Asking for vibes for my mum who is palliative. She's in no pain.

[applegrove]

I am with her so we are getting closer.... as our relationship changes one more time. Love you mum.

[shenmue]

1. ...

[applegrove]

7. Thanks.

[pinboy3niner]

2. ...

[applegrove]

8. Thanks.

[SwissTony]

3. Vibes to you and your mother.

My mother passed a couple of years ago, a few days short of becoming 86.

But it was a peaceful passage.

[applegrove]

9. Thanks for sharing

[Raine1967]

4. You have all the vibes I Can send.

I will light a candle for both of you.

[applegrove]

10. You are kind.

[In_The_Wind]

5. ...

[applegrove]

11. I will pass on the hug to mom.

[In_The_Wind]

15. And here is another one just for you.

[applegrove]

16. Oh you!

[In_The_Wind]

17. Thanks

I enjoy getting hugs from awesome DUers like you.

[Dont call me Shirley]

6. Good vibes to your mum....and you, applegrove

[applegrove]

13. I feel your vibes. Thanks.

[Phentex]

12. Sending all good vibes to you both...

happy to hear she is not suffering. Stay strong!

[applegrove]

14. I will. Thanks.

[LiberalLoner]

18. Sending good vibes to you both, and gentle hugs.

I'm sorry.

[applegrove]

20. Sweet.

[femmocrat]

19. Sending positive vibes to you and your mom.

[applegrove]

21. Yes and to all the help I have. My sister manages everything. Mom

has the best caregivers. She was surrounded by the whole family last week. Lucky is a word that comes to mind (if you ignore the previous 10 years of parkinsons').

[LiberalEsto]

22. Sending blessings to you both

[applegrove]

23. Thanks.

[lovemydog]

24. Blessings to your mum, applegrove.

So good that you are there with her.
Peace.

[applegrove]

26. Peace is what we are blessed with. Thanks.

[auntAgonist]

25. May you all feel a sense of peace as you sit with your Mum and move together

as the relationship changes.

The closeness that the next weeks or days and hours afford you and yours are the most precious.

Hold her hand, sing to her if she enjoys that. Read to her. Above all else let her know you love her and only want peaceful rest for her.

My heart goes out to all of you. I know what it's like to lose MY Mother. Each of us is different and I can't pretend to know how you feel. Know that you're not alone though. It seems you have many here who care.

My sincere and heartfelt thoughts to all of you, especially your Mum as she moves on.



aA
kesha

[applegrove]

27. You are very kind. Our relationship has not always been perfect to say the least

but I dealt with the past months ago. And remembrances of the good times are rolling in. I reminded her of the time we made trifle and forgot the booze. She went and got a needle from her medical bag and we shot sherry into the cake bits. The trifle was a success. I will remind her tomorrow that she used to take us kids, part our hair on the side, and sit us in the woods to photograph us in some ferns. These are known as the nature boy series. She'll get a kick out of remembering that. Such was her love of nature that she at one time took care of three gardens one summer.

[auntAgonist]

33. Those sort of memories are the ones that will comfort you in the time to come.

Write some of them down, please.

So much I had hoped to remember .... and didn't.

my heart is with you.

aA
kesha

[applegrove]

34. Good advice

[riderinthestorm]

28. So sad and so blessed at the same time to have the chance to go together

that rare period of togetherness at the end.

Make the most of it and I hope you, your mom and your family know peace and love here at the end.

[applegrove]

29. We do know love. That has always been there. Thanks.

[grasswire]

30. don't forget the soothing power of music

It can mean so much, even in the time of crossing.

Take care of yourself, too. We care.

[applegrove]

36. We've been playing the sound of music tunes. So too

some stuff from musicals. What got her though was when I played a youtube of little highland dancers doing the Highland fling. I'm trying every day to think up something new to play for her on my smartphone. There is a TV chanel that plays instrumental songs overlay ed with nature sounds. The other night the nature was a thunder storm. She loved thunderstorms and would open all the doors and windows so she could hear it all. Very peaceful.

[grasswire]

41. she might enjoy some of the music from her early 20s.

I know that my elderly aunt dearly loves to hear those old songs on a station that plays that era.

Oh, also.....I bought my other elderly aunt a CD of Andy Griffith singing old hymns. The voice was so familiar, and the songs too. Just a thought.

[applegrove]

42. Yes. I looked back to the 1930s and 40s for songs she might like.

But found none that got her going. I had a bit more success with songs from the next two decades of her life.

[marzipanni]

44. Heres's something unique I found several years ago, that you and your mom might like

Last edited Thu Apr 16, 2015, 12:30 AM - Edit history (1)

Listen to sounds from around the world in "one minute vacations"
(I'm sorry the text seems so small, I can zoom in but I don't know if you can read the descriptions on a smartphone)

http://www.quietamerican.org/vacation.html

2 samples-

'The afternoon of April 18, 2002 was peppered with numerous, very brief, hail storms. This one was recorded in Earl's cattle shed, with steel fence, watering pond and spring peepers about one mile north of LaFarge, Wisconsin.' This one-minute vacation was contributed by Rob Danielson.

http://www.quietamerican.org/download/other/LastOfHailStorm.mp3

Today's contributor, composer-with-sound Joseph Young, takes us into 'a thunderstorm in northern Italy captured on a recent family holiday. The environment around Lake Como is surprisingly lush and green given that temperatures are regularly up in the mid 30's [that's upper-90's for you ametrical Americans -Ed.] during the summer months. The greenery is comes from the heavy thunderstorms that occur on a regular (weekly?) basis.

http://www.quietamerican.org/download/other/Lambrugo_thunderstorm.mp3


Thinking of you and your mom, sending love ✉ ~~~~~~ ♥

[applegrove]

47. Those seem great. Thank you so much.

[irisblue]

31. ...

[applegrove]

37. Sweet.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

32. Thinking of you and your mum...

[applegrove]

38. That means a lot.

[KMOD]

35. many warm and comforting vibes

for your and your mom, applegrove.

[applegrove]

39. You're so kind.

[Joe Shlabotnik]

40. Aw, Vibes

Best wishes Applegrove. Tough times indeed, wishing you strength, and a pathway to peace for all.

[applegrove]

43. Thank you for your kind wishes.

[blogslut]

45. Good thoughts for you and your Mom.

May there be peace and love for you both.

[applegrove]

49. Thanks

[magical thyme]

46. more good vibes to your mother and all her family

[applegrove]

51. We feel them. Thanks.

[fizzgig]

48. peace to you all

i am glad you are with her, my friend

[applegrove]

50. Thanks for the hug.

[hippywife]

52. Wishing you both peace.

Nearly four years ago, I was in nearly the same circumstances as you are now with my own mom before she passed within the week, and a similarly strained and somewhat distant relationship, though we both loved one another very much. I still carry the pain of that time around with me to this very day.

My only advice, if you'll allow: We always think we have more time. If anything is still weighing on your heart, don't wait for tomorrow. It's not ours to claim.

Sending wishes that she feels nothing but peace and that you'll be able to walk away with the same, no regrets.

[applegrove]

53. That is great advice. I have been at peace with her for

years. Then 6 months ago when she stopped eating much at all, all kinds of feeling started to come up. I've dealt with them one after another and am in a good place now. I'm dreading the end. She is not one to talk about feelings so I'm respecting that. She did ask me to buy her a book so she could write in it. I wrote I LOVE YOU on one of the first pages. She had a smile for me even after her nap that day. So there are great moments. Even in our quiet way.

[Skittles]

54. you got it, applegrove

my best for her, and you

I notice you call her mum, as I did my own (my mum was a Brit)

[applegrove]

55. I spell it mum or mom. But I pronounce it as "mum". Scottish,

Nova Scotia heritage. Thanks.

[MissDeeds]

56. I am so sorry, applegrove

I went through this with my mom in late September. She died October 1. Our relationship was rocky and challenging, but she was my mom and I loved her.

In the month before she died, I stopped by the store to pick up a few things for her to have in her goody basket. The lady at the check out and I started talking and I told her that Mom's time was coming to a close. She said she had been through it herself not long ago, and with tears in her eyes, she said "I wish you grace." That was the most beautiful and healing thing I could have heard at that time, so dear applegrove, I wish you grace. You and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers.

[applegrove]

57. Thank for those great words.