I mean, some people I meet on a forum or chatroom, I generally have no physical description for, so I can enjoy them as is.

However, there was this one who I met, who I was being nice to.
I met her twice, at a long drive towards VA. This was around 1998-99.
I started speaking to her on the phone, just casually speaking. I wasn't even flirting. I don't think I was flirting. I never saw her as anything more than a friend. Any how, I was talking to her on the phone, something inane like what they plan to watch in movies or something, and she started breathing heavily. After a while, still talking, she started moaning...
I had to ask what she was doing, and she was doing what I thought she was doing, admitting to it.

Any how, I took it on stride, and kept talking about other things. --on edit-- I am pretty accepting at what people do as long as it doesn't hurt any one, so I didn't judge, and let her continue. I felt weirded out, but whatever...

I lost contact with her after she moved to another state, a few weeks after that.

I was fine with her, till I found out from a mutual friend that she was saying she had something beyond friendship with me, which was not the case.

That's about it.

Mr.Bill

(24,330 posts)

3. Being a happily married man in his 60s,

Reply to Xyzse (Reply #1)

Thu Sep 26, 2013, 02:28 PM

Sep 2013

I'm not anticipating anything like this. I'm going to be taking a trip to another state, and there's a bunch of people there I have been conversing with on the internet for over five years. I do know we don't agree much on politics, but the forum I know them from is an automotive one, so we have that in common and that's what we mostly converse about.

On one hand I would like to meet them, but I'm also thinking about just leaving well enough alone and not risking an internet friendship because they turn out to be far different from what I am thinking, and vice versa. Just thinking out loud here. Thanks for your response.

Xyzse

(8,217 posts)

4. Oh, then I am sure it would be fine.

Reply to Mr.Bill (Reply #3)

Thu Sep 26, 2013, 02:36 PM

Sep 2013

As long as it is just sharing the same basic interest, that being automotive subjects. I think even just talking about how nice the family is, would also be a safe topic.

In general, in any meeting, I avoid the following topics:

Religion
Politics
Morality

Other than that, I think it would be ok.

Mr.Bill

(24,330 posts)

5. I'm thinking it would be okay, too.

Reply to Xyzse (Reply #4)

Thu Sep 26, 2013, 02:41 PM

Sep 2013

The other positive factor is that none of these people are real secretive about who and what they are. I've seen pictures of them, know their occupations, etc. It's actually me that's guarded about my identity on the internet.