A friend lost her husband to cancer today.

[MerryBlooms]

I'm a member of the same shitty club.

Another friend underwent cancer surgery today.

I believe in evil, cancer is evil.



I'm having wine.

[Phentex]

1. Yes, it is...

I'm so sorry.

[MerryBlooms]

2. Thank you. It's so horrible. The pain, the destruction...

My heart aches for her... all the months of personal care, the praying, the begging... then the ultimate and complete feeling of abandonment and loss.

It's been 15 years for me, and yet I am crying. Maybe you really never do completely heal.

[Phentex]

3. It's the definition of suffering and no,

I don't think anyone can heal completely.

[MerryBlooms]

5. .

[DFW]

4. It follows me around like a hungry puppy

Both my parents had it, and so did all of their siblings, so with me it's not a question of "if" but "when." Plus my wife had it (survived so far) and so did her younger brother (he did not). I already lost a cousin at age 41. Cancer is enemy number one, and I can't shoot back, annoy it until it goes away, knife it in the back, or kick it black and blue.

I give what I can to cancer research. If the Kochs gave to cancer research what they give to Republicans, we might even have a cure by now--not that their priorities lie remotely in that direction. Maybe if one of them came down with it.

[MerryBlooms]

6. I don't know what to say... words just aren't enough.

[DFW]

7. You just said all anyone can say n/t

[cherokeeprogressive]

8. ((Hugs)) and positive thoughts coming your way. n/t

[DFW]

9. Can never get enough of those, thanks!

We're all OK for now. Tomorrow, who knows? After my wife woke up from her big cancer surgery, I was asking her surgeon what the plan of treatment was going forward, as I had not been through this yet. The surgeon gave me a look, and she told me not to get cocky, that I could just as easily have something nasty growing inside me, too, and I wouldn't have the slightest clue until it made me feel like crap and be too late to be treatable. Very reassuring. As my dad said when they told him he had pancreatic cancer: "so much for clean living."

[Nac Mac Feegle]

10. You are not alone.

My little brother: pancreatic cancer, 5 years ago.

There are no words.

Just take what small comfort you can in this: At last the pain is over.


Peace, and best wishes to you and your friend.










And FUCK CANCER

[btrflykng9]

11. My deepest sympathies

Prayers and warm thoughts to you and your friend's family. My very good friend is fighting stage 4 kidney cancer right now...here's hoping someday it will be more profitable to cure cancer than to not cure it.

[mnhtnbb]

12. I'm so sorry for your friend. We have a friend who lost her husband to esophageal cancer

last December after battling it for several years. He was only 63.

It sucks. It really, really sucks.

Wine is good!

[Flaxbee]

13. I'm sorry, MerryBlooms.

My sister is having a stem cell transplant on Monday and is currently undergoing pre-transplant "obliterative chemo".
It is awful.

[Skittles]

14. it took mum

it is indeed evil

[fizzgig]

15. love to you all

i have no socially acceptable words for cancer.