I just sent the deputy to my mom's house.

[rbnyc]

My mom usually posts on facebook every day. She hasn't posted since Wednesday. I hadn't really noticed until several of her online friends wrote to me because they haven't heard from her at all and they are worried. Then I remembered I called her several days ago on her cell and she never returned my call, which is also not like her. I called her house line and it was down. I called her cell again tonight and left another voice mail.

She lives alone and she's not in great health. Her partner died 2 years ago. I don't know any of her neighbors or anyone in the area. She's in Florida and I'm in New York.

I don't know if I'm over reacting or if this is the exact right thing to do, but now that the situation is in front of me, there's just no way I can go to bed until I hear that she's okay or what's going on.

Hopefully she will call me from her cell and tell me off for sending the cops to wake her up.

Maybe she's still on dial up and she just couldn't pay her phone bill. I don't even know.

[PETRUS]

1. I'd have someone check, too.

Best wishes. Seriously.

[seabeyond]

2. sound to me like it is just the right thing to do. i hope you hear from her soon. nt

[pacalo]

3. You did the right thing. I hope she's alright.

Please let us know when you hear something.

[fizzgig]

4. i think you did the right thing

please let us know

[applegrove]

5. Hope she is okay.

[emilyg]

6. You did good. Get her to

give you some friend's number you can call next time.

[rbnyc]

9. I don't think she has any friends.

I think all her friends are non-local internet relationships.

[snagglepuss]

7. I hope all is well. <<<<Vibes>>>>>

[blue_roses_lib]

8. Sending good thoughts your way.

I hope that she is okay.

[rbnyc]

10. Update

Cops just called me and said "good news and bad news." They saw her in the house but she wouldn't come to the door. Reports from neighbors have me worried about her mental health. I will try to call her in the morning before she starts drinking...

[Angry Dragon]

12. ............

[pacalo]

13. That's got to be worrisome for you, not being able to be there.

Can't the police jimmy the door to get in to have paramedics check her?

[rbnyc]

15. I don't think so..

...they said I should fly down.

I can't afford it.

My father-in-law is a pilot and he is in the area. We're going to see if he'll drop in on her.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

14. I"m relieved that they were able to contact her...

I hope you can reach her too...

[rbnyc]

16. Thanks...

...me too.

[seabeyond]

17. i am sorry you have this to worry about.

my father is getting old and i have received information a couple days ago that has me concerned. trying to figure out the best way to approach this.

reminder to self

be very specific with kids and open allowing this easier for them, as we age.

[rbnyc]

19. Thanks...

...there are things that are not age related that I spent a lot of my childhood protecting myself against. It's like her mental illness is a house fire that I crawled out of, but now I am the fire fighter and I have to rush in. I am not prepared.

[seabeyond]

25. yes. it sounds like it.

wow rbnyc... that is a very good way to express it.

you will do what you can. and expect no more from yourself

[rbnyc]

27. My husband and his family...

...are a wonderful help. They love being the strong and supportive types.

[auntAgonist]

20. I'm glad she's alright R. I know how hard the distance makes things.

Do try to call her. I hope you have a restful night tonight. TRY not to worry.

aA
kesha

[quakerboy]

11. Ive had to do that

And I have never regretted it. Not once. At worst, you spent a few tax dollars checking something needlessly. At best you can save a life. Literally.

[barbtries]

18. i hope she's okay!

keep us posted.

[davsand]

21. Distance sometimes makes it even harder to deal with family issues.

Wow. Glad to hear your mom is not in immediate peril, but I'm sure sorry to hear you are dealing with issues like this. That distance thing is such a huge barrier when you feel a need to be there ***NOW***.

Hang in there. You will do the right thing if it needs doing...






Laura

[SwampG8r]

22. florida east coast here

near orlando drop me a pm if i can do anything

[rbnyc]

26. Thanks! nt

[kimi]

23. Best of luck

My mom is in a similar situation, and I'm 1,500 miles away from her. It's an awful burden and yeah, you never know if you're over-reacting but thank goodness the police dept and social services are available, in spite of what our moms want (and really, would any of us react much differently in our mom's place?)

Best of luck, rbnyc, please let us know how it goes. Many of us are facing this same situation and your experience will help us. Vibes to you.

[madokie]

24. You done good

You only get to have one mom so you have to watch out for her, after all she watched after you at the beginning, now its your turn to repay.

OT: I think in the years I've been here this is the first time I've actually replied too or posted in the Lounge. I've had a few post moved here but that doesn't count.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

28. hoping for the best, rbnyc. keep us updated.