Here's the problem.
"I will refrain from calling people names even if they deserve it"
From a quick look at your hidden posts it seems like you believe a lot of people - not individuals, but GROUPS of people - deserve to be called names. This includes MOST christians being a pile of shit, for example. The posts I saw showed a habit of judging people by identity/group, which is the foundation for a lot of bad stuff in the world. As another example, you were very vocal about it being reasonable to assume any random veteran is a republican.
Here's the breakout according to gallup:
There's a 5% preference for republicans over dems among veterans, but that's not enough to draw your broadbrush conclusions. Even when people pointed out that you were wrong about the individual, you apologized for that, but defended your generalizations about veterans.
Going back to my point, there's a difference between believing you shouldn't call people names or make broad brushed assumptions based on their religion, background, etc - and still believing in your heart that they deserve those judgments, but refraining from saying that out loud so as to "abide by the rules."
I'm sure you've seen republicans who try to be politically correct about racism so as not to offend. In the end, what's in their heart seems to escape in all sorts of ways, through dog whistles, or things they say when they forget the mic is on.
I think if you work on listening when people tell you you've said something offensive and seeing the pattern, instead of doing the nonapology apology, the jury issues will sort themselves out over time.