Poll: how many men have used the word pus*y the way Trump did?

[Hamlette]

in a discussion with a friend at work I maintained my very feminist husband had never used the word. He laughed at me and said all men use the word when out drinking with their buds.

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	Yes, I use the word when I'm out drinking with my male friends.
	2 (25%)
	Maybe in my youth, when I was drunk, but not since I've grown up.
	4 (50%)
	I don't think I've ever used the word. Not that way.
	2 (25%)
	I use it all the time, so what?
	0 (0%)
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[DemocratSinceBirth]

1. You need to be more specific.

Growing up in a working class neighborhood I have been around the proverbial block a time or two and never met a guy who said he grabs women by the hoo-hah without their consent.

[PJMcK]

2. Are there non-offensive ways to use those kinds of terms?

Is it possible that one could refer to a woman's genitalia using various words BUT be expressing affection, admiration and respect?

I won't bother voting in the poll. Donald Trump is a pig and an idiot.

[DemocratSinceBirth]

4. The word in and of itself is not pejorative. It was how Trump used it.

[PJMcK]

5. As I wrote:

He's a pig and an idiot.

[DemocratSinceBirth]

13. Folks didn't get hung up on the word. It was how he used it.

In any case guys who talk about sex in the company of other guys always seemed a little creepy to me.

[PJMcK]

16. Mostly, I agree

It's better to talk about sex in the company of potential partners!.......

[Ezior]

12. When I'm having fun with my partner

I don't use boring/sterile words like "penis". It's definitely not meant to be offensive though.

I guess it's the same for heterosexual couples? Is "pus*y" really a NEVER EVER USE THAT word? Non-native speaker here...

Obviously, I never use any of these words in the context of "just grab them by …".

[PJMcK]

17. You're correct, of course

The context in which Donald Trump used the vernacular word was gross, classless and offensive.

In the heat of a private moment, people can decide for themselves what's acceptable or not.

However, there is one synonym most women don't like too much...

[Lurks Often]

3. I've heard it used often enough when only men were around

with & without alcohol involved and by a couple of women who knew me well enough to be comfortable using the word around me.

Based on some conversations with a couple of close women friends they say women are just as bad when the men aren't around.

When the opposite gender isn't around men AND women can get rather graphic regarding sex and genitalia

[DemocratSinceBirth]

11. Is the word in and of itself pejorative? Is using the word "dick" or "f--k" in and of itself

Is the word in and of itself pejorative? Is using the word "dick" or "f--k" in and of itself pejorative? I would argue it is how it's used.

Most of what I initially learned bout sex was from friends. However I once asked my mom what "f--k" meant. My mom was the standard issue mom. She certainly wasn't exceptionally forward thinking when it came to sex. But she explained it as something that could be beautiful.

[jmg257]

6. Use the word in context, but not by telling people to go out grab 'em.

[unblock]

7. mrs. unblock prefers i use the c-word; so, go figure.

outside of private talk with my wife, if the topic comes up at all, i'll use clinical terms.

[lapucelle]

8. The thing that bewildered my husband the most

was the very expression. He kept asking, "Who says that? How do you do that? What does that even mean?"

For the record, my husband grew up in the very politically incorrect 60's and 70's. He played football, so he's been in plenty of locker rooms, and he spent 28 years in the FDNY in an all male firehouse, so he's no sheltered snowflake.

[Swagman]

9. I've never heard 'locker room' talk like that

in any locker room.
And I'd be offended if I heard such talk.
But then I don't hang around with people who talk like that.
Rich or poor..

[INdemo]

19. Then you have lived a sheltered life

[Kimchijeon]

10. Not myself, no

As I'm a female, but I have no qualms calling people "bitch" or "pussy" (I am a pottymouth tsk tsk)

My husband doesn't engage in that kind of talk though, he's not that crass or vulgar. He might talk lewdly though but not like that.

[LanternWaste]

14. I did in high school, but 1984 came and went a long time ago...

I did in high school, but 1984 came and went a long time ago, and I eventually grew up and and decided to place that type of half-witted, sub-literate vulgarity behind me.

Without asking for a show of hands, I'm pretty certain the guys in my circle of friends made the same choice as I did, as I simply cannot remember the last time any of us used that particular form infantile language, or even attempted to justify its use.

No... not all men use that language, just the weakest among us.

[oberliner]

15. This would be an interesting nationwide survey

I'd be curious to see the results broken down by race, education level, geographic location, etc.

Could be quite illuminating.

[Hamlette]

23. Yes. This convo with my coworker happened a couple months ago and I still think about it.

I'm no Pollyanna and as foul mouthed as they come (I believe every "absolutely" needs a "fuckin'" in the middle for instance) and some days all men are dicks. (sorry, but fuck, could you just listen once in awhile?) Talking about women like trump did, however, is something men in my life don't do.

[brush]

18. Straights use it and the d-work in the passion of making love. Nothing wrong with that.

How trump trumpeted it out was crass, vulgar and trashy, which also just happens to describe him.

[mythology]

20. I've never used it in the context of talking about committing sexual assault

But that's because I've never bragged about (or committed) sexual assault. I don't use the word pussy or bitch as a pejorative or insult either. Partially because it's sexist and partially because if the best insult I could come up with is effectively calling somebody a woman, I'd be embarrassed for myself.

That said I will use the word in a sexual sense in the same way I don't refer to my penis as such.

[CTyankee]

21. I don't think my son or my husband have EVER used that word. It wouldn't occur to them...

[crazycatlady]

22. Not in the grabbing sense

But every man who has been near my, cat, has used the term. But then again his parts are referred to by a nickname for Richard.

It very well could be a generational thing (I'm 36). FWIW I have met all but one partner at a Democratic event.