Do you ever look up the names of former lovers?

[mia]

I did. Last week. I learned that he had passed away eight years ago. His obituary said that he had three children and was revered by the community that he served. I'm happy that he was successful and loved by many. Fond memories of us together, a long time ago.

[Ocelot II]

1. Yes. There's one who mercilessly dumped me years ago, and

whose obituary I've looked for off and on but with no success. I've looked for some others who were friends or co-workers (but not lovers) who did turn out to be dead, rather to my surprise.

[mia]

3. Memories of the ones we loved and lost

are sweet, and tragic, and beautiful. Remember the moments.

[dawg day]

9. I was decluttering my books...ruthlessly

And came across the signed copy of a book by a friend who died years ago, after years of hostility that turned out to be the start of early alzheimers.

Hesitated a moment... but I'm not that ruthless.

[mia]

12. But for the grace of God

so go I.

[nocoincidences]

2. I look up my first love from freshman year in college.

He is evidently still alive but I can find no pics of him. I keep looking.

[mia]

5. Keep on looking from time to time.

Perhaps his relatives have a Facebook page.

[PoindexterOglethorpe]

4. I look up lots of people I've known in the past.

Former lovers are the least of them.

[mia]

7. Yes, me too.

I wonder about my friends from times past, whenever they come to mind. Some have made a mark and others have disappeared. I cherish the moments we connected, nevertheless.

[dawg day]

10. The Beatles, of course, understand

[mia]

13. Indeed, they do.

Thanks for the song.

[NNadir]

6. I have lived to thank God that all my prayers were not answered.

[mia]

8. I know what you mean.

Sometimes we loved and lost and eventually we came to become glad for it.

[dawg day]

11. You are very wise

[True Dough]

14. I'm grateful to all the women I pleased in this thread

And my apologies to the ones I disappointed.

[Demobrat]

15. Former flames, old school friends, the neighborhood

bully from when I was a kid (he’s dead now). It’s been a long pandemic.

[Pachamama]

16. +1000

Lol

[Montauk6]

17. What would you call a one-time date with a goodnight friend-zone hug?

I had 3 of those situations (never got that "game" or "swag" or "alpha" thing down). So, curiosity being one helluva drug, I looked them up and was flummoxed to learn each one had died young due to an untimely fatal illness.

That's coincidence on bath salts, imho.

[Ziggysmom]

18. Yes I have. It's sort of comforting like rewatching old movies that remind us

of certain times in our life. Seeing pics of an ex can conjure memories of a young and carefree, romantic, happy time.

[LuckyLib]

19. I never get very far into the rabbit hole. Not on Facebook or Linked In and resent the sites

where you have to pay to get information. I'm not a skillful searcher. Any helpful hints?

[Demobrat]

20. Just type the name and last known

location into Google. You’ll be amazed at what pops up.

[wnylib]

21. Yes, I have looked up old boyfriends

and other people from the past. Some have passed away and others are still alive. I was just curious what happened with them over the years, but I'm not interested in reconnecting with the ones who are still living. I like the memories of how we were back then when we were more carefree. People change over time and reconnecting would taint the memories.

[Grumpy Old Guy]

22. The girl who stood me up.

I met a beautiful young dancer more than forty years ago. We met for drinks, and I thought we had a good time. We made plans to go on a real date the following week.

I went to pick her up, and she stood me up! She didn't even answer the door. I was sure she wasn't home.

About twenty years later Google was developed, and of course I looked her up, if for no other reason than to find out how her showbiz career went.

She had passed away that same year. Had she died that very week? Had she gotten sick, or had an accident?

I never found out.

[markie]

23. my first

died many years ago from AIDS

[mopinko]

24. yup. there was a thread here one night.

my biggest heart throb had died the year before, and i was wrong about how he was going to end up.

i also looked up a guitar player i took up w after him. i sent him a fb message which he answered 4 YEARS later. not a big fb'er, but we had some nice chats.

[femmocrat]

25. Of course!

I found a photo on FB of my high school boyfriend escorting his daughter down the aisle. I’m happy that his life turned out well. I wondered about him for years.

[Tomconroy]

26. I had a crush on a girl when I

Was a student for a semester in London in 1976. For some reason just recently I became a little obsessive and tried to look her up. I found an address and wrote a brief note with my email address. She had moved but the letter eventually was forwarded. What do you know? She remembered me fondly! She wrote back and we've been exchanging emails. It's really neat!

[Paladin]

27. Some yes, some no. I'll just leave it at that. (nt)

[hunter]

28. Now that's a terrifying thought...