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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsDid this mom go too far with Facebook punishment?
Denise Abbott believes that parents have to adapt to the changing times and sometimes that includes creative discipline.
The Akron mother created a Facebook profile picture showing her 13-year-old daughter, Ava, with a red "X" across her mouth, followed by the words "I do not know how to keep my (mouth shut). I am no longer allowed on Facebook or my phone. Please ask why. My mom says I have to answer everyone that asks."
More than 30 people responded with inquiries as to why the picture had been created, and Denise said Ava is writing back to each person.
http://www.wkyc.com/news/article/242679/6/Poll-Did-Akron-mom-go-too-far-with-Facebook-punishment
I think the punishment was fine.
The Wielding Truth
(11,415 posts)She is obviously a minor and what she says on line could be dangerous to her privacy. We should all try to be cautious about what we post. It is difficult when we are passionate about something.
southernyankeebelle
(11,304 posts)leftynyc
(26,060 posts)I must say, it's pretty creative on mom's part.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)atheous
(37 posts)And if so there's that active volcano in Mexico she could be tossed into. By golly that would teach some REAL old fashioned values she wont soon forget.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Kalidurga
(14,177 posts)Too many parents aren't willing to actually teach their children how to behave. It's hard to blame the parents, because they don't have a lot of support systems in our society. Like this mom, she will probably take some heat for the way she is handling this. It is an appropriate lesson, I won't even say punishment, because it isn't really punishment. And what makes this even better is Ava's friends may also learn a lesson, hopefully anyway. So, bravo for the mom being brave and bravo even to the girl for understanding what her mother is trying to teach her.
geardaddy
(24,931 posts)Texasgal
(17,046 posts)than shooting up the laptop with a gun!
teddy51
(3,491 posts)meant to or not. I think she should have handled it in a private fashion. I say fine, ban her from Face book and take away her phone, but don't publicly embarrass her.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)shaming as a punishment. But it's still better than shooting up a laptop.
The parent has every right to restrict the child from the computer, even shut down the facebook and cell accounts altogether.
Buy why humiliate the child?
TorchTheWitch
(11,065 posts)Public shaming was one of my own mother's tactics, and it's badly effected me emotionally throughout my life. Did it work to make me obedient? Oh hell yes. But it stifled me and created emotional problems I still suffer from.
polichick
(37,152 posts)...in order to humiliate the kid who wet the bed. Public humiliation isn't the way I'd go.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)loyalsister
(13,390 posts)Seems a lot like putting someone in the stocks or forcing them to wear a red A. It's a twisted way for mom to get her laughs IMO.
proud2BlibKansan
(96,793 posts)This is gross.
Liquorice
(2,066 posts)are being bullied at home. And from all the positive replies to the mother's unacceptable behavior, it looks like many people think bullying is great discipline. Humans, we are doomed.
Iris
(15,662 posts)Punishment aside, putting a picture up on Facebook or anywhere else on the internet is not something to be taken lightly. It's possible that this picture could follow this child around for quite some time and that's not something a responsible parent should take lightly.
apples and oranges
(1,451 posts)I hope the picture isn't around when she's applying for college or a job!
Iris
(15,662 posts)There are federal laws about this.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)And the law-breaker would be facebook, not the child (or it seems, the parent.)
Iris
(15,662 posts)Or, I suppose some kids under 13 can subtract well enough to come up withe a fake birthday on their own!
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)butterfly77
(17,609 posts)Renew Deal
(81,866 posts)gratuitous
(82,849 posts)But it would be totally appropriate for some other people. Who, you may ask? ♫♪I've got a little list!♪♫
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)Jesus H Christ, who the fuck cares?
redgreenandblue
(2,088 posts)The internet is not a toy. The mother obviously understands that as little as the daughter.
Iris
(15,662 posts)Lawlbringer
(550 posts)when instead of a red x over my mouth in an image, it was a red handprint on the side of my freaking face lol
LaurenG
(24,841 posts)Parenting is not easy and I don't have anything else to add.
For reference: http://fox4kc.com/2012/02/10/father-shoots-daughters-computer-over-facebook-post/
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)No, sorry, this is not good parenting.
atheous
(37 posts)Around these parts we regularly witness parents and guardians beating kids with belts and whatever else they can lay their hands on then curse the kids with language to make a prison guard blush...
I hate to say this but this kid should be counted as lucky.
frogmarch
(12,158 posts)How is publicly humiliating one's child appropriate? In my opinion, it's never okay.
The mother could have disciplined her daughter by not letting her use Facebook and the phone, without telling whole world about it. The mom's a shmuck.
piratefish08
(3,133 posts)Common Sense Party
(14,139 posts)flamingdem
(39,314 posts)And an intense need for public attention to their personal foibles, so they must be in hog heaven now
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)I agree with others who wrote that public humiliation and shaming are terrible tools for a parent to employ against their child. In this case, the photo will follow that person around for the rest of their life, forever. As long as they live, periodically someone is going to find out about the picture and ask them about it.
Horrible parental mistake.
Bake
(21,977 posts)Geez, he didn't shoot it while she was HOLDING IT! C'mon, people!
Bake
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Ooh, Facebook! Ooooh, naughty kids and technology and "parents cracking' down!!!"
Meanwhile, we have millions of gallons of radioactive cesium leaking into the pacific ocean every day. Maybe if it involved Facebook and a "tiger mom", the press might give half a shit.
phleshdef
(11,936 posts)Shame discipline is sick and vile. Talking back to your parents does NOT warrant it. Anyone who thinks otherwise doesn't deserve to have children.
Quantess
(27,630 posts)The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, as the saying goes.
KurtNYC
(14,549 posts)and evade her parents like every other teen in America did 6 months ago.
fishwax
(29,149 posts)Liquorice
(2,066 posts)RainDog
(28,784 posts)I'm sorry, but this girl said something rude to her mom so her mom posts a picture and tells everyone the daughter has to explain?
I would not want to know that woman.
AmazingSchnitzel
(55 posts)What makes the news cycle is silly at best...
Liquorice
(2,066 posts)Butterbean
(1,014 posts)The girl talked back to her mother, in person. She did not cyber bully someone or post inappropriate sexually explicit content on the internet, the ONLY two circumstances I can think of that would warrant such an extreme reaction on the part of the mother.
Teenagers mouth off. It happens. You take away the phone, you take away the computer, you ground them. Fine. This, however, was uncalled for.