I had a miscarriage in 1999, and I feel like a mother without a child.

[MrsBrady]

I'm not upset or depress about it, but I don't have any children.

And while I was married, my ex changed his mind on me and didn't
want to have kids...that's the short version anyway.

I'm 40 and don't know if that will happen ever for me now.
It's not what I wanted, but it is what it is.
My life is good. I don't have everything I want, but I have everything I need.

But I sure do wish sometimes I had my own.
I feel like my life is complete...
but sometimes you DO know what you are missing.

A girlfriend of mine, who knew I miscarried, didn't even know me then...
was sweet enough to send me a text this morning saying that
she considered me a mother and wanted me to wish me happy mother's day.
That was so nice. Rarely does anyone acknowledge my mother hood, albeit brief that it was.

I talked to my own mother this morning, and I'm glad she is still around.
Both my grandmothers are deceased, so I'm missing them today.

Happy mother's day to all you moms without kids.
A mother's love never dies.

on edit, I'd thougth I'd add this link I found
http://www.cmoma.org/being-childless/mothers-day-for-childless-women

[fizzgig]

1. ...

[MrsBrady]

2. thanks

[MrsBrady]

4. yep...

good for you.

[pipi_k]

5. You'll always

be a mom in your heart.

I have two living children. A third passed away in 1975 at the age of 3 months.

My hardest thing knowing how to deal with is when people ask how many kids I have.

I usually say "two" and then feel badly because it's like I'm ignoring the last one.

If I say "three" and people want to know their ages, what do I say? That #1 is xx years old, #2 is xx years old, and #3 is forever 3 months old?

I don't want people to feel sorry for me, or like I'm looking for sympathy or something. I don't want them to feel badly for thinking they may have hurt me.

Anyway, I'm sure you often deal with the same dilemma. You aren't a childless mom...your child lives in your heart, and, if you are a believer, in Heaven or somewhere like it.

[Sekhmets Daughter]

7. I sure know that problem....

I lost a daughter in Dec. 2009. She was 28. I have the same problem, 'well, I had three, now I have 2..." It depends on who is asking and the context of the conversation as to how I answer...but it always gives me pause.

[pipi_k]

11. I'm so

sorry for your loss


This is a club nobody ever wants to be in

[Sekhmets Daughter]

19. You're so right, this is not a club anyone wants to join...

But I think sometimes we need to make our shared pain known so that we can support each other.

I can so deeply sympathize with your feelings all these long, long years.

[MrsBrady]

12. I usually just say no to avoid questions

but I think "yes I do"

[Sekhmets Daughter]

6. Take a look what Stinky The Clown

put up this morning....

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=2832772

be sure to read the replies...there are not that many...

[MrsBrady]

16. thanks for that...

[Sekhmets Daughter]

18. You are very welcome!

[LiberalEsto]

8. You are a mother

No matter what, you carried that beginning life.
I lost a pregnancy to miscarriage also (long story, very painful emotionally)

Happy Mothers' Day to you.

[MrsBrady]

13. and a good day to you too

[femmocrat]

9. . . .

It's just one day.... tomorrow will be better. I promise.

[MrsBrady]

14. oh I'm ok....

I just want to honor the day as it is for me.

[nomorenomore08]

10. My now-deceased paternal grandmother lost a son in Vietnam.

She had 8 other children - Catholic family - but it still affected her profoundly, as well as my father who was 12 at the time.

[MrsBrady]

15. losing a child is a difficult thing

god bless your family

[nomorenomore08]

17. Thank you. Happy Mother's Day.