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Dress Codes for Girls: Are Teachers the New Objectifiers?
SHAME SUIT
tWhen I was in seventh grade, a teacher at my very small Quaker school once sent the boys out of the room and started talking to us girls about how we dressed. It wasnt too far from The Talk, but it focused on our clothing. This teacher told us that we had to be more mindful with the way we would sit and that we had to be careful not to move our legs the wrong way because, well, you know, the boys. Theyre at that age when theyre just waiting for you to move your legs the wrong way, she said, laughing a little, but clearly warning us.
Most of us giggled at that idea, although I thought the image she had painted was disturbing: The boys were predatory, and because of that we were the ones tasked with the responsibility to self-consciously keep ourselves covered and folded up from their prying eyes while they allegedly scanned under the desks for the girl in the skirt with her legs apart.
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While the dress code policing at my high school was present, it was never over the top. It was leagues away from the middle-school girls now getting punished for wearing leggings, girls forced to wear shame suits and the superintendent in Oklahoma who is currently taking heat for allegedly having a bend over dress code check for girls wearing skirts, and refers to some of the girls as skanks. The policing of womens bodies, especially the policing and punishing of middle-school and high-school age girls, has always been absurd. But now the policing has become downright obscene.
School officials have become so fixated on girls clothing at school and whether or not they are distractions to boys (which is insulting and dehumanizing on its own), that they have created an environment of exacerbated self-consciousness, humiliation, sexualization and dehumanization for those students. Instead of focusing on school, they are being forced and conditioned to obsess over their appearances and objectify themselves by constantly worrying about how other people are looking at their bodies.
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http://msmagazine.com/blog/2014/09/29/dress-codes-for-girls-are-teachers-the-new-objectifiers/
Novara
(5,842 posts)It's not up to women to make sure men don't leer at them. Men and boys need to have some goddamn self control and grow the fuck up. Women are not objects for leering and they are not responsible for others' behavior. Men are responsible for themselves. It's past time we expect that of them. And respect starts when they're boys.