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Action_Patrol
(845 posts)I do not need anyone like that in my life.
Initech
(107,484 posts)Fuck that shit. 
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)which will be cashed in for full price to buy one of the bigger ticket items listed. Shame that the little one isn't being taught to enjoy books. At one, being read to is sometimes less important than talking about the pictures.
cyberswede
(26,117 posts)Try harder. 
Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)
onethatcares
(16,966 posts)frosted cheerios and if that fails, count chocula always calms a kid down.
Mariana
(15,613 posts)If they're reading to him because they think they should, rather than because they enjoy doing it, the kid will pick up on that.
winstars
(4,276 posts)
dflprincess
(29,182 posts)who work to find missing kids recommend.
Beyond that, these parents sound like incredible jerks.
winstars
(4,276 posts)
JHB
(37,959 posts)See? That's what they're doing wrong. You have have the motor control and language skills to pronounce "John Galt" before you can ask who he is!
Arkansas Granny
(32,264 posts)polichick
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treestar
(82,383 posts)so those people likely don't want to do that. They already have to deal with this controlling jerk as part of their lives.
EL34x4
(2,003 posts)At 1 year old, they can drink whole milk. You can buy the store-brand 45 oz can of dried formula at Babies R Us for $28. That'll last way longer than a week, especially if you mix it with cereal.
Both my boys never touched formula again even a minute after their first birthdays.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)should still be drinking formula. I think my son was done with formula by 5 or 6 months.
EL34x4
(2,003 posts)IIRC. I know our first stayed on formula a little longer, maybe right up to a year. We were more relaxed with our second son, introducing whole milk into his diet much earlier.
I couldn't remember how much formula cost but $80 seemed crazy. When I went to Babies' website, I saw they're now selling formula for toddlers. TODDLERS? REALLY?
wtf...
It's a racket out there in the baby industry. New parents, keep your wallet in your pocket. Half the stuff they say you need, you don't need.
As far as the OP is concerned, at 1 year old, the kid is probably more interested in playing with the box it came in than whatever was inside. At least ours were.
Freddie
(10,062 posts)For 12 months + is the new "thing".
My grandson is 10 months and still on Similac (he was breast fed til 6.5 months and it just didn't work with my daughter's new job) and doing great. At his recent checkup the doc suggested they transition him to whole cow's milk soon, before his 1st birthday. Luckily he eats anything they put in front of him with no food sensitivities, he'll be fine.
LeftyMom
(49,212 posts)Cow's milk should not be introduced prior to the first birthday, and formula fed kids absolutely should be on formula for one year minimum (longer if they were premature, generally to their age adjusted birthday at least.) Solid foods aren't even supposed to be introduced until 6 mos, taking a child that age off of formula is going to give them far too little caloric intake and iron at precisely the most demanding part of their first year when they generally have a big growth spurt.
Please don't give outdated or dangerous parenting advice on DU: somebody might take it seriously.
SheilaT
(23,156 posts)What's wrong with nursing?
My kids nursed until they were 2 years old.
Ms. Toad
(38,313 posts)EL34x4
(2,003 posts)And then appetite exceeded production capabilities.
Ms. Toad
(38,313 posts)The body is designed to produce what is needed. My daughter was exclusively breastfed for 9 months, then continued to nurse with adult food (no formula, no baby food) supplementing it for an additional 9 months.
From a nutritional standpoint, absent a disease process in mother or child, there is virtually never a nutritional need to supplement with formula or cow's milk.
EL34x4
(2,003 posts)But when it is 3:00 am and the baby is crying and there's nothing coming out of her boobs, it's good to have some formula nearby.
Ideally, she wanted to breastfeed exclusively. In reality, it didn't work out that way.
Ms. Toad
(38,313 posts)you don't supplement with formula, or water, because it sabotages your ability to produce enough. Absent a disease process, women's bodies work on a supply & demand. The demand for more, produces more. If baby isn't demanding because the baby is full of formula or water, mom slows down production.
Unfortunately, far too many women have mothers who were told it was icky to breast feed, so they discourage it - or believe baby is not getting enough from mom because they can't quantify it; Doctors who are tied in with formula companies and, depending on when they were trained, don't necessarily believe breastfeeding is important. All these factors encourage women to supplement with formula or water, both of which sabotage the efforts to breast feed exclusively.
Both my doctors, my mother, and my mother-in-law - in the guise of helping - encouraged or insisted on behavior which made it harder for me to be successful. I rejected them, with the exception of one supplemental water feeding I was too naive to counter with real information before my daughter left the hospital. That was the one and only non-breast milk meal she had for 9 months.
mrs_p
(3,206 posts)No matter how hard a mother tries. In that critical period of learning to latch, they absolutely need formula or donor breast milk. A baby must not be allowed to starve to appease some notion that only real moms breastfeed.
I know, I went through this, read every book I could find, went to multiple breastfeeding classes, had my own nurse to help.
In our case, my daughter was brought to the breast every three hours, then my hubby gave her formula while I pumped for another 30 minutes, all in the hope she would eventually latch. Which she finally did at week six. It took time, effort, tears, and pain. I would never judge a woman for deciding to go the formula route instead.
Ms. Toad
(38,313 posts)Rather than starve her - or sabotage our efforts to establish a nursing relationship, I listened to her her to find what worked for her, fighting off the breastfeeding consultant and my mother who insisted that the way that looked most hopeful from the beginning her would destroy me. They were wrong - once I made it clear that I was listening to my daughter to learn what she needed, things worked just fine. Fortunately it did not take as long as it did for you - but far too many experts insist there is a right way for a baby to latch on and actively discourage mother and child from experimenting with different positions, timing, etc., and many women who want to nurse their babies are told directly and indirectly that they can't. The reason I had to fight my mother is that she was told she couldn't nurse me - our breasts are shaped the same way, which she was told was the reason she "couldn't" nurse.
Any judgment I have for women who want to nurse their children, who find they can't, is for the system we have which actively discourages women from working with their children to develop a good nursing relationship - pushing water or supplemental formula in the hospital, insisting on proper nursing form, etc. It is hard to continue with doing what is best for your child when all of the experts are telling you that you are (or will be) a failure.
FWIW, aside from pointing out that breast milk is free, my comments about breastfeeding were about supply and demand - long after latching on. The contention was made that women run out of milk and have to supplement with formula after a few months. All my comments prior to this one were to point out that, absent a disease process, (once the nursing relationship is established) milk works on a supply/demand basis. You only lack supply if you have been short-circuiting the demand by supplementation.
SheilaT
(23,156 posts)While that may be true for some women, for many who choose to continue nursing, the supply readily keeps up with the demand.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)If your wife's supply stopped after a few months, it's because she wasn't doing it properly. ....a basic breastfeeding class will teach you how to maintain your milk supply as your baby grows.
My Good Babushka
(2,710 posts)to accuse someone of not breastfeeding properly.
People can breastfeed if they want to, but other choices are also fine.
B2G
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Cal Carpenter
(4,959 posts)Thanks for giving it an LOL starting point.
(edit: I now notice it isn't exactly one subthread but I just meant all the funny kids book covers)
LiberalAndProud
(12,799 posts)
Just the thing.
B2G
(9,766 posts)
calimary
(89,065 posts)B2G
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sufrommich
(22,871 posts)
Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)
DawgHouse
(4,019 posts)
mercuryblues
(16,178 posts)3 years old and still on formula?
I can see wanting the kid to get what he wants for his birthday, but this is far beyond that.
When people would ask me what my kids wanted, I would send them links to the items and what store they could be purchased for the best price.
Who in the heck has too many books for kids?
KittyWampus
(55,894 posts)Rex
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EL34x4
(2,003 posts)Keep 'em coming!!!
tblue37
(68,204 posts)
Dont call me Shirley
(10,998 posts) hifiguy
(33,688 posts)That's probably why we get along so well.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)Still giggling.
hatrack
(64,277 posts)
Thank you - this is how you should start your weekend!
HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)we announced -we- were preggers...at which time they sent a letter saying that birthday and Christmas presents from aunts and uncles to nephews and nieces should be abandoned as a practice.
Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)HereSince1628
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hunter
(40,385 posts)My babies enjoyed the love of a very large, very noisy family community, and they always had what they needed. Yet sometimes telling them stories, singing them songs, and letting them play with empty toilet paper rolls and fallen leaves on the sidewalk was as much recreation as we could afford.
The women in my family are breast feeding militants, but we all recognize it's not always possible.
I think my wife and I spent less than eighty dollars total on formula, half of which was angrily rejected. My own nipples have always been merely decorative, and sometimes amusing toys at best.
I like to think this letter is satire.
Blue_Tires
(57,596 posts)and even I know a couple *exactly* like that...
jmowreader
(52,908 posts)
My prediction: little Redacted will join the French Foreign Legion the day he turns 18. And I thought MY mother was strict!
displacedtexan
(15,696 posts)But you owe me a keyboard!
Jefferson23
(30,099 posts)
vankuria
(963 posts)And they specifically ask to include receipts because if it's not good enough they're returning it! I can only hope family members tell these idiot parents how selfish and ungrateful they sound.
EL34x4
(2,003 posts)Now that my oldest is in kindergarten, he's always getting invited to birthday parties. Seems like every weekend.
I give Legos. Every time. No receipt. You can't go wrong with Legos. And who cares if he already has that set. They're Legos!
vankuria
(963 posts)Parents are way too demanding and ungrateful. Legos sounds like a great gift idea, but I bet these parents would find something wrong with even that!
hatrack
(64,277 posts) vankuria
(963 posts)And these parents would probably bring a law suit!
WillowTree
(5,348 posts)From he time they turn about 3 until they're 9 or 10 and know better, I never put kids' names on clothing etc. Just not a good idea.
But aside from that, I do tend to personalize things. Big on embroidery and other needlework. These folks wouldn't like me much at all because a gift from me is rarely returnable, receipt or not.
virgogal
(10,178 posts)
MisterP
(23,730 posts)oldandhappy
(6,719 posts)gag. Please excuse me from this family!
SheilaT
(23,156 posts)he insisted on making a book for his friend. I no longer recall the details, but I felt awful about it not being a "real" present, and afterwards apologized to the mother. She said, "Are you kidding? My son LOVED it."
Another time this same son insisted on buying a bag of toy soldiers, that cost maybe a dollar. Again, the kid who got them just loved them.
Proof that expensive presents aren't required.
vankuria
(963 posts)I was once at a kids Halloween party and the mom partnered the kids up and they had to wrap each other up in toilet paper, they had a riot!
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)if this is real, that may be what is going on. An endless loop of Raffi has rendered them completely tone deaf to how they actually objectively sound to others.
vankuria
(963 posts)They think their little darling is the center of everyone's universe...people are just laying awake at night wondering what to get Jr. for his birthday, so they're helping by sending out an e-mail detailing what they'll accept and what they won't.
By the 2nd kid that'll change for sure.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Poor kid.
Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)will need a lot of gift certificates to a therapist when he grows up.