Should I ask a co-worker to set me up with one of her friends?

[smoochpooch]

I started a new job a couple months ago and developed a crush on this co-worker. At first, I thought she might be interested, but I'm not so sure anymore. Anyway, I know she has some single friends and I'm thinking about asking her to set me up with one of them.

But, I'm worried that if I ask her to set me up, I'm essentially closing the door on dating her because she would think, "Oh, I guess he's not interested in me."

Do you think I would be shooting myself in the foot with her?

[Sweet Freedom]

1. Dear Lord, no.

I wouldn't advise dating a co-worker or having her set you up. Either way, you still have to work with her when the relationship ends and then all the personal stuff becomes public at your place of employment. Keep those two areas of your life separate.

[Tobin S.]

2. I agree with Sweet Freedom

But if you want to date her, just ask her directly. Don't be playing no bullshit.

[RebelOne]

3. Absolutely not. n/t

[TrogL]

4. Worked for me

It wasn't at work it was actually at a choir event. He was the only person I knew and we ended up in a "it's complicated" relationship

[rurallib]

5. well you could shoot for a three way

but I have been married for 39 years. I have fantasies.
I would stay far away from any advice I'd give.

[ConcernedCanuk]

6. If you have a crush on the co-worker,

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why are you considering asking out one of her friends?

I'm confused . . .

are you?



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