Found out late last night my brother almost died in January! Fucking SIL hates all of his family

[bettyellen]

As well as all his friends. He had to be put in a coma for three weeks preceding surgery to remove a whole bunch of blood clots from his legs and lungs. He know if she finds out he has contacted any of us, she will be very very nasty to him.
His own teenagers have not been told- definitely never visited him the months he was in the hospital and rehab. They know they are expected to ignore it.
Yet she is yammering about it on Facebook ginning up support for her own self, and if she has as much as a bad allergy day, the whole house turns into a hospital ward with everyone waiting on her hands and foot. What the fucking fuck?

I wish someone could explain to my nephews that now would be a good time to say- I know Dad is sick, let's stop playing games and comfort him and talk about what is going on.

Another mutual friend advised against telling me. But another just did. But I'm too nice to cause my brother any extra grief. Just venting.

[Fla Dem]

1. Gee, tough family dynamics. She sounds like a b-tch on wheels.

Is she his 2nd wife? I kind of got that from how you phrased "his own teenagers". As if they weren't her's. Does she not allow him to connect with them either? He should leave her. Sounds like his life would be happier. I'm sorry you're in this situation, no one should keep family apart.

[bettyellen]

2. No they are hers also, first wife. I know it's incredible that they share a home and she thinks she

Is shielding them but they frigging live there, and he disappeared for months and came back bedridden.
From years ago I know that they recognize she does lie often, just for her own convienince.
So I don't think she believes she is actually hiding the situation- it's more like she doesn't want to deal with it anymore than she has to. Everyone walks on eggshells for fear of her temper. He had surgery like 5-6 years ago and she pretended it never happened and when I took him home all drugged up they started to jump and grab him. She was angry at me for telling them they needed to stay away from the boo boo on his tummy. He had surgery that morning, and was fine- and that was too much to tell them! She is certifiably off her rocker- no empathy and totally selfish. My brother has no say in anything- there's always a threat of her revenge hanging in the air.

[raccoon]

3. I was going to say, sounds like she's mentally ill. Sorry you have a whackjob like that for a SIL.nt

[bettyellen]

6. Definitely a bit of a sociopath. Bad temper and mean selfish person.

[Skittles]

4. I do not understand

to HELL with her - why does anyone give a SHIT was that selfish gal thinks

[bettyellen]

5. Well he's her captive now, and I doubt he will ever leave either...

And I can't do sweet fuck about it if he isn't willing to. She has banished everyone who loves him, and left him and the kids to suffer while she enjoys playing the martyr.
Maybe he'll stop drinking and grow some spine. I can dream, can't I?

[Kali]

7. sounds like pretty classic spousal abuse

is she violent? he might benefit by receiving info about the subject, especially as it pertains to men in that situation (so that he can know that he is not alone)

[Texasgal]

8. I'm so sorry Betty