So..I changed my mind and Im staying on DU for a more while..

[mylye2222]

Thanks to all the ones who begged me to stay with their so heartfelt and kind answers.
Thanks so much to all.
I will surely use more the Ignore button!

Well... regarding my personnal situation. .. not only it is not fixed...but the harassers came back to my door and so yesturday afrernoon, I packed up and left, giving the keys to the renter
Im now in Strasbourg , tonight in a cheap hotel but dont know for tommorow. We ll see.... money is short so ill find another way
And after all it is not so cold....

Thank you fellows for the needed support you had provided to me those past two days.

Take care all.
Mylye2222 (Émilie)

[cwydro]

1. Yay!

Welcome back!

[bravenak]

2. Good. I'm glad you decided to stay.

I hope you find stability and you should see what social services are offered in your area for people in a bind. Stay safe.

[HappyMe]

3. I'm glad you are back.

I hope that your personal situation is quickly resolved. Maybe contact friends or family.

[Tsiyu]

4. Awesome

I hope your situation resolves itself.

When one door closes, another opens. May a very wonderful door open up for you today.

[wyldwolf]

5. big surprise

[rhett o rick]

7. Wow! I take it you're not happy that she is staying.

[wyldwolf]

8. WOW! Generally people who write 'goodbye cruel DU' posts end of staying.

Very predictable.

[HappyMe]

13. It's pretty predictable that

somebody shows up and is chock full of snark too.

[wyldwolf]

17. Such is DU culture

Live with it.

[HappyMe]

22. No, I don't believe I have to.

Sure, there are always asshats. But I am free to call them out. Live with it.

[wyldwolf]

25. Actually your only recourse would be to use the 'ignore' function

Otherwise you have to deal with asshats and I have to deal with whiners.

[HappyMe]

31. And yet, you seem to be unable

to use the ignore function yourself.

I find the asshats fascinating. Not satisfied with keeping their misery to themselves, they insist on self righteously spreading it.

[wyldwolf]

33. I'm not complaining.

DU would be significantly less entertaining. I find the whiners fascinating. Picking and choosing, selectively whiney, making up things as they go along.

[HappyMe]

45. Poor you.

Selectively whiney, making crap up as you go along, stalking people because you don't like their politics.

[wyldwolf]

51. A great self-assessment you just did.

Coupled with a little third grade "I know you are but what am I."

[Tsiyu]

105. So you can post anything on DU you'd like to post

and you choose to type out snark and meanness toward other members here?

wyldwolf:

Have you never had a moment of uncertainty, of fear?

Have you never felt like you just didn't fit? Have you never sought validation or acceptance from other humans?

I'm sorry, if so.

Because part of socializing is expressing your vulnerabilities and self-doubt. Part of what humans are is living, breathing, typing beings who comfort and listen to other humans.


In the business world, maybe you act like Joffrey Baratheon; that's your call.

Here, it just seems rather pathetic, unless you're dealing with an obvious troll, or someone who has personally insulted you.

But again, your call.

[wyldwolf]

111. typical

I pick up the rocks thrown at me and hurl them back. But I shouldn't do that. LOL.

[Tsiyu]

115. Now you are the victim here?

Someone changed their mind.

For whatever reason, you chose to meet their admission of such with insults like "whiner," etc.

But you are the victim?

As they say in the hills here: "Bless its little heart "

[wyldwolf]

120. nope. I don't have that complex like you and others do.

[guillaumeb]

59. perhaps the snark is a cover

for a sensitive, tormented soul unable or unwilling to discuss inner feelings. A delicate flower who must shelter the beautiful inside from the harsh winds of public discourse.

Or perhaps I too am being snarky.

[Tsiyu]

108. Wish I'd read this first...very insightful

I will ask the Goddess of Appropriate Snark to bless wyldwolf with endless supplies of self-love and acceptance, freeing wyldwolf to be the wild wolf of his or her most tender, breathtaking, forested dreams.




And you rock, too, wyldwolf.

[wyldwolf]

112. Perhaps the armchair psychiatry you're known for got old the first time you used it.

[guillaumeb]

146. am I known for armchair psychiatry...

or am I trying to say that sarcasm is often a defense mechanism?

Many comedians have talked of using comedy in general, and sarcastic comedy in particular, as a means of dealing with the world. Perhaps the sarcasm creates a distance between the person using it and the objects of the sarcasm.

Or perhaps I am projecting my own feelings onto everyone to validate them.

My personal feeling is that screaming is not discussion and name calling is not debate.

Can I charge you for this bit of desk chair (no arms on it) analysis?

[wyldwolf]

147. Yes. You should charge a nickel for it.

[guillaumeb]

148. Great idea

but are you overpricing a bit?

[mylye2222]

37. No. He wont ignore me..

Because he enjoys hijack the threads I post wich dont suit his polotical inclinations.

[HappyMe]

40. Ah, I see.

So basically, a vicious stalker.

[wyldwolf]

44. What you call 'hijack' most call 'discussion'

The only way what you posted has any validity at all is if you were running a personal blog.

[Rex]

125. It's easy to ignore "DUer" like him.

Notice they never can actually say anything nice. Their concern trolling is all they got and that is as pathetic as it gets on DU. Pity people like that 'poster' since they obviously have nothing going on in real life but hate and anger.

[cwydro]

69. Hey Happy -

I think most of the nasty posters live sad lives. They dare not speak out in real life, but here, anonymously, they can give vent to their frustration and unhappiness.

What is so pathetic about it is that they feel they must try to rob others of happiness in order to feel better.

Of course, that doesn't work.

[HappyMe]

71. You are right about that.

It does get under my skin sometimes.

Usually if I am not interested in a thread, I scroll past and trash the thread. Why would you put yourself out there are a mean person?

[cwydro]

83. I agree, but

I wonder what they would do if we all ignored them?

[HappyMe]

84. I'm going to start doing just that.

They will probably try to start a fight by running from one poster to the next, then get peeved when nobody answers.

[cwydro]

97. I'm with ya!

[Tsiyu]

113. We could have a love bomb brigade

and respond to pure meanness with tons of hugs and smilies and smarmy youtube videos.

If I were in a foul mood, I would so laugh at that.

But most of us don't have time to waste being the meanie police.

[irisblue]

144. a love bomb to the mean & snarky is brilliant!

[840high]

134. Thank you. I'll join you.

[Logical]

73. And someone shows up whining about snark! nt

[HappyMe]

80. Are you whining about whining?

[appalachiablue]

121. +10.

[rhett o rick]

18. I knew you would use that rationalization for your comment. If she was picked on

it was because she "deserved it".

[wyldwolf]

20. Ah, another example of your psychic ability.

I made no comment on her motivations, either here or in her original thread.

[rhett o rick]

90. Actually no. It's very predictable for certain people to rationalize that the victim

deserves to be treat that way.

[wyldwolf]

92. Maybe so but I never commented

Next?

[LanternWaste]

24. Almost as inevitable as the petulant snark coming from half-wits and others...

Almost as inevitable as the petulant snark coming from half-wits and others...

No doubt though, your petulance was both righteous and relevant-- and made the world a better place to be in. Else, it would simply be more half-witted crap from half-witted crappers.

[wyldwolf]

29. Which is almost as inevitable as the over-dramatic poutrage

Coming from quarter-wits and others.

[HappyMe]

34. You can just as easily leave the thread.

But then, you would have no one to argue with. Poor you.

[wyldwolf]

38. I'll stay and argue with you.

[HappyMe]

49. ----

[wyldwolf]

52. Thanks!

[LanternWaste]

36. Rationalize your behavior as it better validates you.

Rationalize your behavior as it better validates you.

Your bar for drama is set low-- else you are unaware of the meaning of the word.




(Insert additional third grade petulance below for further advertisement of character-- skepticism being a popular word often used in place of the phrase "stop paying attention to the OP-- pay attention to me instead!" . Please proceed)

[wyldwolf]

39. Thanks. I'll continue to be skeptical of 'goodbye cruel DU' threads.

(Insert additional poutrage below for further advertisement of character. Please proceed)

[Logical]

79. Lol, you like sounding important! Funny! nt

[Logical]

77. LOL, you calling out half-wits? Classic! nt

[polly7]

95. How is thanking people for being kind and stating they have to leave a

'goodbye cruel DU' post. She said nothing against 'DU' and was obviously hurt at some of the posts towards her. Those hurtful posts don't represent 'DU' at all. As you can plainly see by all the support for her in this thread - these posts represent DU.

[Ms. Toad]

145. WW is referring to this thread

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026200732

The current thread is a follow-up to a GBCDU post.

[cyberswede]

12. Snot.

[wyldwolf]

21. booger

[840high]

135. You must be a very unhappy person.

[wyldwolf]

140. you must be a very confused person

[LondonReign2]

150. Coming or going,

the jackass posters can't stop themselves from being jackasses.

[yuiyoshida]

6. Yay!

ce sont d'excellentes nouvelles! This is great news.

[lpbk2713]

9. C'est bon.

[obnoxiousdrunk]

10. good for you.

[cyberswede]

11. So glad!

[cwydro]

14. Be aware

that the haters will be out soon.

Pay them no mind.

[HappyMe]

19. There's one here already.

[cwydro]

64. Quick to pounce!

God help them.

[HappyMe]

68. It's kind of creepy.

I guess there always one in the crowd that like to fling their own shit around.

[mylye2222]

23. One already showed up!

[HappyMe]

26. Of course.

There are miserable people here. Pay them no mind.

[freshwest]

86. Sorry you had to move... At times neighbors are too much to take. But please get a good place.

I remember you said in your OP, you were 'undeniably ugly' to a question. I was going to post that you were wrong, but it didn't look like you were coming back to that thread. So now I'm telling you this:

You're wrong about that. You just have not found enough people to resonate with who appreciate you yet. It doesn't matter with friends.

The rock musician Frank Zappa said this, I hope it makes you feel better:

“I have an important message to deliver to all the cute people all over the world. If you're out there and you're cute, maybe you're beautiful. I just want to tell you somethin' - there's more of us UGLY MOTHERFUCKERS than you are, hey-y, so watch out.”

~ Frank Zappa

Ugly is within, not without. You're recieving more from without lately. Get a decent place, even a hostel will do, like students and older people do at times:

http://www.hostelbookers.com/hostels/france/strasbourg/?&gclid=COOA0p6l2MMCFYhgfgodcyUA0Q

And take care of your soul. Another quote, but it's anonymous:

Just remember that people who are out to hurt others can gain nothing of value from their actions, all they can do is create misery.

Misery is easy to create. It's the tool of the maliciously lazy.

Happiness takes work, it is the reward for a life being well lived.

I understand if they are triggering you it can be a really hard thing to stop once it starts, but we can't change everyone around us and we have to learn to live with and tolerate the intolerable.

Make the choice to not let others steal your hard earned joy.

Take the negative energy they fill you with and create something beautiful.

Good luck, Emilie.

[steve2470]

89. excellent post! nt

[freshwest]

93. Hey, long time no see! Bet it's too warm down there, LOL!

[steve2470]

94. well, actually we are cooling off a tad..right now it's...

63 F but going down into the upper 30's in a few days (which is cold for we thin-blooded Floridians lol )

http://www.wunderground.com/q/zmw:32801.1.99999

[freshwest]

101. We're stuck in the high fifties and forties at night.

Last edited Tue Feb 10, 2015, 07:45 PM - Edit history (1)

Wouldn't mind those thirties at night. My studio is a bit warmer than I like right now. But not going to fight with the pitiful window I'd open to cool off, not yet.

[Tsiyu]

119. That was beautiful up 'ar above

"the maliciously lazy" is an incredible phrase.

It does take more work to be happy, and to reach out to other people instead of just pushing them around with your disdain, and I know that better than many.

That's kind of what makes a show like The Walking Dead so fascinating, not to go off on a tangent but wanting to kick the thread, because TWD shows the choices you can make, even when your back is up against the wall.

Feed the kind wolf, or the sadistic one in your soul, as it were.

[Hekate]

116. Good post, freshwest

[freshwest]

117. Hope Emilie sees it. Time zones, traveling, finances, all of that... Thanx

[In_The_Wind]

141. .

[BlancheSplanchnik]

156. :) good words. for Emilie,

And everyone, really.

[madokie]

15. Emilie take care of yourself

have confidence in yourself that you can over come what ever it is and you will be able to do just that
Welcome back

[steve2470]

16. I'm glad you're staying, Emilie, we need your perspective

May I give you some advice ? I'd post personal stuff in the Lounge, if you must. All the best to you, Emilie.

[KMOD]

27. Good to hear!

[LanternWaste]

28. Good. DU could use more international perspectives

Good. DU could use more international perspectives-- made even more valuable as they are coming from a nice person.

Ignore the half-wits, keep smiling, and remember-- the petulance comes only from those not worth consideration...

[Electric Monk]

30. um, ok....

[cyberswede]

82. I don't think she created her own storm

Her neighbors were harassing her.

[brer cat]

32. I'm glad you are giving DU another chance, Emilie.

I hope you can get your personal situation straightened out soon. It must be miserable living through a threatening situation.

[Luminous Animal]

35. Good. I hope everything works out for you.

[ScreamingMeemie]

41. Welcome back.

There is far more nice here than not.

The not-so-nice is just louder because they like the attention.

[GeorgeGist]

42. Yay!

[Liberal_in_LA]

43. glad to hear it. Good luck with your housing situation.

[Tierra_y_Libertad]

46. C'est si bon

[RKP5637]

47. Glad you stayed on DU!!!

[NCTraveler]

48. When did you leave? nt.

[merrily]

60. The OP says she's staying, not that she's returned.

[NCTraveler]

62. Sweet. I'm staying too.

Would you like to stay? If you start an op saying you are staying I will give it a recc.

[LanternWaste]

66. I imagine you believe your missive is relevant...?

I imagine you believe your missive is relevant...?

[NCTraveler]

74. I believe you imagined that.

Now that is support.

[Logical]

81. Why repeat your subject line? nt

[merrily]

154. Cool. The more the merrier.

As for me, making a commitment to stay is too heavy. I probably will, but ya just never know.

[handmade34]

50. ...

[justhanginon]

53. Good. I hope you get a quick

and satisfactory resolution to your situation.

[BeyondGeography]

54. En voilà une bonne nouvelle!

[merrily]

55. Fantastic myleye2222. Glad you removed yourself from your real life situation, too. You have to be

able to feel safe.

As all these recent threads have shown you, DU, like the real world, has its well wishers and its---well, why try to find the right name for them? That mix is just life. Try to enjoy what you can and let the rest roll off your back.

[polly7]

56. Good for you Mylye222!

I'm glad you're staying, and I hope your personal situation gets resolved soon.

[AtomicKitten]

57. Hooray!

Very glad you are staying.

[Puglover]

58. Go to La Petite France.

And have some delicious cold wine and a flammekuche/tarte flambé. Eat it all by yourself. You will feel much better.

[jwirr]

61. Very glad to hear it.

[longship]

63. Nolite te bastardes carborundorum.

From the Latin (and from Margaret Atwood's A Handmaid's Tale): don't let the bastards grind you down.

There are many here who will proudly stand beside you.

That is the DU way. Hopefully much more than the ill-behaved children here.

My best to you. And remember. We have your back.

[Jackpine Radical]

65. C'est bien.

[Pooka Fey]

67. Ma chèrie

From reading your post, since you put it out in GD on DU, my advice is that you need to be very practical right now and not zone out on DU. All the nice words on DU will not help you with your housing situation, which is critical. I know exactly how hard it is to find housing in France.

Have you filed a police report (porter plainte) yet? If not, do it tomorrow morning.

If you are a student, go to the CROUS office tomorrow after the Police and see what they can do for you. Bring your copy of the police report. If you are an International student, sometimes they can find you a dorm room. If you have one, you should contact your family.

You have more than enough drama in the real world it seems. Strasbourg is between 40° and 31° this week which is cold enough to make you ill or worse, so the false bravado isn't very smart. Strasbourg is as expensive or moreso than Paris, so your situation is very desperate right now if you try to stay in hotels.

Fais pas des bêtises et bon courage.

[mylye2222]

70. Merci pour ton message.

Are you living in France?

[Pooka Fey]

87. Ah, j'ai entendu ton accent! Tu n'es pas une langue maternelle anglophone!

You write very well, in English, so I wasn't sure just glancing at your posts. Bravo!!!

Oui, j'habite dans la Normandie depuis 8 ans. Je suis américaine, l’épouse d'un français. Es-tu étudiante?

[hifiguy]

72. Good for you!

ETA:

For all its warts, DU is still a pretty good place.

[calimary]

75. Glad to hear this, Emilie!

We can't afford to lose you. Glad you're sticking around. And yes. By all means take advantage of the Ignore button! That way you have some sense of control over various annoyances or meanness that may pop up.

And keep us posted. Let us know how you are, and how you're doing. DU will buoy you up.

[guillaumeb]

76. a Emilie

bonne chance et bons voeux. (Si vous-etes francophone)
Good luck and good wishes. (Si vous-etes Anglophone)

[GentryDixon]

78. Very good to hear.

I hope you find a safe haven soon.

[virgdem]

85. Very good news...

Stay safe and warm and try to find assistance with your situation. Bon Chance!

[WillyT]

88. Great News !!!

[rhett o rick]

91. I am glad you've decided to stay, but please use the ignore function.

As you can see in this thread the bullies travel in packs and know no bounds. Do not interact with them. Posting on DU should be a safe place to post.

[Greybnk48]

96. So glad to hear it!

Iligitimus non tatum carborundum. You have many friends here.

[DonCoquixote]

98. Good

one more fuck you to the people trying to ruin this place.

and if anyone at that site that rhymes with "productionist" is reading, may I give a you a middle finger from the bottom of my heart

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

99. I'm glad you decided to stay.

Just ignore the mean people. They don't deserve to be acknowledged.

[uppityperson]

100. good for you with all of that. Strasbourg is a very pretty and nice town without the

oppressive feeling that Paris has. I hope things work out better for you, glad you are still here too.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

102. The internet is full of offended and aggrieved souls.

So don't let it get you down.

Bonne chance!!

[daleanime]

103. Excellent!

Remember, you have to care for yourself before you care for others.

[hrmjustin]

104. I am glad you chose to stay.

Don't take anything too personal here. It is not worth it.

[99Forever]

106. Great to hear that, Emilie.

And hopefully your situation will improve soon. You are a valued member of this community.

[hunter]

107. It's best to ignore anyone here who tries to hurt you.

There are many kind very kind people here on DU, but I always read replies to my posts fully dressed for potential trouble:

[herding cats]

109. Good for you!

I see some kind DUers have volunteered for you to practice your use of the ignore button in this thread. See how accommodating we can be around here?

I hope things improve for you in the very near future!

[cwydro]

110. Many more good than bad here.

I think many posters are afraid of being played/burned.

Hey, it's happened to me (in real life sadly).

But I'll just keep on trusting.

Kindness is all we can give each other.

[Exhibit A]

114. Émilie, I'm glad you are staying, and I hope your situation improves. n/t

[Hekate]

118. Good to have you back. Take care of yourself. nt

[NuttyFluffers]

122. :) here's to only going up from here.

take care of yourself!

[Iggo]

123. Meta!

[L0oniX]

124. I'll stay too ...for a while but I'll go zombie if the oligarchy selects Hillary.

[samplegirl]

126. I left for a while

Sometimes it's good to just take a break.

[SummerSnow]

127. I didn't know you considered leaving, but I'm glad you're staying

[Nite Owl]

128. Such good news

you are staying.

Best to you in finding a nice place.

[bobGandolf]

129. I'd give you a heart mylye2222, but...

I vowed to only give them to members with no hearts.

[aspirant]

130. There is love for you HERE

Just reach out for it.

[octoberlib]

131. Great to hear, Emilie! I'm always interested in the viewpoints of those

who don't reside here.

[Skittles]

132. there you go, mylye

don't let assholes tear you down....learn to use the IGNORE function - it really helps

[MrMickeysMom]

133. K&R, mylye….

By the way, I see you have good responses for those who excel with booger eating stalker skill sets!

Take care,

MMM

[mackerel]

136. I'm staying in the lounge...you're welcome to join us mylye

[closeupready]

137. Good!! And if it ever gets bad again and you just need a shoulder to cry on,

I'm here, and likely always will be, lol.

[Half-Century Man]

138. Good

Feel free to use us for support and therapy.

[crim son]

139. I'm a DUer from the old days and don't know you but read your farewell post

and some of the responses. Glad you decided to stay. In the online world you have the abililty to accept the good and discard the bad, with no consequences other than peace of mind. It looks like you have lots of friends here and if you are as lucky as I've been, they will still be your friends a decade from now.

Peace.

[cwydro]

149. ...

[In_The_Wind]

142. I'm glad you're here.

Stay safe. Good luck on finding a better place to call home.

[Dont call me Shirley]

143. Yay mylye2222! We've got your back!

[DFW]

151. C'est plutôt la réponse qu'on voulait entendre

Mieux comme ça, en effêt.

D'une chanson il y a 45 ans:

Some people may treat you ugly
Some treat you beautiful too
That's the way life is all over
So look for the good things for you

[Corey_Baker08]

152. Good! I Hope Your Financial Situation Gets Better Soon!

Thank- You for always being so nice to me...

[BlueCaliDem]

153. YAY! And a heart for your courage and good judgment! eom

[840high]

155. Sweet - perfect