I will not have to attend my ex husband's "celebration of life" after all. I will be in the Yale

[CTyankee]

Bowl attending the Ivy League's Yale v. Penn that Saturday in October. And seeing my tailgate friends. Hubby and I have been doing that every year (except last year, no game cuz Covid) for many years now.
I will not have to send any remarks to be delivered, either.

I talked to my son and he said it was just not expected and not to worry. My only worry would be if my kids felt bad. I did see him in rehab before he slipped away in his sleep. We actually did speak of the Ivy League season (he went to Harvard).

So it really is over, folks.

[Polly Hennessey]

1. Do I detect a sigh of relief. n/t

[Arkansas Granny]

2. I have followed your threads on this subject and I understand your feelings.

When my ex died a few years ago, I did go to his funeral. It took some time after the divorce, but we had developed an amicable, if not friendly, relationship years ago for the sake of our kids. I visited him when he was sick and I got along well with his wife at the time he died. If there had still been tension between us, however, I probably would not have attended.

As long as your kids understand why you are not going, you are not obligated to be there. I'm happy for you that it is settled.

[CTyankee]

3. He seemed put out that I rooted for Yale, which I thought was ridiculous. It was always at the

Thanksgiving dinner at her house and she "banned" the discussion eventually.