Questions for those who have a regular hairdresser

[Bertha Venation]

Do you talk with him/her about your life, and does s/he talk about her life with you?

I'm crazy about my hairdresser, DJ. I got her by chance at the Hair Cuttery about three years ago. When I first saw her I was thrilled because she has the same hair as I do (very fine, very straight) and wears her hair short like I do. I told her this, and asked her to do my hair just like hers. Not only did she do a terrific job, she found a permanent client.

We talk to each other about a lot of stuff. Last night she told me that next week they're going to closing on a new house, and we discovered that we're less than a mile apart. I think DJ and I could be friends outside of our hairdresser/client relationship. I'd enjoy that.

How about you? Do you and your hairdresser talk about stuff? Do you see each other outside of the salon? Or do you go to Supercuts/Hair Cuttery type places and take a chance at a good haircut?

[blueknight]

1. bertha

my brother has owned his own salon for over 25 years. and i know for a fact he and his wife have several friends they go out with to dinner, shows etc. with people he met thru his business.

[NightWatcher]

2. we hang out with my wife's hair guy. They dish more than a bartender

She spends more than an hour at a time chatting him up. If I go, I spend the time at the pub around the corner.

[AsahinaKimi]

3. I love her to death but

She speaks more Mandarin than English. Its fun to sit in the chair and listen to her prattle on excitedly about things.. with her partner...
in Mandarin, and its funny when she says things to me in Japanese.. I think she learned a few words, just to say things like "Ogenki desuka?" (How is your health?), or Konnichwa Kimiko San (Good Afternoon) when I come into her shop. She seems to love her business and her job!

[Denninmi]

4. I don't think guys have this experience in the same way.

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In any barber shop I've been in, it's usually, "Hey, how about that hat trick Chelios made last night against the Devils".

Needless to say, not being a sports fan and able to relate, I was pretty quiet most of the time. Then I started cutting my own hair just to avoid the whole situation. Not bad at it, actually.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My hairdresser and I share things all the time.

We're good friends, although we don't see each other outside the salon.

I do have her on my holiday card list.

Go for it!

[MrsBrady]

6. probably like anything else...

just depends on the person....

my aunt and mother found this one hair dresser years ago...
I went to him too for a while...

He eventually became friends with us all...especially my aunt.

His business has grown over the years...he now works at a upscale pricey salon.

But he and my aunt are very close now (he's gay - she never married, but not lesbian)...
I've even spent more than one holiday with him.
He's got a Costco membership, so they shop together to get the bulk discount.

Great guy. I think we just got lucky.
I live way on the other side of town now, so I just go get my hair cut and color my hair myself.
Was just on the phone with him the other day, to say hi, though.

[mnhtnbb]

7. Yes. The last time I moved (in 2000) my hair stylist came and helped me with our garage sale!

Have had several stylists here--none I'd consider a friend to see outside the salon--but, yes,
we talk about our lives.

[femmocrat]

8. I have a regular stylist and a standing appointment.

We talk about what is going on in our lives. She is much younger than I, though, so we really wouldn't be friends outside of the salon. I'm her mom's age!

[nolabear]

9. I don't but I get told about that all the time.

Hairdressers and bartenders.

[Honeycombe8]

10. A bit, but not much. I want him to concentrate on cutting.

Plus I think they get tired of having to make conversation all day. Still, I do talk with them a bit, usu. about their lives, not mine. Unless they ask.

[becca da bakkah]

11. I Used To Have a Great Hairdresser....

Wonderful girl, I thought of her as one of my daughters. We saw eye to eye on most things and she always got right what I wanted her to do. But....too bad, she and her family moved to another state, about 3 or 4 years ago. Her replacement, who works in the same shop, is, unfortunately, a fundy Christian conservative. I've learned not to schedule appointments when she is alone in the shop, or I'll get an earful of what she's learning in bible study class.

She does a good job of cutting and coloring my hair. Otherwise, I'd "vote with my feet"!

So I keep the conversation on neutral subjects; how's the kids? How was your vacation? How are your pets doing? The last time I was in the shop some other woman commented that she likes Romney, because....He doesn't lie! I swear I nearly came unglued at that, which got me a warning from the owner that she doesn't allow political arguments in her shop! Yeah, especially if her side, the conservatives, are looking like idiots!

I don't socialize with my hairdresser outside of the shop, since we have nothing in common. But I see no reason why it wouldn't work for you. Go with your gut, and see how she feels about that. In this world we can use all the friends we can find!

[NV Whino]

12. Yes

We talk about our lives, books, movies, politics and computers. I have one of her paintings. I've seen her a couple of times outside "the shop," but it's probably distance that prevents more of a relationship.

[davsand]

13. I went to her the first time because she was a friendly acquaintance.

Marilyn is the SIL of one of my best gal pals. THEY were/are pals--in addition to being family members--and it just kinda fell into place that when my previous hairdresser moved away with her husband I went to Marilyn because she was somebody I knew and liked. Marilyn already knew me, and had seen my hair in various states so I figured I'd give her a try. I am NOT a hair or makeup kinda person. I know I drive stylists nuts because my attitude is cut my hair however you think it will look ok without using a bunch of products or any kind of curlers/blow dryers. I figured she already knew that about me--and had been there for the failures and successes of others--so it was worth a shot.

Marilyn does good hair and doesn't charge as much as some of the trendy salons in the area. She's cool with my lack of hair interest and is perfectly willing to work within the confines of "no products no hardware" with good results. I broke down and left her use a permanent color a couple of years ago, and even my restriction that the color be something maybe found in nature has worked out ok as well. She must be ok at what she does--I have had compliments on my hair, AND my usually picky 15 year old actually goes to her as well...

Anywho, we are pals outside the shop and go "junk shopping" together sometimes, plus we take the occasional weekend jaunt to meet up with my pal/her SIL in another state. Works out fine and I enjoy my trips in to see her.


Laura

[mrmpa]

14. I know that my hairdresser & her husband are selling their home............

and she will be finding a place to live without him. He doesn't know that info yet.