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Wed Dec 21, 2011, 09:24 AM

Giving up homeschooling after 18 years

The message below was posted on a homeschooling site. I am not the author of the post. And, I don't want the author excoriated simply because I re-posted her message to this board. I simply wanted to generate a discussion.

1) Does your family (spouse, parents, etc) understand and support your homeschooling goals? And, how important is it that they do or how damaging is it when they don't.

2) Do you find that technology around the home, or anything around your home compete with your homeschooling efforts? If so, how do you counter that?

3) Have you experienced burnout and returned to a public/private school setting? Do you have a support network to help with feelings of burnout? How important is a support network.


Re: Re: Giving up homeschooling after 18 years

I am beyond burned out; not only canīt I homeschool anymore, I donīt WANT to. I am tired of trying to run a household singlehandedly, fighting with her to do basic reading and math, tired of being behind and having to use weekends to do schoolwork so I never get even one day off from it....Iīm going to leave the educational decision to my husband from now on, whatever he decides to do with her (public, private, cyber) is up to him.

He created this problem by giving them a TV in each room, their own cellphones and laptops, so now he gets to pick up the pieces. I told him this would happen but he is a technology nut, and wanted them to "have it all". If it were up to me they would never have gotten online or even had a television set. ALL my dreams for their education down the toilet thanks to one husband. This is one case where if I had been a single mother their education would have worked out. Ironic.


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onpatrol98 Dec 2011 OP
AllyCat Dec 2011 #1
onpatrol98 Dec 2011 #2
GoddessOfGuinness Dec 2011 #3
onpatrol98 Dec 2011 #4
meat the beetles. Jan 2012 #5
GoddessOfGuinness Jan 2012 #6
ChalkFace Jan 2012 #7

Response to onpatrol98 (Original post)

Thu Dec 22, 2011, 01:49 AM

1. How frustrating for this mother!

We are not at the cell phone/laptop stage and do not have a television. Not sure when that will all change, but thanks for the post. Something to consider for the future.

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Response to AllyCat (Reply #1)

Fri Dec 23, 2011, 07:34 AM

2. I know, right!

You can feel her frustration.

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Response to onpatrol98 (Original post)

Thu Dec 29, 2011, 10:38 AM

3. It sounds like she has a pretty rigid style of homeschooling.

I'm not knocking that necessarily. I never had to homeschool more than one kid at a time, which must present tremendous challenges. And, having a husband who has to have state-of-the-art everything, I can understand some of her frustration with the gizmos. I had to battle to ensure that the TV was not usually turned on until schoolwork was finished.

But I have also found that technology offers extremely helpful tools that not only teach my son, but spur his enthusiasm to learn. In fact, part of the reason he began reading at age 3 was because he wanted to learn how to play video games, like his older brothers, and needed to learn to read instruction manuals to do so. I began teaching him by using a Leap Frog "Leap Top" computer toy. And, with regard to the video games that a lot of folks love to bash, he's learned quite a bit about history, science, and technology as a result of time spent playing.

Sometimes we don't stick to the teacher's manual. My husband, who has a Zoology degree, does the math and science with our son. He only assigns enough math problems to ensure that he understands the concept and can perform the task. Part of our reason for homeschooling was to ditch the busy work, so there'd be more time for learning other things.

I often alter the assigned composition themes to subjects he can write about with ease and clarity. And I let him work on the computer, but without spelling and grammar check tools.
Being able to stick to a particular schedule is a good skill; but I think being flexible is more valuable in many ways.

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Response to GoddessOfGuinness (Reply #3)

Thu Dec 29, 2011, 02:59 PM

4. To me...this is what makes homeschooling so necessary

The ability to shape the learning experience directly to your child's needs is powerful. I wish every child in every community could receive that experience.

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Response to onpatrol98 (Original post)

Tue Jan 10, 2012, 01:05 PM

5. I don't homeschool but if I did


it would be within a network. That way, likeminded people get together with their kids, teach what they are best in and the kids get more socialization. Everyone needs a break!

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Response to meat the beetles. (Reply #5)

Wed Jan 11, 2012, 07:20 PM

6. I feel fortunate that the program we use

has a field trip and special programs coordinator who acts as a liason between the school and the students. We get together for various activities, exchange ideas, and get to know each other better.

I especially like the fact that the activities present my middle-schooler with an opportunity to take charge of his own education and gain an understanding of some of the challenges other kids face...like ADHD.

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Response to onpatrol98 (Original post)

Sat Jan 21, 2012, 02:31 PM

7. Occupy the DOE

To whom it may concern:

On March 30th to April 2nd, 2012, the grassroots education reform organization United Opt Out National (http://unitedoptout.com) will be holding an event in Washington, DC called Occupy the DOE. As a collection of teacher educators, K-12 teachers, and parents from around the country, we ask for your participation and support.

For more than a decade, the reform narrative in education has been dominated by test-based accountability, competition, and punishment. Large foundations and other corporate entities have propagated market-based principles like school choice, pay-for-performance, and for-profit management of schools. Consequently, large amounts of private wealth go towards influencing legislators and other public officials to dismantle public education, ultimately in favor of a private system that can be run for profit.

The key lever is the vaunted score on high-stakes state standardized tests, used to justify a slew of controversial decisions. As a result of ten years of this kind of reform, we are experiencing schools just as segregated by race and social class as they were in the 1950s. We in the United States are also experiencing a teaching profession that is constantly undermined and under attack. The culture of punishment and competition created under No Child Left Behind and now Race to the Top has proven to be a massive failure. Yet, private entities still push for test-based accountability measures despite near-universal opposition from educators and the pile of evidence against it.

In order to grind this failed reform climate to a screeching halt, we at United Opt Out National feel that an ultimate act of civil disobedience is all that we have left. We therefore call upon educators, leaders, parents, and students across our vast public education system to withhold the data by opting out of their state’s standardized tests. If policy-makers, legislators, and other officials cannot make responsible decisions based on quantitative data, and if they refuse to appreciate evidence to the contrary, then the only arrow left in our quiver is to simply refuse to hand over the data.

We at United Opt Out National certainly understand the potential consequences of refusing state standardized tests. We appreciate the reluctance of teachers and administrators to engage in an opt-out measure. Various state departments of education and their officials falsely claim that parents do not have the legal right to opt-out, that their refusal to concede to the tests will unfairly punish their children and their schools. While officials might be able to fire teachers, they cannot fire parents. If school systems wish to continue their obsession with test scores, then they must also be prepared to offer alternatives for the growing wave of parents who see test preparation violating their consciences and robbing their children of meaningful educational experiences.

Our Occupy the DOE event will include numerous teach-ins, social events, and actions in protest against test-based and corporate driven education reforms. In preservation of a free and equitable public education, and to support a new direction in education reform, we ask that you strongly consider participating in our event. If you would like any other information, feel free to contact any one of our administrators through our site at http://unitedoptout.com, which provides direct links to our myriad social media accounts, endorsements, readings, and other documentation.

Thank you for your consideration,

United Opt Out National

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