(Tyler Clementi) After Gay Son’s Suicide, Mother Finds Blame in Herself and in Her Church
When Tyler Clementi told his parents he was gay, two days before he left for Rutgers University in the fall of 2010, he said he had known since middle school.
So he did have a side that he didnt open up to us, obviously, his mother, Jane Clementi, said, sitting in her kitchen here nearly two years later. That was one of the things that hurt me the most, that he was hiding something so much. Because I thought we had a pretty open relationship.
In her surprise, she had peppered him with questions: How do you know? Who are you going to talk to? Who are you going to tell? Tyler told a friend that the conversation had not gone well. His father had been very accepting, he wrote in a text message. Mom has basically completely rejected me.
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The Clementis continue to blame the bad luck of a roommate lottery and the cowardice of students who failed to step up and say that the spying was wrong.
But their sons suicide has also forced changes, and new honesty, upon them. They have left the church that made Ms. Clementi so resistant to her sons declaration. Their middle son, James, acknowledged what the family had long suspected and said that he, too, was gay. The family is devoting itself to a foundation promoting acceptance with the hope of preventing the suicides of gay teenagers.
full: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/25/nyregion/after-tyler-clementis-suicide-his-parents-make-painful-changes-in-the-search-for-why.html?pagewanted=all