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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsMy nephew called Mrs. V. at 12:50 this morning
and had her on the phone for two hours. The young woman he uprooted for and moved 2200 miles across the country for has broken his heart. She told him that he is not committed to their relationship (because when you're not committed, you uproot and move across the country). And that she hates him. She actually told him she hates him.
He is so messed up. He feels responsible for this fiasco of a breakup because he had an angry outburst in an argument. This is his first relationship (he's 21) and he's learning the hard way, as we all did. He is afraid she'll harm herself (she is way messed up) and he feels responsible to prevent this.
It was heartbreaking to hear him sob. Mrs. V. offered him the comfort and refuge of our home. We'll see if he accepts. Please keep Tory in your thoughts.
ProdigalJunkMail
(12,017 posts)no truer words have ever been written. sorry to hear of his pain and difficulty.
sP
Bertha Venation
(21,484 posts)I have about 40 PhDs. You?
ProdigalJunkMail
(12,017 posts)some of them were remedial...wish i could have learned the first time...
sP
blueamy66
(6,795 posts)He's not responsible for her issues....but I'm sure Mrs. V told him that.
He's lucky to have you two.
Bertha Venation
(21,484 posts)We are both so glad he called her. It's good to be trusted.
turtlerescue1
(1,013 posts)of love/marriage: Whatever it is you are working on to cook, first you must find the lid that fits your pot.
Bertha Venation
(21,484 posts)Good advice. Thanks, Turtle.
blueknight
(2,831 posts)im sure at this time he feels a complete failure. you guys just have to stay in contact with him and try to keep his spirits up. one day, he will find someone and will look back at this and wont believe how upset he was. i know, the EXACT same thing happened to me. he will be in my thoughts
Bertha Venation
(21,484 posts)We've both talked to him and have been texting him. We're reminding him how much he is loved. I hope it's helping.