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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsHad to put down my dog of 15 years tonight
Honestly I can't stop crying. Was there when they injected him and just like that I was relieved his pain was gone. No more arthritis, no more cognitive dysfunction, or anything. But still I couldn't leave. I stood there just leaning over him not wanting to leave him behind. I can safely say I hate myself so much for letting him suffer for so long because I was scared to let go. I won't forgive myself for that for a long time.
Til we meet again Snickers. Love you boy and thank you
dem4decades
(11,288 posts)Good luck.
Gothmog
(145,176 posts)KT2000
(20,577 posts)to do and we never know when the right time is. That is universal vercetti2021. I am pretty sure we all wait too long. Please do not be hard on yourself. For Snickers you did that most difficult thing even though it breaks our hearts. Peace to you. Rest in Peace Snickers
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Just him lying his head down and sleeping. I can't stop thinking about it
KT2000
(20,577 posts)he was at peace and your heart is broken to lose him. You did what was best for him and you were brave for him. That memory will fade and in time you will talk to friends about him again - the fun and funny stuff. It will just take time. Let yourself grieve - they lived in our hearts and that is a big loss. Later, your memories though will be the good times.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)My friend uninvited me to her daughter's party because how emotionally wrecked I am
KT2000
(20,577 posts)Grieving takes time and you have to give it that time - all that you need. It is not wrong to do that, in fact it is necessary. If you had gone to the party, you would have felt even worse because it is impossible to be happy and joyful in grief. This is like a wound in that it heals at its own pace and while you are doing that, all those things that Snickers meant to you are settling in. Peace.
And by the way - we all feel guilty when we lose such friends because we can never match their pure love - we're just people.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I agree with you. I tried going to Walmart last night and I saw the dog supplies and I instantly started to cry in front of her like crazy. I had to go outside and wait. Today is even worse
KT2000
(20,577 posts)when my cat died, or rather I had to have her put down because she was so ill - I give you permission to lay on the couch and cry as long as you need. A good friend, huh?
My work gave me grievance leave for a week because I went nuclear on my supervisor that night. He said it's just a dog because I was gonna take off Saturday. I went AWOL
KT2000
(20,577 posts)Your co-worker is missing a few chips in the brain. Too bad for the co-worker to not have that kind of love in their life. Even though it hurts now, you know the good side of that love. Peace.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I kinda clapped back saying just because no one cares for him doesn't mean he's gotta bring me down further. Safe to say my boss called and understood what I was going through. So next Monday I gotta report to his office about moving positions at work that suit me better
KT2000
(20,577 posts)that worked out in the long run. Here's hoping for much nicer coworkers for you!
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Hoping a desk job away from people at this time
KT2000
(20,577 posts)to see how you are doing - hope things are getting better for you.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Got his ashes back today
KT2000
(20,577 posts)it helps. At least it did for me, wishing the same for you.
Scotch-Irish
(464 posts)to stop his pain. He only had a few days to live, but he was so miserable, and in terrible pain.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Laffy Kat
(16,377 posts)Hugs to you and your family.
Skittles
(153,160 posts)I know it's hard, it's the price of love
Grieve not,
nor speak of me with tears,
but laugh and talk of me
as if I were beside you -
I loved you so -
'twas Heaven here with you
~Isla Paschal Richardson
kanda
(175 posts)My heart breaks for you. Fur babies are the best. Unconditional love. Know that Snickers loved you as much as you loved him. RIP Snickers. And sending cyber hugs to you, vercetti2021.
emmaverybo
(8,144 posts)Sometimes we really cant stop that bond. We cant and maybe a force, call it love, beyond us wont let us and maybe it just isnt the time yet. I see a beautiful boy so well taken care of in this picture. Think of all you did for him, all you both were to each other, and not just what you feel you
didnt do. That will stand out for now because when we are powerless over loss we start blaming ourselves for something done or not done. That is part of the grief and the desire to still protect.
You would not be so severe with yourself if you were not so loving and empathetic. Your beloved knew that love and tending. You have enough heart ache. He would tell you that you dont deserve
more for having wanted more time. It wasnt just selfish.
May you find comfort.
Rhiannon12866
(205,320 posts)I really do know that panicked and terrible feeling. The only thing I can say is just to remember how very fortunate that Snickers was to have had you.
FirstLight
(13,360 posts)My puppy wafflez is approaching older age, we don't know for sure how old she was when she came to us...but I recently realized it's been 8 or 10 years
...
I have had to watch a few kitty's pass on and I cant fathom the loss of my girl...they mean so much and give so much...
Hugs and I hope you can grieve knowing your furbaby l9ves you no matter what...thats why they are so special 😚
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)No matter where I go in my house. I see toys, his water bowl. Its just replaying from the moment of injection to him finally passing on. Its messing my head really bad
rwsanders
(2,598 posts)Been through that with my families first dog.
Had no other dog until I was married and she died in our bed.
Now I've spent 8 years dreading the future as we've watched our baby get older. We don't know how well manage this time.
Don't carry that burden, he wouldn't want it. He was there for you as much as you were for him.
ZZenith
(4,122 posts)I always console myself that its better to outlive them than to die first and have them think weve abandoned them. Snickers knew the score, and understood you were trying to help him enjoy your company for as long as possible.
CottonBear
(21,596 posts)It is OK to be sad. But, know that your love for Snickers and Snickers love will live on in you.
pazzyanne
(6,552 posts)A peaceful crossing of the Rainbow Bridge for you, Snickers.
You were much loved in life, and will be remembered until you meet your loved ones across the bridge!
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)He'll be with my first dog. Hopefully I'll see them again soon
True Dough
(17,304 posts)Hang around with us for a long time to come!
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I likely will
StarryNite
(9,444 posts)Such a beautiful boy. Don't think for a minute that he's not still with you, because he is.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)A spirit. Just off and on crying wishing this wasn't the day.
LibDemAlways
(15,139 posts)in turn, was a loyal companion of many years. Letting go is heartbreaking, I know, but take comfort that you ended his earthly suffering. He will live on in your memories and will always hold a special place in your heart. ❤️
videohead5
(2,172 posts)I had to have mine put down in April. He was 17.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Lucky us our dogs outlived the standard
videohead5
(2,172 posts)The thing that got me even though you know they are gone you keep thinking they are there out of habit.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I keep going into the living room and looking to the couch. I always think he'll be there.
Granny M
(1,395 posts)I understand what you're going through. I felt the same pain when we said goodbye to our beloved Sam. I held on too long, as well, and felt so guilty. And I couldn't stop crying, as well. But what comforted me, and I hope you, too, was knowing we gave him a great life for 15 years, we loved him, and he loved us, and we did the best we could for him.
May your good memories of your beloved Snickers bring you peace and comfort.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)From the time we found him until now. We did everything right. From the destruction of pillows, shoes, remotes to his final night. I won't regret going to the park that late night in December of 2004.
Roy Rolling
(6,917 posts)Such a sweet baby, he relied on you to do the right thing and it hurts.
Why? Because you are a loving person. If you were an asshole you wouldnt feel a thing.
Thats what Snickers will remember, and over time, your tears of grief become tears of laughter.
It just takes time, and today is the hardest. God bless and may the natural difficulties become a lighter burden. And dont worry about tomorrow, today has enough sh*t to deal with!
But again, your burdens are only heavy now because you arent an a**hole. Wear it as a badge of honor and the basis of your love with Snickers.
😁😁
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I needed that right now. I just keep crying off and on and I'm a mess. I keep hoping I will walk into the living room and he'll be there like always
diva77
(7,640 posts)Please don't be so hard on yourself - I'm sure you gave Snickers the best life any dog could hope for and even at the end, he knew he was loved - and that probably greatly eased whatever pain he had. Take care, celebrate his life -- that's what he would want
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I couldn't leave him there but I didnt have a choice in the matter. They would take him out the country to bury him.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)kysrsoze
(6,019 posts)It gets a little bit easier each day.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Everytime I go into the living room part of me hopes hes just on the couch sleeping
MFM008
(19,808 posts)🐶💔🌹
TEB
(12,842 posts)Doodley
(9,088 posts)democratisphere
(17,235 posts)Forgive yourself. Snickers has. So sorry for the loss of your best friend and family member.
proud patriot
(100,705 posts)was going to post below but you said it so well
samnsara
(17,622 posts)...to the Bridge. Hardest thing ever ..We found a vet who came to the home on a Sunday afternoon. Your Snickers and my Cooper are no doubt chasing something. The wonderful pets are really Angels....
Godspeed sweet Snickers...what a GOOD boy you are! (((hugs)))
True Dough
(17,304 posts)I'm sorry for your loss, vercetti. You gave Snickers comfort right until the very end. There's nothing more he could have asked for.
My wife and I have a 7-year-old German shepherd/mastiff cross. He's a big boy, almost 110 pounds. He has chronic joint issues but he's still mobile. We have him on CBD oil and occasional anti-inflammatories.
But the day will come -- and I hate to think about it -- when we have to take him to the vet for the final time. If we're lucky, he'll maintain his quality of life for another three or four years. Being such a large mixed breed with a bad hip and two front legs that are severely arthritic, we can't expect much more than that.
We went through the farewell with our female German shepherd/husky cross several years ago. The veterinarian was kind enough to allow us to stay in the room with her as long as we wanted after he administered the final needle. My wife and I spent almost 40 minutes wailing like babies (luckily the vet had multiple examining rooms for pets). We still had tears streaming on occasion throughout the rest of the day and we still think fondly of her.
All those years of loyalty they give us. The smiles and laughs, the warmth, the exercise, periodic frustrations too, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. It's just so difficult when it comes to an end.
My condolences.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)While you still have him. Hug on him and love him to death
True Dough
(17,304 posts)without fail. I have the dried drool marks to prove it (his drool, not mine)!
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Hug him for me
brer cat
(24,562 posts)It's heartbreaking even though we know it is the best for them.
Stuart G
(38,421 posts)sinkingfeeling
(51,454 posts)to hide his pain to stay with you longer.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)But last night his pain was too overwhelming
Fla Dem
(23,658 posts)Snickers had a loving 15 years with you. You gave him much joy as he also gave it to you unconditionally. You will cry and get choked up for a while as you remember things, see photos, see his playthings, talk about him. He'll always have a big place in your heart. He'll never leave you.
murielm99
(30,736 posts)I know it hurts. They leave us too soon.
Bayard
(22,063 posts)You did the right thing, and kept him comfortable as long as you could. He knew you loved him. Especially at the end, when the last thing he saw was your face.
musicman65
(524 posts)about 10 years ago,and will never get over it.
since then we have a 5 year old german shepherd,and knowing someday will face this again.
However,the time we do spend with our family member ( not pet ) is a true blessing and do most everything together.
Would not have it any other way.
Take comfort in knowing that you did the right thing and do not beat yourself up.
Stay strong,he is watching over you,,,Peace and Love
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Please please cherish him or her to death
Hotler
(11,421 posts)Niagara
(7,605 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)He looks like such a sweet little boy. It is so heartbreaking to let go of our four-legged angels, for some of us, they are our best friends. RIP, dear Snickers
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Well later in life. Man he was a hellhound at first though.
a kennedy
(29,658 posts)He had a great full life, he was so happy you were his owner and friend.
kozar
(2,109 posts)One of the worst days a pet owner can go through. We have been through it numerous times with older fur babies. Luckily, we have a vet who told us when we were at our darkest pet day,, " all your pets have outlived life span,,you are good parents,,never stop" I hope you can find comfort in that statement,as we have.
Fullest sympathy,
Koz
wendyb-NC
(3,326 posts)He loved you no matter what, and you did the same. R.I.P. dear Snickers.
Vercetti2021, go easy on yourself. You are his hero, you gave him the best life. You loved him and, he knew it.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)We did
BlueDawn
(892 posts)Dearest Vercetti,
I sit here in tears just putting myself in your shoes. What a hard thing to do, a terribly hard thing to do. What a precious pet and member of your family.
I have been there and it hurts....and I still hurt over a year later. I miss my little fur-girl. I can't blame you one bit, and would never sit in judgment, that you kept your beloved with you as long as you possibly could. I hope that you aren't too hard on yourself for that, Vercetti. It is just so very, very hard to let a loved one go.
The name "Snickers' is just adorable and I love it.
I have a soft heart and I am sure that I will thinking about you for days, so every time I do I will send you my best vibes and warmest love and hope they manage to float through the airwaves and somehow touch your heart. Sounds corny, I know....but I often am struck by a thought or feeling "out of the blue" and I like to believe at those times that someone "out there" is thinking of me. Maybe....just maybe.
Thank you for sharing this. It means a lot to people like me who love animals and have been changed for the better by our furry family members.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)This morning I didn't care about costs. I wanted him home with me. So this place locally is going to cremate him for me and put his ashes into a special box. Gonna put him by my grandfather's flag. I know deep down my grandfather is taking care of my past buddies.
NewDayOranges
(692 posts)SMILE because it happened...
I hope you soon will be able to remember Snickers without tears...
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Hes gonna go next to my grandfather's flag. I know he will take care of him until I die
sellitman
(11,606 posts)Black Lab of 15 years. It's a good ride. 15 years for them unfortunately is a lifetime. I think a buddy and every day. You did the right thing. Nobody anything can say will take away you're hurt but remember he would want you you only remember the good times.
zackymilly
(2,375 posts)We had 3 rescues, and they are all gone now, but we have their ashes in urns, along with cast paw prints, tufts of fur, and their collars.
All 3 were held in our arms when they went to sleep.
Shadow--17 years
Buddy--16 years
Jake--14 years
I didn't think I wanted any more furry friends for a while, but our big house and fenced-in land was so empty.
Last month, we adopted Niko, a 7-month old Dalmatian/Border Collie mix. Beautiful puppy.
We are still sad, but celebrate the great lives our boys had. We spared no expense for their health and comfort.
Just remember: Your precious loved one would never have had a better life than the one you gave him.
Please adopt again. There are so many dogs out there that need you as much as you need them.
Don't feel guilty. Our Shadow, a 65 pound Lab/Chow mix could barely walk towards the end. I would pick him up to take him outside and then bring him back in. I would hand feed him cuts of fresh beef, chicken and pork during his last days. I knew we should have taken him earlier, but I feel he understood and wanted to stay as long as he could with us too.
Take care, and know that I am hurting right along with you.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Thank you for sharing the greatness of your three puppers. Similar to what we did for Snickers. Carried him inside and out, hand fed him fresh steak and chicken. But God knows that I knew what he was going through.
Tikki
(14,557 posts)What a sweet baby face Snickers has in the photo.
We never forget or let go. We find a place in our heart
for the memories to rest.
Tikki
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Hellhound to baby essentially
MustLoveBeagles
(11,599 posts)Don't be too hard on yourself. It can be difficult to let go and I bet Snickers didn't hold it against you. Speaking from experience, the pain does get easier with time. He was handsome boy. You were lucky to have him.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Just stumbled across him one night at the park in the winter. No collar or anything
catbyte
(34,377 posts)There are tears in Michigan for your beautiful Snickers. The only time our furry ones are ever capable of breaking our hearts is when it's time for them to leave us.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)Today is worse than yesterday. Not sure how my step dad is gonna make it through this. Hes very heartbroken
FM123
(10,053 posts)I too had to put down my babydog at 15 last year, it was soulcrushing. I know that there are no words that I can give you to make this bettter, just please remember that we are here for you at DU.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I feel better knowing that people here do care
nancy1942
(635 posts)I'm facing having to put my little companion to sleep soon and I can barely face the reality of actually doing it. It hurts every bit as much as the pain of losing a family member; probably because they really are a part of the family.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I wish the best and prayers for you when that time comes. Please cherish your pupper now and every day.
Gothmog
(145,176 posts)My friend was 15. He was still alert but was unable to walk at the end. My two children who were in town said goodbye in person before I took him to the Vet. I flew my middle child down from law school in Iowa to say goodbye. I picked her up at the airport and we drove straight to the vet's office. The vet carried my friend into to the room and he recognize my daughter and put his head in her lap. We were there when they gave him the shot and stayed until he fell asleep.
Saying goodbye to a family member is hard
I am sorry for your loss
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)I wish snickers was aware. But his dementia was so bad he didnt know what was happening. Just happy hes okay now. They need us all the way until the end. Yall did the best thing and came to see her off to the next life
Gothmog
(145,176 posts)I am again so sorry for your loss.
It has been five years and I just got another bearded colie puppy. It took my five years to feel that I could do this again.
vercetti2021
(10,156 posts)My step dad wants to get another. I said wait a few years. We'll get two this time so they can have each other