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ok_cpu

(2,050 posts)
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 11:40 AM Aug 2014

When do you think it's too late at night to call someone?

Home phone rang last night about a quarter of 10:00 from a parent for a PTO thing. Not someone we know or are friends with. Seemed a little late to me, but maybe I'm an old grump.

What say DU? What time is too late? And is there a difference between calling a cell and land line?


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9:00
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10:00
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11:00
0 (0%)
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When do you think it's too late at night to call someone? (Original Post) ok_cpu Aug 2014 OP
I have had a pollster call me at 10PM! After giving him a good tongue lashing, I promptly hung up hlthe2b Aug 2014 #1
I always thought 9:00 was the law ok_cpu Aug 2014 #7
It used to be that calls were free on cells after 9 tabbycat31 Aug 2014 #18
Depends on who it is calling, I think. dixiegrrrrl Aug 2014 #2
I generally don't call after 9:00pm, except for close family members whom I know stay up late. kath Aug 2014 #3
I don't call anyone after 9 unless agreed on beforehand Ron Obvious Aug 2014 #4
After 9pm for business and acquaintances. After 10pm for close friends and family and then, Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #5
9:00 seems to be consensus ok_cpu Aug 2014 #6
That type of phone call should be done before 9pm. That was bad manners on their end. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #8
7:00 PM is the cut off for non-emergency or other stuff that can wait till after 10AM tomorrow NightWatcher Aug 2014 #9
Doesn't matter...I never pick up the phone HipChick Aug 2014 #10
9:00, unless you know the other person is up (nt) UrbScotty Aug 2014 #11
The rules I impose on myself, and expect others to respect/abide by Populist_Prole Aug 2014 #12
I'd say not before 9a or after 9p TBF Aug 2014 #13
If it rings before 9AM I assume someone's died. If it rings AFTER 9PM, someone BETTER have. Gidney N Cloyd Aug 2014 #14
I like that rule. 47of74 Aug 2014 #21
I generally don't make phone calls after 2am. n/t Chan790 Aug 2014 #15
for something non social like school crap i'd say 7 at the latest orleans Aug 2014 #16
Just text me. a la izquierda Aug 2014 #17
If it's a booty call from Charlize Theron then any time works for me. Yavin4 Aug 2014 #19
Well, yeah. n/t ok_cpu Aug 2014 #22
I wouldn't call after 9:00pm IrishEyes Aug 2014 #20
For the most part, I say 10:00. NaturalHigh Aug 2014 #23

hlthe2b

(102,236 posts)
1. I have had a pollster call me at 10PM! After giving him a good tongue lashing, I promptly hung up
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 11:44 AM
Aug 2014

Sleep is too important and one doesn't know if the person on the other end is a 4 AM riser--or a night owl.

I say 9 PM is the cut-off and no, cell v. land line makes no difference--hell, how does the caller even know which they are calling in most instances, unless a close friend? Not to mention how few people I know even have land lines now.

ok_cpu

(2,050 posts)
7. I always thought 9:00 was the law
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 12:59 PM
Aug 2014

For marketing and collections. I know it is for collection calls.

tabbycat31

(6,336 posts)
18. It used to be that calls were free on cells after 9
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 08:36 PM
Aug 2014

I used to have people wait to call me after then because it was a difference of the call counting against my minutes or not (never had a landline of my own). Most of my peers were in similar situations, so any chatty phone calls would take place after 9 or on weekends.

Now it's a moot point because many cell plans have unlimited minutes, but when I only had 200 it made a difference.

I would not take a call from an unknown number after 9.

dixiegrrrrl

(60,010 posts)
2. Depends on who it is calling, I think.
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 11:52 AM
Aug 2014

Assuming it is not an emergency, of course.
Down here, any time after 8 pm is pushing it, for friends and neighbors, unless it is urgent,
People go to bed between 9 and 10 here, mostly, and that is well known.

Calling at 9 pm is LATE, for casual calls.

 

Ron Obvious

(6,261 posts)
4. I don't call anyone after 9 unless agreed on beforehand
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 11:55 AM
Aug 2014

I also don't keep my phone in the bedroom and have the ringer off on the landline. Late and early phone calls are usually bad news, and I sleep poorly enough as it is.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
5. After 9pm for business and acquaintances. After 10pm for close friends and family and then,
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 12:32 PM
Aug 2014

only if it is very important/emergency type situation.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
8. That type of phone call should be done before 9pm. That was bad manners on their end.
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 01:02 PM
Aug 2014

Having said that, I live in 24/7/365 type of Business and, some few people have carte blanche permission to call me
any time day or night.

very.very.few.

NightWatcher

(39,343 posts)
9. 7:00 PM is the cut off for non-emergency or other stuff that can wait till after 10AM tomorrow
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 01:21 PM
Aug 2014

PTO BS can wait till tomorrow.

Friends or family can call until 9 unless it's important. Good friends will shoot a text to see if they can call.

I actually prefer texts for BS that I can either read or ignore and that do not require my immediate reply.

I no longer have a landline, so odds are I won't even answer unless I recognize your number and want to talk to you at that moment. Leave a message and I might get back.

Populist_Prole

(5,364 posts)
12. The rules I impose on myself, and expect others to respect/abide by
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 02:44 PM
Aug 2014

9-ish PM for friends and family. 8 PM for everybody else.

Now I'm a late to bed, late to rise type due to my work schedule, so my body clock has been on "night owl" setting for decades, and there are few people that know my schedule and they know I don't mind at all if certain people in my circle call as late as 10 or even 11 PM.

TBF

(32,056 posts)
13. I'd say not before 9a or after 9p
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 03:18 PM
Aug 2014

if you're dealing with a landline especially.

I have a cell that I keep on vibrate. If there's something important at night I will get it when I wake up. If I am awaiting someone's phone call I might turn the sound on or check frequently - especially if an immediate family member isn't at home. Other than that they can wait.

orleans

(34,051 posts)
16. for something non social like school crap i'd say 7 at the latest
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 06:07 PM
Aug 2014

for friends/family--well, we have unusual hours so basically anytime

on edit: usually not between 4 and 10 am thank you.

a la izquierda

(11,791 posts)
17. Just text me.
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 07:13 PM
Aug 2014

I generally don't want to actually talk to anyone.

Yeah, I've been in that kind of mood lately.

IrishEyes

(3,275 posts)
20. I wouldn't call after 9:00pm
Sat Aug 30, 2014, 09:18 PM
Aug 2014

Unless it was really important or I had prearranged to talk to them later. I have some friends and family members that work nights or unusual hours so sometimes I get phone calls late. Most people know I stay up until 11:00pm or midnight.

NaturalHigh

(12,778 posts)
23. For the most part, I say 10:00.
Sun Aug 31, 2014, 05:45 PM
Aug 2014

However, my parents are both retired now, and Mom says they never go to bed before 11:30. I'll occasionally call them after 10 if I happen to think of something I want to tell them.

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