We don't have a dementia or death group........I think we should have both, JMHO

[a kennedy]

as my husband of 44 years did die of late term dementia today. Had the damn disease for about 4 years, he died this morning at 9:15 or so……I missed his passing by 15 minutes. We all knew it was coming, he hadn’t eaten or really drank anything for 3 days or so. I felt so lucky to at least feel the cooling of his body. Was at least there for that. Funny how you can feel the warmth of his alive body pass into the cold of his death. I have been missing him for at least the last year or so. He forgot a ton of stuff and I couldn’t carry on a conversation with him for a long time. It’s just so sad what that damn disease does to a person. I’m alone now for real without him. He was mentally gone but his death is so permanent and total now.

[NewHendoLib]

1. There are bereavement, Elder caregivers, end of life issues and senior forums.

[BoomaofBandM]

2. I am so sorry.

[Biophilic]

3. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

[snowybirdie]

4. Im so sorry

May you be at peace soon. We're at the beginning of this journey. Your fortitude gives me hope.

[WA-03 Democrat]

5. So sorry for your loss

Most folks know or have someone close in their life and are dealing with these issues. Dementia is bitch. It would be good to have both groups!

[onecaliberal]

6. I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's an awful disease. There is a bereavement group here

Peaceful vibes to you.

[XanaDUer2]

7. I am so sorry

I read your other thread. RIP

[sheshe2]

8. So sorry for your loss, a kennedy.💙

[Dem2theMax]

9. I am so very sorry for your loss.

[Fla Dem]

10. I am so sorry for your husband's passing, and for the sorrow you've lived with for 4 years.

May peace now be with you.

[japple]

11. Sending love, light and peace to you and your family. So sorry for the loss of your husband.

I am living thru this now with my sister and it is, as you said, so sad what this disease does to a person. You are not alone, though. We are here for you and with you.

[AKwannabe]

12. Hugs DU friend

We are here for ya!

[yobrault1]

13. My sincere condolences.

[Warpy]

14. I think the bereavement group is probably the best one for you right now

but I agree we need a dementia group for both caregivers and for people in the early stages who are coping the best they can.

[Joinfortmill]

15. Very sorry for your loss.

If it isn't impertinent to say, he is likely still with you. At least that has been my experience with some of my deceased loved ones.

[surfered]

16. So sorry. Lost my mother to the same disease.

[irisblue]

17. I am so so sorry for your great loss

I have posted in the Bereavement group and found that helpful. I posted earlier this week

https://democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234

[NNadir]

18. I'm very sorry. May the memory of happier times relieve your grief.

[Wild blueberry]

19. Sending hugs

Hard to lose him twice. May his memory be a blessing and may you--after a while--begin to remember him as he was.
For now, please take good care of yourself and accept help and love from friends and loved ones.

[Omaha Steve]

20. I told the DU several years ago I have FTD

I'm on Trazodone. Research in Europe shows it slows the advance of FTD.

https://www.theaftd.org/

I am sorry for your loss.

OS

[phylny]

21. I'm so sorry for your losses - both as you lost him to dementia and now.

[markie]

22. so sorry for your loss...

Yes, caregiving and/or having a loved one with dementia is difficult... I was a caregiver for years... one being my father with dementia... it helps tremendously to have people to talk to