Huge DU hug please

[Soph0571]

The SO is avoiding finding out the results of his scan last week. As he avoids anxiety and facts and shit I am in a high level of anxiety. This morning I thought he was dead. His breathing was so shallow alongside a deep sleep, that I actually slapped him awake. I was not popular for a minute

But as he avoids what the plan needs to be to try and save his arse, I am not Florence Nightingale, but trying my hardest, part of the equation needs of huge virtual hug. Please.

EDIT: This has been the best virtual hug ever. Thank you all very much. It has really lifted my spirits and some great advice.

[Blue Owl]

1. K&R

[Olafjoy]

2. Sending all good wishes and strength to you❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Aristus]

3. ...

[Ohiogal]

4. I can't imagine what you're going through right now.

The worry and stress must be unbearable.

Hoping for better days for both of you.

(( ))

[elleng]

5. ;-)

[Maraya1969]

6. ..

[FM123]

7. Oh dear Soph, I know you are trying your hardest at this very difficult time....

Here's an extra hug to get you through

[OAITW r.2.0]

8. Hang in there!

[Cha]

9. Of course, sweetheart..❤️

[Phoenix61]

10. Try and take care of yourself too

[sheshe2]

11. ...

[sheshe2]

12. ...

[I_UndergroundPanther]

13. Take care Sophie

If I could be there and there was no covid I'd give you a deep hug and help you with whatever you need me to do. It's got to be so hard to go through what you are dealing with.

[GemDigger]

14. ...

[Soph0571]

19. Gem

I need all of my friends here. Please give a shout out to all of the viners you still chat too, I really need, JJ really needs, their virtual hugs too.

[GemDigger]

31. I am so sorry Soph, I haven't been anywhere else but here.

I will do some digging and see if I have any old emails to get in touch with people who can get in touch with more people. No promises but I will give it my best shot.

[Soph0571]

34. Thanks love!

[SheltieLover]

15. {{{{{Soph}}}}}

Huge hugs!

[Freedomofspeech]

16. Love and peace to you...

[Laelth]

17. .

-Laelth

[SWBTATTReg]

18. Hugs and hang in there! Perhaps he needs to realize that knowing could be a bonus, that in fact,

if nothing is wrong, then the worrying could be literally over nothing?

If not, at least you know what's going on, which is by far the better choice, and the stress of the unknown will abate and you can concentrate on getting better.

My best wishes for the both of you.

[42bambi]

20. Your SO may be avoiding discussing his angst with you as to not upset or worry you. That's

how my hubby deals with his late stage liver disease ... he thinks he's saving me from the truth about how sick he really is. He's a Dr. so I know he knows. I've learned, over time, to be OK with his decision. I'm sorry for your constant fear of losing him at any time ... I have the same reaction when his breathing is short and often intermittent. And - I know there will come a day...

[MLAA]

21. Sending 💕💕💕💖💖💖💕💕💕

[AmyStrange]

22. You are so damn needy, but...

-

I've been there, so here's one from me (and I almost never, never, never ever do emoticons, but don't think you're damn special or anything):



And, you'd better not tell anyone either, because you know, I've got a rep to keep up.
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[bluescribbler]

23. Not ideal, but it'll have to do.

[rurallib]

24. Hugs, Soph. Wish I could do more.

[cp]

25. Love & kindness & hugs

[CaptYossarian]

26. Hugs and good thoughts.

[JudyM]

27. (((((((((HUG))))))))

Hang in there.

[Glorfindel]

28. Hugs and deep peace to you, Soph0571

[RestoreAmerica2020]

29. Paz y muchos abrazos..peace and lots of hugs!!

[wendyb-NC]

30. To you both Love, hugs, health, hope and peace.

[Callalily]

32. Sending you big hugs . . .

and a whole lot of strength.

[mnhtnbb]

33. Big hug, my friend

Some men are really good at denial which makes it really hard for SO's who just want to face facts and make a plan. The denial makes dealing with it harder.

So, hugs for having to deal with the illness and more hugs for having to deal with the denial.