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babylonsister

(171,065 posts)
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:26 AM May 2014

Anti-woman website predicts more Elliott Rogers if society doesn’t provide them with sex

Speechless.

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2014/05/25/anti-woman-website-predicts-more-elliott-rogers-if-society-doesnt-provide-them-with-sex/


Anti-woman website predicts more Elliott Rogers if society doesn’t provide them with sex
By Tom Boggioni
Sunday, May 25, 2014 22:42 EDT


A website popular with the online Pick-up Artist community responded to Elliott Rodger’s murderous Santa Barbara rampage, saying it could have been avoided if Rodger had ‘game,’ like they profess to possess, before concluding that “more people will die” unless society provides men with more “sexual options.”

The Return of Kings article, written by ‘Roosh,’ goes to elaborate lengths to explain that the PUA-hate community that Rodger was a part of held him back from learning the “masculine” art of seduction – which they call “game” – and, combined with the “American media, the blogosphere, men’s rights activists, and progressive organizations like the Southern Poverty Law Center,” Rodger was encouraged to hate and ultimately murder women.

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Roosh goes on to say, “We live in a society where being shy, normal, or a little awkward is duly punished by entitled American women who have been encouraged to pursue exciting and fun casual sex in their prime with sexy and hot men as a way of ‘experimentation.’”

He then explains that when women have “passed their physical prime” they then select a “nice guy” with whom to settle down, with the understanding that he is “expected to keep his mouth shut when a trickle flow of informational torture reveals that his bride-to-be has experienced more than a dozen different penises in her vagina, anus, and mouth—the same mouth that is supposed to kiss his future children good night.”


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Admitting that he was once “no different than Rodger,” Roosh continued, “Seven people are dead because society has decided that shy and awkward men like Elliot Rodger do not deserve a girlfriend and that there is absolutely no way to improve his loneliness and loserdom through learning game or any other social behavior. At the same time men like him are ostracized, there is no legal means for him to solicit prostitution (in California) to release his biological and very pressing urge for fornication.”

Roosh recommends that society change its ways, warning: “More people will die unless you give men sexual options.”

“Until you give men like Rodger a way to have sex, either by encouraging him to learn game, seek out a Thai wife, or engage in legalized prostitution—three things that the American media and cultural elite venomously attack, it’s inevitable for another massacre to occur.
Even game itself, as useful as it is on a individual level, is a band-aid fix upon a culture which has stopped rewarding nice guys while encouraging female whoring to benefit only the top 10% of alpha males, all in the name of societal progress.”

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Anti-woman website predicts more Elliott Rogers if society doesn’t provide them with sex (Original Post) babylonsister May 2014 OP
Oh FFS. Mz Pip May 2014 #1
Someone needs to tell those little boys to start saving up Warpy May 2014 #181
Sadly 2naSalit May 2014 #202
Ah, yes, I do know the type Warpy May 2014 #207
That is also true! n/t 2naSalit May 2014 #208
And there you have it... for those who claim there is no problem with misogyny, with an arising hlthe2b May 2014 #2
And his fixation as the "Eldest Son" and his rights to his father's house and assets SharonAnn May 2014 #80
Shit, I swear in the last day I read almost these same exact words here. seaglass May 2014 #3
I saw this posted almost word for word at Discussionist. sufrommich May 2014 #4
I think it was in both places but I'll have to check. The swinging door between the two make it seaglass May 2014 #8
exactly. has there been ONE move in the last couple years that actually supported women or seabeyond May 2014 #37
48 hrs. exactly. and i have not been back since. nt seabeyond May 2014 #35
yes. i am thinking of an OP that got particular support from other men. i was seabeyond May 2014 #33
Generalizing based on the actions of a few assholes... nomorenomore08 May 2014 #168
k&r for exposure. n/t Laelth May 2014 #5
They are sick cluckers, huh! ? boston bean May 2014 #6
Just evil shenmue May 2014 #7
"Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them." Brickbat May 2014 #9
That is disturbing. dballance May 2014 #10
He's not what you picture. Check out this article about one of his books. redqueen May 2014 #75
Thanks. You're right he's not what I picture - he's much, much worse. dballance May 2014 #133
It is important that these types not be given the benefit of flying under the radar any longer. redqueen May 2014 #196
wow, great article BlancheSplanchnik May 2014 #166
It is revealing about what makes these PUA types tick. redqueen May 2014 #197
last night I saw the whole dynamic referred to as a negative feedback loop. BlancheSplanchnik May 2014 #199
i got it. i am with you. nt seabeyond May 2014 #201
..... BlancheSplanchnik May 2014 #215
Wow, what a crock of shit. TexasTowelie May 2014 #11
Sometimes I think the world would be a better place if a lot more free vasectomies were given out. nomorenomore08 May 2014 #169
Madonna vs whore and don't they have hands? And no one "deserves" a girlfriend. uppityperson May 2014 #12
A lot of angry white men out there SaltyBro May 2014 #13
Oh yeah, that will work. nt bemildred May 2014 #14
Attitudes like this Lee-Lee May 2014 #15
LOL -- I'd love to put that moron in a locked room with WitchWind Nuclear Unicorn May 2014 #16
What's PIV? IronLionZion May 2014 #26
Penis in Vagina AtheistCrusader May 2014 #29
Both suffer from the same delusion. AtheistCrusader May 2014 #27
ha ha ha. cause really, both are threatening more mass murder? seabeyond May 2014 #38
No, because they're both batshit insane. Nuclear Unicorn May 2014 #39
cant even dance away from the difference. comments like this OP is thru out the net. seabeyond May 2014 #44
"support for this shit in the OP is big and growing." Nuclear Unicorn May 2014 #70
awareness, education, knowledge has nothing to do with bowing, fear or anything else. seabeyond May 2014 #77
"awareness, education, knowledge has nothing to do with bowing, fear or anything else." Nuclear Unicorn May 2014 #85
you would be incorrect nuclear. and because you have a certain perception, and interpret what i seabeyond May 2014 #93
"i understand you want to sweep certain issues under the rug" Nuclear Unicorn May 2014 #135
and yes. i read that. and yes. i got a chuckle. nt seabeyond May 2014 #95
I'm going to regret this, but this is why we need to decriminalize prostitution. genwah May 2014 #17
Naw-- totally different topic ismnotwasm May 2014 #21
exactly. like rape, it's about power and control more than sex. PeaceNikki May 2014 #22
+1 IronLionZion May 2014 #25
I agree, different topic. I don't think Rogers would have considered that a relief valve. AtheistCrusader May 2014 #30
Wrong, wrong, wrong. Everyone "deserves" sex. Limiting and controlling sex is a part of the genwah May 2014 #65
No one "deserves" sex. nt redqueen May 2014 #79
Okay, I'll bite. I kinda know a little something about this, I'm a former genwah May 2014 #110
The idea that disabled men (it's (almost?) always men) can't have sex unless they pay for it redqueen May 2014 #121
No, it's not always men, one of my dates was a cis-gendered woman with...you know what? genwah May 2014 #134
A hooker can refuse to well, be a hooker treestar May 2014 #122
WUT? Try that again. He had the money, and even if he didn't, he as well as genwah May 2014 #136
So if he didn't have the money treestar May 2014 #137
Really? You want to throw down with me? Cause I'll start from "Sex at Dawn" and genwah May 2014 #138
What do you mean? treestar May 2014 #145
This. Jamaal510 May 2014 #153
Well ain't you tough. Demit May 2014 #152
A social safety net treestar May 2014 #158
You can say that if you want. But what if no one's willing to provide it, in their case? nomorenomore08 May 2014 #172
Deserves sex, or is entitled to sex? Hippo_Tron May 2014 #174
I think there's a difference between deserving sex and being entitled to it Hippo_Tron May 2014 #173
No Sweet Freedom May 2014 #50
Okay, we disagree, I think everyone has a right to a good sex life. As far as your personal genwah May 2014 #68
how do you see, not satisfying sex life using other human beings as being prejudice toward seabeyond May 2014 #81
Ummm...what? genwah May 2014 #114
Yeah that was a bizarre stretch. Sweet Freedom May 2014 #142
Being personally opposed to renting bodies is not "prejudice against sex workers" redqueen May 2014 #82
And I don't want to play ismnotwasm May 2014 #102
Oh, wow!!! Thank you, I'm seriously swiping this for my desktop! Yay, you! genwah May 2014 #139
I have seen most of these . . . Brigid May 2014 #160
Thank you Sweet Freedom May 2014 #141
I wish everyone had a good sex life, but they don't have the "right" to one. dawg May 2014 #124
Well said. Thank you. n/t nomorenomore08 May 2014 #177
Nobody has a right to a good sex life gollygee May 2014 #155
He didn't kill because he wasn't getting laid Nevernose May 2014 #108
I wouldn't think sex with a prostitute would be terribly "satisfying." nomorenomore08 May 2014 #170
You should regret supporting PUA/MRA/male supremacist bullshit. nt geek tragedy May 2014 #182
Oh yes ismnotwasm May 2014 #18
Pathetic and disgusting. n/t Jefferson23 May 2014 #19
Holy shit! Hassin Bin Sober May 2014 #20
Are these men forgetting one "sexual option"? DinahMoeHum May 2014 #23
This isn't about getting off. AtheistCrusader May 2014 #31
+1 treestar May 2014 #34
we have idolized mens sexuality to such a point, tied male sexuality into their manhood, it IS the seabeyond May 2014 #40
For real XemaSab May 2014 #59
Yes, that's it. Lex May 2014 #60
+1!! 2naSalit May 2014 #203
They actually have two options Trekologer May 2014 #194
Out of curiosity, I went to the website Elliot Rodger participated on deutsey May 2014 #24
people say this is not a big deal. it is everywhere on the net. we hear it often. i had a rape seabeyond May 2014 #42
Ignoring it makes it worse. The 'just ignore them' remedy has been used so far and what happens? redqueen May 2014 #84
Ignoring misogyny IS NOT AN OPTION. seabeyond May 2014 #98
Nope. Never. ancianita May 2014 #105
"Roosh" rhymes with...nevermind, too easy. flvegan May 2014 #28
Something is wrong with these people treestar May 2014 #32
So can we now admit to rape culture being prevalent in America? Rex May 2014 #36
No, we're supposed to just ignore it. Unless we have some scientifically peer-reviewed studies redqueen May 2014 #88
Society tells men they are losers if they aren't having sex. dawg May 2014 #41
And women, not having a boyfriend treestar May 2014 #43
Sorry, but that isn't as pervasive of a problem than the pressure from men to be "getting some". Darkhawk32 May 2014 #46
How would you know? treestar May 2014 #47
And then how would YOU know? Good lord. n/t Darkhawk32 May 2014 #48
I suppose neither sex can imagine being the other treestar May 2014 #57
Perhaps no, difficult to gauge. But it is a symptom of the same problem, even if AtheistCrusader May 2014 #51
I disagree Sweet Freedom May 2014 #61
To a degree, I can see that. But how often do you get harangued for being single with no kids? Darkhawk32 May 2014 #64
Constantly Sweet Freedom May 2014 #74
I have photos of my nieces and nephews in my office treestar May 2014 #119
This isn't a pissing contest, both are problems Hippo_Tron May 2014 #175
Try being a woman, married, for 5+ years with no children. AtheistCrusader May 2014 #49
That too. treestar May 2014 #58
I think men and women have it more or less equally bad but in different ways. dawg May 2014 #55
Dawg, I understand everything you just posted. Darkhawk32 May 2014 #69
Thanks for the supportive reply, Darkhawk32. dawg May 2014 #73
If her evilness ended with just that, I would be able to relate to your last statement. Darkhawk32 May 2014 #86
I'm not a very trusting guy after all of this, but ... dawg May 2014 #91
women are jsut as full of shit as men. i guess i am a misogynist too. oh well. seabeyond May 2014 #106
"treat me as a person, not a queen. that is all feminists ask for." Darkhawk32 May 2014 #117
now this. shows all the sad that you are seabeyond May 2014 #120
I think you want to attack for the sake of attacking. n/t Darkhawk32 May 2014 #131
i am not attacking. seabeyond May 2014 #157
At least have the courage of your convictions to admit that it was an attack. n/t Darkhawk32 May 2014 #161
i wont own a non truth to appease someone. and btw. that is not an attack either. nt seabeyond May 2014 #162
You're full of it. n/t Darkhawk32 May 2014 #164
Again, you are extremely hostile to people who haven't done much of anything to you. nomorenomore08 May 2014 #178
I get attacked, I defend myself and I'm the angry one? Wow, just wow. n/t Darkhawk32 May 2014 #209
Of course you can defend yourself. The point is that your responses are way out of proportion. n/t nomorenomore08 May 2014 #210
Don't see it, but hey, I'm not looking for brownie points from the females here on DU. n/t Darkhawk32 May 2014 #211
Me neither. I'm just expressing an opinion like everybody else - that's what message boards are for. nomorenomore08 May 2014 #213
My Experience: Finding the Right Partner TygrBright May 2014 #125
excellent post.... nt seabeyond May 2014 #171
in my entire life I never, ever sat around and waited for someone to ask me out Skittles May 2014 #185
Statistics is very much on your side. In about 10 years, a lot of your competition will be dying eridani May 2014 #190
Roosh seriously needs an editor LTR May 2014 #45
"guises of gender rights and political correctness"? alp227 May 2014 #96
I'm not defending him LTR May 2014 #103
we sould teach our children confidence, both genders. that is the one good? seabeyond May 2014 #112
Rapist / "bitch" redqueen May 2014 #123
As if being an unpleasant person were comparable to sexual assault... nomorenomore08 May 2014 #179
I think the fact that that is the comparison he made speaks volumes. redqueen May 2014 #195
These guys smallcat88 May 2014 #52
As a self-conscious man trying to somehow "start over" in his late 40s ... dawg May 2014 #78
Sorry smallcat88 May 2014 #165
You speak for me and thank you. crim son May 2014 #87
"the few who hint that Roosh may have a couple good points, make me want to hurl" redqueen May 2014 #97
crim son. excellent post. and yes. nt seabeyond May 2014 #118
now there's a twist i didn't contemplate...what ignorant bullshit spanone May 2014 #53
I've read comments about men on DU from women that were just as misogynistic. Sucks on both ends. Darkhawk32 May 2014 #54
WTFever Solly Mack May 2014 #56
I've got a sexual option for them. Meet Rosie Palm and her Five Friends! Sorry, I hope I don't get DesertDiamond May 2014 #62
They want to own and dominate someone Lex May 2014 #63
Exactly fasttense May 2014 #71
Seriously, Roosh needs to be pulled in for psychiatric evaluation. Baitball Blogger May 2014 #66
Excuse me, Baitball Blogger. Don't take this too personally, please... TygrBright May 2014 #128
I understand your plight, Bright. Baitball Blogger May 2014 #143
Post removed Post removed May 2014 #67
Here is a sexual option for Roosh and those assholes - go fuck yourself. n/t whopis01 May 2014 #72
Rodger could have gone to Nevada and paid for a legal prostitute bluestateguy May 2014 #76
I wish people would stop saying that men like this could be helped by having sex (even if rented). redqueen May 2014 #100
And these guys should stop lying about what they want leftstreet May 2014 #107
being denied sex. that is the one that is pissing me off at the moment. ahhhhh. po baby. seabeyond May 2014 #115
It was probably the latter ck4829 May 2014 #101
You want to argue all sides, it seems. Do you think Ted Bundy just needed a prostitute? WinkyDink May 2014 #130
Ted Bundy was able to attract women treestar May 2014 #146
Ironically had this dude not committed suicide, I suspect he'd have numerous female admirers Hippo_Tron May 2014 #180
Like Dzhohar Tsarnaev treestar May 2014 #189
So true! I bet you are right. treestar May 2014 #200
I'm tempted to just chalk it up to general human foolishness. n/t nomorenomore08 May 2014 #183
There's this... babylonsister May 2014 #132
Gross, and probably doesn't work the other way round treestar May 2014 #147
What a load of gargage. Rhinodawg May 2014 #83
The douche known as Roosh ... GeorgeGist May 2014 #89
Such an eminently punchable face... nomorenomore08 May 2014 #184
How would this even work? knightmaar May 2014 #90
Fuck these guys. Women will never, ever go back to being meat puppets and sperm receptacles. ancianita May 2014 #92
+1 Rex May 2014 #109
yes. the backlash is harsh and the genie wont be put back in the bottle. that is all this is about seabeyond May 2014 #116
I predicted forty years ago -- and was laughed at -- that the last war on Earth would be ancianita May 2014 #126
we shall see. a lot of the reason young men are so angry is because a lot of our young women just seabeyond May 2014 #156
One current statistic is that a majority of US adults are single and not married. That says a lot. ancianita May 2014 #163
they think they get to fuck us at will? 2pooped2pop May 2014 #94
Total nonsense. nt ladjf May 2014 #99
Groups like this should just be considered a part of an umbrella known as Organized Hypocrisy ck4829 May 2014 #104
Vomit inducing n/t etherealtruth May 2014 #111
No sites that 'rationalize' manipulations will ever 'train' men to think women are their equals. ancianita May 2014 #113
Wow. There seems to be a whole lot of dangerous, ignorant, hateful, and juvenile conservative men Zorra May 2014 #127
It's inevitable because this is where we live, period. WinkyDink May 2014 #129
Rational Wiki has a nice breakdown of webshites intaglio May 2014 #140
jesus christ, the sheer number alone is a sign of real problems. PeaceNikki May 2014 #144
Ever notice how many followers right wing bigots have on social media? Dawson Leery May 2014 #205
Keep having to go to urban dictionary today treestar May 2014 #148
Post removed Post removed May 2014 #149
Hey, asshat, there was nothing to stop him from getting a kestrel91316 May 2014 #150
FFS, it's women's fault that loon couldn't get sex? His attitude had nothing to do with it? arcane1 May 2014 #151
WTF! sheshe2 May 2014 #154
Roosh sounds like a terrorist to me. yuiyoshida May 2014 #159
Roosh V is a raging misogynist asshole with a superiority complex.....he's also a racist douche..... AverageJoe90 May 2014 #167
Why don't these assholes just have sex with each other and shut the fuck up? nt valerief May 2014 #176
"learn game, seek out a Thai wife, or engage in legalized prostitution" Number23 May 2014 #186
You know when the creeps here keep talking about "Western women"? That's what they mean. LeftyMom May 2014 #187
Holy shit. I had no idea Number23 May 2014 #188
When people here minimize MRAs by saying it's just a few loons, redqueen May 2014 #198
I assist in a legal project that informs women in these situations of their legal rights...the Obama msanthrope May 2014 #206
This is sick. defacto7 May 2014 #191
What this irresistible chick magnet looks like: IronLionZion May 2014 #192
society does. they can hire hookers. legal in nevada or the wealthy go to other countries where its Sunlei May 2014 #193
The Elliot Rogers of the world are a greater threat than anything from the middle east at this time. Dawson Leery May 2014 #204
That is some truly sick shit! herding cats May 2014 #212
That last paragraph is chilling. "Learn game, seek out a Thai wife, ...legalized prostitution"? Hekate May 2014 #214

Warpy

(111,256 posts)
181. Someone needs to tell those little boys to start saving up
Tue May 27, 2014, 01:42 AM
May 2014

for a Real Doll. She will never talk back, her hips won't widen from childbirth, and she's always ready unless they haven't cleaned her out with a bottle brush for a long time.

It's sad their dads didn't bother to tell them that nobody owes them a damned thing, especially women. It's going to be a tough lesson to learn.

Warpy

(111,256 posts)
207. Ah, yes, I do know the type
Tue May 27, 2014, 04:04 PM
May 2014

She's absolutely deadly to any female who gets anywhere close to Sonny Boy, too.

hlthe2b

(102,267 posts)
2. And there you have it... for those who claim there is no problem with misogyny, with an arising
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:32 AM
May 2014

"cult" of some men who feel entitled to women as their "chattel" and sex object. Encouraging men to blame all their problems on WOMEN and deny an increasing problem with violence towards women.

I hope this is a wake-up call to rational men who might be feeling personally aggrieved in some way by the trials in their lives.

SharonAnn

(13,772 posts)
80. And his fixation as the "Eldest Son" and his rights to his father's house and assets
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:50 PM
May 2014

and the complete disdain of his father's wife and their son.

It's all about "his rights". Over and over and over again.

seaglass

(8,171 posts)
3. Shit, I swear in the last day I read almost these same exact words here.
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:34 AM
May 2014

"He then explains that when women have “passed their physical prime” they then select a “nice guy” with whom to settle down..."

sufrommich

(22,871 posts)
4. I saw this posted almost word for word at Discussionist.
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:37 AM
May 2014

That forum went from zero to creepy in it's first 48 hours.

seaglass

(8,171 posts)
8. I think it was in both places but I'll have to check. The swinging door between the two make it
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:45 AM
May 2014

hard to keep track. I'm also not sure it matters that much. Think it here, say it there.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
37. exactly. has there been ONE move in the last couple years that actually supported women or
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:49 AM
May 2014

was to the benefit of women, here on du?

think here, say it there.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
33. yes. i am thinking of an OP that got particular support from other men. i was
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:47 AM
May 2014

thinking the same

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
168. Generalizing based on the actions of a few assholes...
Tue May 27, 2014, 12:47 AM
May 2014

Isn't that the very thing they always accuse feminists of?

boston bean

(36,221 posts)
6. They are sick cluckers, huh! ?
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:39 AM
May 2014

And you can read a toned down version of that shit right here on DU. People need to open their eyes.

Brickbat

(19,339 posts)
9. "Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them."
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:46 AM
May 2014

-- Margaret Atwood


DISCLAIMER: Not all men. Not all women. Not all places. Not all relationships. But when a woman first meets a man -- at the bar, at the grocery store, in a support group, at a baseball game, on the dance floor, at work -- it's good to be on your guard.

 

dballance

(5,756 posts)
10. That is disturbing.
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:53 AM
May 2014

I grew up in the South in the late '60s and early '70s. We were taught to respect others - especially women. Yes, there was a gender bias in what we were taught. At least we weren't taught that women "owe" us men something though. We were taught that we had to be respectful and nice to get affection from women. I think that's not a bad lesson even today. It applies regardless of gender. We need to be nice and respectful of the woman or man we're dating and not have pre-concieved expectations for what will or will not happen.

I picture this Roosh person as a boy, with acne, blogging in the dark from his mother's basement. His whole diatribe is very disconcerting. He sounds like he needs some mental health care.

 

dballance

(5,756 posts)
133. Thanks. You're right he's not what I picture - he's much, much worse.
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:12 PM
May 2014

Sounds like he is a despicable adult making fame and fortune off of objectifying women and is obviously a right wingnut type when he refers to the "nanny state" as the reason he couldn't get laid in Denmark.

I'm not sure how to pronounce "Roosh" but it should rhyme with "douche."

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
196. It is important that these types not be given the benefit of flying under the radar any longer.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:37 AM
May 2014

That's been how most people have chosen to react to this stuff so far. Obviously it is not helping. Shaming these people and ensuring they are widely known and that their views are loudly declared socially unacceptable, as well as spreading awareness and educating people as to exactly why they're fucked up as all hell (because sadly this seems to be necessary), will help prevent more young men from buying into that crap and becoming misogynist bigots themselves.

Ignoring misogyny is not an option.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
197. It is revealing about what makes these PUA types tick.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:40 AM
May 2014

It's like a sickness.

I'm so sick of hearing about how it helped 'shy guys'.

Instead of 'helping men talk to women' we should be educating men so that they see how fucked up objectification is. It is this idea of women as unattainable things that causes this dysfunction. If they viewed women as human beings like themselves they wouldn't need 'game' to attempt to communicate with them.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
199. last night I saw the whole dynamic referred to as a negative feedback loop.
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:19 AM
May 2014

That really made sense to me. Plus, I could relate personally. I've been stuck in my own loop lately......
So that got me to thinking, if life reflects ourselves back at us, (yes, I'm applying Buddhist philosophy here) then I'm the only one that can break my own feedback loop.

Not to ignore the larger problem, certainly not. I'm just drained lately, so that's where my head is.

...but if I'm mostly just beating my head against a wall, expostulating here and getting gratuitously angry, I'm feeding the negative feedback loop. ........if I could use the lesson for myself, then I'm in a better position to demonstrate the idea. And if anyone else realizes their own negative feedback loop, they may just look for encouragement.....

I dunno...I'm just thinking out loud, and been really mired in my own stuff lately. So that's where my mind is-------

Anyway, I'm not a person who has direct influence in lawmaking or think tanks. ....so, if I suddenly see my own loop, the best thing I can do is work on doing an intervention with myself! More Buddhist philosophy: Practice for your own sake and the sake of others. You see the environment change when you change. When enough people wake up to something, it hits the tipping point.


The conversation is FINALLY getting the fuck outside of the walls of the Women's Studies department!!!!!! Thank you, Innertoobz. Gotta keep it going.

TexasTowelie

(112,168 posts)
11. Wow, what a crock of shit.
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:55 AM
May 2014

So Roosh believes America is supposed to provide sexual welfare for men? My recommendation is that the law trace down Roosh and sterilize him since we don't need any of his dumbfuck sperms in the gene pool.

Pardon the profanity--it's the only proper way to express the outrage reading this thread.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
12. Madonna vs whore and don't they have hands? And no one "deserves" a girlfriend.
Mon May 26, 2014, 10:58 AM
May 2014

Entitlement, narcissism, delusions

 

Lee-Lee

(6,324 posts)
15. Attitudes like this
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:02 AM
May 2014

Are why every woman needs to have at least a basic level of self defense training.

I wish I was a good hacker, the real names of these creeps needs to be found and posted all over their area so everyone around them knows what creeps are hiding behind those smiling faces, and to warn all women they come across.

Nuclear Unicorn

(19,497 posts)
16. LOL -- I'd love to put that moron in a locked room with WitchWind
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:08 AM
May 2014
PIV is always rape, ok?

Just to recall a basic fact: Intercourse/PIV is always rape, plain and simple.

This is a developed recap from what I’ve been saying in various comments here and there in the last two years or so. as a radfem I’ve always said PIV is rape and I remember being disappointed to discover that so few radical feminists stated it clearly. How can you possibly see it otherwise? Intercourse is the very means through which men oppress us, from which we are not allowed to escape, yet some instances of or PIV and intercourse may be chosen and free? That makes no sense at all.

First, well intercourse is NEVER sex for women. Only men experience rape as sexual and define it as such. Sex for men is the unilateral penetration of their penis into a woman (or anything else replacing and symbolising the female orifice) whether she thinks she wants it or not – which is the definition of rape: that he will to do it anyway and that he uses her and treats her as a receptacle, in all circumstances – it makes no difference to him experiencing it as sexual. That is, at the very least, men use women as useful objects and instruments for penetration, and women are dehumanised by this act. It is an act of violence.

http://witchwind.wordpress.com/2013/12/15/piv-is-always-rape-ok/


We could sell tickets.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
27. Both suffer from the same delusion.
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:42 AM
May 2014

They don't understand that women are capable of determining when and how and with whom they go about having sex. That they cannot possibly own their own sexual identity.


Vile.

"whether she thinks she wants it or not"

WitchWind doesn't recognize or accept that a woman is, in fact, capable of and free to choose when to have sex.

The MRA in the op's post has the same inability/blind spot to understand pretty much half of the planet's population.

Ignorance on overdrive

Nuclear Unicorn

(19,497 posts)
39. No, because they're both batshit insane.
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:54 AM
May 2014

We have threads here on DU threatening mass-murder cloaked as economic equality. People bloviate. But these loons are in a class of their own.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
44. cant even dance away from the difference. comments like this OP is thru out the net.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:00 PM
May 2014

piv argument is NOT thru out the nets.

support for this shit in the OP is big and growing. again, not the same the other way around.

death.... violence toward women in one. not toward the other.

WHY.... do you feel the need to diminish the issue with the Op, with this bullshit obscure PIV thing?

and the why was rhetorical, cause it is clear.

Nuclear Unicorn

(19,497 posts)
70. "support for this shit in the OP is big and growing."
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:36 PM
May 2014

That has a phallic tone to it. ( test)

Look, the guy who wrote that stuff is a moron who is being read by other morons. But the reading morons are looking for other morons to read. They're out there already. They're emotionally bankrupt shells with sociopathic tendencies. The internet just provides an easier forum for them to congregate so as to reinforce their warped ideations in common company. In fact, that is pretty much the definition of "the internet."

Since we can't tear down or censor the internet (because where else would we go to share our own warped ideations in common company?) we'll simply have to move on to Plan B: Not Giving A Rat's Patootie. As a young woman I bought into a lot of stupid ideas. As a barely older than a young woman I am working hard to be the kind of woman that demonstrates to the next generation (read: my SIL) how to be strong, self-assured, determined, smart, confident and nobody's fool. I am trying to show her that once she becomes the best person she has the potential to become then she will find her soulmate and together they will build a life and many other lives from that.

What's more amazing is that -- I'm told by a highly reliable source (well, I think he's pretty "reliable" ifyouknowwhatImeanandIthinkyoudo) -- that the confident, competent, capable female stereotype is attractive. It seems to bring with it a certain respectability. It's almost as if personal honor and strength is contagious in others. Predators certainly don't look for the strongest in the herd.

I absolutely refuse to teach my SIL to live in fear of a bunch of knuckleheads on the internet -- she'd never leave the house and that would just keep her on the internet where all the knuckleheads are. Plan C is a .38.

No one (on Earth) can make me bow. No one can make me fear. No one can define me except me.

THAT is how we beat those idiots.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
77. awareness, education, knowledge has nothing to do with bowing, fear or anything else.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:48 PM
May 2014

as a " confident, competent, capable female" one can take on the realities we live in and address them head on, without cowering in fear, ya think?

to sit here and pretend it does not matter, or is not important, or will not effect our lives, your young SIL life, is to be foolish. in my opinion. and leaving the young girl, 12? defenseless. let one be aware ahead of time, before confronting an issue, being well armed and prepared.... any day of the week.

and dealing with a whole lots a teenage boys and a little older, i see how this effects them and their life. their choices. they matter. and that matters.

watching my young nieces and seeing the effects... ya. matters.

knowledge should never result in cowering fear.

Nuclear Unicorn

(19,497 posts)
85. "awareness, education, knowledge has nothing to do with bowing, fear or anything else."
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:55 PM
May 2014

And yet so many of your posts carry a tone of panicked desperation. That's not snark or an insult; that's an honest assessment.

And no, I have no intention of leaving her defenseless.

and dealing with a whole lots a teenage boys and a little older, i see how this effects them and their life. their choices. they matter. and that matters.


Golly, you should have been here for my "A Girl Blossoms to Womanhood" thread.
 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
93. you would be incorrect nuclear. and because you have a certain perception, and interpret what i
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:05 PM
May 2014

post incorrectly, do not clarify/ask to be sure you have it right, but simply accuse or assume, is really not my problem. is it.

i understand you want to sweep certain issues under the rug and not really address certain issues for different personal reason. i choose not to do that. i choose to face them head on. my way. hardly sounds desperate to me.

but, it is clear putting up a stupid ass PIV argument you got from the mens group, to derail and dismiss this issue, shows the desire to truly adverts ones eyes. now. what would that be?

genwah

(574 posts)
17. I'm going to regret this, but this is why we need to decriminalize prostitution.
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:11 AM
May 2014

Everyone deserves a satisfying sex life.

ismnotwasm

(41,979 posts)
21. Naw-- totally different topic
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:19 AM
May 2014

These guys aren't after prostitutes, they are after women they think they're entitled to. Wrong target population.

Nobody 'deserves' sex, it's a gift to be given, a sharing of bodies, a source of pleasure, but not a right.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
22. exactly. like rape, it's about power and control more than sex.
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:21 AM
May 2014

The killer didn't want prostitutes or ugly girls. He wanted a hot blondes to fall at his feet.

genwah

(574 posts)
65. Wrong, wrong, wrong. Everyone "deserves" sex. Limiting and controlling sex is a part of the
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:25 PM
May 2014

(pick any) patriarchal, sexist, misogynistic, oppressive...well you get the point.

genwah

(574 posts)
110. Okay, I'll bite. I kinda know a little something about this, I'm a former
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:29 PM
May 2014

sex worker, with certifications as a sex educator and about half the credits I'd need for another bachelors degree.

One of the films I loved to keep on the list of educational god stuff is the honest story of a paraplegic filming his date with a hooker. There are interviews of both, done separately, and it's a sweet honest discussion of a nice relationship. I kinda think paraplegics deserve a nice sex life.

Your turn.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
121. The idea that disabled men (it's (almost?) always men) can't have sex unless they pay for it
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:40 PM
May 2014

is offensive garbage.

It's no surprise to see someone from the pro-prostitution lobby using that canard but it's pretty popular.

http://www.feministtimes.com/sexindustryweek-disabled-people-and-the-sex-industry/#sthash.0htQSLfe.dpuf

genwah

(574 posts)
134. No, it's not always men, one of my dates was a cis-gendered woman with...you know what?
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:13 PM
May 2014

..never mind.

You have an opinion, and yes, I am a member of the pro-prostitution lobby, whatever that is, because WE DO GOOD WORK!! Sex work is real work, but there's nothing I can say to open a closed door.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
122. A hooker can refuse to well, be a hooker
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:41 PM
May 2014

Sex with someone else is something you have to convince someone else to do. Even hookers have to be convinced - in fact they want money for it. No one has a right to make anyone else do it. No money, no hooker. It's not always there as you're presenting it. If he didn't have the money, he would not have gotten the sex. So it's true no one has a right to sex.

genwah

(574 posts)
136. WUT? Try that again. He had the money, and even if he didn't, he as well as
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:17 PM
May 2014

everyone has a right to sex.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
137. So if he didn't have the money
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:20 PM
May 2014

in that example, and can't get any other women to do it at all, then how is his "right" to be realized?

genwah

(574 posts)
138. Really? You want to throw down with me? Cause I'll start from "Sex at Dawn" and
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:32 PM
May 2014

go through the "a woman's commodity" and then I'll go to John Fugelsang for the biblical stuff.

This looney-toon with a gun deserved a sex life as well as anyone else. He had the money, the important part of the story was that he had the crazy and he had the gun.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
145. What do you mean?
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:59 PM
May 2014

You are making an illogical statement. No one has a right to sex. You have to get someone else to do it or buy it if you have the money. No money, no volunteers without money, no sex. No rights.

Why do you think you are so superior? How dare I argue with you? Good grief.

Prostitution has nothing to do with this guy. He didn't want that. He wanted the status of a woman voluntarily acting as his arm candy.

Jamaal510

(10,893 posts)
153. This.
Mon May 26, 2014, 04:27 PM
May 2014

"No one has a right to sex. You have to get someone else to do it or buy it if you have the money."

 

Demit

(11,238 posts)
152. Well ain't you tough.
Mon May 26, 2014, 04:18 PM
May 2014

What we deserve and what we have to do to get it in this world are two different things.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
158. A social safety net
Mon May 26, 2014, 04:58 PM
May 2014

I don't have a problem with.

Sex is a different thing though. Can't redistribute the wealth on that without being over intrusive with people.

Hippo_Tron

(25,453 posts)
174. Deserves sex, or is entitled to sex?
Tue May 27, 2014, 01:13 AM
May 2014

I agree with you that everyone deserves sex. But it's not something that anyone is entitled to (except for the kind you do with your own hands).

Hippo_Tron

(25,453 posts)
173. I think there's a difference between deserving sex and being entitled to it
Tue May 27, 2014, 01:11 AM
May 2014

I think everybody (who wants it) deserves sex. But NOBODY is entitled to sex (except for the kind you do with your own hands).

And I agree with you that legalized prostitution wouldn't have solved the issue and it's not as though he couldn't have found a prostitute illicitly (it's not that hard).

Sweet Freedom

(3,995 posts)
50. No
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:13 PM
May 2014

we don't. It's a nice perk, but it's not something everyone deserves.

(And personally, I would define a satisfying sex life much differently than a guy buying sex from a prostitute.)

genwah

(574 posts)
68. Okay, we disagree, I think everyone has a right to a good sex life. As far as your personal
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:29 PM
May 2014

prejudice against sex workers, that's up to you, but if that's how you feel, IMHO you haven't been patronizing the right prostitutes.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
81. how do you see, not satisfying sex life using other human beings as being prejudice toward
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:50 PM
May 2014

sex workers?

a little game playing and dishonesty on your part?

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
82. Being personally opposed to renting bodies is not "prejudice against sex workers"
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:50 PM
May 2014

stop with the idiotic spin.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
124. I wish everyone had a good sex life, but they don't have the "right" to one.
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:43 PM
May 2014

Unless you count relationships like my threesome with my two hot girlfriends, lefty and righty.

You only get to have sex when someone else wants to have sex with you. You can't compel someone to have sex with you, so there is no "right" to sex.

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
155. Nobody has a right to a good sex life
Mon May 26, 2014, 04:42 PM
May 2014

or any sex life for that matter.

No one has a right to have a female body available, or for that matter a male body. He can hire a prosittute if he wants, but he still doesn't have a right to have sex. He can see if a prostitute agrees to it.

And in his case, the only thing he apparently would consider to be "a good sex life" involved blonde college girls, not prostitutes. He didn't have a right to that either.

And even if he'd gotten a relationship with a pretty blonde college girl, he would have hated women and been miserable.

People don't have a right to anything that involves other people.

(And I saw the other thread about "what about his mom" and I'm not talking about someone's mom. The conversation is obviously about romantic relationships and sex.)

Nevernose

(13,081 posts)
108. He didn't kill because he wasn't getting laid
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:23 PM
May 2014

He killed because he hated women. He hated a lot of men, too, for the record.

And I suspect that the main reason he couldn't find a woman to have sex with him was precisely BECAUSE he was so full of hate.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
170. I wouldn't think sex with a prostitute would be terribly "satisfying."
Tue May 27, 2014, 12:56 AM
May 2014

Probably only a notch or two above masturbation, at best.

And while I don't disagree with the general idea of decriminalization/legalization, it does come with its own set of problems. No such thing as a perfect solution in this world.

ismnotwasm

(41,979 posts)
18. Oh yes
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:14 AM
May 2014

Those guys use a combo of Evo-psych and total assholery to produce the most horrid shit

It's right up their alley to capitalize on this tragedy.

DinahMoeHum

(21,787 posts)
23. Are these men forgetting one "sexual option"?
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:24 AM
May 2014

Jacking off.

Just askin'



And no, that's not meant to be funny. It's probably the most moral method of sex available in certain circumstances.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
34. +1
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:47 AM
May 2014

It's not even sex they want. It's the public aspect, arm candy.

It would be an interesting question to have some of these men answer the question, would they have sex with the best looking girl they knew if it was going to be in secret? If the rest of the world did not know? I tend to think that in that case, it wouldn't serve the cause they are really concerned about.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
40. we have idolized mens sexuality to such a point, tied male sexuality into their manhood, it IS the
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:55 AM
May 2014

definition of their masculinity. it is their worth. who they are as a man.

we have so messed up male sexuality to such a point they need that arm candy to have any worth at all.

XemaSab

(60,212 posts)
59. For real
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:18 PM
May 2014

You KNOW there are hot blondes hooking their way through UCSB, but it wasn't about sex, it was about power and control.

2naSalit

(86,604 posts)
203. +1!!
Tue May 27, 2014, 01:56 PM
May 2014

I have a well used description... having sex that you pay for or with someone you don't really love -- sex or the sake of having sex -- is just masturbation with someone else's body.

No one has the right to sex with another person.

I don't get this obsession with sex in our culture. we are conditioned to think and believe that there is something wrong with us if we don't have a "sex drive" or "sex life" or choose celibacy. But everything we see in ads on TeeVee and in print or online includes sex as a selling point. If something isn't sexy, it won't "sell".

And this seems to be what the end result is, miscreants insisting that they have a right to sex with whomever they think should be having sex with them because its their right and they'll kill anyone who disagrees.

Seriously, folks, time to step back and reassess.

Trekologer

(997 posts)
194. They actually have two options
Tue May 27, 2014, 08:52 AM
May 2014

left or right


















... I'll be here all week. Try the veal and don't forget to tip the wait staff.

deutsey

(20,166 posts)
24. Out of curiosity, I went to the website Elliot Rodger participated on
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:33 AM
May 2014

PUAHate.com (Pick Up Artist Hate or something like that) yesterday morning as news of his connection to that site began to circulate.

I stayed long enough to see that some members there were calling him a hero and even wishing he had shot more.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
42. people say this is not a big deal. it is everywhere on the net. we hear it often. i had a rape
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:57 AM
May 2014

fantasy threat thrown at me a couple weeks ago here on du. my first. but... it is everywhere.

our boys are reading conversations like this, about women, and our girls, all the fuggin time. daily. from tons of sources.

it is going to effect our boys and their thinking. i do not know why we pretend otherwise.

yesterday i had two 20 yr old guys having conversations about girls... and i heard a couple of these mra comments. it is just becoming part of their language.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
84. Ignoring it makes it worse. The 'just ignore them' remedy has been used so far and what happens?
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:55 PM
May 2014

It gets worse.

Ignoring misogyny IS NOT AN OPTION.

flvegan

(64,407 posts)
28. "Roosh" rhymes with...nevermind, too easy.
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:42 AM
May 2014

I kept looking for the link to The Onion. I'm saddened that some alleged male somewhere 1. wrote that; 2. believes that.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
32. Something is wrong with these people
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:46 AM
May 2014

They really need blow up dolls. If they did have a girlfriend, they'd expect to control her completely.

Rodger was a good looking kid, too. Something was wrong in the head.

 

Rex

(65,616 posts)
36. So can we now admit to rape culture being prevalent in America?
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:49 AM
May 2014

Or do we have to wait for more women to be shot for having a vagina?

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
88. No, we're supposed to just ignore it. Unless we have some scientifically peer-reviewed studies
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:58 PM
May 2014

showing what, exactly, will change this, we are supposed to sit on our hands and do nothing at all.



I really wish I hadn't seen those two methods championed here.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
41. Society tells men they are losers if they aren't having sex.
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:55 AM
May 2014

It's a status thing. To be 100% honest, I'm feeling that pressure a little bit myself, right now. I don't blame women though. It's my choice. It's what works for me right now.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
43. And women, not having a boyfriend
Mon May 26, 2014, 11:59 AM
May 2014

Being single and not having anyone ask you out on dates. When it should be what suits each person at the time.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
47. How would you know?
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:07 PM
May 2014

though it is better now. When I was young in the 80s I was "weird" for not having boyfriends or dates. Nowadays it is much better handled, the way young people go out in groups instead of having to pair off on "dates" when they aren't comfortable with that person yet.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
57. I suppose neither sex can imagine being the other
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:17 PM
May 2014

But the social pressures are more or less equal. Why are you reacting to the idea that women might have some pressure too, as if it matters when it is men but not when it is women?

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
51. Perhaps no, difficult to gauge. But it is a symptom of the same problem, even if
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:13 PM
May 2014

not as pervasive as you assert.

Darkhawk32

(2,100 posts)
64. To a degree, I can see that. But how often do you get harangued for being single with no kids?
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:25 PM
May 2014

How often do young men talk about their "sexual conquests" and tease the guy that's "getting none"?

Now the solution isn't in the Return of Morons website, but I don't know how to lessen that pressure.

Sweet Freedom

(3,995 posts)
74. Constantly
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:45 PM
May 2014

Married, children, dating anyone? Easily in the list of top ten questions people — even complete strangers — ask women. (I actually have a kid, but I am not married. Oh how sad for me. I must be so scared. What do I do when I have a flat tire? ) And the marriage and dating questions never stop no matter how old the woman is.

But please, lessen the pressure on yourself. Certainly you have goals and areas of your life that bring you joy and satisfaction. Revel in those. And as far as being teased, speak up. The world needs more men to say that getting laid isn't the only satisfaction in life. (And if the guys around you treat you like crap because of it, then you may deserve better friends.)

treestar

(82,383 posts)
119. I have photos of my nieces and nephews in my office
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:38 PM
May 2014

People see them an invariably ask if they are my kids. It doesn't offend me really, but it's still the first assumption.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
49. Try being a woman, married, for 5+ years with no children.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:12 PM
May 2014

I thought my wife was going to scream at someone in public, she was so hounded about it.

Society is pretty jacked-up expectation-wise from one end of the spectrum to the other on pair bonds.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
58. That too.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:18 PM
May 2014

That's the good thing about being over the hill. People have to quit wondering when you're getting married/having children.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
55. I think men and women have it more or less equally bad but in different ways.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:16 PM
May 2014

I have very little experience with women. I married early, and I thought I had won the game.

Now, at 47, I'm trying to start over. Yuck!

And I feel like a loser, because my ex has someone else and I'm still all alone.

I don't know where to meet women, how to ask them out, or even what to do if they actually say yes.

I'll have to be willing to risk lots of rejection if I'm ever to have a chance of finding someone special again. And after having a marriage fall apart because of a spouse's infidelity, I don't really have an over-abundance of confidence to draw upon. I don't understand why she wanted to cheat. Friends tell me that it must have been something that was missing in her, not something that was missing in me. But I can't help but feel that there must be something very unappealing about me for her to have been willing to hurt a friend so badly just for the chance to be with someone else.

So it sucks being the man and carrying that weight around in my head.

But at least I have options. I can ask someone out and it won't be considered weird or forward. I'm expected to take the initiative and I'm not expected to just sit around and wait for someone to ask me out.

I know it's becoming more and more acceptable for women to ask men out, but it's certainly not a 50/50 thing yet. So, at least I have that going for me.

Darkhawk32

(2,100 posts)
69. Dawg, I understand everything you just posted.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:33 PM
May 2014

I was the victim of spousal infidelity as well. So I understand all too well what you're feeling. I don't know who your ex-wife cheated on you with but mine cheated on me with my best friend of 20+ years. Not only did she ruin our marriage and our family, I had to erase 20+ years of memories along with it.

Then the bogus family courts jumped in... (oh I won't get started into that, I'll get kicked out of DU for sure).

I would LOVE it if a woman asked me out. But right now, my levels of trust in women (hell, all people in general) is just about jack squat.


Now, aside from my little rant, women's expectations increase as they get older (the pressure to have a husband and kids) and the expectation for men decrease as they get older. When was the last time a 40-year old was asked if they got laid? But at 20, holy shit, your friends might think you strangely if you didn't. And quite frankly, at that age, you're judge more superficially so if you're not an Adonis or a Greek Goddess, you're pretty much out of luck.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
73. Thanks for the supportive reply, Darkhawk32.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:42 PM
May 2014

I don't trust or distrust women. I distrust one particular person. I'll probably always love her and care about her, but I can't imagine ever trusting her again.

Darkhawk32

(2,100 posts)
86. If her evilness ended with just that, I would be able to relate to your last statement.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:56 PM
May 2014

Now, I wouldn't care if she got hit by a meteor.

I've fought trust issues for the last 7 years now.

Now that I'm thinking about it, I'm getting tired of constantly hearing that "men are pigs", "men only think with their dicks", "men should pay their ex-wives", "men are no good", "women should be worshipped like goddesses", "women should be treated like queens".

Like I said in another thread, I've learned that women are just as full of shit as men are. But, just saying that doesn't place women on equal footing as men, like it's intended, it makes me somehow a misogynist. Oh well.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
91. I'm not a very trusting guy after all of this, but ...
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:02 PM
May 2014

the person that I trust the most in this world happens to be a woman. Not a love interest or anything, just one of my friends who happens to be a person of great integrity. I think she helped me to put the things that happened to me in their proper perspective. Women are just people. They are all different from each other, and THANK GOD for that.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
106. women are jsut as full of shit as men. i guess i am a misogynist too. oh well.
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:22 PM
May 2014

i have been reading a lot of your psots on du the last couple days. lots of accusations toward women, probably myself, our group, here on du.

you are wrong. it is that simple.

i will be the first to say that women screw around as much as men, on their partners.

kinda takes the excuses away from the evo psychs, right? you know. men do it cause dna makes them. so women do it cause *****

"men only think with their dicks"... you might want to address your fellow man. cause this feminist has repeatedly and for years told men that they do not have a brain in their dick, that their dick is a part of who they are. not a separate entity that gets its own identity. but men. men continually arguing with me that i just do not understand. all of a man is his dick.

bro... i am with you on that. will stand with you in support anytime you speak out about... the dick is the second head, bullshit. right there with you.

some men are pigs. kinda like the men that say they are entitled to sex with a hot blonde and what a slut she is that she wont give him the sex. or the men that pass laws about sticking a huge plastic probe up our girls vaginas to cause them pain cause they choose a legal medical procedure. or the men that say on the radio a woman is a slut, whore and needs to video her sex for men to watch while she speaks to congress about bc pill. or the man that tells women to put a aspirin between our knees. or the men that tell us to control our libidos while men get to do whatever.

i can go on, but i bet you get my point.

men should pay x wives? well a lot depends in that so cant really say without more info.

lots and lots of men are good people. just as lots and lots of women are good people. personally, i would say the vast majority.

please do not worship me. ever. ever ever ever. do not do that. that is as wrong as being sexist, or even hating me

treat me as a person, not a queen. that is all feminists ask for.

Darkhawk32

(2,100 posts)
117. "treat me as a person, not a queen. that is all feminists ask for."
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:36 PM
May 2014

Ummm... isn't that what I'm doing?

Isn't this exactly what feminists want?

Your real enemy isn't a man like me, it's the women like I describe that perpetuates the patriarchal society for their own selfish benefit.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
178. Again, you are extremely hostile to people who haven't done much of anything to you.
Tue May 27, 2014, 01:36 AM
May 2014

From our interactions, you seem like a decent enough guy in most respects, so I wish you'd find a way to let go of some of the anger. I've had to do much the same thing myself, and it's still an ongoing process.

TygrBright

(20,759 posts)
125. My Experience: Finding the Right Partner
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:50 PM
May 2014

I spent a big chunk of my life single and celibate, not by choice, other than "eeeyew, the alternatives offered are worse."

Then I spent a smaller (but substantial) chunk of my life as a Sexual Adventurer, with lots of swinging, many partners, very intense transitory relationships, etc.

In both phases of my life I can say that I spent a great deal of time, thought, and energy focusing on sex/lack of sex/potential partners/how to make what I wanted happen. All of it fairly futile.

Eventually I more or less gave up and wrote myself off as lifetime single, mostly celibate with an occasional fling here or there.

Having done so, I looked around and said "Okay, assuming that, I can write off worrying about how to get what I want sexually. Now, how about living a life that's enjoyable? What do I want to do, how do I want to live, what do I like and dislike, what's the best "me" I can be for MY enjoyment?"

I stopped thinking about getting dates and started thinking about finding stuff to do that I enjoyed, and groups of people who shared my interests to spend time with. I stopped worrying about whether how I looked would attract the kind of sex partner I wanted, and started thinking about how I feel-- comfortable and healthy.

When I was least expecting it, The World's Most Wonderful Human Being and I happened to coincide. And because I was visible, rather than hiding behind a facade of "What I think will attract you," the connection happened.

informatively,
Bright

Skittles

(153,160 posts)
185. in my entire life I never, ever sat around and waited for someone to ask me out
Tue May 27, 2014, 02:03 AM
May 2014

but then, I guess I have never played by the rules

eridani

(51,907 posts)
190. Statistics is very much on your side. In about 10 years, a lot of your competition will be dying
Tue May 27, 2014, 03:10 AM
May 2014

Just take care of yourself physically until then

LTR

(13,227 posts)
45. Roosh seriously needs an editor
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:01 PM
May 2014

He said some pretty ridiculous things, but at the same time, he also makes a few good points.

The first thing I got when I read the ACTUAL article (and not just the Raw Story summary of it) is that Rodger was in serious need of confidence. He obviously had none whatsoever, and he allowed that to turn into hatred and resentment. He also allowed society to put him down, rather than finding his own way to work with it.

Unfortunately, Roosh decided not to stop there.

Instead, he went off on a crazed rant that made HIM sound like an angry sociopath with a grudge. In short, just like Rodger, he's laying the blame on society. A truly confident person would most likely play the hand he was dealt, rather than whine about it.

Since the beginning of time, one of the most important goals in everyone's lives has been to find a mate and procreate. That is the same with every single living species. Unfortunately, this has led both men and women to over-complicate things, with weird theories, gimmicks, emotional defense shields and low self-esteem.

Truth is, not all men are rapists and not all women are heartless bitches. Instead of hiding behind the guises of gender rights and political correctness, men and women just need to stop overthinking this shit and learn to just understand each other on a personal basis.

Neither men nor women should be automatically entitled to anything. It has to be earned, and the only way to earn it is to be the best person you can possibly be, to yourself and to others, without letting the insecure miserymongers of society try to paint you into a box.

alp227

(32,023 posts)
96. "guises of gender rights and political correctness"?
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:09 PM
May 2014

And you really want to defend this Rooshbag? He was so coarse in his blog, any legit point he had was derailed.

LTR

(13,227 posts)
103. I'm not defending him
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:17 PM
May 2014

And after reading other stuff on his blog, I feel he's a complete asshole.

However, just like the flower that grows out of the pile of manure, he did make at least one good point. Too bad he had to go off on some ridiculous wingnut rants prior to hawking whatever pickup scheme he's peddling. Whoever is paying for advice from this tool is seriously getting ripped off. Buy some Tony Robbins tapes instead.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
112. we sould teach our children confidence, both genders. that is the one good?
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:31 PM
May 2014

we should teach our kids to be confident, give them tools that will assure they can be, teach them social skills to make life a little easier for them. parent them. go figure.

see. the thing. him saying one word... confidence, in a whole lot of shit gets no pat on the back.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
179. As if being an unpleasant person were comparable to sexual assault...
Tue May 27, 2014, 01:40 AM
May 2014


I'm pretty sure that's not what he literally intended, but still...

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
195. I think the fact that that is the comparison he made speaks volumes.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:31 AM
May 2014

I also think it says a lot about this site that it survived a jury.

smallcat88

(426 posts)
52. These guys
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:14 PM
May 2014

never heard of masturbation? Or large rubber dolls? Because that's all they really deserve.

As a woman I'm here to confirm: Smart is sexy. That's probably why, in middle age, I'm now a confirmed cat lady. Too few smart guys to go around. And if any of them(the MRA types) ever run into me and try to 'assert' their self-perceived sexual dominance? I have a razor blade that says they'll never need a woman again.

That's how much these little assholes piss me off. Got game? Why no, you little pricks, you don't.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
78. As a self-conscious man trying to somehow "start over" in his late 40s ...
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:48 PM
May 2014

I'm simultaneously encouraged and terrified by your post. (I think I would be safe from your razor blade, though. If anything, I'll probably get into trouble for moving too slow.)

smallcat88

(426 posts)
165. Sorry
Mon May 26, 2014, 07:40 PM
May 2014

I was thinking while I drove to work this morning - 'I probably went a little overboard with that post about the razor blade.' Bad temper; inherited from my dad, a cop who taught me to defend myself before I learned to read or write. But any inspired fear is only meant for jerks who think they're 'entitled' to sex more than I'm entitled to decide what happens to my own body.

As for moving too slow - wouldn't worry, women find that refreshing as hell. Most guys have that entitlement problem.

crim son

(27,464 posts)
87. You speak for me and thank you.
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:56 PM
May 2014

I find this entire discussion beyond nauseating and the few who hint that Roosh may have a couple good points, make me want to hurl. Like virtually all women I have been subjected to the male need to get laid for as long as I can remember. I've been verbally assaulted and I've been physically assaulted by horny men who have believed I exist primarily to service their sad little dicks. I have been in so-called "loving" relationships where I was the sweetest, most wonderful woman in the world... until they ended and I suddenly wasn't worth a backward glance. So many of these arrogant assholes haven't got the brains to read a cereal box yet they believe they "deserve" my attention.

Enough. I am suddenly feeling the anger I have tried to subdue ever since I was nine years old, in a crowd of people, and some creepy freak thought it was a good idea to grab my vagina. It was the first time but it wasn't the last. We women, we don't even talk about it, it's so "normal" to us. Well, FUCK that.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
97. "the few who hint that Roosh may have a couple good points, make me want to hurl"
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:09 PM
May 2014

+100000000

One minor disagreement - it is not a "need" to get laid. These types consider it their right. This is one of the most common and easily identifiable manifestations of male entitlement.

DesertDiamond

(1,616 posts)
62. I've got a sexual option for them. Meet Rosie Palm and her Five Friends! Sorry, I hope I don't get
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:22 PM
May 2014

censored for this. But it's what I tell men when they try to demand something from me that they aren't gonna get! LOL

 

fasttense

(17,301 posts)
71. Exactly
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:38 PM
May 2014

If those nasty men want sex and most women avoid them, then the solution is they get sex from themselves or each other.

Oh, it's a certain type of sex they want. But this pretending that they can't get any sex is pure BS.

I'll bet you it isn't the shy, overweight, slightly boyish woman with little fashion sense they want sex from either.

TygrBright

(20,759 posts)
128. Excuse me, Baitball Blogger. Don't take this too personally, please...
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:59 PM
May 2014

But remarks like "Being such a spectacular asshole must mean this person is mentally ill" push a certain button.

I am mentally ill.

I am not a spectacular asshole. Most days, anyway. Certainly no more so than people who are not mentally ill. In fact, maybe less so, because I genuinely try NOT to be a spectacular asshole.

OK, please repeat after me, with feeling:

"SPECTACULAR ASSHOLERY AND MENTAL ILLNESS ARE NOT THE SAME THING."

Thank you.

restrainedly,
Bright

Baitball Blogger

(46,705 posts)
143. I understand your plight, Bright.
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:58 PM
May 2014

It would be easier to sort out if the "mental illness" tag were not so quickly assigned to anyone who is the gunman for a school massacre. I feel for you, because you have an uphill road to climb.



Response to babylonsister (Original post)

bluestateguy

(44,173 posts)
76. Rodger could have gone to Nevada and paid for a legal prostitute
Mon May 26, 2014, 12:47 PM
May 2014

He certainly had the money to do it, but he was either too stupid to know this, or felt that that was beneath him.

In any case, getting laid might have calmed him down for a little while, but there were far more systemic problems at work here that a few nights in the hay would not have solved.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
100. I wish people would stop saying that men like this could be helped by having sex (even if rented).
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:13 PM
May 2014

That is simply not the answer to anything.

leftstreet

(36,108 posts)
107. And these guys should stop lying about what they want
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:23 PM
May 2014

You're right

And these freaks should also stop using the subject of sex as cover for a desire to control a female, period. But they know if they say SEX!!111 the subject changes to the bad, bad women who won't accommodate them. Lost is the notion of their malignant sense of entitlement

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
115. being denied sex. that is the one that is pissing me off at the moment. ahhhhh. po baby.
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:34 PM
May 2014

being denied. wtf?

ck4829

(35,076 posts)
101. It was probably the latter
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:16 PM
May 2014

A girlfriend for him was a means to an end. He wanted a beautiful and blonde girlfriend as a status symbol, he viewed women as no different than his jewelry or his car.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
146. Ted Bundy was able to attract women
Mon May 26, 2014, 03:02 PM
May 2014

Oddly, even when he was in prison under a death sentence.

It is food for thought. This Elliot kid doesn't get a girl, yet Ted Bundy and I think Richard Ramirez could.

One of the Manson murder girls had a husband, too.

People's choices in these matters are amazing.

babylonsister

(171,065 posts)
132. There's this...
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:11 PM
May 2014

from the article, so paying someone who earns money by offering sex wouldn't work apparently:

“We live in a society where being shy, normal, or a little awkward is duly punished by entitled American women who have been encouraged to pursue exciting and fun casual sex in their prime with sexy and hot men as a way of ‘experimentation.’”

He then explains that when women have “passed their physical prime” they then select a “nice guy” with whom to settle down, with the understanding that he is “expected to keep his mouth shut when a trickle flow of informational torture reveals that his bride-to-be has experienced more than a dozen different penises in her vagina, anus, and mouth—the same mouth that is supposed to kiss his future children good night.”

treestar

(82,383 posts)
147. Gross, and probably doesn't work the other way round
Mon May 26, 2014, 03:04 PM
May 2014

Why shouldn't a virginal girl be concerned about the vaginas his roger has been in - and he could have impregnated them and there could be a surprise child support case turn up years later.

knightmaar

(748 posts)
90. How would this even work?
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:00 PM
May 2014

Are women forced to register for this, like Selective Service or jury duty?
Then one day you get a letter in the mail:

Dear Jane,

You have been selected by Sexual Mitigation Services
Please proceed to 123 Fake St and have sex with John.
He's about to go nuts and kill a whole bunch of women.
Go fuck him, quick.

Sincerely,
The Government.

ancianita

(36,055 posts)
92. Fuck these guys. Women will never, ever go back to being meat puppets and sperm receptacles.
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:03 PM
May 2014

More "people" will die if guys don't get laid?? Fuck these guys.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
116. yes. the backlash is harsh and the genie wont be put back in the bottle. that is all this is about
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:36 PM
May 2014

women having her own autonomy. and the men that hate it, cant handle it, do not want it.

tough fuckin shit.

ancianita

(36,055 posts)
126. I predicted forty years ago -- and was laughed at -- that the last war on Earth would be
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:51 PM
May 2014

between males and females.

Evolution is on the side of the adaptors, not the dominators.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
156. we shall see. a lot of the reason young men are so angry is because a lot of our young women just
Mon May 26, 2014, 04:45 PM
May 2014

are not going to play the game of submissive. and they have more confidence in just saying no. i am not talking sex.

the young women seem to be looking ahead, more confidently. they clearly see the degradation. that makes it easy for them to say... this. i wont live this.

dont have to. not anymore.

that is what is really scary the less secure young man. the ones that progress with, are not afraid. or concerned. they are confident. and excited.

it is interesting. i too am very excited. but then the last handful of days, i have been immersed in this and see to much positive also.

ck4829

(35,076 posts)
104. Groups like this should just be considered a part of an umbrella known as Organized Hypocrisy
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:19 PM
May 2014

You want a 'perfect 10', perfect body-weight ratio, blonde, statuesque, supermodel looking woman but you get shocked and outraged when you discover women have standards that exclude you? That's hypocrisy in it's purest form.

ancianita

(36,055 posts)
113. No sites that 'rationalize' manipulations will ever 'train' men to think women are their equals.
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:32 PM
May 2014

There's no "rationalizing" men's needs.

But when they DO own up to figuring out how to not impose those needs upon women, they'll have a shot at being feminists.

From my old hero of forty years ago:

Zorra

(27,670 posts)
127. Wow. There seems to be a whole lot of dangerous, ignorant, hateful, and juvenile conservative men
Mon May 26, 2014, 01:52 PM
May 2014

out there.

I sincerely hope the cops are keeping an eye on the author of that mini Mein Kampf woman hating manifesto.

intaglio

(8,170 posts)
140. Rational Wiki has a nice breakdown of webshites
Mon May 26, 2014, 02:52 PM
May 2014
the list of sexist websites is here

Roosh has 2 websites - Return of the Kings and RooshV - both are sick little productions.

Dawson Leery

(19,348 posts)
205. Ever notice how many followers right wing bigots have on social media?
Tue May 27, 2014, 02:11 PM
May 2014

There is a certain percentage of the population that is openly hostle to progress. They are certainly looking at using violence to get their way.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
148. Keep having to go to urban dictionary today
Mon May 26, 2014, 03:12 PM
May 2014

A Webshite is using the British slang for shit, shite to obvious refer to shitty websites.

Response to babylonsister (Original post)

 

kestrel91316

(51,666 posts)
150. Hey, asshat, there was nothing to stop him from getting a
Mon May 26, 2014, 03:33 PM
May 2014

"Thai wife". His dad was rich enough to give him that Beemer - he could have given him money to fly to Thailand and get any woman he wanted.

(directed at the asshat MRA writer and not the OP)

 

arcane1

(38,613 posts)
151. FFS, it's women's fault that loon couldn't get sex? His attitude had nothing to do with it?
Mon May 26, 2014, 04:03 PM
May 2014

His treatment of women as trophies, where only the 'hot blonde" ones count for anything, had nothing to do with it?

These idiots are lost, in every way.

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
154. WTF!
Mon May 26, 2014, 04:34 PM
May 2014
Roosh recommends that society change its ways, warning: “More people will die unless you give men sexual options.”

So, we are suppose to just lay down on our backs for the likes of the Rodgers in this world?!? This is sick shit!
 

AverageJoe90

(10,745 posts)
167. Roosh V is a raging misogynist asshole with a superiority complex.....he's also a racist douche.....
Tue May 27, 2014, 12:05 AM
May 2014

to boot!

Number23

(24,544 posts)
186. "learn game, seek out a Thai wife, or engage in legalized prostitution"
Tue May 27, 2014, 02:08 AM
May 2014

What the hell kind of options are these? And is up with the "Thai wife" bit??

LeftyMom

(49,212 posts)
187. You know when the creeps here keep talking about "Western women"? That's what they mean.
Tue May 27, 2014, 02:12 AM
May 2014

It's easier to go get a mail order wife who won't complain if you knock her around a little because you can threaten her immigration status.

This is also why MRAs were pressuring the right to get immigration protections for abused women out of VAWA.

Number23

(24,544 posts)
188. Holy shit. I had no idea
Tue May 27, 2014, 02:17 AM
May 2014

So who gives a damn about the rights of a woman who's been "shipped" to the other side of the world so that she can have the privilege of shacking up with some Western Wanker. As long as hubby gets a hot meal and can ejaculate a few times a month, it's all good I guess.

I feel bad for those Thai Wives. For lots of reasons.

 

msanthrope

(37,549 posts)
206. I assist in a legal project that informs women in these situations of their legal rights...the Obama
Tue May 27, 2014, 02:17 PM
May 2014

administration has been a refreshing change in policy. It's much easier to divorce and stay now, compared to before. VAWA green card? It can be done!

defacto7

(13,485 posts)
191. This is sick.
Tue May 27, 2014, 04:01 AM
May 2014

Is this for real? or is this another major Internet Trolling organization that will convince the vulnerable among us to follow their trumped up ways like a huge joke on society?

Or are they really that sociopathic?

Sunlei

(22,651 posts)
193. society does. they can hire hookers. legal in nevada or the wealthy go to other countries where its
Tue May 27, 2014, 08:31 AM
May 2014

legal- Gov. regulated.. Like some tourista zones in Colombia, SA.

His 'problems' were made worse when as a kid he went to places to play computer games. pay by the hour and over looked adults viewing porn. I bet Xanax side effects? and the drinking starting with wine sips as a kid, didn't help.

That family was wealthy enough to have hired a 24/7 'nanny' to stay with their kid and they should have. They paid for everything else in his short life.

herding cats

(19,564 posts)
212. That is some truly sick shit!
Tue May 27, 2014, 07:35 PM
May 2014

Gee, I can't for the life of me think of a reason why such a nice guy has a hard time finding women who are interested in having sex with him. Wait...yes I can, he's a total misogynistic asshole!

Hekate

(90,681 posts)
214. That last paragraph is chilling. "Learn game, seek out a Thai wife, ...legalized prostitution"?
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:01 PM
May 2014

These are all equivalent in this *hole's mind and an excuse for mass murder of women?

Frankly, I would pity ANY woman at all who got within a mile of Roosh and his ilk. Imagine a sex-worker having to deal with his rage that she expected to be paid for her intimacy with him; imagine a "Thai wife" discovering she was expected to be a slave, and dealing with his rage that she could not live up to his expectations; imagine any woman going on a date with him, the danger she would run into whether she responded to his game or not.

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