What to do when a friend falls off the radar
I have someone I consider a dear friend, who has disappeared from my life recently. She was terribly upset - depressed - by trump's election. She grew up in Romania and knows life under authoritarian regime.
We women's marched together, worked to halt an illegal development in our neighborhood, have drunk, eaten, and partied together numerous times over 15
years.
She has dropped off the radar (FB). She hasn't traveled here to work in months. I emailed her to check in and she thanked me and only said some things are "going on" and she would get in touch when she could. We tried to catch up with her husband when he was here briefly, but were unsuccessful. They haven't scheduled their annual summer picnic.
We had been thinking it was marital problems - something, unfortunately, with some shame attached (surely they would let us know if she were direly ill). This morrning it came to me that she may have had a breakdown, since her work pattern has also completely ceased.
At what point do expressions of concern become intrusion into someone's privacy? I was at least.thinking of sending a card letting her know I'm thinking of her. More personal than another email.
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