Hillary Clinton
Related: About this forumAs a 35 y/o male Hillary supporter, you have no idea...
How toxic my social media world has become. Well, you've seen GD: P so you probably get the gist. But holy crap. I've been involved in politics since long before most of my peers, but I'm being called a traitor on a daily basis for not being all-in for Bernie. I actually like Bernie quite a bit, I'm just more of a pragmatist than an idealist, and know that Hillary is both better equipped to win the election and do the job. But my god, these people are frothing at the mouth. Yes, they are the same people that fell in love with Obama in '08 and then did nothing in 2010, and currently live in the anti-Hillary echo chamber of social media. All I try to tell them is hey, Bernie is cool, just remember the big picture and be prepared to vote for whoever the nominee is in November. Remember who the real enemies are.
It scares me that people don't realize how much is at stake in this election. I try to tell them, and they point to ridiculous polls that have Bernie beating the republican field, without realizing that these polls mean nothing because the republican hate machine has yet to turn their guns on Bernie. I try to be reasonable. I don't attack Bernie, I just point out the stakes, and I'm treated as if I'm no better than a republican because I'm not in the tank for the "real" democrat. Like, fuck off, I was busting my ass for Al Gore and John Kerry before you ever even bothered to register to vote.
Anyway, sorry. I swear I'm not a concern troll, I just felt like I needed to vent a little. I don't come to DU much, the '08 Obama vs Hillary wars kind of put me off, but this seems so much worse, at least among my generation. I hope they pull their heads out of their asses soon when it becomes clear that he is likely to lose.
/rant
pandr32
(11,588 posts)I rarely go on Facebook anymore because I find so-called friends start sending me endless Bernie memes and horrible ones that paint Hillary out as a sell-out--a corporate/Wall Street shill--the she-devil villain of the 2016 election and right up there with Bush and Cheney for war crimes.
I responded back for a while with some facts, but few people in for Bernie want facts. It is a revolution, after-all, and revolutions get ugly.
I wonder how long it will be before people come back to earth?
Nonhlanhla
(2,074 posts)I'm female and 10 years older than you, but I have several male friends in the 35-48 age group, all of whom are avid Bernie fans, and I see similar toxicity on my social media. One of them, a good friend of many years, actually posted something insulting on my FB feed the other day when I posted something positive on Hillary. They're nuts.
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)It's so frustrating. I try to talk about the things we all have in common that should be uniting us, especially regarding climate change and the SCOTUS, try to engage in real discussions and am met with blind "BUT HILLARY IS EVIL! SHE TAKES MONEY AND MONEY IS BAD!"
It's like, yeah, we do need campaign finance reform. But you know who the real bad guys are? The republicans who will fight us til the end to keep the game rigged in their favor. They can't see the forest through the trees and I'M the bad guy for trying to inject a little reality into things.
Ahhhh! It's driving me crazy. I hope to god Bernie comes out with a full-throated endorsement of Hillary ASAP when the March primaries end his path to the nomination.
Rose Siding
(32,623 posts)Next week we'll feel more validated and uplifted, but the pile ons will be worse for a while. Another week, the same. Then again.
But soon, we'll be united with all those ready to defeat the gop. It's ugly now. It will change. It will always change.
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)Thank you for the healthy dose of optimism
hamsterjill
(15,222 posts)Stick to your guns. We, as individuals, have a right and a responsibility to choose the candidate who we believe is the best.
I, too, have been "Berned". I, too, like Senator Sanders. I just believe Hillary is the better choice. As I respect someone's right to believe differently, so I expect that person to respect my choice. Anything else becomes ridiculous.
LuvLoogie
(7,011 posts)ENDORSE BERNIE NOW!
Otherwise she is Over!
You can always tell a new Bernie band wagoner. They post that, while Bernie was conducting civil rights sit-ins, Hillary was a Goldwater Girl meme.
Zing Zing Zingbah
(6,496 posts)I pretty much feel the same way about Hillary and Bernie. I think Hillary is better suited for the job overall, but it's not like I totally dislike Bernie Sanders. I think you are right about the republicans and Bernie too. They haven't wasted any time on him because they don't think he is going to be the nominee (it's certainly not because they like him). If he was the nominee, I think they'd tear him to shreds. Hillary is going to do better in the debates against the republican nominee, I think. I have this feeling that if Bernie did manage to become president that he would be very ineffective. I don't think he will be able to get the republicans to do anything. I think Hillary, of any democrat out there today, would be able to get something out of the republicans.
I'm close to your age, almost 37. Seems like everyone in the "young" crowd is into Bernie. I feel like I have one foot in the young crowd and one foot in the old crowd at my age. I guess I'm an oldish young person or youngish old person. Being a woman, I find it strange that the younger women are not more supportive of Hillary. I think it is perhaps because they have bought into the republican propaganda against her all these years. I've also seen a series of young famous women proclaim themselves to not be feminists over the last year or so... I think even Lady Gaga, of all people... so maybe I shouldn't be surprised by this. I guess I don't understand. I'm just a touch too old to relate. I don't understand why it is suddenly cool to proclaim yourself to not be a feminist. It's just not at all how I was raised and how I thought things would be like when I got older. This country seems to be in a total regressive period right now. We're backtracking on progress made years ago.
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)that even if Bernie did somehow win the election, he'd be so ineffective in office that he'd quite likely be a one-term president. We're SO CLOSE to being able to make genuine, revolutionary change --a new court, a new census in 2020-- that if we just hold the line a little while longer we might actually see the honest-to-God death of the Republican Party by 2024, and right now we just need someone to hold the line. Hillary is perfectly suited for that role.
We're definitely in a regressive period, but I think it's mostly because we've got the republicans cornered and scared. I think we'll come out better on the other end for it.
As for your anti-feminist friends, my peer group is all over the map on that. There are so many different definitions for what a feminist even is supposed to be right now I think a lot of people want to avoid the label because it's been stripped of most of its meaning. I probably shouldn't speak on that any further though, as I really have no idea what I'm talking about
Cheers to you, though
Trust Buster
(7,299 posts)Bernie supporters don't seem to understand the effect a potential 7-2 Right leaning Court would have on our agenda including Citizens United. They are willing to Bern the House down. Bernie himself felt it was necessary to come out a few weeks ago and speak to the Bernie Bros attacking Hillary supporters. Bernie knows that, if his supporters continue to poison the well, Bernie would be unelectable even if he won the nomination. I can honestly say that the Republicans have not attacked Hillary in the last quarter of a century like the Bernie supporters are noe. And that's saying a lot.
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)I keep pleading with people to consider the real-life consequences that a Trump/Cruz/Rubio/Hitler etc presidency and a stacked right wing court would have on people. Immigrants, women, LGBT, non-Christians... It's terrifying. But no, Hillary is the "evil one." It's insane!
otohara
(24,135 posts)It was insane - debunking the lies was exhausting.
Not to mention how mean the memes were. They've lost their ever loving minds - so toxic
it's shocking.
Aristus
(66,386 posts)You described me perfectly. I like Sanders, too. I think he'd make a terrific President if he could get elected. I don't think that is very probable.
I have a few problems with Hillary, so I'm not going in blind, but I think she is phenomenally well-qualified for the office of President, think she'd make a great one, and will vote for her come Hell or high water. If Sanders gets the nom, I'll vote for him gladly and eagerly.
Whatever happens, in November, I'm voting a straight Democratic ticket.
Everybody vote!
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)If Bernie were to win the nomination, I'll support him with everything I've got. As of now I feel strongly that Hillary is the more well-rounded and battle-tested candidate, and my priority is keeping the damned republicans out of the WH and away from the SCOTUS. This shouldn't be so difficult for people to get on board with!
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)I am so fucking over this campaign. I try to remember I have nice friends who like Bernie, but the sheer amount of knee-jerk abuse and hostility is nuts online.
Tarheel_Dem
(31,234 posts)over a misplaced word or sentiment. I only set it up to get information on my class reunion, but I couldn't take it, so I left . Some of the things that got posted there surprised the hell out of me, and by people that I thought I knew. Much like GDP, I determined it was too much of a toxic wasteland to even bother.
ismnotwasm
(41,989 posts)From all age groups and all over the country. That being said, I stay personally fairly non-political on my wall. Nobody cares if I support Hillary and if they do they can move on. I'm middle aged, my work peers are mostly Millenials--a great group of people, surprisingly apolitical though,
LisaM
(27,813 posts)I can't imagine. I am constantly lectured on how I'm not a feminist because Bernie is the true feminist candidate and your tale sounds about ten times worse.
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)I suppose I get to dodge the gender issue completely, although i have been hit with some pretty sexist comments from people who really ought to know better. It's just a shame seeing people get sucked into something so deeply that is going to end badly for them--and I don't know if they'll have the sense to put their anger and disappointment aside when the time comes to step up in November. Hopefully they'll prove my fears wrong.
LW1977
(1,235 posts)Chicago1980
(1,968 posts)As I've said before, if Bernie get the nomination, I'd certainly vote for him, but I see way too many Bernie (fanatics) supporters saying they'll not vote for Hillary if she gets the nod.
This to me shows a level of selfishness and immaturity.
With the SCOTUS at stake and a number of other judges in or approaching their 80's, I think SCOtUS is more important than anything, if people are going to be single issue voters.
It's utterly ridiculous and petulant.
I wasn't on Facebook until 2 1/2 years ago, was the atmosphere like this in 2008 and 2012?
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)The court, and keeping climate change deniers out of power are my top priorities. When I see people say things like "Hillary is no better than a republican" or "Bernie or nothing" it makes my blood boil. This election has real and very serious consequences. The idea of not voting because you didn't get your guy is the epitome of selfishness.
I've been on FB from the start, and '08 was extremely positive for Obama but I definitely do not recall this level of animosity for Hillary. Things got a little dicey at the end when things got ugly, but I think most people forgave her pretty quickly when she got on board with Obama and gave him her full support. I just hope Bernie shows the same grace to mobilize his supporters for her this time around.
Chicago1980
(1,968 posts)I was banned from the Bernie group because I wasn't kissing their asses.
They seem overly hyperbolic and overly sensitive.
tinrobot
(10,903 posts)That bigger picture is President Trump or Cruz gutting Obamacare and nominating Supreme Court justices.
Let's not eat our own here. Bernie or Hillary would be miles ahead of any GOP candidate. Don't forget that.
Ellen Forradalom
(16,160 posts)and endorsed Vermin Supreme for President to deflect political conversation. Nonetheless a longtime friend from pressed me on my choice of candidate (I declined to answer) and subsequently characterized Hillary as "Cheney in a skirt" in a private conversation. Another friend, female, said, "I don't understand why anyone would want to vote for that woman." "That woman"? Internalized misogyny is an ugly thing.
SunSeeker
(51,571 posts)I'm in the same situation as you.
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)DemonGoddess
(4,640 posts)I don't engage my FB friends in political arguments, as we don't always (in fact often) won't see eye to eye on certain things. Most of my FB friends are for games I play both on and off FB, and then of course keeping in touch with family. In my gaming groups, politics is a forbidden topic. It keeps the gaming fun.
Now, one of the biggest things I end up hiding from my feed, are the gun nuts. They drive me absolutely bugshit nuts.
Adrahil
(13,340 posts)Most of the folks I know supporting Bernie are completely reasonable. But a couple are fucking NASTY about it, and I think I may have lost a few friends, at least until after the primaries.
Treant
(1,968 posts)as support coalesces behind a candidate. The most vehement and obnoxious folks for the other candidate tend to quiet down.
I would expect things to be much less problematic by mid-March.
Hekate
(90,714 posts)Just hang in there as best you can.
DesertRat
(27,995 posts)She was being insulted daily in the same way that you are. She said that she just needed to take a break from social media until the election is over.
Those supporters aren't doing their candidate any favors by bullying and attacking Clinton backers. I think that it will actually get worse after next Tues. when denial and anger over the situation starts to set in. There will probably be cries of voter fraud, etc.
Hang in there. It might help to take a break or maybe temporarily "unfollow" the worst of them.
William769
(55,147 posts)yallerdawg
(16,104 posts)I think Bernie actually pointed out, "After all, we're not Republicans!"
Which begs the question - just exactly who are these people who troll and disrupt the social networks?
jsmirman
(4,507 posts)although for me it's mostly just reading all the nonsense other people post - people kind of don't want to come at me like that.
I'm a 42 year old male, with a lot of younger friends. I will tell you that my law school friends are overwhelmingly for Hillary - we're pragmatic like that.
Overall, though, it's hard sticking to my pragmatic take, but I look at it exactly as you are looking at it.
Like you, I've been giving my all for elections these people don't even remember and it's unbelievably antagonistic to be told that I simply don't understand how the world works.
The easiest thing would be to have kept my mouth shut or to have given in and gone with the herd, but I have never been about doing what is easy and I'm not about to start now.
slumcamper
(1,606 posts)and an Iowa precinct captain at our recent caucus. I've got some skin in the game, but all of us do, and I respect that regardless of which candidate anyone leans toward.
I completely agree with you. Dogmatic, uncompromising support of either candidate is unhealthy; and the rancor between camps is over the top and counterproductive.
While my idealism BERNS hot, I'm enough of a pragmatist to realize that the first objective is to WIN--because the alternative is untenable. PERIOD. Far too much is at stake.
WIN. There will be plenty time and opportunity to wage the ideological battles after winning. The failure to come together and win will mean the unraveling of a century of progress on every front.
If I vote for Bernie, yay! If I vote for Hillary, okay! I will have much more confidence voting to win than staying home and boycotting the vote because my feelings are hurt, I'm pissed, etc. Get over it. Let's WIN--and let's help the winner shape policy that speaks to our principles.
I will vote Democrat. Who joins me?
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)And hope your good sense spreads!
DeGreg
(72 posts)I'm sorry but I feel compelled to say a few things about this post:
1. Social media has always been toxic.
2. Bragging about being "involved in politics since long before my peers," is so perfectly made for social media because it's wellbragging.
3. Bragging about being involved in politics, it seems to me, means you're pretty much an ESTABLISHMENT kind of person, and playing the establishment game has only turned Democrats into Republicans, and some Republicans into fascists.
3. Ageism works in both directions. Youth are not always wrong simply because they are youth, and olders are not always wise simply because they are older. I mean look at what the olders (I'm 57 BTW) have done to our great Nation. If you think things are in the shitter, well who's been driving the bus? Babyboomers! I don't believe that people under 40 owe any political respect to their parents or grandparents generationsthese are the people, we are the people, who watched as our country got sold off to the highest bidder (and some of us profited, some even unfairly). Yeah so, 35, 40, 73, 18, 24, or 65...I don't care about thatwhat you think, that matters. I don't care if you busted your ass for Gore or Kerry or Jack fucking Kennedy, (I respect that but it doesn't make you right or deserving of any special consideration) when you're willing to compromise your vote out of fear (drummed up by your enemies and your friends, I think) and cast a ballot for a candidate that most would agree, has sat beneath the shady tree (Hillary), well that's situational ethics (at best). Vote what you believe, and voting for people "who can win" aint voting.
4. I believe what we have here is a one party system called The Establishment, and you can argue the finer points of the differences between Rs and Ds, but any argument that makes sense is probably based on the historical understanding, not what's on the ground today. Rs and Ds are all pretty much on the same money page, and the only reason they pretend to argue is because they are, for the most part, greedy or self-interested, and they just want the team they play on to control the money ball (so their friends can profit a bit more than the other team). I don't fear Trump, any more than I already fear many of the things President Obama has done in office (especially when you consider what he said he'd do, and the promises he made.). There will be no real change with any ESTABLISHMENT president, that's what's at stake, and that's why it needs to be Bernie (or Trump, even if it's just to get people off their asses to do more than just vote the lesser of two evils).
and believe it or not, this is not all I have to say about that.
BTW
I want A WOMAN PRESIDENT
too, but not a woman president
who thinks exactly like the MEN
who got us into this MESS.
MirrorAshes
(1,262 posts)Because I didn't come here for a debate.