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I am starting to think that I need to give up social media in order to stay sane. If we were handling the virus "properly", I would cheer each small victory and have real hope. But when I hear about the price gouging and the panic shopping and the way that some people are determined to profit from this situation - and how Trump is permitting it - I am so enraged, it spikes my blood pressure.
So, what are YOU doing?
Maeve
(42,282 posts)Watching Prime and Netflix and Sling....
Step away for a day or two and see if that helps. We'll be here when you come back
northoftheborder
(7,572 posts)doing some much needed household organization, binging on Netflix, talking on phone and texting friends and family. Have never participated in "social media". Being grateful for what I have in comparison to so many brings peace. Resting.
ailsagirl
(22,896 posts)My cousin insists on immersing himself in the news-- he even listens to dump's daily shot of drivel. And he's terrified.
Little wonder
dweller
(23,629 posts)just to observe the trees and flowers in bloom, stayed in my car and took a route
i used to travel daily to work, some hiway some residential... lots of signs of spring and life, color at the time before sundown, very little traffic anywhere...
on the way home spotted a sign in the middle of the hiway about the size of a typical political candidate sign (which are all gone now, so this one stood out)
it was bright yellow, with 3 simple scripted black words
don't give up
made the trip worth it x1000
✌🏼
ailsagirl
(22,896 posts)hlthe2b
(102,237 posts)some older tv shows--especially British tv. If you have a ROKU, the ROKU channel has lots of freebie content--some really good.
Right now, I am re-watching Doc Martin. I remember watching those shows a long time ago, but usually while doing other things, so watching is a lot like the first time. Funny characters, beautiful scenery and the medical issues always tend to be readily treated.
Getting outdoors is so darned important to me, though. Our most recent snow melted this morning and it is pretty nice now.
Jamastiene
(38,187 posts)Lots of them. I play one after the other. I check in at DU a couple times a day, check in on my friends (good ones) on FB a couple times a day, then back to the video games.
Cleaning the house little bits at the time is helping a little bit too, but there is more time to think doing that, so by itself, it is not effective at all. That is why the video games. When my arms get tired, I watch other people play video games on YouTube and Twitch. Video games. I'm enjoying them while I still got them. Steam is offering Tomb Raider and one of the sequels to Tomb Raider, the one with Osiris in the title, for FREE, but not for long. It's worth going ahead and grabbing the freebies.
Other than that, I stop and play with the cats, mindlessly, and just do silly baby talk to them, then watch them run around the house like lunatics, meowing and cutting up. They seem to like the silly baby talk a lot.
Plus, I am in the process of planning and starting my garden. That'll be fun. Then, I can do silly baby talk to the neighbors' pets too. Sooner or later, I will have all of the animals in the neighborhood loving me and keeping me busy, wanting attention.
It's a bit easier to forget Trump and the Republicans even exist doing all that, until one of my shitty redneck neighbors starts shooting again, practicing killing women and gays. I actually had one of them tell me that, specifically, one time. That is what they are practicing to do, something about open season on us. It's not pretty. So, I've had years to try to take my mind off the miserable pieces of shit that surround me. I love their pets, but they can go fuck themselves.
Keep busy with things that keep your MIND busy. That's the trick. Still do some other stuff, but if you notice yourself thinking about it, stop doing that and do something mindless that will take your mind off it again. You can't let them stay in your head. They are not paying rent to live there. Don't let the freeloaders in there when you notice them trying to sneak into your thoughts.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,683 posts)explaining how they are cracking down on profiteers and price gougers:
Let me be clear: most retailers that sell essential items are stepping up to do right by people right now, and I thank them. The order protects from profiteering by their competitors. It also doesnt apply to retailers who had to raise prices on essential goods and services for reasons beyond their control. But there are some bad actors who are taking advantage of people to line their pockets. My office is already investigating some of them. I hope we dont have to use this power. We want people to comply. The point isnt to file lawsuits. Its to help people afford their lives in this emergency. Its to help people afford to stay alive.
A lot of that activity can and should be controlled by the states. If it isn't, get in touch with your state AG.
Knowing this is being done does make me feel better. I stay relatively sane by avoiding Facebook and listening to classical music on the radio.
qwlauren35
(6,148 posts)Governors are stepping up because Trump won't/can't.
The price gouging that's bothering me is the price of COVID-19 test kits, swabs, masks, and other hospital necessities. Trump is encouraging it. Free market, supply and demand, etc.
It's bigger than individual activity, and it's not something a state can control.
Everything I'm hearing about the man in the White House is enraging me.
I should go find some jokes.
Aquaria
(1,076 posts)Understand where people are coming from, as far as the hoarding. Most people are control freaks, but a disaster takes away all of their control. It scares them to death, yes, but it also threatens their sense of control over their lives. They can't tell a disaster what to do or where to go or to stay away or lock it out, or any of that. So they take control in what way they can: They find something they can control. Buying lots of TP makes them feel like they're at least in charge of THIS.
As for the worry about the virus: My mother got a great lesson in how you sort of have to roll with a disaster, and not let it get to you. She came to visit me when I lived in the Bay Area, about six months after Loma Prieta. And of course, early the first morning she was there, we had a little tumbler. Not much to worry about, maybe a 4.2. I didn't panic. I went to my toddler son's room right off and said to him, in a calm voice, "Earthquake!" He scrambled out of bed and went to the doorway to stand under it, like I'd taught him. Poor little guy may not have been sure how he got there, but there he was, with massive bedhead and barely open eyes. Told him to stay there until I got him, let me check on Grandmommy.
My mother was in the living room having coffee when we got a little aftershock.
"Is someone walking on the roof?"
"No, we're having an earthquake. You need to--"
At the very sound of the word, "Earthquake," my CRNA (anesthetist) mom lost it. "OMG, turn on the TV--Turn on the radio! People must be hurt! Dying! I need to find out if they need my help--I'll go to whatever hospital needs me most!"
"Mom, calm down. This is nothing. You can barely feel it."
"You don't know that! Find out what's going on!"
So I turn on the radio, and, what do we hear? Well, of course the DJs assured listeners the quake was small, nothing to worry about, to reassure listeners that they didn't need to panic. Then they opened up the phone lines for listeners to share their earthquake stories. Which is when Californians did what they always do after a baby tumbler: Laugh it off. Because the quake hit in the morning, several callers had some variation of, "I was on the can, man!" Or "My wife and I were doing it, and then the earth really did move!" And other crazy stuff like that.
My mother's eyes bulged, and she cried, "They're LAUGHING at this! How can they LAUGH at a time like this?"
"Because it's obviously not a serious earthquake, and they're relieved that it's not. They're letting go of their initial fear by laughing at it."
It took her about an hour to calm down and realize--you can't control these things, so it's useless to panic. And if there's a silver lining to something bad, hone in on that. Like how nobody had been seriously hurt, or, worse, killed, during that earthquake. All things considered, especially so soon after Loma Prieta, that was something worth holding on to. We could let go of the fear and get back to a normal life.
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Even when life has its difficulties and challenges, the world still has good things in it, things that make it worth living. I didn't have family in the old country that survived the Holocaust, but I've known plenty of people who did survive it. When you ask what it was that kept them going, survivors always mention something about clinging to the good that they did have, against all the odds, "I had my brother with me, still, and that gave me hope." "Every new day was special to me, because it was a day that I was still here, despite Hitler." There's a lesson in that. Even when the world is at its worst, what keeps good people going is being able to appreciate anything good they do have left.
So consider all that you're grateful for: People you care about, maybe you have pets you care about, and all those interests and hobbies (a garden, books, music, art, knitting, house remodeling shows on TV--whatever). Have you realized that what's making you upset right now is that you don't want to lose any of them or have them suffer in some way because a psychopath with zero human compassion wants to tear down everything in sight? That's what makes you human! You're angry and upset because the most irredeemable piece of shit ever foisted on humanity is in charge now, and threatening everyone and everything you care about. And you know what? You should be angry and upset about that! You wouldn't be normal if you weren't.
So stop beating yourself up about being angry, and the guilt you have for feeling that way--which is a huge part of why you're feeling so much despair right now. You're upset with yourself for being angry, rather than understanding what your anger is telling you. Instead, EMBRACE YOUR ANGER. Stop thinking it's a bad thing, because it's not. You've been LIED TO that anger is bad, when anger is the warning that something is very wrong and you need to do something about it. And it doesn't have to be destructive action. Most of the time when you're angry, what you do to set things right isn't destructive--except to the wrongdoer. Are you even aware that things like civil rights, gay rights, women's rights and so on all started with anger? It was anger that had Rosa Parks refuse to give up her seat. It was anger that had all those people sit at lunch counters, and take Freedom Rides and risk jail and fire hoses and dogs turned on them to protest. Anger at injustice. Anger at being abused. Anger at having all of the responsibilities of being part of a civil society, but none of its rights.
Anger has done more to change the world for the better than any other emotion we have. Nay, it's the only thing that ever has, because it's what gets us off our asses to fight back for our survival and that of all we care about.
So be angry, but channel it into something positive. I don't care what it is, as long as it's constructive action. Call your legislators. Write a song. Organize a boycott. Or, if you're simply feeling overwhelmed in the moment, take a walk or hug your kids or pet. There's always something you can do to turn your anger into an action that helps or makes the world a better place.
That's how you cope in a world that has lost its collective mind. You get angry--and then do something to change what's making you angry. For the better.
qwlauren35
(6,148 posts)for your compassion.
I will read your words a few times.
Right now, I think I'm going to go and hug my dog.
angstlessk
(11,862 posts)I like 'hidden object' games...the ones I prefer take little thought, but many requires thoughtful consideration..my source, but there are others:
https://www.bigfishgames.com/us/en.html
csziggy
(34,136 posts)Not Always Right - https://notalwaysright.com/
Cake Wrecks - https://www.cakewrecks.com/
I Can Has Cheezburger - https://icanhas.cheezburger.com/
Their menu has a huge trove of fun sites, including FailBlog and There, I Fixed It, among others.
All of those are good laughs and can lower my stress levels and leave me relaxed.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,490 posts)I've always felt social media is unhealthy for our society and communities for several reasons.
Try learning meditation and doing simple tasks that produce rewarding results. That and music are my best anti-depressants.
I'm reconnecting with family and friends over the phone and really enjoying it.....
Major Nikon
(36,827 posts)I moved my family in and with all the free time I've decided to finish that novel I've been working on. We initially thought the hotel was empty, but surprisingly I found the hotel bartender, Lloyd, still at work. We've had a number of interesting conversations.