I don't make this shit up, folks - Woman Leads Man Around On Leash, People Take Photos -

[ashling]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/11/woman-leads-man-on-leash_n_5134248.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063

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[TreasonousBastard]

1. That's a common fetish, you just don't see it...

in public all that often.

(Does she charge more to walk him outdoors?)

[Tuesday Afternoon]

2. either that or he lost a bet, maybe both.

[In_The_Wind]

10. I wonder what he did wrong.

just sayin'

[Arugula Latte]

3. Is it a prong collar?

[Agschmid]

4. Sit, Stay, Good Boy.

Now here is a treat...

O lordy...

[chknltl]

5. I'm pretty sure this is not what Cesar Milan meant about training humans!

That said, the walker does look to be calm and assertive.

[magical thyme]

6. he's not heeling properly.

His shoulder should be aligned with hers. Just sayin...

[JoeyT]

43. Yeah, but it's her fault.

She needs to take in some slack from the lead, otherwise it encourages him to keep pausing to sniff things.

[magical thyme]

44. it's always the human's...er...two-foot's fault.

[Spaldeen]

7. I don't get it, and I don't think it's funny

Would this be as funny, or funny at all, if it were a woman on the leash?

[frogmarch]

8. I agree. I also

don't think it's funny in movie scenes when a woman slaps or punches a guy for saying some trivial thing she doesn't happen to like.

[In_The_Wind]

9. I totally agree with both of you.

[orleans]

19. and i agree with you agreeing with both of them. n/t

[840high]

13. ...^ that

[Major Nikon]

16. I don't see either as any different

As long as consenting adults are involved I don't see why anyone would get worked up over it. I think it gets way more attention than it deserves, but other than that I could care less.

[brooklynboy49]

22. Totally agree nt

[Tuesday Afternoon]

24. yep. hell may well have just frozen over here, Major Nikon

but, I agree with you. Let it freeze.

[lillypaddle]

29. Alternate lifestyle

If they both dig it, what's the harm? He's a big boy ...

[AngryAmish]

34. a la Smell The Glove?

[warrprayer]

11. they appear to be consenting adults...

... having fun playing their little game.

None of my beeswax.

[pitohui]

12. did they consent to having their photos taken?

i've seen a scene like this (w. considerably few clothes on the dude in question)

i would never dream of taking a photo even tho i had my camera with, it was in a tourist area but i dont think anyone else was either

i get it, other people's sexualities are funny, but i dont think its necessarily right to be snapping pix

or if you must take a pic, why post it to the internet, if it was a girl in the collar i think we'd see right away that it isn't right to do w.out permission

[Major Nikon]

17. If they had a problem with it they shouldn't be doing it in public

When you take your act to the streets you're fair game to anyone who wants to take a picture. I suspect all the attention had a lot to do with why they did it in the first place.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

25. exactly.

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

18. When I'm in public there is no expectation of privacy

and anyone can take my picture. So it is with these two............

[Autumn]

31. Then they should stay off a public street.

[NJCher]

14. sick

eom


Cher

[Tribalceltic]

23. Not unless...

it causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life

"Disorders of psychological development(F80-F89)". World Health Organization. Retrieved 11 December 2011.

I don't see any harm in this picture. I consider it more "dangerous" for ladies to walk in 6 inch heels. I don't see anybody else complaining about it though.

[NJCher]

27. don't care about "Disorders of ..."

Anyone who would dominate another human being is sick in my book.


Cher

[Xithras]

32. Thank you for your judgment.

As a practitioner of Kinbaku, I assure you that there is no pleasure derived from the domination of another. Quite the opposite, actually. You shouldn't judge things you don't understand.

[NJCher]

40. so please enlighten me

I don't know what kinbaku is and I'm afraid to google it. I don't think I want it on my NSA record.


Cher

[JoeyT]

42. Japanese bondage.

Usually involving ropes, and I'm guessing a lot of patience.

I had to google it because I didn't know either.

[libodem]

45. Me too

Live and learn, huh?

[JoeyT]

53. I actually did an image search first.

First impression was "My god that looks like it takes a lot of time." Second was "My god that looks uncomfortable."

Now I kinda wanna know how they keep uh...bits from going to sleep. Two minutes of sitting on my leg wrong and I can barely walk. I couldn't imagine what those ropes would do.

[Xithras]

46. Since you asked.

I'll answer this in two parts:

First, Kinbaku is Japanese bondage, but it's also a sensual art form. I had to do some searching to find a "Safe For Work" image, but here's an example of the sort of thing I do (and yes, I can tie with this kind of complexity...a happy byproduct of being a Boy Scout as a kid):




Second, why do I do this? Is it to "get off" by dominating others? Not at all....it's exactly the opposite. Domination fetishes are usually held by the person being dominated. They want to be tied up because it turns them on, makes them horny, makes them feel safe, or something else along those lines. Everyone into domination has slightly different motivations for their particular kink, but it always boils down to "it makes them happy".

So, to answer the question of why I tie: Because I like making people happy. The simplest explanation that I can give, and I apologize in advance if this is TMI, but being a Dom is sort of like giving cunnilingus or fellatio. Oral sex provides no real pleasure to the person giving it except for the enjoyment that comes from making someone else feel better. I never even thought about this stuff until my wife revealed that she had a fetish for it. I learned it because I wanted to make her happy, and I do it because it still does. If she ever decides that she doesn't want to do it anymore, it stops. It's driven by her desires, not mine. And when she asked me to tie some of her friends (no sex, just tying), I did it for the same reason.

Now, please understand that blanket statements always have exceptions. There ARE assholes out there in the BDSM community who really do enjoy hurting others, but they usually don't last long because they're often the same people who ignore safewords and hurt their subs beyond what the subs consented to. Those people usually end up shunned by the BDSM community or in jail, and rightfully so.

[opiate69]

48. That's some amazing rope work. I would love to see sure of your work.

(From, an aspiring rope-top)

[Xithras]

49. That isn't actually my work.

I do have photos of some of my work, but none of it is safe for posting on DU and I don't have releases to share them anyway. I picked that image simply because it's very similar to my style and it's tame enough to post on this board.

The secret to quality rope work is simply "patience and practice". I was a Boy Scout as a kid (as were two of my own children, who I taught knot tying to), AND I was a rock climber for over 20 years, AND I spent a substantial part of my childhood on and around ranches, so knots and rope handling were already second nature to me. When my wife handed me a couple of bondage photos and confessed that she wanted to try it, the tying part came easily. She actually wasn't aiming for formal Kinbaku when we started, but it didn't take me long to stumble across the style and fall in love with its elegance. It's just rope, but it's also an art form.

[opiate69]

50. Yeah, I saw that wasn't yours in the post. Still, if you're doing work like that..

Bravo! We just went to a rope training session at our local play space over the weekend. I have a lot to learn, but hell, that's half the fun I think.

[Spaldeen]

30. You are right.

I wonder how people would feel if it were a white man walking an African American on a leash?

Would it still be ok, if they were both consenting adults?

[hollysmom]

52. I can see it as an art statement. To bring understanding, to spark discussion

but as a common thing, no. I have not seen this,. but have approached people who were abusive in walking their dogs - prong collars included.

[petronius]

15. Worst. Boss. Ever.

[In_The_Wind]

20. ~

But think of the benefits

[A Simple Game]

21. I can't help but wonder how much more interesting this thread would be if

the roles were reversed!

[Tuesday Afternoon]

26. there was one posted on DU2 (long time ago) where the roles were reversed and the woman was

walking not, on her knees crawling. However, the comments ran the same gamut as I recall. This was maybe '06 and the photo was taken in Europe, iirc.

[Major Nikon]

28. There's an entire fetish that involves women or men dressing up as horses and pulling carts

I don't understand it, but if it floats their boat and doesn't hurt anyone else I suppose they can do whatever they want. We all have our own peculiar things that do it for us. Some just take it to an entirely different level.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Animal_roleplay

[Tuesday Afternoon]

35. A New Life

[chknltl]

37. This may be the one you recall

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x7379341

[Tuesday Afternoon]

39. Yes, That was the one. And yes, I remember that thread.

[chrisa]

33. Something tells me this is either a PR stunt or a social experiment.

[No Vested Interest]

36. Not very good for trousers' knees. nt

[chknltl]

38. His parants must be quite proud of him.

Probably brag him up to the neighbors all the time.

[NJCher]

41. yeah, it will probably go in the

Christmas letter for 2014.


Cher

[Mrdrboi]

47. Might be someones fetish.

[arcane1]

51. That's pretty normal by San Francisco standards