Salon: Can you become addicted to your vibrator?
She likens her reliance on the toy to her alcohol addiction; both, she writes, made her life unmanageable. I’m not going to argue that someone continue doing something that makes them feel bad about themselves, but there are disturbing implications in Michaels’ piece.
According to Carlyle Jansen, author of masturbation how-to book Sex Yourself and founder/sex coach at Toronto sex toy store Good For Her, the first thing we need to look at is the definition of addiction. She cited Wikipedia’s: “a state characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli, despite adverse consequences.” Compulsive might mean a woman’s repeatedly late to work cause she’s too busy vibing it up, or wants to stay home rather than go out with friends, á la the rabbit vibe episode of Sex and the City, where Charlotte defends herself, saying, “it’s a vibrator; it’s not like it’s crack.”
Jansen says it’s natural to get used to using a toy, like Michaels did, because “nothing simply human can compare to the RPM of most vibrators.” That doesn’t mean she’s “addicted.” Another possible explanation? “It might be that she’d get frustrated when her fingers didn’t get the same response,” explained Jansen. “When we get frustrated or anxious, our bodies shift into ‘fight or flight’ response and the blood flows out and away from the erectile tissue. Without the blood in the area, it becomes harder to orgasm, which leads to more frustration.” Then again, a woman may simply be wired to like that type of stimulation. “Some of us need glasses to see, others need calculators in order to do math. Some of us need a vibrator to orgasm,” said Jansen.
One of the biggest problems with Michaels’ framing is that vibrators are presumed to be “lesser than,” and therefore, somehow shameful to use on a long-term basis. She pits vibrator use against partnered sex, approvingly quoting Dr. Gilda Carle, who told her, “Use of a vibrator is momentarily satisfying. But it doesn’t answer the need for a partner to hold you, converse with you, commiserate with you, and love you.” Of course a vibrator isn’t going to provide the same sort of emotional support as a human being, but that doesn’t mean the two are at odds—or that they can’t be combined. By judging herself harshly, Michaels inhibits herself from fully enjoying her toy.
http://www.salon.com/2015/09/05/on_becoming_addicted_to_your_vibrator_partner/
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you really want to put up the pun-signal and get pinboy involved in this thread? You think that's a good idea?
...Yeah, that works too. 
TYY
I would be lying through my teeth.
"hide the thread"
Hint guys- use of a toy can make your job much easier and result in a very satisfied partner 
and I guess it your persuasion isn't one man, one woman it won't hurt to give it a whirl 
It's things like the alert that have sent feminism backwards.
People need to laugh more. It's healthy for mind and body.
It's a maryly thing Or marily?
I'm easy.
That's just another marily thing 
What did you mean?
Before anyone alerts, I'm kidding. I know it, marym knows it. (If she didn't know it, the smilies are a tip off.)
Then again, go ahead, alert. Maybe someone will pm me with the jury results. (I love to laugh.)
Or off on?
the vibrator becoming addicted to us..
YES, I am being silly..
More power to her, and her vibe. 
I roomed with four women once. And we would get high and "race" their vibrators down the hardwood hallway. complete with bets.
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