Today is a sad day for my wife and I

[The Polack MSgt]

Today is the 49th day since my mother in law passed.

This is traditionally the day when Buddhists gather and pray to say farewell.

My wife and I would appreciate your good wishes today.

The Buddhist prayer is "Nam Myoho Renge Kyo" if you would like to say goodbye in the faith mom practiced, chant that phrase 3 times.

Of course you don't have to do that if your faith precludes it.

Thank you

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear Polack MSgt........

My condolences to you and your wife on the passing of your mother in law...

I did chant the phrase 3 times and I felt the weight of your loss as I said goodbye.

I'm not sure I said the words correctly, but I did try.

[The Polack MSgt]

40. Thanks

[yardwork]

2. What a beautiful way to say goodbye.

[The Polack MSgt]

39. Thank you

[redwitch]

3. I am sorry for your loss.

And I send loving thoughts to you and your wife.

[The Polack MSgt]

38. Thank you

Not sure if this makes a difference - but Mom was a devout Buddhist and I wanted to have as many people say goodbye as possible

[williesgirl]

4. I said the prayer and hope it brings you some comfort.

[The Polack MSgt]

37. Thank you

[Lindalouuu]

5. My sincere condolences.

[The Polack MSgt]

36. Thanks

[JI7]

6. .

[The Polack MSgt]

35. Thank you

[Warpy]

7. Sort of a low Theravada Buddhist here, not Japanese

but may she find a good rebirth.

My Irish Catholic mother was a firm believer in the Irish variety of reincarnation. She always said she wanted to come back as a river otter because it looked like they were getting a lot of fun out of life and had few predators. Six months after she died, there was a blip on the news about river otters being spotted in NM for the first time since the 1950s. I did get a grin out of that.

[The Polack MSgt]

34. Thanks Warpy

I appreciate your good thoughts

[Texin]

8. Chanted the payer 3 times as requested

Peace to you all

[The Polack MSgt]

33. Thank you

[sheshe2]

9. My heart to you and yours, MSgt.

May your MIL sleep peacefully.

I said the prayer.

[The Polack MSgt]

23. Thank you

I appreciate your good thoughts

[sheshe2]

29. ...

[blm]

10. ((TPM))

.

[The Polack MSgt]

32. Thanks blm

[The Polack MSgt]

12. Just some background

My mother in law was a tough woman who remembered her family being exiled from Sendai prefecture to Manchuria in the 30's.

She survived WW2.

As the oldest sibling, she supported her younger sisters and brothers in the 40s and 50s.

She raised two beautiful daughters and survived her husband's passing while running a successful business.

Thank you for bringing my wife into the world. Thank you for being a strong lovely human for all of your 85years, I am so sorry that i never had a chance to see you one last time.

[LibraLiz1973]

13. Chanted.

Peace and blessings

[The Polack MSgt]

30. Thank you

[PlanetBev]

14. Been chanting for forty seven years

What's your late mother-in-laws name? I'll chant for her tonight.

[The Polack MSgt]

21. Her name was

Ninomiya Eiko

Thank you

[Guy Whitey Corngood]

15. .

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[The Polack MSgt]

28. Thank you

[Jbowman]

17. Nam Myoho Renge Kyo

Peace and love to you and yours... Nam Myoho Renge Kyo", Nam Myoho Renge Kyo", Nam Myoho Renge Kyo"

[The Polack MSgt]

26. Thank you

[nolabear]

18. Nam myoho renge kyo. May she be free.

I've never called myself a Buddhist but I think there's more there for me than anywhere else.

May all beings be peaceful.
May all beings be well.
May all beings be free of suffering.

It makes sense to me.

Much love to you all.

[The Polack MSgt]

24. Thank you

[question everything]

19. My deepest condolences. Does observing Diwali help?

Forgive my ignorance if this is inappropriate.

Wishing you cherished memories.

[The Polack MSgt]

22. I am in no way

Trying to push a religion on others...

Your good thoughts and intentions - in whatever form you wish to express them are more than enough

Thank you

[The Polack MSgt]

41. My wife wants to extend her heartfelt gratitude

I showed her this thread and she was so thankful

Mina Arigatai she says - roughly "I wish to thank them all"

"Today is the day we are supposed to move on and I am tryng... but this is so heart warming for me. Strangers are supporting me... it's amazing... Please thank them for me"

Thanks everyone - you made my wife smile on a very sad day

[ChazInAz]

42. Consider it done.

[The Polack MSgt]

45. Thank you.

[Raine]

46. I'm so sorry for your loss, I will certainly offer this prayer up... nt

[The Polack MSgt]

50. Thank you.

[OhioBlue]

47. Nam Myoho Renge Kyo

(hugs)

[The Polack MSgt]

51. Thank you so much

[Tess49]

54. I chanted the phrase and send all of you my best thoughts and wishes.

[The Polack MSgt]

58. Thank you

[lovemydog]

55. I chanted it three times.

All the best.

[The Polack MSgt]

59. Thank you Lovemydog

I appreciate it.

[mfcorey1]

56. Chanted!

[The Polack MSgt]

60. Thank you

[Lifelong Protester]

57. I chanted it three times, the best I could.

I am so sorry for your loss. {{{ hugs}}}

[The Polack MSgt]

61. Thank you so much

[Lochloosa]

62. May she find peace as she moved from one life to the next. Chanted.

[The Polack MSgt]

63. Thank you Lochlosa

[Ilsa]

64. No one quite knows you like your mom.

Chanted. Blessings and peace to her and your family.

[The Polack MSgt]

65. Thank you Ilsa

[Granny M]

68. My sincere condolences.

Wishing you and your wife peace and comfort at this sad time.

[The Polack MSgt]

71. Thank you for you kindness

[cannabis_flower]

69. What does it mean?

[The Polack MSgt]

72. Roughly translated

It means Devotion to the law of the lotus sutra

Nam - Respect devotion or veneration

Myoho - the mystic law

Renge - The lotus bloom

Kyo- Sutra, teaching

[LuvNewcastle]

70. I said it.

I hope your mother's soul will be free for what comes next and you and your wife will be comforted.

[The Polack MSgt]

73. Thank you

[niyad]

74. chanted as requested. peace and blessings to all who love her.

[The Polack MSgt]

75. Thank you Niyad

[vlyons]

77. May your Mom easily pass through the Bardo and instantly

arrive in Amitabha's Pure Land.

Om Amita wah Hri Om Amita wah Hri Om Amita wah Hri

[The Polack MSgt]

79. Thank You Vlyons

[loveandlight]

80. lots of love and light to your family

And three chants for your mother in law.

Namaste.

Linda

[The Polack MSgt]

81. Thanks you for your kindness

Welcome to DU

[Big_K]

82. I've said goodbye, and peace be to you and your wife

[The Polack MSgt]

86. Thank you for your kind thoughts

[Highway61]

83. Said the prayer

Peace to you and yours...

[The Polack MSgt]

87. Thank you so much highway61

[blueotter]

89. My condolences. Peace to you and your family.

[The Polack MSgt]

91. Thank you blueotter

[hamsterjill]

93. While I'm not a practicing Buddhist...

A wise woman taught me that prayer many years ago, and I use it often for calm and clarity.

I've said it three times in honor of your mother-in-law.

She must've been a very special woman. I wish you and your wife peace and comfort.

[The Polack MSgt]

95. Thank you for your kindness

[Lebam in LA]

96. May you find peace in your memories

with this goodbye beautiful prayer

[The Polack MSgt]

97. Thank you

I appreciate your kind thoughts

[rustysgurl]

98. My religion ...

Does not preclude my joining in your sorrow at your loss. Prayer was chanted (although I am sure the pronunciation was off). May you know peace in the times ahead and recall memories with joy.

[The Polack MSgt]

100. Thank you for your kind thoughts

We're glad to hear that mom is being thought of and farewells are being said.

My wife and I aren't trying to proselytize - that's why any response is fine.

If anyone has qualms about the chanting, well that's fine. Your kind thoughts are much more important than forms and rituals.

Peace

[badhair77]

102. I'm so sorry for your loss.

It's a privilege to offer this prayer for your mother-in-law. I wish you and your family peace.

[The Polack MSgt]

103. Thank you.

We appreciate your kind thoughts

[Boomerproud]

104. I was very happy to honor your request. My mother passed away on May 1st.

I think she, and your mother-in-law, are smiling.

[The Polack MSgt]

105. Thank you Boomerproud

I have to ask.

Aerial refueler or submariner?

[treestar]

106. My condolences

What a lovely prayer.

[The Polack MSgt]

107. Thank you

I appreciate your kind words

[qwlauren35]

108. I am a former Nichiren Buddhist.

I did it anyway, out of respect.

[The Polack MSgt]

110. Thank you

I hope that you aren't uncomfortable.

Not trying to influence anyone.

I appreciate your kind thoughts

[qwlauren35]

112. It's funny.

When people talk about chanting for me, I am uncomfortable. But for someone else, if they needed it and it was a close friend, I'd be down on my knees beside them.

For most of my chanting life, I did not chant for myself or my own problems. I chanted for my family as a whole, for individual members, sometimes for the happiness of people I was struggling with. In fact, I remember having a list of about 35 people I was chanting for. I would chant and imagine them being happy. I remember chanting for someone's marriage. I remember chanting for my sisters and I to have harmony. I remember chanting for an end to a war we had about 35 years ago. Don't remember which one.

I did not quit because I thought it was a hoax, as some may, but because it was too difficult, with being ADHD/bipolar, to feel that I was doing it right. It never gave me peace, I was never able to empty my mind.

After about 27 years, I gave myself permission to stop trying. I went taiten and the world did not end, I did not fall apart, I was not miserable, or at least not more miserable than I already was, sometimes.

A friend started chanting a few years ago and asked why I quit. I think I told her that it wasn't right for me. May have said some other things. But that's the gist of it. She still chants and I am happy for her.

More than you needed to hear.

If you got this far, thanks for listening. I definitely did not feel uncomfortable chanting for your mother-in-law. It was for her and for you and your wife. Love is a powerful thing, and you loved her. That is worth honoring with Sansho.

[The Polack MSgt]

105. Sorry for the late reply

Thank you for your thoughts. The practice isn't for everyone... My wife is a strong Nicheren Buddhist, but I just do sansho now and again.

I am glad that you were comfortable with saying goodbye to mom.

Peace

[IrishEyes]

109. My condolences to you and your wife.

I said the prayer three times. It sounds like she was a great lady.

[The Polack MSgt]

111. Thank you so much

She was a no nonsense tolerated - ever - tough woman...

Who loved almost everyone she ever met

[Skittles]

113. ...

"Nam Myoho Renge Ky"
"Nam Myoho Renge Ky"
"Nam Myoho Renge Ky"

sending my good wishes your way

[The Polack MSgt]

114. Thank you so much Skittles