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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsAny deaths of celebrities that oddly affected you?
I'm not talking about people who you were devoted fans of your entire life or you considered your personal hero from when you were a kid.
I'm talking about someone who may have been on the periphery of your interests, or you were just a casual fan, but after they passed, you felt it especially hard for some weird reason?
For me, it's Tom Petty. I didn't really start listening to his music until about 10 years ago, long after most of his best-known songs had been written and played to death. But he was always such a good person to listen to on long road trips, like a travel companion, and he had such a chill, gentle persona about him, that after he died last year, it really got to me. And honestly it still does. Maybe because I found him an oasis of calm in an increasingly crazy world.
Chipper Chat
(9,694 posts)I moped for days.
Chipper Chat
(9,694 posts)River Phoenix
samnsara
(17,640 posts)fierywoman
(7,696 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Mostly because it was so unexpected (at least I had no idea) but he was one of my favorite actors and I just wasn't ready for him to go so soon. I really thought he would grow old in films. I don't know why but his death just really shocked me.
lapfog_1
(29,227 posts)we were both born on the exact same day...
which I didn't know until the report of his death circulated.
True Dough
(17,331 posts)Even though he had been open about his struggle with addictions in the past, he just seemed to have found a good place -- at least from the outside.
IcyPeas
(21,910 posts)still haven't watched the latest series. I will.... eventually. such a unique man.
NeoGreen
(4,031 posts)...still bummed.
Upon edit:
Oh, and John Lennon.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)Granted ... he and Lebowski were ... pretty close ... so ...
Of the people that were actual 'heros' ... the most suck-filled deaths have been John & George & Jerry & Prince.
Blue_Tires
(55,445 posts)I was a huge fan of his work and he NEVER put in a bad performance...
Even in movies where he had a small role, when I saw his name on the poster credits I was MUCH more likely to see that movie sooner or later just from the bump in artistic "street cred" his name could grant to any film project...
Freddie
(9,275 posts)If such an accomplished, talented, highly intelligent person could OD like that, what hope did my son have? After 20 years clean was the really scary part. My boy is now clean 3 years and waiting to hear about his grad school application. But sometimes I still have that waiting for the other shoe to drop feeling.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)movie about two murderers he tried to save from hanging....damn if I can remember his name...I remember his high voice...
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)Doubt was excellent, too ... he was always great in everything ... fact.
He is missed.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)Now it all rushes back to me...
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,869 posts)He always seemed to be having such a good time; I was shocked to learn he'd committed suicide. I guess you never really know what's going on with people, but he seemed so joyful.
Blue_Tires
(55,445 posts)Like most everyone I thought he had defeated his personal demons once and for all...
dhill926
(16,364 posts)he was such a great portal into parts of the world most of us will never get to...
Sucha NastyWoman
(2,754 posts)How could not appreciate that? If I could design a perfect life that would be it. Yet it wasnt enough for him.
And he had a child who needed him. So did Kate Spade. so did my own father who committed sicide in hi early 30s when I was 8.
bif
(22,759 posts)I was in the middle of moving to a new place and couldnt keep away from the TV. Watching those boys walk behind their mothers casket was so sad.
Afromania
(2,771 posts)Because it was completely unexpected and how against the grain it seemed to be. It made me do some thinking about how we perceive, or rather don't perceive, the full picture about the mental health of others.
True Dough
(17,331 posts)how an individual who can bring so much laughter to the world can quietly be tormented inside. Such a tremendous loss.
zanana1
(6,129 posts)It happens sometimes to people with Parkinson's disease. It's the scary kind; people actually hallucinate and hear things that aren't there.
MontanaMama
(23,337 posts)I was always a fan but really fell for him when my kid began to follow him. We flew down to see him in concert at Red Rocks last summer...my kiddo was 12. So very glad we did. His loss still gets me once in a while.
Cracklin Charlie
(12,904 posts)I was spending a summer working in a National Park (no phone, teevee, or internet)and I didnt hear about his death until several months later.
It felt weird.
pnwest
(3,266 posts)Let me explain...
Robin Williams, such a complex and talented man. I grieve for all suicides equally, such a lonely and sad and heartbroken act.
David Letterman of course is not dead, but I grieved at the end of his show. Im a huge fan, I admire his intellect and wicked humor, and I ended my day falling asleep watching Letterman for his entire reign on late night. I miss Paul Shaffer and the extremely talented band equally.
Tommy_Carcetti
(43,199 posts)For a second, I thought there was breaking news of which I was not yet aware.
True Dough
(17,331 posts)I caught the one with President Obama and thoroughly enjoyed it.
pnwest
(3,266 posts)underpants
(182,911 posts)I saw it during a news check at work and was a floored. Sure they were in their later days as a band - they put out really really good stuff until the end - but it was like my youth just washed away.
I was a fan of Dave's going back to his daytime show and stand up before that.
mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)At least they went out on their terms, and put out something pretty great to say goodbye with. I remember being way bummed when I heard as well, I had the album already and was SOOOO hoping they'd tour it, I was gonna go, and then like a couple weeks later it was like 'BAM!'. And no farewell tour.
Had to spin 'Live at The Olympia' instead, lol ... Which is pretty killer, if you've not heard it, very worth checking out. Quite heavy on the IRS-years in the track selection.
Docreed2003
(16,878 posts)Crutchez_CuiBono
(7,725 posts)GemDigger
(4,305 posts)For some reason his death had me crying, hard.
Sanity Claws
(21,854 posts)I thought highly of his talent but it wasn't until after his death that I came to appreciate a fuller range of his talents and also appreciate what a kind person he seemed to be.
GemDigger
(4,305 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Something about him almost seemed immortal. I just didn't think he would go so soon. One of my favorite musical artists ever.
GemDigger
(4,305 posts)David Bowie on his Glass Spider tour at Foxboro. What an absolute talent that man was.
Quemado
(1,262 posts)RIP David Bowie
LisaM
(27,840 posts)I was quite shaken by it.
Kittycow
(2,396 posts)I never even watched Glee but his overdose death fresh out of rehab tore me apart.
steve2470
(37,457 posts)I always knew about him but never watched his shows, since I was too old to watch kids' shows by the time he started. I knew of his overall reputation and the really caustic feedback he got from his more macho critics.
He's the only celebrity death I ever cried over. I guess I identified with him somehow, and he seems like a very good man.
Blue_Tires
(55,445 posts)Since her teen years she struggled with addiction, her sexual orientation, and she was surrounded by an absolutely trash assortment of no-account parasite family members...
And to make things worse, she was given *NO* dignity whatsoever in death from TMZ and the rest of the celeb humpers who had to analyze and moralize over every minute detail of her autopsy ad nauseam.
Yes, I know it's an apples and oranges comparison, but Whitney deserved a sendoff much more like Carrie Fisher got.
mithnanthy
(1,725 posts)She was unique.
yellowdogintexas
(22,274 posts)I think because he grew up right in front of us, then became the singing idol. Part of my childhood and teen years
Chipper Chat
(9,694 posts)When I heard on the radio his plane had crashed. I was so distraught I turned around and went back home to Dallas.
mithnanthy
(1,725 posts)I had many pictures of him and recordings. He was adorable! One of my favorite teen-age crushes.
Cartoonist
(7,323 posts)I thought he was in the midst of a re-energized career when he died.
GoneOffShore
(17,341 posts)His death, for me, was just slightly less shocking than Sept 11.
Glimmer of Hope
(5,823 posts)His shows.
Iggo
(47,571 posts)That one broke my brain.
unblock
(52,332 posts)of course i had a few beatles' albums, but mccartney had the big hits so i was more into paul in terms of the post-beatles careers.
but some friends explained to me that paul was sappy and poppy, but john was more cerebral and political and sincere.
so i checked it out and started really getting into it literally just a couple weeks before he was shot.
i remember hearing that he had been shot status unknown, then running upstairs to tell my parents and turning on their tv just as they were announcing that he had actually died. i literally rolled backward and laid flat on the floor, blown away.
and my parents, of course, said, "so who is this person then?"
SKKY
(11,824 posts)...because I met him and got to experience his genius in person.
Runningdawg
(4,522 posts)At first I didn't understand what had happened but it was only minutes until other people joined the crowd who KNEW. The sound of several dozen people screaming and wailing, standing in the snow, will never leave me.
malchickiwick
(1,474 posts)Everything and everybody changed that November day in 1963, and then again twice in 1968 and nothing has ever been the same since.
What might have been...
Thunderbeast
(3,420 posts)The only time I ever saw my father cry.
Interestingly, a recent Doctor Who episode told a sci-fi time travel story featuring Dr. King and Rosa Parks.
redstatebluegirl
(12,265 posts)It haunted me for days. I have a family member who has suffered from depression for many years I think that has something to do with it.
Leith
(7,813 posts)He was just a couple weeks older than me.
Tupac Shakur because I was just a couple blocks away when it happened. I heard about it a couple hours later.
Pope George Ringo II
(1,896 posts)When Isaac Asimov died in 1992 I was really affected at the time, but that's not what you were really asking. Years later, I found out he had died from HIV acquired in a transfusion during heart surgery in 1983. He died about the same time Arthur Ashe went public with HIV, and the family decided to keep quiet about it due to the controversy Ashe was going through. They went public over a decade later, and I found out about it a few years after that.
All those years later, it really let me get a more modern perspective on the shame and fear which used to be associated with HIV, and I was surprised by how hard that hit me. Not exactly what you're asking, but how it affected me was fairly odd.
Dave in VA
(2,039 posts)For me it would be Cass Elliott (Momma Cass), Jimmie Hendricks, John Lennon, Janis Joplin. So many great ones that are gone, but these had a big impact on me emotionally.
Laffy Kat
(16,386 posts)He used to make me really, really mad, yet I still miss his voice. I think of him every December 15th. I rarely remember death anniversaries.
Floyd R. Turbo
(26,633 posts)More than anything the conversation he had with ? just before he died. Creeped me out as, like him, I grew up in the Pentecostal church.
Merlot
(9,696 posts)Tikki
(14,559 posts)I have always wondered how Jimi Hendrix and Ritchie Valens futures would have unfolded.
I cried when Tom Petty died. Living where he did and his moving to So Cal about the same time we moved into this property..he kind of seemed like a home boy.
Tikki
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kimbutgar
(21,211 posts)I was so upset it was hard for me to teach that day.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,219 posts)I felt the same way about Tom Petty.
Va Lefty
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I was depressed for weeks after Williams committed suicide. Strangely, I was sadder when Johnny went off the air than when he actually passed. Truly the end of an era.
Crutchez_CuiBono
(7,725 posts)Dr Vegas
(456 posts)I cry every time I watch his last Letterman.
"Enjoy every Sandwich"
He told Letterman:
You put more value on every minute...You know I always kinda thought I did that. I really always enjoyed myself. But its more valuable now. Youre reminded to enjoy every sandwich and every minute."
flibbitygiblets
(7,220 posts)The words of so many of his songs, particularly Bohemian Rhapsody. That voice, the passion and angst. What a tragic loss.
N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,782 posts)MaryMagdaline
(6,856 posts)Jackie Onassis
Sean because he was in the prime of life. Expected him to live. It really ripped through me when he was shot.
Jackie because she was someone there from the time I was a child.
madamesilverspurs
(15,809 posts)Thunderbeast
(3,420 posts)A great song writer taken too young.
underpants
(182,911 posts)I am my friends (two from out of town) were sitting at the same table about a year apart when we learned that Cobain and dead and then Jerry Garcia. The next time we were all in there the running joke was "Who's dying this time?"
Mike Nelson
(9,969 posts)
Petty a lot, so that doesn't answer your question. I also liked a lot of the people mentioned above... The two that came to mind, first, were Elvis Presley and Greta Garbo. I had heard of them, but only really became interested in their work after they died. Their deaths were the lead story on the news and I watched the tributes and thought... well, they were pretty good, much more timeless and less old-fashioned than my opinion at the time they died. Now, I still look at art from people no longer around... but those were two that got my attention.
Raven123
(4,875 posts)zanana1
(6,129 posts)When I listen to it. I wonder how his music would have evolved with time.
Crutchez_CuiBono
(7,725 posts)Life changed.
FM123
(10,054 posts)mitch96
(13,926 posts)Actually cried when I heard Harrison died.. I grew up listening to the Beatles and that one hurt.
Bourdain for sure was a shocker and had me thinking for a month or so.. Came out the other end thinking he was kind of a hypocrite.. Extolling how much he loved his daughter and then dropping this life changing bullshit on her.. I hope she deals with it ok... He was sick and vulnerable..
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Freddie
(9,275 posts)Im a huge (obsessive?) fan of Paul, the Beatles stuff of course but also his vast post-Beatles catalog; I feel like I know him in a way. They had a rare, truly happy marriage of soulmates. All the money, fame and talent in the world couldnt get him the one thing he wanted, to grow old with his wife.
Cartoonist
(7,323 posts)At the height of his career.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,219 posts)I had so much hope that he would continue the Kennedy legacy. Intelligent, handsome, beautiful wife - he had it all.
Niagara
(7,675 posts)that stand out because of their charitable and humanitarian efforts.
Princess Diana, Paul Walker, David Bowie, Prince and Chester Bennington along with Linkin Park.
TexasBushwhacker
(20,219 posts)He had just been on the Motown 25 special the year before, and his performance was GLORIOUS!
Moostache
(9,897 posts)Still in mild shock over his untimely end...
PufPuf23
(8,840 posts)Frank passed on early, age 53. Several important people in my life also passed on age 53. The year I turned age 53 two friends passed away unexpectedly. One was my best friend at a boarding school we attended in 8th and 9th grade (66-68) and we became life long friends who lived together in my house the year we turned 40 (93) as he went through a divorce and I was also between marriages. The 2nd friend that passed on in 2006 had Parkinsons disease and drowned. He was my roommate my first year at a second boarding school we attended 68-70, 10th and 11th grade. He turned me on to Frank Zappa and also he and his mother, a prominent Democrat, played a major role in my life identification as an anti-war Democrat. I also had illness in 2006 and was close to believing that my time was also short, but here I am still alive today granted a lymphoma survivor.
Glorfindel
(9,736 posts)he was in better than it would have been otherwise. Also Lord Mountbatten of Burma, Prince Philip's uncle and the last Viceroy and first Governor-General of India. Both of those definitely fit your category of "on the periphery of your interests, or you were just a casual fan, but after they passed, you felt it especially hard for some weird reason?"
And when I was a kid, the Big Bopper. Very sad.
What an interesting question, Tommy_Carcetti, and what fascinating answers it has provoked. Thank you!
TexasBushwhacker
(20,219 posts)Starring in smaller films and supporting roles in big films, he never had to deal with the paparazzi craziness. I was very sad when I heard of his death.
Merlot
(9,696 posts)Wasn't really a big Heath Ledger fan until I saw the modern version of "Taming of the Shrew" and then felt such sadness to hear he died so young. He would have become one of the great actors as he aged.
woodsprite
(11,927 posts)I was just starting to appreciate their talent, then they were gone. Such a shame.
One who I considered a celebrity was fitness trainer aTeresa Tapp. Very insightful and down to earth person. She had quite a following. Just passed away a short while ago in her 60s from cancer that had metastasized to her liver. It was fast and a definite blow. I felt like I lost a friend.
blue neen
(12,328 posts)I was still a teenager, and we were getting ready to celebrate New Year's Eve with the family. The news came on that Roberto's plane was missing, and everyone just became numb. (We're from the Pittsburgh area, so we had the crash news early on).
The plane was to deliver supplies to earthquake victims in Nicaragua. Roberto died helping people less fortunate than he was. He was only 38 years old. RIP.
Stargleamer
(1,990 posts)Dave Starsky
(5,914 posts)I enjoyed his comedy and dramatic work. He also genuinely seemed like an all-around decent and friendly guy. And then he died suddenly, of a freak heart ailment. Way too young.
Tikki
(14,559 posts)Did you know he had cult status throughout the World?
Friends and people we have met from all over told us he was the greatest physical comedian.
That smile. He is truly missed.
Tikki
Dave Starsky
(5,914 posts)I always thought he was, genuinely, funny as hell. He was a master of slapstick, but he was also an amazing dramatic actor. Sling Blade is one of my all-time favorite movies. He is terrific in it.
I think that what affected me most about his death is that not only was he a good actor, but he also seemed like he was a genuinely nice guy. You can't fake that. I think that quality made him a better actor, because it instantly made any character he played more relatable.
Glad to see another John Ritter fan on this board.
GeorgeGist
(25,323 posts)A rising star snuffed out in an LA minute. He was younger than I.
... according to his friend David Brenner, Prinze originally wanted to be known as the king of comedy, but since Alan King already had that last name and sobriquet, he would be the prince of comedy instead.
RobinA
(9,894 posts)Coolest actor ever. Liked him since Stand By Me, saw everything he ever did. He could do more with just his hair than most actors could with their whole bodies. Should have won an Oscar for Running on Empty, but didn't because he was young and "he has more time." It seemed so true at the time.
Phillip Seymour Hoffman. He died right after a good friend died, incidentally the friend that I saw most of his movies with. They even looked similar. Him dying was just all wrong somehow. Right after he died a movie of his came out, I don't remember the name of it, it took place Hamburg and was a spy story. At the end of the movie a plan went horribly south and Hoffman jumps out of his car and starts screaming "Fuck" at the top of his voice. That's the way I felt about my friend dying and I can see Hoffman reacting that way to his own death by misadventure.
Michael Jackson. Jackson was my age and I came of age with him. His music just transcends age, gender, color...like no other music. Who isn't familiar with every note of at least some of his hits? But his whole life was just not right at all and it went downhill from there. In the end, here's a guy that has to use anesthesia to get some temporary (in the end, permanent) relief from his existence. I was working out after work when I heard on the news he was taken to the hospital, and I said to myself, He's dead, and I never even questioned my gut reaction.
JFK Jr. If I were ever going to believe in curses I would believe this family had one. I was there when he saluted his dead father and I was listening on the radio when they pronounced his plane missing. I felt very sorry for this guy his whole life, having to live up to a father who died young and famous and left a good looking corpse. A guy who, had he lived, would probably have been just another ex-President. But he became mythical and Jr. had to live with it.
Mendocino
(7,511 posts)Not well known, Clarence was active in the bluegrass community. A gifted guitarist, played with the later day Byrds. He was killed in 1973 by a drunk driver while packing up at gig. He was 29.
luvs2sing
(2,220 posts)I absolutely despised his music when he first came out. It wasnt till MTV and his interesting videos that I paid any attention to him and begrudgingly admitted those were some good songs. I never saw him live, never bought a record, but invariably, if a song came on the radio and I cranked it way up, it was a Tom Petty song. I felt gutted for days after his death.
A month or so ago, Hubster and I went to the Sweethearts of the Rodeo 50th anniversary concert with Chris Hillman, Roger McGuinn, and Marty Stuart and The Fabulous Superlatives. It was one of the best shows Ive ever seen. The encore was a heartfelt 30-minute tribute to Tom Petty, on the first anniversary of his passing. There were a lot of wet eyes in that auditorium, including mine.
Hekate
(90,837 posts)I am not a "Royals follower" and I was a lot older when she died than I was in the 1960s, and not as impressionable. But there was something about Diana that really struck me when she died. I was in the midst of writing term papers, so was up at all kinds of ungodly hours here in California, which meant when I went out to the kitchen to make more coffee I could turn on CNN and see the drama unfold in England.
Ultimately, one of the things that really touched me, aside from how much she loved her boys and they loved her, was her personal character. She could have chosen to be nothing more than a beautiful jet-setter after her divorce, but she was sincere in her desire to do some good in the world. She was no Mother Theresa, because fate (or the gods or whatever) had not given her that task. She used the gifts she had -- beauty and charm and celebrity -- to bring the world's attention to children with AIDS and similar causes -- despite her insecurities and her belief that she was not all that intelligent ("I'm thick as a brick," she once said). She was not afraid to hold children with deadly and incurable diseases, nor did she shrink from walking up to a mine field where children routinely lost limbs.
The Royals don't bother me one way or another -- but I noticed Diana's development into an independent person, and surprised my old self by grieving her death. I was surprised at the huge outpouring of public sentiment in Britain, and mildly amused that the Royal Family was caught completely off guard by it, just gobsmacked.
I think the whole Diana experience probably did them a lot of good, in the end. Hah! And now they have two "commoners" married to Diana's sons -- Kate, whose parents were self-made millionaires and nowhere in the nobility, and Meghan, the American actress. They married for love, unlike their unfortunate father Charles, who loved Camilla from his youth and was not allowed to marry her. I think Diana would approve.
Samhain Beltane
(18 posts)The young American girl who gained fame from writing a letter to Yuri Andropov. Tragically, the outgrowth of that fame led directly to her death in a plane crash.
DiverDave
(4,887 posts)I felt oddly disconected for days. Shock and sadness, I guess.
Such a good person, such a talent.
ooky
(8,930 posts)I think I felt a piece of me go with each of these guys. Grew up pretty heavily into all their music. The Allman Brothers are probably my all time favorite band though. Loved going to their shows at The Beacon.