Mom buys coffee for two women who mocked her

[Miles Archer]

Mom buys coffee for two women who mocked her



Dianne Hoffmeyer visits the Fort Gratiot Tim Horton’s Tuesday, Sept. 22, 2015, after a Facebook post she made about an incident at the coffee shop went viral. (Photo: Submitted)

http://www.wcnc.com/story/news/nation-now/2015/09/24/mom-buys-coffee-women-mocked-appearance-weight/72730168/

Dianne Hoffmeyer, was ordering doughnut holes for her 2-year-old and a cup of coffee for herself at Tim Horton's in Fort Gratiot, Mich., when she heard two women behind her commenting on her appearance. She said the women called her a "whale" and commented on her hair.

What the women didn't know, Hoffmeyer said, was that the doughnut holes she purchased were for her 2-year-old daughter, Liliana, who'd been up all night teething.

And the coffee was meant to be a pick-me-up after a long night with Liliana and an early morning doctor's appointment for the toddler. They also didn't know that Hoffmeyer, 41, recently had lost 177 pounds over 22 months after being diagnosed with congestive heart failure during her pregnancy with Lily.

"I was really mad and I'm usually not quiet," Hoffmeyer said. "I've got a big mouth." Instead of retaliating, Hoffmeyer held her tongue and paid for the women's coffee. She said her kids influenced her decision.

[Wellstone ruled]

1. Works every time.

Congrates.

[Glassunion]

2. That is the most beautiful and classy way to tell those two

to go fuck themselves.

[Enthusiast]

15. Excellent! Lol!

"Here's some free coffee now go fuck yourselves!"

[MineralMan]

3. Nicely done, Mom!

Very poorly done by the nasty women who commented on her appearance. I hope, but doubt, that they got the message. It's a lot of nasty people out there, it seems.

[Matariki]

4. It's kind of weird how minor social interactions are making the news these days.

[Brickbat]

5. +1.

[WinkyDink]

8. Everybody is a somebody on the Internet. Got a cat? Even better!

[Blue_Adept]

13. It's a local story that can be picked up anywhere on the internet

It's like people wondering why this is "national" news.

It's not. It's a human interest story that's easily shareable and is basically a time filler on a local news broadcast or something that works well for social media sharing/brand awareness.

It's not "news".

but what's reported is always changing based on how society changes. Not better/worse, just different.

[WinkyDink]

9. Yeah, the article writer still didn't get the REAL point.

[cyberswede]

16. Jesus. Bad hide. nt

[Glassunion]

21. Very bad hide.

Reading is one thing but context and comprehension should always follow.

[Arugula Latte]

23. Wow, come on, jury. Talk about about being sarcasmly challenged.

[passiveporcupine]

28. Not enough humor around here

Sometimes life just gets too serious and people can't see the humor in any of it, intended or not.

Life is much more fun if you look for humor in just about everything.

Basically, the jury should be assuming sarcasm is meant, unless there is proof in the poster's history otherwise. This trend in the thread was so obvious, I don't know how they messed this up. Can a hide be undone if it's wrong?

[Arugula Latte]

30. I don't know about undoing it. I haven't seen that before.

It's probably not worth it, but ... yeah ... people need to realize that a lot of us use sarcasm as a primary method of communication.

[Rex]

50. Just have to remember, some here still have yet to develop their satire/sarcasm chops.

Horrible hide.

[WinkyDink]

60. Why are you replying to me? I got the sarcasm of the poster. The article writer noted the weight

LOSS, but WEIGHT, whether high or low, ought not to have been a point made BY THE JOURNO. It ism implicitly approving of the LESS weight.

[cyberswede]

62. Because I couldn't reply to the hidden post.

And I saw by your post that you understood.

[AllyCat]

22. Guess he/she needed to put the little sarcasm thingy

Still, it doesn't matter WHAT the circumstances are...the women had no place saying what they said. Crummy hide.

[Elmer S. E. Dump]

26. Many people don't seem to understand sarcasm

I've had several posts hidden because I forgot to use the sarcasm thingy. And I've had a few that were hidden because I was being an ass.

[No Vested Interest]

31. Maybe posters on the internet - not just DU- need to recognize

that sarcasm just doesn't work well on the "tubes."

[Act_of_Reparation]

32. That's nonsense.

I'm sorry, but Kurt Vonnegut would have been out of a job if sarcasm didn't work in print.

The problem is sociological, not communicative.

[No Vested Interest]

47. You're right, because

there's no difference between Kurt Vonnegut and NoName posters using one-liners on the internet.

[Act_of_Reparation]

51. See. That was sarcasm. I recognized it as such.

Case in fucking point.

[cui bono]

66. LOL!

[GummyBearz]

71. Bazinga!

hahah... oh man, that was good. Thanks for sticking up for sarcasm too. I have had a few hides basically for not putting the sarcasm tag at the end. And one when I actually did use it :X

[Act_of_Reparation]

72. There are, I think, a few valid explanations.

But "sarcasm doesn't work on the internet" isn't one of them. Perhaps one or two people here and there might have difficulty identifying sarcasm, but you need four in one place at one time to get a post hidden. Unless I am taking an overly optimistic view of the average DUer's ability to read, I think those are some very unlikely odds.

Rather, I think there are two big problems:

1) People who, when called upon to serve on a jury, fail to take the necessary time and effort to put the questioned post into context. Generally, any doubt as to a post's authenticity can be cleared up by reading the antecedent posts. In short, this problem is laziness, pure and simple.

2) People who use DU as a yardstick by which to measure their liberal peen. These are the purity trolls who strut around casting doubt upon the authenticity of anyone who dares disagree with them, who are practically chomping at the bit for a chance to expose all of the "fake" liberals on DU.

I'd like to think the issue is more a product of the former than the latter, but again, I might be overly optimistic.

[Elmer S. E. Dump]

34. You really do miss out on so much communication when blind.

[No Vested Interest]

46. Well, I guess I've been Dumped on.

No sarcasm here - just telling it like it is.

[Elmer S. E. Dump]

53. I dumped on you? Or are you referring to the others that dumped on you?

[C Moon]

40. I was about to say the same thing. Ridiculous!

If you're on a jury, at least read a little more than the first screen.

[Miles Archer]

42. The "jury system" on DU really IS broken

Truly unfortunate because there was a lot of wisdom in that "hidden by jury decision" post.

[lumberjack_jeff]

56. It is unfortunate that a majority of a randomly selected group would not understand...

... the poster's intent.

He's absolutely right. It's a sad commentary that the asshole behavior of the women is somehow mitigated by "what they didn't know".

[bvf]

59. The post made a great point.

I would use a stronger term here than "unfortunate," which is way too polite, IMO.

In some percentage of randomly selected juries, you're bound to draw a passel of borderline illiterates.

The system just begs for an appeals process!

[TeamPooka]

7. Nice story but I have to tell those two insult artists to go fuck themselves. #horriblepeople nt

[OldRedneck]

10. A "whale?"

She lost 177 pounds over the past two years? GOOD FOR HER!!! That was not easy!!

And she looks might fine to me!!!

[Rainngirl]

54. Right?

I'd hate to think what they'd say about ME! I'm afraid I might not be able to keep my mouth shut. I'm sick of people being fat-shamed by morons with zero sense.

[ancianita]

11. It is giving that honors the giver whether the receiver appreciates the gift or not. It's the heart

of goodness.

[navarth]

24. wisdom.

"Don't leave home without it."

[Ilsa]

12. After a CHF diagnosis, I bet that mom has her priorities straight.

I'm glad she didn't let those two judgmental asses ruin her day.

[Uncle Joe]

14. Kicked and recommended.

Thanks for the thread, Miles Archer.

[Enthusiast]

17. Kicked and recommended!

[B Calm]

18. Now if only I could lose weight like her. That was really a nice thing she did,

I don't think I would have done anything like that. She is a good role model for her children and for the rest of us.

[Vinca]

19. I wish I could be that good of a person.

I'd probably have told them to go f themselves. And then I would have binged on donuts. Wow - 177 lbs. That's amazing.

[KansDem]

20. Her shirt says it all...

She's "Number One!"

[knightmaar]

25. Ahem -- Canadian Heritage Moment

When you're at a Tim Hortons, you don't call them "doughnut holes", you call them "Timbits".

Thank you for your attention. Keep your stick on the ice.

[vicman]

68. Ahem you!

Tim Horton's is now a legally owned subservient subsidary of Burger King. It is now illegal in Canada to refer to them by the quaint sobriquet of "Timbits." Stephan Harper signed the official decree that that they shall now and forever be known throughout the land as "The Creepy King's Testicles." Thank you for your compliance.

[BlueJazz]

27. Always nice to hear stuff like this. Thanks for posting Miles !

[Deadshot]

29. Okay.

So why is this news?

[juajen]

33. Because it is not about Bernie.

[sunnystarr]

39. lol nt

[snooper2]

43. Automatic sprinkler systems, lazy asses don't even have to water the garden anymore

[Octafish]

35. I've been to Fort Gratiot, lots of times.

Ms. Hoffmeyer is among the most beautiful people anywhere, just the way she is -- and just the way she was.

[Javaman]

36. Killing people with kindness...

is a true art and employed by few.

good on her.

[Joe Chi Minh]

37. It's good to have at least a leavening of 'human interest' stories and features

with the news. The Scottish Sunday Post and English Daily Mail score strongly in that department, both right-wing though they be.

[allan01]

38. man. i wish people would keep ther f$%^ing mouth shut.

if u cant say anything nice , dont say it at all my late mom would say.
.we got a bunch of jerks at my apartment and have been working hard not to retaliate .

[tishaLA]

45. thanks for turning one women's hamunity into a partisan issue

speaking of not getting it...

[uppityperson]

57. stamp collecting is another good hobby

[Oneironaut]

44. The women in line probably thought they deserved it.

The coffee, that is. Because why wouldn't people suck up to them? They're perfect in every way.

[mountain grammy]

49. Amazing how mean people can be.

She's a better woman than me...nice lesson.

[REP]

61. Yup.

I noticed that, too.

[complain jane]

55. Ok first of all

if this woman is a "whale" to somebody, I'd be a brontosaurus to them.

Second, why is there an explanation in the article as to why Hoffmeyer was buying donut holes? Can't she just... buy donut holes and enjoy them? Why do we need to know they were for her teething daughter?

I get that it was supposed to show that the insulting women were wrong in their apparent assumption that this woman who was a "whale" in their eyes was about to gobble down some baked goods but seriously who gives a shit? I wouldn't want to justify their small-minded judgment with an explanation of why she was buying donut holes in the first place.

Not sure if I'm even making sense. It's been a long day.

[laundry_queen]

67. Makes sense to me

Even if that woman was over 300 lbs and enjoying a large box of Timbits all to herself for no reason at all, it is STILL not right to insult people and be rude to them.

[complain jane]

73. Exactly! nt

[IronLionZion]

58. She's lovely

the 2 women who mocked her are probably deeply insecure

[dilby]

63. I think she looks beautiful.

Not sure how someone could call her a whale.

[spooky3]

64. How can someone who goes to a donut shop

Think they are superior and entitled to criticize others who go there?

And I like donuts.

[FailureToCommunicate]

69. Good point!

Mmmm donuts (well, beignets) !

[Jack-o-Lantern]

65. +1

[Liberal_in_LA]

70. k&r