What Dustin Hoffmann learned from being a woman...with tears...

[FourScore]

This video was originally posted in my OP on sexism here: http://www.democraticunderground.com/10023207631 loyalsister recommended that I post it here as well.

[kpete]

1. last sentence:

HOFFMAN: "this was NEVER a comedy for me"

thanks for sharing

[loyalsister]

2. I don't think much about what actors might think of their characters

I loved hearing his thoughts about his role in Tootsie. It's easy to see it as demeaning LGBT people and I did before hearing this. Instead, he understood his role on a personal and intellectual level worthy of hearing.

[Dawson Leery]

3. kick

[BlancheSplanchnik]

4. That was incredibly deep. I don't think I've EVER seen a man GET IT

and I'm including my friends who consider themselves Feminist, Pro-Woman, whatever you want to call it

The Beauty divide censors women and renders them invisible, unwanted.

It is one thing to censor a book or an idea...it is another to censor half the human race because that half must fit notions of what turns men on, or be without value.

[southernyankeebelle]

6. I know ugly people get it. Have you every been in a crowd and you felt like

you were really there? Room full of people but you are inivisble because your not the imagine. I remember my favorite uncle who had a secretary who was his mistress on the side. She was very smart. His wife on the other hand was beautiful eye candy. But she was loyal to him. She help him make it up the ladder of success. She was smart in her way. She came from nothing but farm country so she knew how to save a dime. But my uncle said the mistress wasn't beautiful but she was extremely smart. My aunt finally told him it was her or the secretary. He gave up the secretary. Being beautiful really helps through life. Being ugly and smart doesn't because many people can't get pass the outside before they see what is on the inside. Those are facts. Tootie is right on point. Loved the movie. I saw it on a plane. Got good laughs.

[Skittles]

11. I'm glad you said "people"

there's a lot of gals who miss out on knowing GREAT guys because of looks, height, financial status, etc.

[southernyankeebelle]

12. Hi Skittles. You know I was one when dating (which was rarely) I never wanted to go to

fancy places. My husband of 35 yrs and I started dated I knew he was in the military and when they got paid. Our first date we went to the Interharbor in Annapolis, MD. We went on the fairy and went to the market right there and bought some fries that we shared. Then we walked around the place. We really enjoyed it. We were happy going to a fast food place. My husband is very good looking to me and as he got older he has gotten better looking. Me am falling apart because of my health issues but he says he loves me just the way I am. I know people would look at us because I am heavy and he is skinny and younger then me. But you couldn't tell the age difference. But I remember in the beginning I didn't want to date him because he was younger. My sister said to me wait am I waiting for? I was nearly 30 and Mr Perfect wasn't around the corner. She was right. I am glad I listened to her. I all can tell people to please look behond the looks on the outside. You really do miss some great and interesting people in life. I mean that even in general. Look behond a person's color, or even size. You will be better in life if you do.

[Skittles]

14. you and your sister are both awesome

I advised a tall gal at work who despaired over her crummy dating life to drop her requirement that a guy be taller than her - she said it opened up her dating field so much wider and she is much happier

[southernyankeebelle]

15. That was great. Now that you mention that I remember my friend in high school

wanted to go on a double date. She decided to ask the girl that is another good friend she knew since elementary school. She had a date but he had a friend and she didn't meet him. Well when they came over she took my friend into another room and told her that there was no way she was going because he was to short for her and she didn't want to be seen with him. OMG my friend was so embrassed by it. She asked her father what should she do. He told her to call me. Well she did and we all went out and enjoyed ourselves. It wasn't a connection for either of us and I know he didn't want to let his friend down and I didn't want to let my friend down. We made the best of it. He was sooooooo cute but short. Of course I was heavy. But I wasn't looking to marry him either, LOL. My sister is my twin and I don't know what I would do without her. We live in different states but there isn't a day that goes by we don't talk. I hope your friend finds happiness. I did and I was almost 30 yrs old when I got married. There is hope when you least expect it. You just have to get out of that box.

[chervilant]

7. Indeed, this is why I've never

considered Alan Alda a "feminist."

[Triana]

13. You've also put it very well.

Well said, you.

I've watched this video numerous times. Always loved Dustin Hoffman. One of my favorite actors. Now, I've got another reason to love him. His insight and sensitivity not only as an actor, but as a person, which is what makes him such a great actor.

[Lifelong Protester]

5. That was pretty "wow!" for me

every time I see "Tootsie" the film, I think I see Dustin Hoffman as 'getting it'. Now, this interview, makes me see that he appears to have 'gotten it'.

[nomorenomore08]

8. I was kind of stunned that he got so emotional over it.

There's real regret, and maybe in a sense real pain, in what he says about himself there. Realizing his own flaws and limitations, recognizing the difficult of being "happy" with oneself. Very deep indeed.

[Merlot]

9. ...and thats why I love Dustin Hoffman.

[nomorenomore08]

10. I like the guy quite a bit myself - probably about to watch "Midnight Cowboy" tonight

(haven't seen it, before my time) on Netflix - and I do think it takes a certain amount of self-awareness, perhaps also empathy, to be an actor of his caliber. He shows a great deal of both in the OP.