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Is this offensive? (Original Post) libodem Sep 2015 OP
Good advice. leftofcool Sep 2015 #1
Good advice. n/t whathehell Sep 2015 #2
I always try to have my keys in hand libodem Sep 2015 #3
Absolutely! leftofcool Sep 2015 #4
Good advice. Don't walk while texting either. roody Sep 2015 #5
some good advice mercuryblues Sep 2015 #6
Offensive? No. Helpful? Not really. missingthebigdog Sep 2015 #7

leftofcool

(19,460 posts)
1. Good advice.
Mon Sep 28, 2015, 09:57 AM
Sep 2015

This is how we have trained our grand daughters for trips to the mall when they are old enough to go alone!

libodem

(19,288 posts)
3. I always try to have my keys in hand
Mon Sep 28, 2015, 10:15 AM
Sep 2015

When I head out to a parking lot. Night or day you don't want to be fishing in your purse with your head down.

mercuryblues

(14,531 posts)
6. some good advice
Mon Sep 28, 2015, 11:26 AM
Sep 2015

but nothing that I haven't heard a thousand times already. Some bad messaging. It also is something that women have been taught since they were kids.

These tips will not keep you safe. When something like this happens, quite often the focus is on what the person abducted did wrong. IE look at phone, not have keys on the ready, not asking for an escort. It has the by-product of shifting blame onto the victims.
People can not be 100% focused on what is happening around them 100% of the time. It gets exhausting.

It also would be more effective if they had shown ways to not only attempt to avoid that situation, but to increase your chances of fighting off such an offender. Such as moves to get out of their grasp, how to escape the trunk.

What I have been taught:
If a person is going to abduct you and take you to another spot, the chance of being killed greatly increases. Do everything you can to avoid that. The bigger fight you put up, the greater the chance that someone will see what is happening. What I learned is that even if a weapon is involved, fight like hell. Because if they are going to kill me, they will be forced to do it in a public area or flee.
The 1st line of self defense is when they are pulling you backwards, help them. Push yourself into them as hard as possible, use their momentum to hopefully get them to fall to the ground, loosening their grip.

Failing that, kicking out the tail lights and shoving your foot out the hole, so other motorists may notice.

missingthebigdog

(1,233 posts)
7. Offensive? No. Helpful? Not really.
Mon Sep 28, 2015, 11:59 AM
Sep 2015

Everything offered here has been offered repeatedly. At some point, people just tune it out.

In reality, stranger abductions are very rare. Young women are in much more danger from people they know than they are from people lurking in parking lots.

Also, this young lady is much more likely to die or be seriously injured because she isn't wearing her seat belt than from a stranger attacking her.

And as long as I am being critical, "safety" is misspelled at the end.

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