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milestogo

(16,829 posts)
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 07:04 PM Oct 2017

Do you want to die while you are doing something that you love?

Really? In the first place, I don't want to die. In the second place I'd rather die doing something that I absolutely hate so I it would just be OVER.

I am not sure why people think "he was doing exactly what he wanted to be doing" is a comforting thing to say.

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Do you want to die while you are doing something that you love? (Original Post) milestogo Oct 2017 OP
Those soldiers dont go into the military assuming they very well might die. Eliot Rosewater Oct 2017 #1
Especially such a young woman, with Ilsa Oct 2017 #8
well, I love to sleep.... hlthe2b Oct 2017 #2
My first thought as well. Adsos Letter Oct 2017 #28
I just want to wake up dead when my time arrives Lebam in LA Oct 2017 #3
Dying doing something you love means you are going to heaven Angry Dragon Oct 2017 #4
Boy, DO I!... Aristus Oct 2017 #5
When my time comes, quick and as painless as possible Va Lefty Oct 2017 #6
So I have to die while I'm quilting? Bummer... MoonRiver Oct 2017 #7
I'm going out buying and selling antiques. Vinca Oct 2017 #9
Sucks, but you gotta do what you gotta do, MoonRiver Oct 2017 #11
Yes. nt Purveyor Oct 2017 #10
Elvis died doing what he loved. AngryAmish Oct 2017 #12
Doing drugs, sitting on the toilet? milestogo Oct 2017 #18
Only if we all were so lucky. AngryAmish Oct 2017 #25
SomeTHING? No. Thor_MN Oct 2017 #13
Now, the loved doing this ? Corgigal Oct 2017 #14
I'd be as embarrassed as hell if I died doing something I love. Kablooie Oct 2017 #15
No. While I'm sleeping. After a day I did something I love.... kerry-is-my-prez Oct 2017 #16
Yeah, sleeping. n/t shanti Oct 2017 #17
I'd like to die quietly in my sleep, like my grandpa, The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2017 #19
Yes, sleeping. JNelson6563 Oct 2017 #20
I don't love anything THAT much! WinkyDink Oct 2017 #21
If you die while doing something you love, CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2017 #22
I don't think dying with a sucking chest wound is what anyone wants to do. Hassin Bin Sober Oct 2017 #23
It's not that comforting treestar Oct 2017 #24
That's exactly why it's used. Dave Starsky Oct 2017 #40
We see now that Kelly is delusional. What works for him probably wouldn't work ecstatic Oct 2017 #26
imagine, left behind, wounded with 50 well armed troops looking for you. Sunlei Oct 2017 #27
No. Blue_true Oct 2017 #29
I want to die on stage MuseRider Oct 2017 #30
Why would you not want to die? malaise Oct 2017 #31
It's not the dying I fear so much as the hideous decaying. WinkyDink Oct 2017 #33
You know when you cross a street or ride in a car that you can die. That does not mean appleannie1943 Oct 2017 #32
Isn't that how Nelson Rockefeller went? LeftInTX Oct 2017 #34
Well when you can't breath, nothing else matters. n/t miyazaki Oct 2017 #35
When I go, I would like to be shot - at the age of 103... SeattleVet Oct 2017 #36
Well living in the USA the odds are you'll get shot by somebody milestogo Oct 2017 #37
These men may well have loved being in the military. 3catwoman3 Oct 2017 #38
Sure, better then dying doing something I hate Raine Oct 2017 #39

Eliot Rosewater

(31,137 posts)
1. Those soldiers dont go into the military assuming they very well might die.
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 07:06 PM
Oct 2017

Otherwise most would never join.

Also, trump did not ask how to humanely talk to anyone let alone a black woman, not in 2 million years.

Ilsa

(61,712 posts)
8. Especially such a young woman, with
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 07:16 PM
Oct 2017

two little kids, and pregnant, and not having had the experiences of a 50+ year old general, who said that condolences of the president don't matter.*

* Sure, presidential condolences didn't matter to him, especially from a prez he didn't like, especially when he knew most of the brass already knew of his family's loss, especially when his personality is not the same as a twenty-something young pregnant widow with two kids.

Angry Dragon

(36,693 posts)
4. Dying doing something you love means you are going to heaven
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 07:10 PM
Oct 2017

doing something you hate and dying means you are going to hell
Dying while doing nothing means you have no place to go

IT IS WRITTEN

Va Lefty

(6,252 posts)
6. When my time comes, quick and as painless as possible
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 07:11 PM
Oct 2017

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I've had several friends and family die lingering deaths. Not for me.

Corgigal

(9,291 posts)
14. Now, the loved doing this ?
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 07:25 PM
Oct 2017

What? Who in their minds wants to walk in the middle of Niger to talk to tribal war lords?

I bed they rather be in bed with a loved one, but that's just me.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,804 posts)
22. If you die while doing something you love,
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 08:13 PM
Oct 2017

it means that you were happy at that moment.

I would rather be happy at the moment of death, than unhappy.

But that's just me.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
24. It's not that comforting
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 08:21 PM
Oct 2017

The wife I'm sure did not want him to die, period.

I guess they are trying to say he had a good life. But any life that short is hard to accept as having been so great it's OK it's over.

His third child is not even born yet.

It is usually said about people who love to do dangerous things for fun, to try to avert the feeling of uselessness.

Dave Starsky

(5,914 posts)
40. That's exactly why it's used.
Sat Oct 21, 2017, 08:11 AM
Oct 2017

And it's fucking ridiculous. I hate that.

Yeah, he died doing what he loved: leaving his wife a widow and his kids fatherless. Here's to you, Charlie. Nice job.

ecstatic

(32,786 posts)
26. We see now that Kelly is delusional. What works for him probably wouldn't work
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 08:37 PM
Oct 2017

for most. On CNN, a gold star mom said that someone said something similar to her and it really really hurt.

MuseRider

(34,136 posts)
30. I want to die on stage
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 08:51 PM
Oct 2017

playing something I love, perhaps the last movement of Beethoven's 9th Symphony or maybe Mahler. Yes I do want to die doing something I love, maybe riding a roller coaster but I would rather be playing in the symphony. Or maybe kissing one of my goats, that is pretty fine right there.

Trump is a stupid asshole a very stupid asshole. He is never appropriate or comforting.

malaise

(269,293 posts)
31. Why would you not want to die?
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 08:58 PM
Oct 2017

Every living thing dies. That we are all going to die is the one absolute philosophical truth on this planet.
Now how would I like to die - one of two ways - in my sleep or on the operating table out cold from the anesthetic.

I'd rather not die doing something I love but it hardly matters - dead is dead.

appleannie1943

(1,303 posts)
32. You know when you cross a street or ride in a car that you can die. That does not mean
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 09:12 PM
Oct 2017

you want it to happen or that you can expect that it will. If signing up for the military meant that you can expect to die, only people with a death wish would join. As far as I am concerned, saying that to a grieving widow is the equivalent of saying, "He would rather die fighting in another country than be with you and you should be happy for him that he got his wish" When my son drowned if someone had said to me "He knew what he was doing when he walked into that river but I guess it hurts anyway", I would have been ready to gouge their eyes out.

I want to live as long as I can still think and do. I will probably go out kicking and screaming but if I have to die, I hope I go to sleep some night and die in the middle of a good dream.

3catwoman3

(24,122 posts)
38. These men may well have loved being in the military.
Fri Oct 20, 2017, 10:56 PM
Oct 2017

At the moment they found themselves ambushed, they must have wanted only to be anywhere else, doing anything else. They must have been terrified.

The whole "died while doing something that he loved" has always struck me as very hollow and insensitive, and not in the least comforting.

Raine

(30,541 posts)
39. Sure, better then dying doing something I hate
Sat Oct 21, 2017, 03:07 AM
Oct 2017
course if given the choice I'd rather not die at all.
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