Coming out, and being betrayed - a story

[Aerows]

When I was 20, I was so in love with a woman that my head spun. She had pale skin, red hair and a pair of lips that could kiss me into oblivion.

In short, I was deeply in love.

My family found out that our friendship was more than friendly, and sought to break it. My father threw me out of the house, and I slept in the car for a few days. The next horror was that my dear Aunt had called my lover and told her she didn't deserve me, and that I wouldn't love her. She threatened lawsuits.

She identified herself as my Aunt E, whom I had grown up living at her house and loved as a second mother.

I should have been wary, I should have been skeptical, but it wasn't until she died that my other Aunt offhandedly stated - "Oh, it was me that called that harlot, you are better off without her."

I lost my girl over that phone call and those threats. I HATED my aunt E that didn't do these things because I couldn't bear to talk to her. She never did it.

I saw my Aunt K in the grocery store and I am trying to get over it, but I walked right by and didn't see her until she exclaimed my name. I said hello, I was civil, and she wanted to find an obscure item in the store and I helped her find it.

I was polite, I was kind, but one thing, she will never get. She is not my Aunt E that died, the one that understood and would never mimic herself to hurt people to preserve country club culture. My Aunt E would have slapped her into next week. It's unfortunate that I had to find out after she was gone.

I forgave her (Aunt E*) of something she didn't even do in my emotions, yet again. I wish I would have had the chance to tell her how much I loved her.

Aunt K can go fuck herself, and I hope she chokes on her latest craps gambling party because she doesn't give a shit about the rest of the family.

[Aerows]

1. I'm just posting this because I had a small episode when my

aunt caught me unaware in the cheese aisle of the grocery store, sized me up, and presumably found me short.

Her eyes always do it, though I am built like a prize runner, slim and conservatively dressed. I don't think anything I ever do will suit her. Until her daughters get off of the drugs that I am not on.

I'm still a homosexual, and as long as I am that, her daughters drug habits, multiple marriages and roller coaster child custody situations will be a bump in the road.

I'm queer. I'm the cliff she and her family might careen off of.

[pinto]

2. Take care Aerows.

[Aerows]

4. I wish I had the chance to tell Aunt E how much I loved her

But I think I already did. We went to Red Lobster, I took her for a ride in my RX-7 at speeds we won't discuss (she LOVED it) and I took her to the slot machines on the Gulf Coast. I could care about gambling, but she had a great time. I loved Aunt E more than any of her nieces. I got the benefit of her acerbic wit, fashion sense and her being a fantastic human being.

Aunt K is just a critical t-bagger type.

[polly7]

14. She knew, and she knows, Aerows.

[polly7]

3. I'm sorry Aerows.

I always wonder why the worst hurt comes from our own family members. You'd think they would be the ones to count on never to be cruel, but I found out too after my Dad was gone, that sometimes family are just people you lived with for a while .. and never really knew. I'm sorry your Aunt E was blamed for something so horrible, Auntie K sounds like the aunt from hell.

[Aerows]

5. She is

and she shows in stark relief Aunt E. We could have a good time doing anything. The woman could bowl like a demon. I didn't get involved in that because I have never seen so many trophies and frankly, she was phenomenally professional about it.

She made killer fried chicken.

[polly7]

6. I'm sure those were great memories for her and a comfort for

her also. I'm so sorry you lost her. That's kind of funny, my favourite aunt who died about 5 years ago was an amazing bowler too, and had all sorts of prizes and write-ups in their local paper. It was the only thing she really spoiled herself with.

[Aerows]

7. LOL That's funny

challenge of the bowling aunts .

Oh good lord, who was yours, if my life says anything, be wary - we might be related LOL.

[polly7]

8. It was Aunt 'Elaine'.

I don't know her sister's name, she married my Uncle later in life. Hopefully it's not an Auntie K! Although I'd be stoked to be related to you lol.

[Aerows]

10. LMAO

Probably not LMAO, but it might be fun. No mine was a different E and a much more spiteful K. LMAO. Polly7 and I related across several thousand miles LMFAO. That would be a trip.

Can I adopt you as my sister anyway?

[polly7]

13. That would be awesome!

Sisters we shall be!

I've kind of distanced myself from two of mine since my Dad's suicide. I never realized how nasty your own family can be even in the very worst circumstances, so I welcome a kind, funny sister like you!

Hmmm ..... maybe I can borrow some clothes and stuff ...

[Aerows]

17. My closet is your closet

no pun intended

Oh, and if I make dip? Like cheese dip or salsa? Wear flame retardant clothing. I like spicy foods

My particular hobby is growing peppers hot enough to make the dead blush. And heirloom tomatoes, now, too.

[Aerows]

12. I regret that I was so stupid that

I could have believed it was her, but the turmoil, and the sound of my lover's voice as she got derided...

I was fragile, I could have brought it up, but it was a pain so deep I couldn't even talk about it.

I've never been good at opening up, and the family emotional brawl? Oh hell no.

And I had pneumonia during this, too.

[polly7]

15. It must have been horrible for both of you.

Just so sad.

I don't blame you for not wanting the family brawl, they're such a nightmare, I know mine changed the way I look at certain family members completely. But I wish you'd had someone else that knew though and could have helped you.

[Aerows]

18. Me too

Sleeping in the car for a couple of days took it out of me.

[roguevalley]

9. my nephew just came out at last and even though his parents are

reeling, they are good. All of us, aunts and cousins are just glad. There is a difference in the world now and I am so sorry that you were hurt. Just know your nice aunt knows. Let all your regret float away. You are feeling something you don't owe anyone, honey. I wish you and your love could have been together. She sounds beautiful.

[polly7]

16. +1000. nt.