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Bertha Venation

(21,484 posts)
Mon Jul 16, 2012, 08:50 AM Jul 2012

My nephew called Mrs. V. at 12:50 this morning

and had her on the phone for two hours. The young woman he uprooted for and moved 2200 miles across the country for has broken his heart. She told him that he is not committed to their relationship (because when you're not committed, you uproot and move across the country). And that she hates him. She actually told him she hates him.

He is so messed up. He feels responsible for this fiasco of a breakup because he had an angry outburst in an argument. This is his first relationship (he's 21) and he's learning the hard way, as we all did. He is afraid she'll harm herself (she is way messed up) and he feels responsible to prevent this.

It was heartbreaking to hear him sob. Mrs. V. offered him the comfort and refuge of our home. We'll see if he accepts. Please keep Tory in your thoughts.

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My nephew called Mrs. V. at 12:50 this morning (Original Post) Bertha Venation Jul 2012 OP
"and he's learning the hard way, as we all did." ProdigalJunkMail Jul 2012 #1
School of Hard Knocks Bertha Venation Jul 2012 #4
i certainly have earned a few... ProdigalJunkMail Jul 2012 #7
Your nephew is in my thoughts.... blueamy66 Jul 2012 #2
Thank you, blueamy Bertha Venation Jul 2012 #5
Please advise the young man me fodder's explanation turtlerescue1 Jul 2012 #3
hmmm... Bertha Venation Jul 2012 #6
bertha blueknight Jul 2012 #8
Thank you, blueknight Bertha Venation Jul 2012 #9

ProdigalJunkMail

(12,017 posts)
1. "and he's learning the hard way, as we all did."
Mon Jul 16, 2012, 09:02 AM
Jul 2012

no truer words have ever been written. sorry to hear of his pain and difficulty.

sP

ProdigalJunkMail

(12,017 posts)
7. i certainly have earned a few...
Mon Jul 16, 2012, 11:01 AM
Jul 2012

some of them were remedial...wish i could have learned the first time...

sP

 

blueamy66

(6,795 posts)
2. Your nephew is in my thoughts....
Mon Jul 16, 2012, 09:25 AM
Jul 2012

He's not responsible for her issues....but I'm sure Mrs. V told him that.

He's lucky to have you two.

turtlerescue1

(1,013 posts)
3. Please advise the young man me fodder's explanation
Mon Jul 16, 2012, 09:45 AM
Jul 2012

of love/marriage: Whatever it is you are working on to cook, first you must find the lid that fits your pot.

blueknight

(2,831 posts)
8. bertha
Mon Jul 16, 2012, 07:58 PM
Jul 2012

im sure at this time he feels a complete failure. you guys just have to stay in contact with him and try to keep his spirits up. one day, he will find someone and will look back at this and wont believe how upset he was. i know, the EXACT same thing happened to me. he will be in my thoughts

Bertha Venation

(21,484 posts)
9. Thank you, blueknight
Tue Jul 17, 2012, 08:50 AM
Jul 2012

We've both talked to him and have been texting him. We're reminding him how much he is loved. I hope it's helping.

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