Mens Careers are Sacred

[milestogo]

Women are trained to behave in ways that protect men because we are trained that a man's professional reputation is everything. Why would we want to bring up something up that might call that into question? A man works so hard to build his career and along comes a silly woman with her complaints, just trying to bring him down. Even if he did do something wrong, a woman should just keep her complaints to herself.

Men don't think women's careers are sacred.

Every woman has unreported stories of inappropriate sexual behavior in school or in the workplace, some much worse than others. We are trained to serve and protect the careers of men whenever possible.

[Irish_Dem]

1. And typically if a woman complains about harassment, she loses her job and the man doesn't. nt

[milestogo]

2. Yes, because the REAL problem is the complaining and not the harassment.

That's what I learned from Human Resources departments carrying out the corporate wishes.

[Irish_Dem]

3. Yep. nt

[50 Shades Of Blue]

4. We are also trained that it's our fault for arousing them.

[3catwoman3]

6. That is for damn sure.

My mom, now 95 and a retired nurse, beat it into my head that not only was I responsible for my own sexual behavior, I was also in charge of that of any guy I dated. The basic gist of the message was that men were so easily aroused that women had to be very careful not to allow this to happen because to cause sexual arousal and not "follow through" with intercourse was cruel - erections that were not allowed to proceed to their usual conclusion were unbearably painful.

Any time I indulged in more than a handful of kisses, I feared I was courting disaster. Like pretty much all moms of daughters, she feared a teen or out of wedlock pregnancy. Understandable. The conditioning was very effective. I was almost 23 when I chose to cross the no-longer-a-virgin threshold, and I made damn sure I was on the pill before I did so.

I also think women are conditioned to always "be nice," and not hurt people's feelings. How many of us have gone on a second or third date with a guy we didn't really care for at all on the first date, because we worried he would think we were mean if we turned him down? I certainly did.

[enough]

5. Great point. NT

[Laffy Kat]

7. So true. nt

[MaryMagdaline]

8. Yes

You are so right.