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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsEx-Bully Comes Out As Gay, Apologizes For Homophobic Torment
A former antigay middle school bully who is himself gay has posted an apology letter online.-snip-
Heres the message James posted:
Hello everyone, for starters let me introduce myself, my name is James and back in middle school I used to bully other students who seemed feminine and were openly gay, I was the typical Christian homophobic bully.
I grew up in a completely Christian household, my father would often post anti-gay/ anti-democrat images on his Facebook, print them off and put them on the fridge. He would constantly teach me that homosexuality was wrong, which I guess is what got that sort of thought into my mind.
Well in middle school there was this one student who well call Nate.
For the things Ive said to Nate, I wanted to apologies. I would constantly call him a fag faggot gay boy queer, and other things. He did nothing wrong to me, and yet I still felt so afraid of him that I resorted to insults. Sadly nowadays I have no way of contacting him, he doesnt use Facebook, he doesnt live near me, and were both probably no longer in school. For everyone out there whos been in either my situation, or Nates situation, Im sorry.
If youre in my situation, please dont resort to verbal abuse over things that scare/ frighten you, be strong, talk to people in a civilized manner, and open up to them. I know Im gay, I think I bullied Nate so much because I was afraid of being like this, I wanted to be the strong straight kid my dad always wanted.
If youre in Nates situation, please stay strong. You didnt do anything wrong, those who bully you or insult you are most often then not having an identity crisis. Im here for you now, and want to know that youre perfect just the way you are.
Again I cant apologies to Nate now, but if I could I would want to tell him this; Im sorry for all the verbal harassment I put you through, the truth is I always thought you were pretty cool and sort of attractive, and that frustrated me. You were always the stronger one between us both, you were proud to be you and always kept your head held high. Fight on, and live an amazingly happy life with whomever you love. My thoughts are with you, please please stay strong.
http://www.queerty.com/ex-bully-comes-out-as-gay-apologizes-for-homophobic-torment-20150421?
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Ex-Bully Comes Out As Gay, Apologizes For Homophobic Torment (Original Post)
DonViejo
Apr 2015
OP
Three of my worst tormentors in school were closeted gay men - one of them, a sibling.
tenderfoot
Jun 2015
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closeupready
(29,503 posts)1. While I believe in forgiveness, you can't undo what's been done.
So if 'Nate' chose not to forgive, I'd completely understand that. He can NEVER get back those years or that time in his life which should have been very different, years which were marred by James' abuse.
tenderfoot
(8,431 posts)2. Three of my worst tormentors in school were closeted gay men - one of them, a sibling.