I need some DU love

[Soph0571]

Deeply in my threat system cause we know a 2nd year anniversary is coming up. I was taking time off this week for self care and a government agency has decided to do an audit. I am fragile and battling. I had to cancel my holiday, and they are on me, over every thing. I am so anxious. Might you help me? Just some virtual hugs seems like a plan if you have the time.

[SWBTATTReg]

1. Here's my DU love. As always, we support a fellow DUer in need. My best to you!

[XanaDUer2]

2. Here

[RKP5637]

3. ...

[ms liberty]

4. That sucks! I'm sorry this week isn't working out for you. I hope it gets better

[hlthe2b]

5. we care...

[KarenS]

6. ahhhhhhh

[Lady Freedom Returns]

7. 😱

[alwaysinasnit]

8. Sending you affectionate, digital hugs from California.

[blm]

9. 🌺🤗🌺

[Maraya1969]

10. You're a trooper Soph. You'll handle it all with ease. I've watched all the things

you have gone through on here and you always come out on top!

[Soph0571]

18. Thanks love

But it is so hard right now. My therapist last night said you have done the worst case scenario and have survived. This is OK. But my leave was cancelled cause they wanted to come in and I had put time aside to grieve, I can get through this, but it is so hard.

[Haggis 4 Breakfast]

24. YES, you have shared some dark moments with us over the years,

and you have indeed been hugged-mugged by many of us, if only in spirit.

We were audited by the IRS once, about 15 years ago. They claimed that the ranch we had back then - with about 30 animals - was a "hobby farm." As if having to muck, rake, feed, water, play Junior Veteranarian, assist in copulation, aid mums in birth and agonize over death with three dozen critters, was a "hobby." Fortunately, I kept an excellent, detailed ledger of every dime spent, as well as time spent at this "hobby" of ours. It took three days of our lives, having to explain the intricacies of ranch life, animal anatomy and biology, pharmacology, etc. to a man who had JUST gotten hired by the IRS and knew next to nothing about his new job. Once through that delightful experience, I can commiserate with anyone else undergoing such an endeavor.

You will get through this, Soph. My advice ? Take it one segment of time at a time. Contend with what is in front of you at the moment until it's over. But don't leap ahead. It can be exhaustive.

Cheers (and a healthy drab of Glenmorangie) to you. We'll be here to listen.

All the best.
***

[a kennedy]

11. You got it.....

[rubbersole]

12. Hugs to you, Soph0571!

[magicarpet]

13. You bet,.... we all need some hugs and support from time to time....

.... sending a bunch your way.....

[Ocelot II]

14. You got it!

[spicysista]

15. Hugs and courage!

You've got this!

[Anon-C]

16. Boom!

I feel you. And I am sorry. This week I'm focusing how I allow my unhappiness and (in other's eyes at least) my weakness to affect others and I'm trying to work on that. I'm done trying to justify my self care, I'm here and I have worked hard to still be here to understand and build a better life day by day. To do and be better. We are far from perfect, to be sure.

[SheltieLover]

17. Big hugs & healing vibes to you, Soph!

💓💓💓

[Soph0571]

21. I feel broken

He is gone and I can't even, while I have to do this work bollocks. I don't know what to do.

[SheltieLover]

23. I'm so sorry you are overwhelmed

Any chance you can take a timd out? Day(s) off for intensive self-care / spa day / time in nature?

Self-care is so important.

Do deep breathing. Blow out stress with each exhalation.

[Walleye]

53. I know just how you feel. I finally decided I had to keep going because I had no choice

It’s been almost 17 years for me. I still miss him terribly. But I don’t cry every night anymore

[catbyte]

19. Virtual hugs from Michigan...

[sinkingfeeling]

20. .....

[PortTack]

22. Don't let 'em get ya down

: loveya:

[Xoan]

25. Here's to better days ...

[pandr32]

26. Thoughts and virtual hugs (lots) for you

[sheshe2]

27. Of course, Soph.

Healing vibes.

[Collimator]

39. Those little boys always make me think of. . .

Turk and J.D. from Scrubs. What a shame most grown men cannot be unabashedly crazy about their best friends.


To Soph: I want to wish you the very best. For whatever it may be worth, you are seen and your humanity and struggles are validated. May you find solid ground to stand upon within your spirit.

I hope there is someone in your life who can offer you warm arms and a steady shoulder even for a moment. You deserve support and comfort.

[brer cat]

28. You've got it.

[Cosmo Blues]

29. Always have time for you my dear

To give you as many hugs as it takes for you to decompress.. My habit now when the day is done, a little wine, a little grass, and on particularly stressful days comedies on TV

[gademocrat7]

30. Sending you a bouquet

of hugs and good vibes. Take care. We are with you.

[bluescribbler]

31. U GOT IT

[CanonRay]

32. Here's a great big hug from Mrs. Canon and I!

and there are direct flights London to Portland if you want the real thing!

[2naSalit]

33. ...

[iluvtennis]

34. Virtual hugs to you. Take it one breath at a time.

[pazzyanne]

35. ((((( ))))) just for you, Soph0571!

[ancianita]

36. BIG hugs, Soph, from us and me. It is bad, but it WILL end.

[Lonestarblue]

37. Many virtual hugs sent your way. You will get through this because you are strong.

Sometimes, just putting one foot down after the other is all you can do, but you’re still moving forward no matter how slowly. Hang in there. The DU community is with you.

[Evolve Dammit]

38. Very sorry you're struggling. I can relate. Take Care.

[2 Meow Momma]

40. Hugs for you from me and kitties. nt

[littlemissmartypants]

41. So sorry, Soph! You are strong! Stay encouraged. We love you! ❤️

[multigraincracker]

42. Best of luck dear

I've had some really bad things turn into the best when the the dust settled. Im pulling for you.

[Scrivener7]

43. Hang in there, Soph. This will end. You will get through it. You can do it.

[Lunabell]

44. I don't understand what you're going through, but it doesn't matter.

I wish you well and am sending you my heartfelt positive vibes and thoughts. Good luck with what you are going through and I hope you get an outcome that is beneficial.

[IrishAfricanAmerican]

45. 🍕

[Trueblue Texan]

46. Big, BIG, Biggest hugs...

This is the third time I’ve tried to post this, so triple the hugs and love, darlin’!!

[duhneece]

47. Hugs, strength and comfort

Coming your way from La Luz

[BumRushDaShow]

48. (((Soph)))

Sending those good vibes across that big pond!!!

[TheBlackAdder]

49. Sending Positive Energy ⚡️ Your Way!

.

And a hug. Audits aren't nice, and then there's the weeks of follow-up questions. Grrr.




.

[Leith]

50. Have a hug of commiseration

I've been having a bad time recently, too. Between about 5 panic attacks in the past couple of weeks (due to several smallish things going wrong at once and my inability to make them right), the onset of seasonal affective disorder, and the opposite of any emotional support, it's been a rough ride.

I hope that things go well for you. I enjoy your posts here and you seem like a terrific person. Please accept a virtual hug from me.



All the best to you.

[XanaDUer2]

54. I feel you

Hope you're doing better

[rurallib]

51. don't ever forget you DU family needs you

and are here for you!

[livetohike]

52. Sending hugs and holding positive thoughts for comfort and

peace .

[irisblue]

55. Best hopes & wishes Soph

[femmedem]

56. Lots of hugs, Soph.

I lost someone very dear to me over twenty years ago, and I remember how hard it was to handle the simplest aspects of everyday life, much less an audit.

[cate94]

57. I'm sorry for this trying time

[Skittles]

58. there's always someone on DU

we are here for you

[CaliforniaPeggy]

59. Oh my dear Soph! I am so sorry that your week is troubled...

Hope it will get better very soon!

[c-rational]

60. Soph0, you will be fine. This too shall pass. One step at a time, and remember to breathe.

[majdrfrtim]

61. Hugs, of course!

Please be gentle with yourself.

[TFRD]

62. Here ya go...

💜🤗💜

tfr

[barbtries]

63. you got it

I just went through a terrible anniversary and it was really hard, but i did get through, so will you

[dawn5651]

64. i am so sorry the government is auditing you...the stress from that can cause other issues

you really needed your vacation...will be thinking of you over the next little while....stay strong....

[Aristus]

65. ...

We’re with you, Soph.

[lunatica]

66. Hugs, hugs and more hugs to you

Stressing over something that’s happening to you can be paralyzing. What I do in these situations is tell myself, “I can do this.” Repeat it as you see fit. I don’t know why but it works!

[area51]

67. Hugs to you.

[berniesandersmittens]

68. Hope is gotten better for you

(((((((( ))))))))